Dec 08 - The One where they take on the world (school)

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Sounds heavenly Vag.
Had a lovely anniversary day with DH. Bit of a disappointing lunch, but lots of fun and a lovely walk in a gap in the rain. DD3 slept throughout like a little gem.

Does anyone else do this? I've just horrified myself by thinking about one of the girls dying and it made me cry. I love them all so much. I don't know what possessed me and now I'm totally sad about it. What a tit!

Vag I can identify with more alcohol than blood. Have drank solidly since Fri night. Post park run Sat, we drank at the edge of park pub, then another pub for dinner en route home, then today was a bit of a family / engagement celebration within the dh fam. Drank a lot (much needed) then another pub on way home. What are we like. I digress.
Glad you had a nice time Vag. Wish we could have seen you (that sucks) but totally understand.
Dh left ds's coat at the pub table after I double checked with him twice that he had collected everything whilst I was taking the dc's to the toilet at separate times on the way out.... urgh, now have to make a trip back tomorrow. Why are men so crap at this stuff?

How is T Beans?

CP Beans, I do that ALL the time. To the point where I think it's the main reason I want to stop work all together. I imagine terrible scenarios, and it often gets me all worked up. Have been hoping I don't have issues. immediately pre-work it consumes me dh says it's fine and normal unless it stops me doing things I would normally do. Not sure. Hoping you and I are normal and others will say as much. Thanks for sharing.

It just properly horrifies me and once I've thought about it, I can't get it out of my head. I want to go up and kiss them all now. Well, DD3 sleeping (noisily) in her pram in corner of the room. I'm about to go to bed. I'm so very boring.

Although feeling proud as gave DH a handjob yesterday. First bit of action he's had in so long. He was delighted!

Yep same here. I worry about it all the time especially as one of my bosses died of cancer when her boys were the same age as mine. Properly scares the shit out of me. I also spend far too much time worrying about Dh dying too.

Beans only you could write a sentence about giving Dh a wank.

Vag that sounds like so much fun.

Did the Cloudy Meatballs film thing today farking hell W London is a bloody long way from here. 2hrs each way. Am knackered. Also jesus shopping centres are hideous on a weekend. We never shop at a wkend nearly always online was horrendous getting out of there with both boys without losing one. Also 2 hrs for Pizza Express to serve us, eugh.

Time for some homemade soup and and a bit of x factor.

glad I'm not alone. Also panic re dh safety, especially as he's daily commuting again on the bike into London. Hard to believe as I'm a proper cow to him these days.

Beans, you kill me! A stressful topic only you can make lighthearted by throwing in a bit of hand job action! Love it! Can't say I'm as good at that kind of contribution to marriage! Am seriously knackered these days! Must buck up.

Well, felt I should as my fanjo is still recovering from birth. Nearly 4 weeks after all. Plus I cannot stop my wee halfway through, so muscles are still shot. Must do exercises.

Glad I'm not the only fretted. I also fret about DH as I couldn't cope without him. Love him so very much and he's amazing with the kids so I can relax a bit. And he's so organised with finance and doing DIY etc. I'd be lost. AND I don't want to die, I love life and my kids and I don't want them not to have a Mum.

PS I have also bought some Johnsons breast pads. They have built in erect nipples. How odd.

Eurgh I let the boys eat toast in my bed this morning crumb central.

Beans/rubes I do worry about DH or I not being around for the kids. And DH does have the kind of job he is at risk at daily. More so lately. In fact Friday I uttered the words 'I'm glad you didn't get shot today'. Never thought I'd say that to him!!

Best get off here. DD has a school trip to the air raid shelters today and her evacuee outfit looks a bit dodgy. Lots of school mums have posted pics of their kids looking like extras from The Railway Children! I hate it when they do that

How is DD3's crying going Beans? It sounds like it could be colic or reflux. DS was the same and some people said colic and others reflux. I found some foods seemed to upset him through my breast milk but by far and away the biggest change came from seeing the cranial osteopath. Just remember that these early screams days are short lived and just a result of teeny tiny guts getting used to the world.

