November 2012 - Thinking about first birthdays? Already?

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Yes Detective PND is very far from acceptable here. As is autism. I think my MIL's weirdness stems from PND. her doctor's remedy at the time was to go back to work, which she did, and felt better. But long term didn't solve it. I watched a documentary a while ago (but relatively recently, maybe 3 years ago) which claimed to be unraveling the mysteries of the 'baby blues' and was praising a McDonalds charity which was paying for mothers to go into retreats with their babies (but without DH and other children) as OPPOSED to being sent into care ON THEIR OWN. Admiteddly it did look like a very nice place to go, but WTF.

And autism being blamed on lack of maternal bond? The only other country in the world to officially back that is Argentina.

The French can be so fab, but so shite. Every day when I lurk on SN threads on MN I am thankful that I, for the moment, have not had SN diagnosed here in France.

No fear of nudity in France either

kyz fancy a move up north? South Lakes are, or were, recruiting. The animal park that is. The owner is lovely, despite how he was portrayed on the news.

There was a Eurostar advert in France that was basically, come to England, streaking is funny there. There was a big poster of someone streaking during a football match.

You don't need to streak here. Just go to the beach. Or the local spa. All the oldies there are starkers and proud.

I bet my neighbour goes

Evening all!
DH us back from working away, we survived. It was quite nice actually, wouldn't mind him doing it every so often. And we'll be quids in when he gets paid next week. I'm trying to convince him to buy me a "back to work bag" seeing as I've only used a changing bag for the last 8.5months and M will need that.

I've been reading but don't really feel like I have much to contribute, been good to read though.

Tonight I may need a slap with the quiche fish. Been feeling a bit like I haven't got any friends. A girl I went to school with is getting married, a different friend got married about 6 weeks ago. We were in a big group of friends at school and all of them more or less are at both weddings, except me. They all stayed in touch with each other but not me. I know partly it was me as well, I felt I'd outgrown them, had met DH and went to uni etc. and I do have friends, different friends who I love. But it's sort of made me feel a bit sad, like I'm not worth staying in touch with. I know I'm bring stupid because I've got plenty of friends I have stayed in touch with. But I just feel a bit unloved. I think it's just a post-baby identity crisis though.

people move on And sometimes it's hard not to feel left out. But it's not deliberate. Promise. And would you want to go to a boring load of weddings of people you're only kind of in touch with?

My best friend from school suddenly got in touch a few months ago asking if she could come and stay in July. She wanted, in her words, a cheap holiday with her son. I said of course, open house. In June I asked her whe she was coming. Oh, sorry, I'm not coming, it's too far, I found a cheap campsite in Brittany. (same drive from Calais - four hours). I honestly don't think she meant to offend. And tough shit, I go mad for guests - LOVE cooking for them. Her loss. But it was school. Ages ago. She's moved on and so have I really.

Thanks pr you're right. And I know there are reasons why we drifted apart, all through high school etc I felt a bit of the odd one out even though we were good friend, I knew I'd be the first one to go.
I'm just feeling a bit wistful, but I got different friends. Ones that were more me. I suppose it's dragged up some feeling of inadequacy. Wow that's a bit deep for a Friday night.

On more lighthearted notes, I met the biker that I LOVE again at the weekend. Oh my god he is fit!

Damn right her loss! That's what I should think. They don't have me and the gorgeous M in their life, their loss

Exactly. You've grown up and are more you and have friends to match the grown up you. It's sad because we would like to keep bff but the reality is that we move on and our friends do too. It's a good thing really. We're no longer teenagers after all.

I am very different from the teenage me and even from the 20s me. Wouldn't waste a second with some of my old school friends now. No point in hanging on. Others I would walk to the end of the earth for. But they would invite me to their wedding.

Argh. Dh is giving mil MY lil suitcase. That I bought as my hospital bag. I wana murder him. He doesn't listen to me and I'm to tiered to argue with his. They will be gone tomorrow. Just need to keep shut for a few more hours.

Lo update. He slept until 2. Then knocked out Again at 6. Just gave him a dream feed. Well an hour ago. He still feels warm. How long does the temp need to last before seeing a gp?

