The 6th Broadly Gemini Luxury Bus - this way ladies.

[FrussoHathor]

Welcome aboard our 6th bus ladies.

Oh and some guy drove into my car on the school run this afternoon. I say drove. He reversed into the space behind me and scraped the corners. He was so apologetic, amd didnt want to run without speaking to me. What he means is e had witnesses and our school is goasip central His car was worse than mine. Had an obvious mark.
I can't even tell which scrape he put on my car (it's covered in scratches and dents anyway) told him I probably wouldn't have noticed anyway.

Hi. Sorry I've been quiet for a few days. Nothing much going on, DS is not sleeping as much as he was. He's been up at least three times every night looking for food. Not sure what's going on all of a sudden but I'm one sleepy mama. Definitely putting pressure on things too - DH and I had a fight at 5am. We made up before he left for work but I guess we're both feeling the pressure. I think we both feel really insecure about what we're doing so the smallest comment from each other just sets us off. We're pretty strong as a partnership though so we'll sort it out. Just left me feeling a bit blue today.

agnu DH has a tt. (The obvious type). He does have the heart dip in the end of his tongue. His teeth are straight, and he's never had/needed speech therapy.
Your dds will be okay. Did you know Will-i-am has a LT.

and [icecream] for you lore

Thanks! We're also going to the chip shop for tea.

Well it is a Friday lore

Oh dear. Poor teething baby boy.

I totally sympathise with the teething babies! It's hideous isn't it!! It's messed up sleep for the last two nights and the sad faces that come with it

Lor I've had a very similar week. I think all the waking has been due to teething though It is hard to keep my cool with DH at the moment. We're definitely finding early stages of parenting a big test on our relationship too. I try to take things one day at a time. I know that it won't always be this way and that soon I'll have more time in the evenings to spend quality time with DH I live in hope

pear it is very much a one day at a time thing with tiny babies. It does get easier as they get older. They're still challenging but in different ways. And they aren't tiny s d helpless for long. Which I find sad. I do like ds at this stage, when he's happy of course. but I could be because I know he's my last but when he's teething and jabbed and full of cold I feel so helpless to know how to make him all better and smiley again.

And I'm sure DHs just don't get it. They grunt and grumble when the baby cries at night, but don't realise that it's the 4tg time the baby has woken, and they only heard it because you dont have the physical energy to get there quickly enough.
And dh goes to work, and comes home expecting everything done around the house, and holds the baby for 5 minutes and thinks he's done his bit for the day. So has a 45minute bath, watches TV, plays on the iPad and goes to bed. And he just doesn't get that I'm drained. I'm a human dummy, and I actually feel sucked dry. Not milk supply, but energy. Like ds is comfort sucking it all out of me.

But they(DHs) will be better help once baby is doing things, sitting and crawling. And giggling and developing their personality and social skill.

Aww Frus I know what you mean. They're growing up so very fast! Everyday is just so precious. Baby pear is 63cm now so doesn't fit on my lap for feeds anymore. His tiny feet now fit 6-12 month socks! His new thing is to want to sit up and he gets frustrated when I don't let him turn the pages of a book...this one certainly has lots of personality

I have a daft question... Is it ok to breastfeed my baby if I have a cold? Will I make her sick?

Agnus, I know I shouldn't laugh at your troubles, but the though of living in a cave and eating rabbits is very appealing right now. And I say that as the mummy if a much beloved bunny!

No lib, you can still bf, the idea is you should protect her from it or give her some amunity
Pear he sounds a determined little character! Kitten loves to be sitting up too and loves being smiled at and chatted too, she's growing out of things at an alarming rate!

Yes lib keep Breastfeeding. And for things like you having a bug or d&v keep feeding. Your antibodies will be passed to baby in your breast milk. Breastmilk is amazing stuff

I may have been exaggerating a little with the whole cave scenario!

I have a renewed determination to breastfeed today. I'm trying a new plan. I'm expressing a few extra ounces in the morning when I'm really full before I feed Runt so it doesn't hurt & then I'll have a top-up ready for the evening when I'm sore so can't have him chewing attached for a long time but he's really hungry! Not ideal but it might work & would be preferable to formula! I will make this work!

That sounds like a positive plan.
Does it hurt to express or just feed? Do you think you could keep up with expressed bottle feeding?

Not daft at all, lib. Just keep yourself hydrated and try to check out medications compatibility with breastfeeding before taking them kelly mom

I'm sorry there are relationship woes at the moment. It's really a huge learning curve and it can be so taxing for relationships. Believe me, we fought like cats and dogs when ds1 was born (I wanted to kill the guy most of the time). It will start to get better as you get more sleep, baby gets older, and dh starts to get to do more things. They just have no idea what it's like to physically-from-your-own-body have to feed and take care of another human and how exhausting it can be. We're not fighting about kid stuff right now, but it feels like everything that he's doing is annoying the hell out of me. He keeps falling asleep on the couch and snoring his head off (which sounds disgusting), so I go upstairs to our room to read, and two nights ago...I came downstairs to see him sleeping with really really nasty porn on MY COMPUTER

Oh frus is there a family member or friend who could take ds for an hour or two during the day one day so you could just relax? You've had so much on your plate lately, you seriously need some you-time.

