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November 2012 - Lots of mummies going back to work

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StuntNun · 29/05/2013 12:05

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1761048-November-2012-Weaning-is-messy-fun-what-does-your-baby-eat

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ChasingDaisy · 01/06/2013 21:34

It's Milton Keynes Sophia so only 20 miles or so from where I am now. Bit of a marmite town but it is home for me Smile

Passmethecrisps · 01/06/2013 21:35

I am not 100% cool with dogs. Too much crutch sniffing, leg humping, food begging, general space invading for my liking. However, golden labs have big lovely smiley faces. W had cats my whole life. Then when I went to uni someone dumped a dog on my parents' farm. He was a pure bread collie but had been abandoned. He howled for night and fan back and forward at the river's edge getting more and more matted.

Eventually my mum bought some bonios and tempted him up to their house where the vet was going to collect him. 12 years later he was still there. Great big, smelly, shit eating, dead-aminal rolling, sheep worrying (hence being dumped) piece of silliness. In his final year my dad retired and they moved into a top floor flat. My dad carried him up and down the stairs multiple times a day.

Bit sad P never met him actually.

ChasingDaisy · 01/06/2013 21:35

Oh and your DD sounds very wise Smile

ChasingDaisy · 01/06/2013 21:37

pass I am not a dog person either but that story about your dad is lovely. I love cats.

Pikz · 01/06/2013 21:41

Sophia that's exactly me and DP. Alone together.

BigPigLittlePig · 01/06/2013 21:42

Sophia I lurve being on my own. I lived on my own for one gleeful year when I started work - people thought I was mad but I had never been happier. Dh, by contrast, cannot be on his own. He has to have background noise am training him out of this though Your evening sounds lovely. You can't beat pottering in peace!

Passmethecrisps · 01/06/2013 21:42

He was a smashing doggy really. Daft mut.

Ooo! Enjoy your rosé sophia. Love a bit of rose!

Passmethecrisps · 01/06/2013 21:43

Is there not a crowded house song called together alone?

Sophiathesnowfairy · 01/06/2013 21:44

chasing thank you, she is a lovey thoughtful girl and always seems a bit more mature than 8. Until she gets the sillies anyway! Home is home, and if that is where you feel most comfortable then that is most important. ( I quite like it, I used to live in Rugby and whizz down the M1 for a shop)

Sophiathesnowfairy · 01/06/2013 21:45

Oooo I love a potter!

ChasingDaisy · 01/06/2013 21:45

I love being alone too. Am very content with my own thoughts and need some alone time every day. I've been that way since a child really.

BigPigLittlePig · 01/06/2013 21:46

If people ask if you have any habits, I sort of mutter, when what I should say, is POTTERING!

PetiteRaleuse · 01/06/2013 21:48

I love being alone too. I really appreciate times like this evening when everyone has gone to bed and it's just me and the pets.

BigPigLittlePig · 01/06/2013 21:48

I remember the first holiday I went on with dh and dsd, she was 3 at the time and I hadn't ever spent more than a day or two with her. I said quite clearly beforehand, I may need alone time. So if, in the evening, I say I need to go for a walk, let me. For my sanity, just accept I need some quiet time! It was fine as it turned out. Much easier to just get slightly sloshed in the hotel bar Grin

GTbaby · 01/06/2013 22:03

fyi, some ideas. ive just come across it www.babyledweaning.com

wana smash something
DH had two days off and basically did nothing. he has been going on for weeks about cleaning kitchen floor, he hasn't done it STILL [it has been vacuumed just not mopped]
i've been asking him all week [he said he would do it on day off, but didn't] to do a deep clean of the bath rooms, and he hasn't done it. i do the sinks and toilet as best as i can, but i cant manage to do a a proper deep clean.

i then joke about getting a cleaner and he flips saying 'over my dead body'.the conv then goes like this
"i need help i cant do it myself"
"then dont'
but then u complain the house is a mess
ill do it
but you dont do it, thats the point, ive been waiting weeks for you to do xyz, and you always say on your next day off.

ARGH, IM SO ANGRY AT HIM he doesn't give a shit, and puts off everything. there is a stack of paper on his side of bed which has been there for 6 months [to be cleared on his nxt day off]. i once tried to clear out a bag of his papers [only because his shit was getting pilled up in bags taking up cupboard space i needed... i threaten to do this for a year before i actually did it]. receipts for milk from three years ago, bday card from x, unopened bank statements/credit cards etc just some of my finds]

his whole put it off attitude is winding me up i end up doing EVERYTHING and im saying i cant cope and he thinks that 'tough' is an ok answer.

sorry to offload, just he has upset me so much today. thankfully he has gone on a night shift, which means i can avoid him.

im going to eat a packet of jammie dodgers

GTbaby · 01/06/2013 22:08

sry chasing, complaining about such stupid things. Blush

kirrinIsland · 01/06/2013 22:09

I wish I could add to the words of wisdom being given about relationships but it's all been said.

Hello MrsG

Love the expression 'alone together' Sophia I like being alone together! Having people around but left to my own devices.

I've had a lovely day down at the yard watching everyone else ride. I despair of ever getting back to it myself, but hopefully one day. DD1 enjoyed it so hopefully she will get into riding too - it would be nice to be able to do it together.

BigPigLittlePig · 01/06/2013 22:11

GT it's not stupid - you've just had 1 baby, are heading towards being heavily preggo with number 2, with nasty SPD to boot. The least he can do is mop a friggin' floor without complaining. The air would have been a nasty shade of blue if he'd pulled that stunt with me. I would get a cleaner anyway, until he can prove he's capable of pulling his finger out and helping.

Passmethecrisps · 01/06/2013 22:19

^wot BP said. Get a cleaner GT. Just arrange for one to start. I have said before that we will be getting a cleaner when I go back to work - no discussion. If it can be afforded then what's his issue?

Sophiathesnowfairy · 01/06/2013 22:25

You're not stupid gt he is being lazy. And everything bp said. Things like his paper work try not tolet get to you.it's his, why should you care if he does it or not. Sounds harsh but you are his wife not his mother you have enough to deal with. The other stuff that affects you why not get a cleaner,or even just someone in once a very three weeks or something do to the heavy stuff for maybe the next year till things level off for you.

Do his parents contribute to the housework?

Big hug anyway. Xxx

Pikz · 01/06/2013 22:26

Gt you are not being silly. He is being ridiculous. Get a cleaner.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 01/06/2013 22:51

Night night.

I must put the I pad down!

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TheDetective · 01/06/2013 23:32

Today is the first day since O was really tiny that we took DS1 somewhere that wasn't for O as well. We went bowling. I was a bit nervous, because I wasn't sure if O would behave cry or not.

No worries! We managed 2 games, got through one feed and a nap, and O was happily watching the laser lights and disco ball etc from our arms.

Also took them shopping for a treat each. O had a massive box which contained a play gym that he can sit up at etc. DS1 had a tiny box with a computer game in. Guess which cost more?!

Grin

O had his first taste of meat tonight. Chicken, with potato, peas and sweetcorn, blended up and mixed with some stock. He wolfed it. So pleased! The dog also wolfed some too. Fucker! Oh, and I had my dinner after he finished, and he was pinching my sweet potato wedges. Grin

He's definitely reduced his milk intake though. 20oz today also. He's wanting smaller feeds really.

Have read the thread. Sure I had things to say. Will settle for hi fives, hugs and pissing on any twats MrChasing.

Bed calling! Night night. Hope to fuck not to see you all before 8. Cheers Grin.