Getting jealous of wrap talk. Wanted one for lo. But dont don't know where to start. And local sling meet is not that local.
Might just get a baba sling ?? I think it's called. Looks easy enough. Or like look of stretchy slings that are kinda pre made.

Not read owt. Eyes hurt. Will read in morning. Worst night in a long time, just keeps waking up crying out, last was less than an hour ago. Think will calpol now.

Diet soft drinks? Ffs! Just cut the crap. If an ingredient has more than 4 syllables, or a product has more ingredients than you have fingers, don't put it in your mouth.

Morning. Ok night here except for me, surprise surprise.

pidg I can't work out who you're answering there :) but I personally loathe diet soft drinks too. Full fat coke all the way for me :o but never after 4

Ooo I just have to do a gentle stick up for nursery workers here. My experience of nursery workers, particularly recently, is that these days it is a vocation they choose because they love child development. There are lots of ways in which they can further develop their qualifications (Os key carere has just done a degree in Child development)and many of them do. The nursery my boys go to gives them a great start in their learning journey and focuses on developing the children's ability to be the best they can be through play. I sat down yesterday with DS1 s key worker to talk about how I could give him what they do when I have him at home with me as I am worried I will not be doing the structured kind of learning they do and the stuff she told me was all well thought out and all focused on getting them ready for school.

My nursery workers, anyway, get a big up from me, they work really hard and I know must do a lot of planning in their own time.

I will get off my box now.

fatima but you have your little family. (((hugs))))

Anyway, it was a packing box I was on just now btw. I will go back under them. Running out of steam for packing now. [ shrivelled up Thomas emoticon]

It has been a tough two days. Me and DH at the peak of stress and. Neither of us are really stressy people. I think we might be popping out the other side but I reserve judgement.

I could cry at a moments notice.

sophia that is lovely to hear about your nursery workers Really restores my faith in them.

And go easy on yourself, you are facing a massive upheaval so it is bound to be stressful xx

Aren't you on the move soon?

2 weeks and 6 days to go

Sophia sending you hugs and lots of packing pixies to help.

For the bad nights

Loving being home... He slept 8-5.30 which is a huge improvement on the last few nights and I finally feel a little human and he can crawl and pull himself up to his hearts content.

I love Saturday morning cleaning while DH takes DD1 out to the shops, and Saturday Kitchen on the TV.

Morning all,

Sorry it's made you feel a bit shit fatima. I don't keep in contact with anyone from school. My BFF I met in college and I know I'll never lose touch with her. I'm a lot different now than I was at school but my BFF have grown together. Some friendships aren't strong enough to last through the changes we all go through. My DH keeps in touch with a lot of his school friends and they are such a tight lovely group. I sometimes wish I had that but then I think of all the lovely friends I do have and count myself lucky.

sophia happy packing.

We are going to view a house this afternoon. It's on the same road as the house we attempted to by earlier in the year. It's not being actively marketed yet so are getting in there first. I'm already in love with it but am scared I'm setting myself up for yet more disappointment. Still what will be will be and all that crap!

Then off to a bar in London for a friends 40th must stay away from the , repeat to fade.

Have a good day y'all.

I loathe diet soft drinks as well! When MIL goes to watch DH play cricket she always packs a picnic and offers me a drink. It's either diet fanta, diet vimto or diet 7up. They all taste rank. The only diet drink I like is diet coke and I'm going off that. I had a 7up free thing from boots the other day, it's was seriously horrible.

Morning all, fucking nackered :( every hour between 2 and 7, not had that for a long while!

daisy I do have diet drinks/juice instead and have cut down on sugar in my coffees. I need to make bigger changes I think.

I'd love to move pr and a job in animal care would suit me down to the ground :) I think because of my degree though I'm overqualified for basic roles but have no experience for the higher type thingies.

You do have friends fatima, the quiche! Glad you survived, well done!

pp I'd love to cut the crap, if it were that easy for me, I'd do it. And I know it's because I am rubbish and have no willpower :(

Oh sophia moving is stressful anyway, but you're moving really far away and your life will be changing drastically!

FC re the house eliza :)