That sounds like a great plan agnu!

I think expressing enough to fully feed him would hurt but I can easily express a few ounces when I'm full. It's when I'm trying to totally empty my breast that it hurts. It was ok to express this morning - I got 3.5oz, fed him until he let go & still didn't feel entirely empty!

Bring I'd have hit him with the computer! & then insisted on buying a shiny new one!

bring I'd have buryed him under the patio. But will second agnus suggestion.

nope no-one to palm ds off to. but I'm probably not looking too hard he's all squishy and snuggly and I don't need to palm him off. I just want DH to do a bit more with him.

agnu you don't have thrush or blocked ducts or something do you? It doesn't sound right that it hurts. Are you doing it by hand or manual pump?
I'm never completely empty. There's always back up in there. Which is probably a good thing the amount ds feeds and sicks back up

I'm concerned ds will think his name is The boy. As that is what he is mostly called.

That's all right, N is Little Kitten, Chicken, Noo-noo, Noodle, Ponki and Ponkadonk. What she never is is her name!

Baby snuffles are so sad aren't they. She has sounded sad and brave all day! I took her to the market today to get some fresh air and she fell asleep, poor little sausage!

Bring how nasty is nasty or have I stepped the line? I think I'd forgive dh some porn as I'm not putting out I wouldn't like nasty porn but then there's different levels to what one persons nasty is.....
Did you have it out?
I'd be pissed if he was just watching tv though if it kept him up all night and he wasn't contributing in the day enough!
Kitten has been grumpy and on the boob all day today, managed to not feed her in the night for the past two though fluke? she gets called all sorts but at the minute dd1 has taken to calling her "babes"?!? Not from me I hasten to add!
Frus you love for "the boy" is so sweet, reminds me to saviour dd2 she maybe my last too although dh did make a comment the other day about perhaps another nice to know its not completely off the table

That's good going kitty they're supposed to stock up during the day so see them through the night. I'm not sure I could manage to not explode if ds slept through, i already leak at night due to random letdown.

pear bottle has arrived. I thought the teat would be longer. no idea why I thought that it does seem rather soft and flexible. Will attempt to express a few oz this week to see if he will take my milk from it. I really don't want to pump and dump, I hate bm wastage. As whilst he accepts the other bottles he will only take formula in them, so he's not had a bottle for a good few months weeks.

kitty I think it's because I know he really is my last, with dd1 I knew we'd have another, and with dd2 we thought we might but put it off for obvious reasons but DH is one of 3 same gender mix oddly so 3 was always an option.
And I was so petrified i'd loose him when they induced me, especially when my heart rate plumeted, I really thought I was going to die at that point. (The dishy doctors did make me feel better). But I know I can't put my body through that again. Everything that I had during pregnancy; the hyperemesis, the polyhydramnios, and the cholestasis, are all things that get worse with each pregnancy, and with the later 2 the risks get greater. (And being how with hindsight I had both of them in both my dds pregnancies, ds is pretty damn lucky to be here.) However much I'd love to have 10 if i could guarantee they were as lovely as ds, my body can't do it again.
So I'm going to unashamedly say he's my favourite boy. and dd1 is my favourite big girl, and dd2 is my favourite little girl, who says you can't have favourites plus I like to dress him in velour sleepsuits to make him extra cuddly.

Well.... I'm not judging anyone who's into this, but it's not my thing personally. It was all like gang-rapey, misogynistic, choking-slapping type of porn. He accidentally reading over my shoulder without me realizing it read a post I was going to send earlier that described the whole thing before I just clicked off the screen and lost the post when I discovered he'd just read what I typed. I suppose it was a good thing that he saw it because it lead to a discussion and it's not what I thought horrified that my dh is a closet violent fantasy kind of guy Apparently he's not into that thing, it wasn't the video he remembers watching, and that it must have gone onto a different video or something like that as he doesn't remember seeing any of that kind. He then of course wanted to describe in detail what he was watching before he fell asleep Ahh, yeah, no thanks, don't want to know.

Aww, poor baby lib! Hope her little snuffles clear up quickly (and yours too!).

Yeah, that is really odd that it's so painful to express and feed. Have you tried hand-expression? Is it any better?

That's so much to deal with frus whilst being pregnant. Just glad that you and the little guy are ok after all of that!

I'm also in the savoring every moment boat. They are small for such a short period of time. I wish I could slow-motion these days (however slow and painful they can be at times) b/c everything is in fast-forward now! 3 months already! Eep!

Lol bring at your dh describing what he was watching! I can imagine your face like I don't need to hear it thanks but iris totally feasible that when one finished it would bring up the next that wasn't what he was looking at, I think alot of things do that, must say I'd have felt like you about that type, in away maybe it's good he did see your msg so he explain it wasn't that as it may have played on your mind