November 2012 - Thinking about first birthdays? Already?

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1813767-November-2012-Next-stage-car-seats-and-yet-more-teething

Yes, unless people are just not wanting to contradict me. I have been very upset so maybe people have just wanted to be nice and say yes dear, she's being a mean old cow. I dunno.

PR I wish I knew how to make things better for you I was also going to suggest talking to your DH about it. Somebody that will be completely honest with you. A family member perhaps?

XSIL gave birth to a baby girl. 7lb 8oz. Not really sure how I feel about it. Relief that the baby is finally here and I can just move on from thinking about it now. Sadness and jealousy that she gets to experience the lovely newborn bubble. Also sad that she has a loving partner who will no doubt be supporting her through the early days, unlike my experience of being in tears non stop and XP getting frustrated with me.

I need a distraction.

One thing about this quiche is we give an honest opinion, even if it is not liked. Especially so as you are over the water so less likely to turn up on the doorstep and give us a thump on the throat Please please please ease up on yourself. This is not your fault. None of it (((hug)))

Chasing (((hug)))

I always find playing with my nipples is a rather pleasant distraction

pr she is a moose-faced cowbag and that is the truth. You are clearly a capable woman but you have been put under pressure that would have most of us blubbering wrecks.

vq you need to have to have the next 10 years at least free of illness to make up for this bugger of a year.

Honestly, I stopped sterilising a while ago. More by accident than by design. I only pre-make one bottle a day now though. Everything goes in the dishwasher on the hottest wash then I seal the bottles straight up - they never sit out unsealed if that makes sense.

chasing you worked in a call centre, right? And twat is still there? This is the funniest thread I read recently although it is an old one:
forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=741653&page=1

It will make you smile, I promise.

pr I believe you are right. Don't doubt yourself.

Trivial question: do we change baby's toothbrush after 3 months? I change mine every 3 months and O has been using hers since 6 months.

If I had a dishwasher then I would not sterilise. Sadly DH is as near to a dishwasher as I will ever get, and he appears to have stopped working.

PR reins? Wrist strap?

R likes books, his treasure basket, and cruising round the dj booth. He likes knocking over cup towers but cries because it's gone he also objects to being put in the dj booth

My mum took him for a walk this afternoon and i slept for 2 hours! Still feel like shit but hey ho.

Lily I change the kids brushes when they get raggedy or dropped down the toilet. They are so soft and it is more for practice at this young age so I would not worry. I find a new tooth brush at Christmas and birthdays works in our house as my girls are summer babies.

Thanks Lily I'll give that a read

PR you know better than anyone that we are honest with each other here.

Dropped down the toilet toothbrush? Hahahahaha,I can so see O doing that.

Lol VQ! Personally, I was going to suggest some shit telly!

chasing. Some feeling of weirdness of bound to swim about a bit.

Oh! And I am super amazed by your O's skillz! O's favourite thing to do with stacking cups is eat them. Second to that is bash them very, very hard against any semi-solid surface.

P only chews her toothbrush at the moment not having any teeth. I smear a tiny bit of toothpaste on then give her it to chew. I figure it will help her get used to it when she finally gets teeth.

Wrist strap could work pidj , thanks. Mght be better than the full on reins harness which went down like a sack of cold sick.

Thanks all for your kind words.

:o and the playing with nipples vq . In tamer suggestions chasing when I like to distract myself I go through MN Classics and hunt out spooky threads on here and there is a great one on Digital Spy. Perfect for freakingnyourself out til you can think of nothing but poltergeists and shadow men . Best for winter nights when you'e on your own though

That's good to know Vq. Seemed daft to be taking them out of a sealed and steamy environment to another sealed and steamy environment.

Agree with vq re toothbrushes. It's important to look after the milk teeth but look at it as developing good habits for when the adult ones come in. If by then they are brushing their own teeth correctly twice a day then you will have succeeded. DD1 basically sucks the paste off her brush and actual brushing properly is a pin her down screaming match... I am dreading the first trip to the dentist.

You are a masochist pr! I scare myself stupid with those threads during the day. I love them though. There is something brilliant about scaring yourself!

