November 2012 - Thinking about first birthdays? Already?

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1813767-November-2012-Next-stage-car-seats-and-yet-more-teething

DP gets a lot of the reduced veg for us when he finishes work. Raspberries for 19p, spinach for 5p, lettuce for 10p etc!

Pennie DS1 had exactly 2 months between crawling and walking - 8.5 months then 10.5 months respectively.

O crawled the day before 7 months, pulled up to stand the next day and cruising straight away. Which gives me oooooh, another 10 days til he will be at the 2 month gap. FUCK!

However, I don't think he will.

I think I've got at least another month. He hasn't got the balance yet. He is still going straight down after he lets go of things. Keeping balance for 2 seconds if he really concentrates.

Chasing 17. I think it was that last year too.

I didn't want a 'popular' name either VQ. I had Elijah which is at 82. It was in the 90's last year. But obviously, he didn't suit it, so we went back to the drawing board!

The first name we picked, but then changed our minds was Jonah, which is like 180 something. Maybe we should have just gone for that! Looking at him now, I don't think he suits any of those names though.

He kinda picked his own name. Since Oscar was a name I liked, but hadn't put it on any list at all! He had a kind of refined old look about him. Dignified despite being up to his eyeballs in shit, piss and puke. I see Oscar as a kind of gentlemanly name.

We just kept trying names on him til we found one that seemed to fit him!

Sinead is 522. I like that it is not in the top 100. I didn't like that it has taken me so long to find it on the ipad, wish I'd got my laptop out.

O decided he was tired as my mum got here.

I really don't think my mum will ever be coming back again...!!!!

Thanks O. Just what I needed! GRRRRRRRRR!

On the plus side, he's asleep, the house is clean from top to bottom, and I can sit here on my ass guilt freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

M is 701 with 59 last year. Slightly down in the year before. I spent so much times on those spreadsheets looking for name ideas when I was pregnant.

M crawled the day after she was 7 months but took a few days to perfect it. She's constantly stood up at moment, but normally had a hand on something to keep her balanced.

I've put some washing in but can't remember if I've put washing liquid and fabric softener in with it. I've definitely put the stain removing gel as that goes in the drum rather than the drawer but can't remember filling the drawer. Oops

I have started a thread in money matters about fucking tax fucking credits. Not only do they say they have overpaid us by £4000 last year, even though we earned only £400 more than the year before, they now say we are not entitled to anything towards childcare. I now face weekly bills of £385 with no help. I have been near hysterical today since hearing this. I have put my figures through entitled.com though, and they say we get £210 towards childcare a week, the maximum entitlement. I am glad I no longer live in Preston as I would be paying them a visit.

vq you sound very distressed both in that post and on the thread you started . Other than entitled.com is there no-one like the CAB that you can call for some one on one, personalised advice on the whole system? Or someone that can take a look at it with a clear head? I don't know anyone who knows anything about it (I don't think) but it's obviously causing you massive stress. When are you due back at work?

Thank you PR. I replied but MN went down. I am still fuming but J now has a fever so I have something to occupy me. I knew on Friday he needed antibiotics.

Replied on your thread VQ x

Entitled to says I can have £120 a week towards it. That would be doable. I managed to get hold of the bloke who did our assessment a few weeks ago and he will talk to me on Wednesday when he has more info. He was very kind thankfully.

Thanks Detective x

Poor J xx

I've got an overtired teether here today.

VQ deep breath, and pay your local children's centre a visit. Mine have been amazing at calming me down and can talk to the fuckers for you. It took over 5 months to sort ours out last tax year and the CC lady put an absolute rocket up their arses when i was a tearful mess incapable of coherent speech

I'm back, and over my little sulk. I really do appreciate that all of your comments were meant with the very best of intentions, but it was all so much at once and I was left feeling very hurt and a bit pinned in a corner. I am super excited about my new puppy and really felt like you were all pissing on my parade (granted, it was probably deserved). But hey, you meant well and I am ridiculously oversensitive.

I have sooo much to catch up on. First of all, big hugs VQ. I have a tendency to freak out in stressful situations so I have no idea how you are keeping it together. Everything crossed they see sense and manage to fix this complete balls up.

Matilda is more popular than I would have liked. Hmmph. I haven't looked for Luna yet although it wasn't in the top 100, I'll wait and see the Scottish stats.

I hope Pass has had a lovely day today.

Today I bought stairgates. I nearly went for naice wooden Babydan ones but kiddicare's deal on Lindam white ones for £15 one over - considering we need 3 I wasn't going to spend much more than that. M is desperate to be mobile but so far her confidence sooo outweighs her ability. She can practically run if we hold her hands, tiptoeing like a little dressage pony; but has no interest in crawling. She has a fantastic knack of getting herself into the shit, then whinging for help. It is very tiring.

