November 2012 - Thinking about first birthdays? Already?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1813767-November-2012-Next-stage-car-seats-and-yet-more-teething

Right, I think a task for tomorrow will be setting up a thread on FB for Chasing with pics of all these gorgeous men

My brother is awesome, especially as he had his aspergers diagnosis just last year. Considering how he has struggled, and all he has achieved, I am incredibly proud.

Well J has continued to grump and I lost it with DH tonight as it is always me who has to try to settle him. This is probably because I want to be the one to settle him, and DH does it wrong, but I was still fucked off that I was there struggling while he sat drinking his wine whilst reading his paper. Anyhoo, the wee boy is asleep. Hopefully until morning, so I will bid you all goodnight and thank you for not flaming me for quoting scripture

Good tips pass. When I move I am going to try and crack self settling as my back can't hack anymore rocking. We have a solid bedtime routine but I want to incorporate a bedtime story. So I think I will try and read him a story while he has his bottle and then if he doesn't feed to sleep I will stroke his hair and just hope he drops off that way.

I like that idea VQ

Also, I am a firm atheist but I still loved what you quoted.

That is exactly what we do chasing. The firm routine as actually so effective for p (I also now stick to pretty form timings) that I barely get to a story but I sometimes do it mid bottle at night. So she drinks half, story then finish bottle. I do face stroking or sit side on and rock very gently if she is really struggling. She generally doesn't need that though.

Like you said a few days ago, I think they need to be ready

Awww that sounds a lovely way to drift off to sleep.

Jonas has a bath, put into a fresh vest, nappy and sleeping bag. Then he has a BF whilst I sit on the rocking chair rocking him to sleep..... (and MN). We need to think of a new routine come October when I wean him. Det I find the thought of any of our babies climbing the stairs just

Tomorrow we have the excitement of the washing machine repair man, a weigh in, a walk with a pal and hoovering. Next weekend my Dad is finally deigning to come up and meet Jonas (nearly ten months after he was born) I'm going to have to practice restraining my sarcasm....

My list of dull tasks for tomorrow was meant to lead to the question - what are you all up to tomorrow?

I would too if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes YW!

He did all 13 steps, including the large step that means you have to turn to go up the last 2. I was wetting myself behind him, me DP and DS1 bringing up the rear with all 6 hands hovering!

When my mum said I was going up and down them safely at 10 months, I did not believe her. I think I might just now.

Speaking of mothers. Mine is coming to my house tomorrow. For the first time, she is coming to visit me (she comes to drop DS1 off or pick him up once in a blue moon) and sit in the house for more than 5 minutes!

I don't know why she never would come to see me. She just never has in 11 years.

I said to her last week how she should see O in his own habitat. She had said she was looking forward to seeing O's personality emerge. I said he had a cracking one already, and if she came over she would see him free range so to speak as it is not the same at other peoples houses.

So she is coming. And I have not tidied in a frenzy. I will hoover in the morning, and give the loo an extra bleach, and run a duster about. But that is it. No standing on ceremony grrr!

I preempted it clearly YW!

I am also going to the shop to get the things DP forgot .

That is all.

Tres exciting.

YW I forgot to say O is around 79cm, but that was a very wriggly attempt (we did 5 times and got 3 different measurements!). I think maybe 12-18 months then? Although he is currently in 6-9.

Blimey. ((Hugs)) needed around today it seems.

lily I can't believe your friend actually said that to you, but I kind of see what she was getting at, even if I don't agree with her. I can understand that you need some time before tackling her about it though.
sophia That bereavement course sounds good, especially if it helped you let go of that comment. Unfortunately, I think that once the immediate aftermath of a death has passed, people do stop asking how you are coping and seem to assume that all is well, or perhaps just don't want to raise it if you don't? It's just coming up to 2 years since my mum died and I'm finding it harder and harder but I can't remember the last time anybody asked me how I was doing with it.
YW I can only assume the person that said that to you had never experienced grief?! It would seem to me that losing someone without warning, and watching them suffer for a time before passing are equally awful, just in different ways :( I just can't understand why someone would even say that though, did she think it would make you feel better?

Hope you are doing ok chasing stunt and pp and everyone else who is struggling.

PR I think your work situation sucks and no wonder it is stressing you out.
I also think your dog sounds like a right proper character :)

I also missed why MM is taking a break, but I hope she and Izzy are ok, and know that they are missed.

Sleep is for the weak, right. Us hard nuts spend the night doing push-ups in our cots.

G has been up the last 2hrs too stunt. Not good. It is my birthday today and mum and dad are coming over to take the kids while dh and I have a dive. I would love some sleep first. Come on little man!

So many of you have had to face real loss, my heart goes out to you. Big hugs.

Sleep for your birthday Bry! I hope you got back to sleep quickly. J has been screaming a lot tonight. DH keeps telling me he needs to be fed. Yeah this baby that went from 7-6 last night suddenly needs to be fed every three hours? I don't think so. But he may need the comfort.

Morning,

Better day today for everyone. A rather exciting for me: complaining about a fine, gym, bike shopping, and I'm hoping I can squeeze the playground in too.

kirrin no one asks me how I am. I get tearful usually and they say pls don't cry. When the only thing I want to do is finally cry. I think people just can't deal with emotions, they feel bad that you feel bad and don't see that sometimes all we need is feeling bad with someone. I have one friend only who dropped everything when I said I wanted to cry and stayed on my sofa for hours handing me tissues.

bry happy birthday

pass have a good day at work

chasing I have a friend in London who is single. He is a very nice guy (he was Leo's best friend and supported me throughout the pregnancy). And he wants kids. He loves kids. He is 34 so not too old either? ;-)

Happy birthday bry!