Classics is a great idea. Cutted up pear is good. As is the one about craziest parents at toddler groups. I laughed until I cried at that one and still giggle when I remember bits

PR YANBU any caring parent knows that you have to settle your kids into childcare gently and that this process requires YOU not a stand-in to be there initially to help settle them in. What are you meant to do grab some random off the street to help DD2 settle into nursery? . YANBU.

We have proper twirly finger waves and 'iyaaa' am far too chuffed about this one simple thing. He's waved at me, my sister, my BIL, the checkout lady in Asda - but not yet at Daddy. Poor DH is desperate for a wave and now I think Jonas is just playing hard to get little bugger.

Am freelancing tomorrow but have to work at my sister's so she can babysit but I am expecting a delivery and am in a flap....

I love that digital spy thread PR am onto page 40 and save it for if we have a night feed, in the dark....

Must find the toddler group classics one.

So sorry you have so much stress going on at the moment PR - I am dreading the toddler years as I am not a particularly patient person and I hated teaching early years. How you do it with 2 so young is beyond me! Big hugs.

Also, I have touchwood just sold my Mothercare My3. I am in two minds about replacing it as I love my Bugaboo frog and use that for everything (hence selling the bliddy my3 which I LOATHE) - but, the Bugaboo is crap on the coastal path. There is an Out & About nipper 360 on Gumtree for close to what I've sold the my3 for. Should I buy it? Or should I just stick to the macpac for walks?

What I am trying to say is, does anyone have an Out and About and are they rugged enough for the beach/coastal path? And is £70 a reasonable amount for a second hand one

Oh and I stopped sterilising about a fortnight ago. Having seen what she sticks in her mouth, she is disgusting. Bottles all go in the dishwasher at 90degc anyway!

Just had a quick flick through thread. pr I echo what others have said, you seem a very capable woman to me. You're just having a shit time of it of late. It would get even the hardest person down. For what it's worth I don't think yabu either and I hope DD1 has now calmed down for you.

chasing I don't know whether to congratulate you or commiserate you on the arrival of O's cousin. I just hope that she turns out to be a lovely playmate for O and that you don't have to deal with the horrible family.

Off up to London for a night put with my BFF whose birthday was yesterday. I'm not always out this much, honest. I must seem like a right piss head of a mother. Am certainly staying away from the wine tonight anyway. Will sling a cocktail or 3 the quiches way.

We crawled! We crawled! Lol finally! It was literally two/three "steps" but he has done it a few times in the space of 10mins, he then fell asleep in my arms, exhausted from the hard work!

PR thanks for your concern. I'm not over doing it, I give myself a house hold task everyday. Ironing is done every 1.5weeks and I just iron FH shirts, everything else gets put in hangers straight away

Lo had a nice long nap today. I managed 3 rows of crochet and caught up on 90210 lol

Hope your all well. Off to catch up.

Eliza enjoy the night out. Did I say how chuffed I am that the tube is out? Very, if I didn't.

MM1 the lab family is usually quite easy to train. You'll have a few sleepless nights at the beginning, but my retriever was dry very quickly as long as he was let out at midnight and at six I know you already have a dog but it might be worth revising puppy training to dos and don'ts.

Tbh if I could go back and still decide to have two children I would keep the same age gap. I know it is hard now but in a few years will be much more fun especially when someone else is looking after them all day . I never knew this year would be so hard but there was all the illness, the horrible weather in winter, spring and then the heatwave in July... Plus the work issues.

BUT despite DD1's naughtiness today she did play very nicely with LO for ages, without hitting her even once. Which was great. And things like throwing yghurt across the room isn't done because she likes making me clean or scream, it's because it's fun.

Think about it, if you didn't ever have to clean up, how much fun would it be to throw food? Heaps. But I need to find the happy medium between messy fun and increasing my housework load. Forgot to mention earlier I noticed from the corner of my eye that she was wearing new leggings, stripey ones. Then thought to myself, have never seen leggings like that before. Looked properly, she'd just drawn stripes on her bare legs with her (washable thank God) pens.