Hugs stunt - sleepless nights make everything so much worse, and unfortunately DP and I have been taking our frustration out on each other too. That said, despite M's regressing this past week we have been making a real effort to talk instead of shout. We sat down and took it in turn to right out 'rules' - some are hilarious - and this has helped us both argue out what was pissing each other off. Could this help?

Lily I have no words, just more hugs. I am sure your friend would be mortified if she realised the hurt she had caused. Wait until you are good and ready though. xo

Hope the move is going okay Sophia - my cupholder is being well and truly put to use!!

I have a job interview on Wednesday - I think I mentioned it last week. We sat down and worked out figures last night and after childcare and travel, I will be left with 43£ a week . I am also having serious wobbles over leaving M ever for so long. Should I withdraw my application or waste everyone's time by going and then potentially turning down the job?

We had our 'Matilda day' BBQ at the weekend and it was lovely, but my goodness is entertaining so many people hard work!! I am secretly glad a lot of people cancelled last minute.

sp won

sp write - ffs

Yey mm is back!!!

Welcome back mm1

Yay welcome back mm!
Sorry if you felt cornered we all have your best interests at heart, honest. And don't let it put you off having a moan or asking for help in the future.

Welcome back MM

Thanks for all name changing advice on FB. Have decided to give O a double barrelled surname of my name-XP name. Can't wait to have the same name as my boy as I can't bring myself to say his full name at the moment

So cute Boots guy never contacted me. But hey, worth a shot. I just won't be able to go in there ever again. Thank god I am moving soon.

I have been thinking about the lack of man in my life situation and although I don't need a man, I sure as hell want one. I am determined to create a wonderful life for me and O that depends on nobody but the two of us, but I feel like I also need that person in my life who really cares. I'm certainly not up for sharing my life completely with someone, but just someone to go on a few dates with and chat to in the evenings would make me happy.

MM . We missed yoooooooooooou.

The rules writing sounds a very therapeutic process. It's so good to voice issues neutrally rather than in a stressful situation.

Not sure what to suggest on the job. I think if it's in an area you'd like to progress in, in the future, I'd maybe consider it despite v little in terms of take home? But if that's the sum total after a full week away from M I can see why the dilemma - I probably couldn't justify it personally but it's such a personal choice . I'd still go to the interview though as interview practice is always good especially if you're not sure if you want the job.

OK I know the bear is nearly 10 months old and some of the more active quiche babies will be marathon running at his age but he did 9 rolls in a row today chasing after my empty bottle of juice and was so chuffed with himself even when wedged under the sofa!

Shitabrick VQ fucking tax credits. Why can't the government just subsidise childcare directly like they do in the rest of Europe rather than fannying around with the bureaucratic quagmire of TCs. Did anyone watch 'how to be a German' on BBC2 last week - they have the most amazing forest kindergartens - outdoors, no toys - just nature, tree climbing, den building etc €125 per month. Full time. But no we have to commoditize our kids so some nursery chain owner makes a fat profit....

I wonder how Pass's first day back went?

Got a freelance job from my fave client for 7 days over the next fortnight. Couldn't turn it down as they've offered to pay a nanny so my sister is going to come over and look after him here so I can work but still be around and feed him and she can get the nanny fee. Hope it works out but it'll be over a month and a half's wage when I was a full time employee so couldn't refuse.

Excellent news re the client yw . And the German family everything policies are brilliant. It is so family friendly there. Lux too actually if you live there.

Welcome back MM.

Great news YW for you and your sister.

J has antibiotics for another chest infection.

I think Tax Credits have made a mistake so a bit calmer. But not much.

PP I will do that x thank you x

Oh and had a lovely HV at the baby clinic today - Jonas was only 16lb 10oz - he's only putting on half a pound a month now. I was all 'should I be worried he eats like a horse yet is so wee' and she really reassured me that it's nothing to worry about - he's sticking to his line, is very active so burning more calories and because he loves solids has dropped his intake of calorie dense BM.

She said the worst thing I could try to do is fatten him up (which is what they used to do to prems until they noticed a huge link between prem birth and morbidly obese adults) as that would lead to him creating too many yellow fat cells now (and the fat cells we create in infancy stay with us for life or something Stunt you're a biologist - what does that mean?) and may also give him problems with appetite control both of which are linked to obesity in later life. In her words 'bigger doesn't mean better - he's no a prize marrow dear'. One for Pass and Eliza and other Mummies of pint sized babies . It cheered me up.

Not a prize marrow dear classic!