November 2012 - Thinking about first birthdays? Already?

[StuntNun]

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Sorry! Running in for a quick rant!

We were looking forward to a peaceful weekend together before I start back at work on Monday. Well, i called my mum the other day for a chat and told her this. She asked would it be ok if she and dad came to visit.

Now I haven't seen my parents for ages so I said that this was fine thinking we would still have the other day of the weekend.

I got in touch with my mum on Thursday asking what day they would be visiting and she told me that they had booked a hotel and would be staying all weekend.

DH started to look a bit cross at this but we both agreed that my mum has had a rubbish time recently so it would be nice. There will be other weekends.

I texted my mum this morning asking if they could give us a rough time of arrival. She responded saying that some relatives were in town currently so they will be seeing them first before heading up. No clue about when this will be.

So basically we now have to hang about all morning with no idea when they will decide to leave. Mum has form for texting us 3/4 of the way through the journey basically giving us little notice. We can't book anywhere for lunch. I have no idea when will be best to put P down for her nap. I have no idea what their thoughts are for this evening. It drives me mad.

They did this the last time they came up. Apparently they were up for visit us but would mill around all morning giving absolutely no indication when they would hove to at ours. I have no issue with them taking their time or being relaxed but surely some indication of an arrival time is just manners?

They are lovely my mum and dad and my poor mum has been through the ringer. But aaaargh!

Pass go out for lunch - leave a note on the door saying where you are / mobile details. That'll learn them

I don't touch diet anything food and drink-wise. They're chock full of artificial sweeteners which actually make the body crave sugar. I don't know anyone slim who eats 'diet' foods / drinks - the only folks I do know who consume them are the ones perennially yo-yo dieting.

IMO the key to sustainable weight loss is a healthy diet and lifestyle, rather than a 'diet'. The mantra I try to live by is to make the healthy choice each time you choose something to eat. So just take it one meal/snack at a time and always have healthy options to hand. Nuts and dried fruit are a good snack.

In another life I would love to be a nutritionist.

Apparently the relies who they were seeing for 5 minutes have just left nearly two hours later. Still no idea if they have actually left.

They will arrive, we will drink coffee and eat biscuits and it will all be fine.

O is so cute today, I think she finally started to think about moving. She tries moving her fat legs but they don't always respond :-).

We are off to a food festival this afternoon, nom nom.

Bad Izzy has seduced me and another quichette into buying wraps. I can't wait to try them out (don't tell my DH!)

I'm very much of the opinion that diet drinks aren't good for you. There are studies that suggest that diet drinks may make you more hungry. What there isn't, is any studies to show that diet drinks help you lose weight. Not one study showing a benefit! I think eating normal foods is they way forward. My granny was a die-hard meat and two veg meal planner and she was slim for her whole life. If she bought a Mars Bar then she would eat a quarter of it for dessert and save the rest. She knew how to satisfy her sweet tooth without going to excess. If something has a lot of ingredients you can't pronounce then don't eat it.

As an avid not fizzy drink drinker I do have a positive experience of moving from normal to diet.

We had a child at school who drank at least 4 litres of full fat coke a day. The only change she made to her diet was changing that to diet as her family wouldn't support her desire to lose weight (she weighed in stones the same as her age). She lost 2 stones in one month. And kept it off.

Four litres Pass? Diet or sugary drinks she'll have no teeth by the time she's 18!

I know! Poor soul was pretty desperate in many ways.

One of the two litre bottles was breakfast, I remember

Trying to think of something to do tomorrow, we fancy going off somewhere seeing as it's my penultimate weekend before work and DH earning extra pennies.
Hmmm
Options are seaside, zoo, sealife centre, Yorkshire dales somewhere or oulton park. Why do I find it so hard to choose?

Just popping on quickly to fish slap fatima :)
I was part of a group of 4 at school and they are all still a big part of each others' lives whereas I have them as friends on Facebook and that's it. I also felt a bit on the outside even at school so I kind of knew it would work out that way. 1 I would like to see again, just once to catch up not to be friends again IYSWIM. One I am indifferent to, and one I would like 1 day back at school with so I can tell her to fuck off when she starts with her crap. I am a different person now

chasing why in another life. Why not in this one!?

Fatima I vote for despite centre. O loves looking at fishes so that would be his idea of heaven

Good point kirrin. A new career seems one life change too many at the moment though.

