June mummies '05 thread 11 - the one with the Zoo!

[katzg]

new thread for all

got excited because i have ordered my days out vouchers from tesco, £10 of clubcard vouchers = £40 of days out vouchers which can be used to gain entry to london zoo

Crikey, muma, he really said that? What a tt! You should have known where you went wrong?! Ummm, I'm sure I remember not so long ago you posting about how after moving you were doing all the childcare and he couldn't even be rsed to lift a finger to help decorate and clean up. Absolutely on your behalf, and I've never met the guy! (hmmmm, ideas about a Junies MN posse going round to smear deep heat on his nethers )

he came round today to talk . he was making an effort lastnight over text messages and practically begging me to hear him out so today i gave him that chance. i think he has realised that he hasnt been very tentive towards me . i think he also realised that he cant put everything first and leave our problems to sort themselves out. all i wanted was an hour of his time to talk to him and i got that now. i told him how i dont feel loved or cared for and my feelings get dismissed all the time and at the end of september he will have all the money from delievering the parcels but no family left to share it with . its a balance i know but if we do get ime together then we need to get through this bad patch and take time to work things out .

think i got through to him at last (i hope)

2happy your right he hasnt done anything in the house since we moved, apart from a half-hearted attempt to move mess around furthur. i made this point too . im not superwoman and i cant do everything.

i also told him that he cant say all these things about understanding without actually meaning it . i dont expect him move back in and then in a few weeks things go back to how they are . i need to feel appreciated and like a person with feelings and if he doesnt mean anything he is saying then dont say them . he said its our last chance at it and he really doesnt want to lose me or the girls .

im going to see how things go .

i just want to be loved and respected thats all .
thanks all xxx

ps. i will remember the deep heat and alert you if needed

am at work utterly exausted been here since 7 and am bloody on all again on my last week oh poo

thats it moaning wise today.

have posted some zoo pics on june site

muma3 only you know what best for you, take good care of your heart and put your foot down. pretty sure you are not about to take any nonsense from anyone. take care

2happy how is the little one?
katz - thats my kind of grant hope you get it guess no matter what work you have to do for it is well worth it

muma - hope you manage to work it out, it sounds like thats what ou would like to happen, with the changes you've mentioned.

SFX - its one of the perks of working in academia, the pay maybe pants but you get to go a travelling! i'm off to dublin next week for a few days and then Nante at the end of the month. In the past i have been to Hawaii, Sorrento, Seatle and many more.

evening all

had a last meeting today with a certain group and came away with champers and flowers or fafu as dd calls them. this is a bit of a raising the bar thing, still a week to go and a few 'lasts' to go through

katz aren't you in science? i keep hearing awful reports of ever tightening budgets and closing of departments, most depressing!

dh told he booked dd's mmr for next tuesday, i feel apprehensive, and its a real struggle decision i am in favour of vaccines for many reasons but autism is not a vague thing to me i have worked with many people within the spectrum and even managed a specialist residential service sometime ago, mmr was not an issue with the parents and some of the users where in their 40s and 50s (i only work with adults these days)so the reasons and causes are not clear cut,
but still i know what its like and the possibility of that happening to a so far healthy child is unsettling.
enough of that

i hope you are all getting along ok, it has been a lovely warm day down here that helps too

sfx - yep i'm in science, thankfully the cuts are more in industry who are now out sourcing to uni's (which is where i work). So thankfully still money avialable, my new job is going after these contracts. Tehe saw the person today who got the other job i went for and boy is she stressed out!

Well, ds finally ate properly today, and (touch wood) he's gone to sleep at bedtime normally. Maybe he's over the worst? sfx - I felt exactly the same about ds's mmr, went for it because I felt it was the right thing (and I do still) but I have to say I have panicked far more about how he's been after this imm than I ever did about how he was after any of the others.
muma - any further today? I'm glad he was beign a bit mroe reasonable yesterday. You stand firm for what's right for you, he's got to work his butt off with the house, the dd's and especially with you, I reckon. I'll keep the deep heat in a drawer for now

hi ,
yes things getting there lsowly and surely . he has been very quiet and calm and we have done a lot of talking . he is aware of me now as before he could do things and make plans without me being in the picture . its nice to know im alive and well and not invisible. i have been gardeing today and have hurt my back , i feel like im settling into house now and am trying to get things looking like i have gave some effort to it .

he sorted dinner and ran me a bath (i was covered in mud ) also tidied up whilst i was eating . felt weord to let him do things , felt kind of lazy sat there and him doing housework iykwim. im definitly going to get used to it

anyway i got to go , we are watching a film together now the girls are in bed

nite all

and i am feeling very guilty about not shoowing interest in any other junie but i need to get my head sorted and i promise i will catch up

hope everyone is ok , all my love xx

slowly running out of steam, been at work since 7 so i think i need a run to the local lovely bakery just to increase my lard index

muma good for you hope things work out, marriage/ parterships are never easy and require ongoing work love and attention, all the more so when you have LO

katz- the word outsourcing generally gives me nightmares,but am glad its working in your favour, i dread the idea of science departments closing.
my childhood dream was to work in lad pref. in genetics this until my life took a few funny turns, i like what i do but often i think i would still like to be left alone to work on little things that dont talk back ( of course thats not possible these days with bottom lines, end product, financial watss its)
i do ramble - apologies

trib- how goes mr trib adventures through the world of sleep aid gadgets? or more to the point are you sleeping any better?

eym - hope you all feeling better
giddy -

lummox - so do tell is it a boy or a girl?

hope everyone else is ok

right best get back to work

hi morning mums hugssss

Well William has ben real poorly took him to doctors tuesday and hes got a chest infection and throat infection, so i knew it was more than a cold, was abit worried it was re action from the mmr though. Anyway he gave him some antibiotics and william has picked up, hes sleeping better for a start, thanks for all your concerns.