Oh yes stunt, nobody actually needs sleep. It is for the weak. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise

He sounds lovely Lily! Perfect age as well Feel free to set me up...

First wake up at 5.30. I think. I remember being awake at 3. I think I got up. But god knows what I did as he still had a full feed in the fridge so I didn't feed him... Just waiting for him to go back to sleep now.

Today I will be going to Tesco. And packing. And waiting to hear news of O's new cousin being born. And then battling the emotions that come with that. And looking forward to bed time.

Morning.

kirrin is true. Everyone thinks you are ok after a few months. Might be worth looking at Cruse Breavement counselling, or see if there are any courses in your area. Mine was run by church but it wasn't really religious it was just people who care. And actually counselling etc can be difficult when things are still very raw, better later as it does settle a bit.

Happy birthday bry have a great day. Xx

O said he would like to be like your O det and be is trying hard with the stairs, but mean old mummy swoops down and picks him up!

A stupendous event here - L woke up a few times as usual but self-settled every single time, waking just after 6. Good work son.

Lily I have not been through anything near what you have experienced but you are completely right about people not being able to cope with emotions. During times of depression the thing I find hardest is the constant need of people to 'cheer me up' - when sometimes what you really want is for them to allow you to be sad; acknowledge your feelings rather than trying to talk you out of them. Of course people mean well and I've certainly said the wrong thing on occasion and wished I'd bitten my tongue, but it is exhausting when you are dealing with others' expectations that you should be happy because someone has it worse than you, or because some mythical benefit can come from your experience.

"At least..."
"The good thing is..."
"It could be worse..."
"One thing you can take from it..."

Today we are cleaning and tidying and washing. Later is gym for me and daddy time for LO. Also got to send off my PPI paperwork. I filled in the forms the banks were made to send out. I got offered a £1.8k and a £2.4 settlement for loans I took out to buy the house on top of the mortgage!

And det it won't surprise you to hear L climbs the stairs to bed and also when he feels like it!

Happy birthday bry

I had a horrible night. Not much sleep and the most awful nightmares when I did sleep. Think horror film being chased by a nutter killing everyone in his path, and not knowing who was on his side, as in total randoms would start killing too like some sort of sick flash mob. Oh, and it was my ex, and I was prime target so I had to keep escaping from people who were trying to corner me so he could finish me off. It was terrifying. And I hadn't even had any meds all day, so not sure what fucked my mind up so badly last night.

LO end up having a dose of nurofen last night (my last resort) and she did sleep til 4 but woke up hungry and cold. Thing is it is so long since I out pjs on her - she's been in vests only for the last 6 weeks with the heat - that the pjs in her drawer are too small, so I have to go through the boxes in the garage to find the 9-12 clothes. I thought she'd been havingna bit of a growth spurt.Anyway she went down again after a small feed, and is majorly happy about something this morning. Not sure what.

Today I need to sort out my clean laundry pile, hoover up the dead flies and kill some more, and make something with last night's roast. I also want to do another batch cook - maybe some sauces for pasta.

Happy birthday Bry

Wow, Pikz, windfall!!

Today we're off to sling meet then softplay and lunch. Dp has work then will be lowering the base of the cot...

Happy birthday Bry!

Yep PP shows its worth filling the forms out. I didn't think I'd get anything. It means we can book our wedding woohoo!

Fantastic, congratulations only time i could have had it was my first mortgage and i clearly remember laughing in their faces, so i don't think it's worth checking

Happy Birthday bry

det like O and pikz L, M is also a stair climbing expert

M took ages to go down last night, bloody teeth. Eventually went down just before 10. Woke at 1:30am and then DH was the first to wake me when he went to work at 7:30am M is still in bed, I can hear her stirring now. Fab for the sleep but not so fab in that her routine will all be out today. Was hoping she'd have a nap at 10am as we're going to the CM for settling in at 11am.

Last week of mat leave

Best go get M, will finish my post later

I've had loans and stuff in the past, but I was very careful anal about not getting the PPI and anything else added on, so I'm fairly sure there is no point me checking that.

My ex got it on a loan once. I made him go back to the bank and cancel it.

Maybe it could have been an investment now, eh?!

Chasing Don't feel any emotion other than sorry that another little baby has been born in to that headcase family. One day, it will be you again. :) But you won't have the IL's from hell! Or a bastard of a P. You will be loved, and happy, and it will be how it should be for you and O.

Pikz Nope, not surprised one bit .

Sorry to hear of shitty nights Stunt and Bry*. It has to end one day right? I'm also in the camp of, if they can go one night with out a feed, they can do another, assuming their intake of milk and food has been fine the day before. DP isn't as lucky as me . Whenever it's his turn for a night, O always ends up with a night feed. Yet when it's my turn, miraculously he can go all night, and still not need one when he gets up. In fact I don't think he actually 'needs' any, but he likes them, and obviously babies need the nutrition from milk at this age. O would take 6 bottles a day if offered, I'm sure of it. Okay, he probably wouldn't take as much with each feed, but he likes the comfort of it more than anything - you can clearly tell.

Today I have so far polished everywhere, tidied up etc. I need to hoover, but I didn't think it was acceptable before 9. Or unless I see the neighbours fuck off out before then! The thing is, O was up at 6, so he's gonna be ready for a nap any time now. And I can't hoover when he is asleep as it wakes him. GRRR!

PR Can you PM me your address? If it's not still chucking it down this afternoon, I shall go to Asda, where they have a post office .

Oh, this morning O managed to drool enough on to my brand new fecking iphone to cause water damage. Luckily, it seems to have stopped the weird shit for now. I was a very cross mummy before 7am this morning!