March 2013 - still too sleep deprived to think of a funky title

[StormyBrid]

Old thread here.

We seemed to be running out of space (again) so I made us a new thread.

Well done something for talking it through rather than letting it fester. Sometimes those chats are hard to start. But worth it.
Eig life sounds tough again your end and that bf sounds hard on you. No wonder you are tired. Do you think she takes less at each sitting as it is so regular or are you Just producing loads? Is she very tearful if you try and push her past those times? Sending good wishes your way with it all.
Before you all start thinking I'm some sort of fifties housewife super woman may I say I don't iron the sheets. Only the duvet cover and pillow cases. But now you've underwritten my recent behaviour as normal I can start using past tense....I once ironed duvet covers. NOt any more ;-)
And worse, the story is thus: I started new job with long commute. I started listening to radio. I texted into the breakfast show when in the awful traffic. I entered a competition to win some gig tickets. I won and dj called me to tell me. I was star struck. I received tickets in post with hand written note. I went to gig. I texted show to say thank you And that I'd had a nice time. Dj found me on Facebook as I'd liked his show. Dj sent me a text from his own phone. WE started text and Facebook communication. That went on for couple of months daily. to point where I was on a date and keen to get home to read the latest message from dj I was feeling brave and at a loose end one early summer evening and

Ha ha...crappy phone. I shall now finish:
I texted him to invite him to My house for dinner. He was game. He landed on my door step shortly afterwards. I saw him for first time and thought 'handsome and very young' and then invited him right on in
Worse I hope that entertains you if you have a night feed tonight x

Eco, that's sweet! worse you could be on to something with the age thing. Seems like my dh is the oldest and he definitely gets it that this baby business is hard work.

eco I had a go at stretching the feeds today and it helped. I am up now because the 3 year old had a nightmare, dd is sleeping soundly! Normally dh deals with 3 year old in night but he's travelling in the states with work so just me.

leni , worse is right. Think of it this way, babies spell love T I M E. but quality time really matters. Have a nanny part time if you can and get her ( or him) to cook for ds, sort his clothes and look after him so that you can have as much quality time with him as possible when you aren't working. You'll always be mum but as worse says its great for there confidence to have others care for them and play with them, that's why they say it takes a village to raise a child .....

leni he's very sensitive and let's everything get on top of him. I've known that about him for years so with his job (which is quite a high stress job - not that I fully understand what he does), the house buying, me going away in a couple of weeks, etc, he struggles to deal with it all and doesn't tell me til it gets too much. I'm very laid back about things and I think that pees him off too, as he's fretting while I say "it'll be alright". Also, with regards to the nanny, he or she won't be a stranger for long and it'll be nice for your LO to spend that time learning and having fun with someone who will hopefully mean a lot to him, and just think about how excited he'll be to see you when you come back from work

eco very cute story! It's similar to how DSis and DBil got together. She had a date with a radio presenter but fell for the guy who answered the phones instead. He's now a radio presenter!

Gah, phone posted before I'd finished. I was going to say, mine and OH's getting together story is less romantic...we met on a field back when it was cool to frequent fields and get drunk with friends on a Friday when I was 16, on the Saturday he had a little house party just so that I'd go and asked me to be his girlfriend, by the Monday we'd said "I love you". Moving fast seems to have worked though, 8 years on!

Eco I love that story! Thank heavens your dj crush didn't turn out to be some awful Alan partridge type

Something your dp sounds very sweet, and like he works hard to provide for the three of you. Good on you for talking it through, a problem shared is a problem halved an all that - if only he'd learn some tact, no matter how sleepy that gorgeous boy of yours needs feeding!

Hmm our getting together story is so geeky and so boring. We met doing the same masters degree and pussy footed around the subject for A YEAR. I even went stay with him in his parents house for three days when he was dog sitting while they were away - and nothing happened. I had to tell my housemate to back off flirting with him because I found it so upsetting. We got drunk a lot together, in an attempt to shed any shyness, and I would stay in his bed with him off my face and still nothing happened. Then one night I went over, we watched The Fellowship of the Ring and nothing happened. But ten minutes into The Two Towers and we couldn't keep our hands off each other.