Rubes, I do worry about terrible things happening to my family. I've always had a problem about believing my loved ones will die. I think it's because I lost my dad as a baby, my first step dad when I was 8, my grandma at 11, my friend at 15, my grandpa at 18 and my mum at 24. I get totally paranoid about DH dying as I just have nobody else and don't think I could cope. If I am having a bad day then even a bump upstairs has me thinking he has had a heart attack and fallen. Basically what I am saying is you are not alone.

Btw Jam, we live right by Westfirld and NEVER go at the weekend. It is the seventh circle of hell.

I'm the same have always freaked out about losing DH which I thought was due to losing my father so young and I often imagine quite vividly horrific things happening to the kids often when I'm going off to sleep. I have gotten up so many times and gone to snuggle up next to them and listen to them breathe and remind myself they are alive now, and I fear something which doesn't exist and has not happened.

Rubes you made me laugh with your "but I digress", I love a good impromptu wander from one pub to the next. I will definitely miss that in Australia. Pubs in the UK are so unique, no where else has an atmosphere quite like a British or Irish pub.

Beans well done on the handjob, I don't think I ever completed the deal with a handjob alone. Well except maybe when I was a lot younger and guys were just excited to be touched down there.

I'm off to my first cross fit session today. DH found a place near his work that does them and it's only a 20 minute cycle for me so we are going to meet to do a session together at midday. Fun.

I worry about DH when he's at work. Someone died on the ship he's on at the minute last year because they had cut a few corners to make life easier.
Plus there's the locals that try to get on the ship overnight when they're in port. They tend to have rather large knives.

Yes. Pubs here are second to none. I would know. Visited 4 just this weekend gone. Seriously. We have to be stopped.
Jeez I'm struggling to keep up with all these school activities if ds- how on earth will I cope with 2 in school! I'm actually getting nervous with Halloween coming up. There's going to be stuff to do involving that at school isn't there. Thinking I need to get a costume sorted now.
Vag a frond of mine is Cross fit MAD. Even goes to international ones when she flies. Is preg now, but she was rather obsessed before getting up duffed.

I would sometimes meet dh on a Wed afternoon at Westfield as he had to be in at that hospital for teaching. Stopped doing that as even weds was hell on earth there. I do look back fondly on the odd champagne bar meet up with LadyT. 4 pubs and a champagne bar- I sound like a proper piss head.

There is a glass of wine with glad wrap (cling film) over it on my kitchen bench. Says it all really. Am I the only one who ever does that? Normally I finish it. It's my age.

I don't even drink wine Rubes. Don't really like it. But I do keep my glass of cider in the fridge if I can't finish it.

I have never not finished a glass of wine, Rubes. A bottle, yes, but not a glass. And cling film? Well, it shows good intentions and a "waste not want not" attitude. Am v impressed by your pub action . Am gutted we never managed meet up before I started work. Can't believe I'll be having my three month appraisal soon to mark the end of my probationary period. off sick again today but have docs appt this afternoon. Don't think it's whooping cough again, but may be bronchitis. Coughed so hard I've pulled a muscle. Haven't done that since I was at uni and it was definitely fag and booze-related then!

Beans, sorry to hear about the endless crying. You have my sympathies. I think maybe going to see a CO is a good idea - it sounds like it worked for a lot of colicky babies on this thread. It didn't work for B, but that was because he had reflux. So maybe it's a good test?

No nookie action here, most recently because we're in separate beds (because of my cough) but normally I'm just too tired. And, if I'm honest, not really bothered. I feel bad as I was quite rampant in my youth, but now, just...not.

I have to say I don't really think much about death, but that's probably because I'm fretting about something else equally out of my control.

Vag, sounds like you had a smashing trip. I love hearing about your antics, you have such a zest for life. It is very inspiring .

Afternoon lovely ladies, have only a few mins but just wanted to dash in.

I made up with DP. I just think that we will always have rows because frankly we do wind each other up. Also, I am much nicer than him and although he has lots of fine qualities he is a difficult bugger. Rubes, you asked about progress on DC3 Pass! Still oscillating wildly. We'll see!