Productive morning. Dropped O off, collected the last of my stuff, had a cuppa with my old neighbour and got an invite to O's best friends first birthday party next month . Felt nothing for the flat or XP. Well, apart from hatred. So glad I got out. Now just got to kill a few hours before I get O back.

Or a sealife centre even...

Hurrah, Chasing

That moment when the crawl up you, smile, look in your eyes and say Mumum

:o

You have come so far Chasing Well done!

I vote sealife centre as well Fatima, J has been to two and enjoyed looking at the fish.

Any animal related activity = awesome!

chasing you are a champion

Afternoon

Ahh pass I do hate it when I don't know what's going on, I like plans etc and times. I am not very 'go with the flow' unfortunately!

Aww bless her lily

I really do commend people for giving up fizzy drinks etc altogether but I really enjoy it and would rather have a nice cold glass of Pepsi than a bar of chocolate. Trouble is at the moment I have the chocolate and wash it down with the Pepsi. I know i have no willpower, i have always been the same. When I did SW I could have the diet drinks so I did. Once upon a time I would have full fat everything and think nothing of it. Fizzy drinks and coffee are my vices, I suppose. And sw works and I can have both of those on it. I just need to get on with it. I'm well aware of what is in diet drinks, and because of that once I am back on track I'll be able to limit myself, I did it before and I can do it again I just am finding it hard to do it all around e and his needs and routine. I need to get a weeks worth of dinner planned and ill probably double up on things and freeze stuff, to help in future. I need to get myself into the right mind frame. I don't use sweetner in coffee, but I only have one sugar, and did get down to 1/2 except for my morning one. In fact when I'm doing really well I only have about 3 cups (average currently is about 12 ).

I know, I'm terribly unhealthy. But I can't lose the diet drinks just yet

chasing you are doing amazingly well :D

fatima another vote for sealife centre here :)

chasing sounds nice.

fatima what did you decide? On the friends thing, that would make me sad too, but might it be an easy thing to get in touch with one of the group and say hi, wanna catch up? They may respond positively to you reaching out awful Americanism, sorry.

VQ know nothing about tax credits but sounds awful. Shitty system giving you no certainty.

eliza hope the next apt goes well.

Had lovely morning. Went for a run this morning as S woke at 5am so made the most of it. Wasn't as bad as I expected and the relief in feeling like I am doing some kind of prep for the climb is amazing! DH works on a sat so the DC and I went for long walk, little train ride into town (DD loves trains), for coffee with some chums and then more walking. S was on good form with my friends and DD was very good. The walking tired her out so she rode her "scooter" (buggy board) a bit. They are both now soundo in bed with me. Lush Saturday.

chasing that's great news.

I'd also vote for the sealife centre.

Just watched a couple of episodes of Glee. Never seen it before and am hooked. DD1 loves it. Sings along...

I do drink diet drinks - well, specifically Pepsi Max. It is the only one I actually like.

If I didn't drink it, I'd be drinking Coke. And I can't have it because I drink too much of it.

I drink squash, but no added sugar, for the same reasons.

I don't drink tea or coffee, I'm not keen on water minus some sort of flavour, although I will drink it, it doesn't seem to quench my thirst .

I am knackered. Despite a good night from O, sleeping 8-7, I am tired. Why? Possibly because he has whined and whinged and been attached to me all day.

He's not a happy boy today.

I am going to slump in a corner til I recover.

Diet drinks chat is interesting. For years I was the kind of fatty person who ate loads of shit washed down with diet coke. I definitely had a diet coke addiction. Stopped drinking it when pregnant due to aspartame content. Instead of using that as an opportunity to quit the habit, I switched to full fat and never switched back. DH also addicted. We go through shed loads of the stuff. Like kyz I'd struggle to manage without it. Nothing else is as satisfactory. It is definitely an addiction. Prob need to go cold turkey for a month really. I know it's an unnatural shitty thing to put in my body, but struggle to make the change.

Saw a nutritionist recently as am terrified of passing appalling eating habits to DC. Didn't ask about drink directly, but got the message loud and clear that the more unnatural the substance, the less to have of it. My understanding of healthy, balanced nutrition is actually very good according to the lady I saw, but my ability to act on my understanding appears to be completely non-existent.