Leni I went to a childminder full time from three months. I loved it, my mum got a career she never thought possible, and I was really ready for school when I started aged three. It really worked for us as a family and I wouldn't feel bad at all about it. As worse said, children flourish in these situations. Research has disproven claims that working mums are damaging their kids by hiring nannies etc, so as Eig suggests I'd see it as a chance to really get some quality family time. Imagine coming home to a fridge full of food, a happy DS and a tidy house. Perfick!

Aw Eco that's proper romantic, and not even slightly embarrassing. Definitely one for the grand kids. And Something young love! Makes an old mare like me feel all misty eyed.

My story is far less romantic. I'd just started a new job in the City, and being a bit green behind the ears often volunteered to do the tea round. The guy opposite was a bit of a laugh and banned me from making tea for the 'ar%e of a consultant' as he never made one for anyone else. So of course I did, just to wind him up. The 'ar%e of a consultant' was so impressed by my tea making skills he spent the next two years sending me really funny emails, helping me with career decisions, hanging out, and generally being the best mate ever. Then one day he invited me to his bosses wedding, and the rest is history. When he reverts to ar%ism I have to remind myself that once upon a time he cared enough to spend two years pursuing me, so he's not all bad.

Eig I have no wisdom on when's the best time to switch from breast to bottle before returning to work, but my limited experienced suggests that getting dd really comfortable with a bottle before it becomes the only option might be best. We bought a lot of bottles before we found a type dd was comfortable with, and are now at the stage where she will drink from any of them. I still avoid TT though, as the milk flow is too fast and she's a bag of wind after 2 sucks.

Had a proper PT session yesterday, as Mr Nice Personal Trainer man as finally decided I will not disintegrate in a heap if presented with anything other than pilates. I never thought I'd hear myself say this, but it is soooo nice to ache!

I shall regale you all with our getting together saga when I'm on the laptop. For now I need breakfast, and I need this baby to drink more milk! Four flozzes is not an adequate breakfast.

DS has just eaten my plum! I took a few bites first then passed it to him. He sucked the living daylights out of it

DD just sucked the plum jam off my toast. Looked a bit put out when it was all gone and she was left with nothing but a handful of toast. Last night she decided plain pasta is boring, but dipped into tomato sauce is awesome. Half her face was orange afterwards.

Haha I love weaning. We've ditched the bowls and spoons because he hates them, but he loves grabbing anything and everything and giving it a good gumming. As he appears to have three teeth coming through I think some food provide relief. Off out for lunch later so ill be sure to give him something.

Thanks worse I think I am going to give it a break for a week or so and then try again as at the moment she sees the bottle and cries uncontrollably and other than when the bottle is produced she is all smiles and a great sleeper and self settler so maybe I need to look at how I can either get her on a bottle or combine some kind if breast and bottle feeding when I go back to work? We'll see. It will work out in the end. I had a tennis lesson with a group if other misfit adults on the council courts in Wimbledon last night. Was great to get out and run about and generally try and hit the ball! Never mentioned I had a baby so got a proper workout am a bit a achy this am but loved it!

So plums are the order of the day, yes? I cooked up some bramley apples from the tree in our garden yesterday and gave DD a taste from my finger. She pulled a face but then nearly ripped my finger off trying to get more. It's time to start then.....

Hmm, apples... been meaning to buy some as the first of the brambles in the front garden are ready. Apple and bramble crumble's okay for a five month old, right?

So, the saga of the man. Years ago, my brother's house was a bit of a drug den party house, and I met an awful lot of people round there while totally off my tits. I have no memory of meeting him at my brother's house, but he remembers, and says he thought I was beautiful even then (dodgy bastard, I was probably about seventeen and he'd've been thirty one). The man had a girlfriend, who's about the most vicious and manipulative hag you can possibly imagine, and she was cheating on him with my brother's housemate while my brother was going out with her sister. (Hull gets a bit incestuous at times.)

Anyway, early 2006, I was nearly twenty one and a bit of a mess mentally, and was out playing pool with my brother at Riley's, and I actually remember seeing the man in there. And not meeting his eye, on the grounds that anyone who'd willingly go out with such a massive psycho bitch should probably be avoided. Although I later found out he'd just broken up with her then, and me not meeting his eye made him think he had no chance.