Oh and re: death of family members etc, I only panic about my own death in terms of worrying how the DDs would manage emotionally without me (now, that DOES keep me up at nights). I love life but I am aware it isn't, well, a given. The thought of anything happening to the DDs obviously makes my blood run cold - irrationally, or maybe not, I don't like them travelling in other people's cars without me. I am particularly terrified about one of them getting knocked over as well. DP - I just want him to stay healthy. Actually he is on yet another big health kick, trying to shift some lard. He hasn't had alcohol since mid-August.

Rubes, has DH's bro got engaged? Nice. Have they set a date? Glad the exams are over. How long was MIL with you? Any word from your brother?

Beans - so sorry that DD3 might have reflux. I really hope not. Any better today, my love?

Vag, I meant to say, there will be tons of financial ombudsmen relating to mortgages, it's v heavily regulated. You should deffo complain, sounds very shoddy. Meant to say, how nice that you cleared a space in a room for DS1 to think. I wouldn't worry too much about the daydreaming - in fact, I think it demonstrates he's got an active mind. Oh, and yes, I am CRB checked, and we have filled in the forms for the child in question to be assessed but our assessor at the education authority is on bereavement leave at the mo. I am certain he will be statemented and indeed we are already advertising for a 1:1 carer for him (and indeed will engage one come what may as there is enough in the coffers to pay for one) but we need to pick up the slack until that can all officially go through. He's a really nice little chap at heart and I really want to make things better for him.

A lot of pre-schools in the UK are run like this (especially rural ones): by a voluntary committee. It's just a lot of work. I have done it informally for a couple of years but I've been Chair since the summer. Perhaps I will get my reward in the next life I love the kids, but it's draining. Thanks for advice, Jam. Did I dream it or did you say you were going on a course for something?

Arti, what a dreadful litany of bereavement you have suffered. I knew some of it but I am shocked. All credit to you that you are so sane. Going back to purees - when the girls were tiny, they particularly liked my butternut squash and apricot (made with dried apricots) and my prune and pea! I quite enjoyed making them and I don't like cooking much.

Kayz, how I wish I didn't like wine I owe you some travel tips. How utterly terrifying about life onbaord your DH's ship

Nice to see yer, Spot. Sorry to hear that you're not enjoying work massively, though. Do you think you will be looking for something else?

Hi Spot. The wine is staring at me. But it can wait and I'll finish it later Kayz you're too young to drink wine anyway
Lady, yes he got engaged, as did dh's cousin in California the same weekend! It will be a swanky wedding, not until Summer 15 as the places they looked at are booked up I think the one they are going for is lovely, and very near to you! But nothing confirmed yet. The lunch was nice - but dh's sister who we fell out with 18 months ago was there and it was a bit awkward, but he managed to ignore them all afternoon.
mil was here from Mon night until Fri afternoon. Offered to stay Fri night if we wanted to go out but were both shattered. With my training and dh working late plus cycling it was take away and trashy tv, so she nicked off. Was ok though as she even had a few wines with me - think that's what she needs the odd drink and she's quite nice.
Yes seems like things are fine with the bro. All a bit raw still but twill be fine.
I've just been to the pub..... again..... but only to collect ds's coat we left there..... With the roaring fire and lovely setting I was tempted to pop on the couch for a large shiraz, but thought better of it since I have school pick up shortly, and still slightly fragile from the weekend

I would be hard placed to find something so close that is decently paid (for outside London) and not a management position that requires you to work all hours. So I do realise I am very lucky in that respect. I think I am just one of the world's self employed by nature and I find the lack of freedom (and variety) in my current job somewhat stifling. I have to keep reminding myself it ain't forever...

I'm glad you made up with DP, I guess that's one less thing to worry about considering you have so much on your plate with the preschool. It's so lovely to hear you talk about the children (and the little boy who needs 1:1 attention). They are very lucky to have you.

Crossed-posts with Rubes. I love the idea of nipping in for a pre pickup vino. .

You paint a nice picture of the pub, Rubes. It does sound inviting, I have to say. I do love a pub in the afternoon...not that I do it very often.

Spot - maybe things will improve with the job? Any hopes of pepping it up a bit, making it into more of a job you actually want to do? I have done that with jobs in the past. Start suggesting things outside your remit a bit, everyone is impressed with your drive and before you know, you're renegotiating your job description and asking for a pay rise