Mumma im so happy that you have talked to your partner, and maybe he has realised how much you do mean to him, good luck hunny.

Katz that great news on the work front i hope little lady is ok hugs.

Hi Giddy darl where ever you are, waves ill be in touch soon.

Sfxmum what do you do, sounds quite interesting?

right im off middle boy is here and its his birthday on friday he ll be 17 lol i am an old fart.

love to you all yorky xxxxxxx

hello EYM as you can see my job is not that interesting as i keep going online to distract me.
i work for a voluntary org. providing care for people who have LD and Mental health needs, at present i manage a couple of independent living projects, helping people to mor=ve on to more independence ,etc.

hope william gets better soon poor little sausage

Hi all. Just a quickie as we're away from home, but thought I would let you all know that all went well with the scan and

ds2 to be looks to be all present and correct. Am definitely glad to have found out the sex, as he seems much more of a person now (although dh is insisting on nicknaming him Enzo). So only four months or so of heartburn to go!

That's fantastic news Lummox!Can't wait for our first scan,but it's quite a way off yet-10/10/06.Really pleased everything's ok.

Yay Lummox! Congrats!! (So far I think there's only one person on the Jan '07 thread to have found out the sex who's expecting a girl, it's going to be a bluuuuuueeee month!) Glad all went well

Congratulations Lummox! Think about all the money in clothes you will be saving!
Glad to hear that Enzo looks well!

Fab news lummox! Plus you'll be able to reuse all your baby clothes

yeah a boy congrats lummox!

bub - my dd1's birthday is the 10/10 so maybe its a sign you'll have a girl!

congratulations lummox brilliant news

Great news Lummox! Two boys together are great, especially as your two will be so close in age. Congratulations

Hi Uki! Thanks for asking after me. Lovely to see you again.

Great news on the job Katz.

EYM, hope your DS is recovering quickly, poor little thing.

Rubbish attempt at a catch-up, I'm supposed to be getting ready to go out for the day with the boys. Will try again later.

Thanks all - am already having (no doubt completely fanciful) thoughts about two little boys playing together and generally being friends. I'm feeling quite soppy about it all (preggy hormones).

2happy - all the best for your scan. Are you planning to find out?

Bubb - hope you are keeping well.

sfx - yay for nearly finishing work.

trib - we had a look for all our old stuff and i think there is hardly anything that we will need to get. think ds2tobe probably deserves a few new things though, so i think i can justify a bit of shopping!

Hi Mrs W - hope all is well.

muma - sounds like you're on the right tracks there. hope it keeps going.

hi to Lua and Katz.

EYM - hope William is feeling better and happy birthday to your ds3.

hope everyone else is well.

Hi Again
Mrs W, nice to hear from you too. I hope you had a nice day out.

Hi Trib thanks for your post on the other thread, poor fin sounds so sad today. I feel a bit better now after my m/c as it has now been over a month, but should have been 17 weeks this week .
i'm very happy to have my smiley ds, lots of fun to play with but have a nightmare trying to change his nappy.
not much else to report. when will you be in Oz katz???

Hi everyone!
I don't know if you will remember me but I used to post regularly on here. Had a baby boy June 05 - but I was under the name megi! Def remember katzg, tribot, eastyorksmum and more! I must have stopped posting over a year ago cos when my little one was three weeks old my tosser of an ex left. At the time I was so shocked and surprised I didnt know what to do with myself! I am telling you I had some very dark days and only got through it thanks to my two darling children and my family. It turned out he was having an affair with his secretary - nice! Anyway, I went back to work as a teacher and have now met someone new - and I can honestly say I am happier than I have ever been in my life. He adores the children and my now ex- husband and I are amicable. - Don't want to screw up the children cos if whats happened. My new partner was offered a fantastic job in the states and we went with him. I figured the children would love the opportunity of living in clean mountain air with ski-ing opportunities in winter and swimming in lakes in the summer. We are loving it. They speak to their real dad every day by phone and we write letters. We wont stay out here forever because we value our friends and family so much and we miss them dearly, but we are looking at it like a year long holiday. When we return to the UK in approx a year we will have babysitters again (one of the minus points of living in the states) and the children will be able to see their dad more.

I felt very guilty about just disappearing but I could barely get dressed on some days so looking at the PC was a def no no. - Plus couldnt afford broad-band as a single mum so it was very frustrating loading up the long threads ha ha!

Anyway - am I allowed to join in again?
xxx

MEGI sorry meglo that is fantastic news. i remeber you stopped posting soon after i started. i have often though of you and charlie for that matter.
i know you were not forgotten as you get a mention once in a while. really happy for you

Hi all.
Meglo - I think I probably joined after you left, sorry you had such a poo time, but I love this thread and the advice and support I get from it, so one more to put up with my incessant drivvelings sounds good to me!
Muma - how's it going??
Lummox - scan on Weds and dh and I still can't decide whether to find out the sex or not!
EYM - is William feeling better?
Trib - any further forward with the apnoea machines?
Giddy - any word about that house you and dh were looking at with the fishing etc?
Well, ds has been dropping and dropping his milk, we went down to once a day a few weeks ago, but even that is tailing off so I've decided that today, since he's 15months old, it's the last one today . I never intended to tandem, so have to stop sometime, and he just shows no interest (apart from occasionally grabbing my chest shouting milk! in public ). And since it'll start all over again in 4 months time (eek!) I'm just going to give myself a break. dh is happy, he thinks we get to go away for a night - so he'll get p*ed, and I'll get miffed!
Hope you're all well x

megi - welcome back, great to hear from you, glad to here that life has turned around for you and you are happyily living in the USA!