Fast forward a few more years. You know that thing where you're drunk and grumpy and on facebook and you think "These people aren't my friends, bugger the lot of them" and have a massive cull? The man got caught up in a cull, and then I re-added him. I have no idea why, or what was going through my head. It's mystifying. But it was enough for him to actually comment on one of my photos saying I'm beautiful (he's clearly mental). Took me a few weeks to get round to replying (because I was convinced it was some sort of huge joke or attempt to get at me - still a bit mentally wobbly then, clearly). We spent three days (well, nights) talking on facebook while I assessed his written English abilities. He can punctuate, he uses capital letters in the appropriate places, he corrects himself if he makes a typo, he can use the subjunctive, and most importantly, he can spell "definitely". That's good enough for me, so I invited him round and he's not really left since. We're about two weeks away from our second anniversary now.

Aww Stormy. I wouldn't procreate with anyone who thought 'definately' was correct either .

I think almost any things fair game, weaning wise. I mean to say the crumble sounds yummy and if she's already eating toast I wouldn't worry about a dessert like that. Maybe lay off the custard though. My plan is to wait til 26 weeks for meat and dairy but he's already proven to me he can digest crumpets and fruit. Weaning nappies

Oh, it's not what you'd call eating toast, plonko. Just gumming it to death and then dropping it. But she has fun, and she'll start swallowing bits when she's ready to. Meat would be wasted on her at the moment though.

I have actually turned down a second date with someone because they couldn't spell definitely before. What can I say? I'm a pedant.

I read that protein's out until 12 months?! So no dairy/meat?

This is quite a good guide on the recommended age for introducing different foods:

www.babycentre.co.uk/a546661/which-foods-to-introduce-when

NHS leaflet I got said chicken or mashed fish are good after they've started with soft fruit and veg, so can't imagine one would have to wait until one for that. Anyway, isn't the idea of BLW that they eat what we do (minus the salt)?

We've just set up a fishtank in DD's room. Hoping the watery sound will help her sleep, and she does find fish fascinating.

If DD is howling after her jabs, and looks me right in the eye while wailing "mummy", am I allowed to count it as her first word even though it was very very probably just coincidence?

Absolutely stormy you can definitely claim that as a first word. I have a great video of DS saying "hello there" and that is exactly what he said, it wasn't just baby noises that sound like it in the slightest.

I've just put madam to bed in her own room and its making me feel ridiculously panicky! Last time she kept getting trapped and tangled in the bars so I've put a rolled up towel under the sheet on each side which will hopefully help. I'm sure it's the right time because we've started disturbing her overnight but I just have this awful paranoia of something terrible happening overnight and me not realising. Anyone else had this?

She'll be fine, SoYo. I was a bit panicky the first night we put DS in his own room but we've a baby monitor and stupidly thin walls. Enjoy talking in bed again, and getting (hopefully) better quality sleep.

Dammit no proper rolling or words here. I swear he said yes to a direct question last week, but dp assures me I am batshit insane.

Interesting link Worse. At the moment we're keeping the UK plum trade in business, but I think we'll play with broccoli soon.

Vj no idea if you're about at the minute, but how are you getting on with the shred?

soyo I was exactly the same. We have had the tightly rolled bath towels under sheets either side since we switched her 3 weeks Ish ago. Maybe leave the doors open between your room for extra reassurance? I think it takes a while to settle with the new arrangement. I guess we might feel a bit funny about it until they're 6mo? But, DD has been totally fine since the switch and is getting used to it nicely. Many less wakings than the first week we switched, and although she can roll, she mostly now chooses her back. Sounds like you've done the right thing.

I take it all back. Lasted 20mins. She rolled onto her front and woke herself up and now I can't get her down again at all. Ie tried feeding, singing, rocking, leaving for a few mins but nothing.

I'm just so fucking tired and so fucking sick of it and there's nothing I can do to make it better. She goes batshit crazy if anyone other than me tried to settle her so DH can't even help. I just want to sob. I have no idea what to do. I hate this.