May 2013 thread our new and not so new arrivals

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Hi ladies

Just thought we could all really do with this. Rather selfish a its mostly for the thousand odd questions I have and things I'd like to share/ vent that no one else would understand.

We've all been together so long I even talk about you all to DP

[ButteryJam]

I've finally been diagnosed with ductal thrush and have started treatment.

In other news, I took my baby to a cranial osteopath who said her head is compressed due to the pushing labour stage which was 3-4 hours. :( has anyone else seen an osteopath?

[scooby26]

Buttery- does the osteopath have a plan?

[DXBMermaid]

Buttery, I took my LO to see my chiropractor, or rather I went to see her for my pelvis issues and she had a look at my baby too. It turned out that she was having trouble turning her head to the left side. This was probably caused by the vacuum delivery and a long pushing stage. After some very gentle adjustments (and I mean very gentle), plus holding her upside down to stretch her spine my baby can now easily turn her head both ways. Has also helped with her latch. It was great to see how something very simple made such a huge difference.

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Really annoyed as GP doesn't think T needs his tongue tie sorting as he's gaining weight. I'm going to go for a second opinion.

T had his jabs today. Those whose babies have already had them did you give calpol straight after and then at regular intervals?

[ButteryJam]

Scooby and DXB,

The cranial osteopath said she will probably need 3-6 treatments. I then spoke to my own osteopath that I use for back issues and he said he could fix whatever there is in one session, and if not, he'd make a referral. The problem is the cranial osteopath doesn't have appointments till late next week and I just feel like my little one shouldn't suffer until then! So I'm stuck as to what to do! :(

[Miggs28]

Hi everyone, I was hoping I could join in on this thread? My DS (pfb) was born by c-section on 23rd May. Would be lovely to be able to chat to people going through similar experiences!

[DXBMermaid]

Welcome Miggs. Congrats on your son!

This thread can be a bit slow but there is also a fb group. I don't know how to invite you, but I am sure one of the other ladies will be able to help you!

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Anyone else feeling really low. I am so depressed about my weight. I'm tired all the time and yet T is a pretty good sleeper. I just feel like I have a baby attached to me constantly and everything is my responsibility. I just want to cry. I passed my driving test and I have no confidence in my driving ability at all. I took the car out for the first time yesterday with DP and I made that many mistakes I wonder how I passed. Now my nerves are shot and I don't want to drive

I don't want to go out anywhere or see anyone. I haven't had a period yet and T is 9 weeks now so I wonder if that's contributing to my general low mood.

[BFdoesnotequalBFF]

Hi Beaut. Sorry to hear you're having a tough time. I think exhaustion is the standard for parents of new babies, no matter how they are fed and how "well" they sleep. You do have a massive sleep debt that isn't solved by a couple of good nights, and your body is still recovering from pregnanc and delivering a child.

You do have a little baby who relies on you for everything, and it's not at all surprising you feel it! Can't remember (sorry) if you're one of those whose DP is not stepping up, but even though I have the great good fortune to have a wonderful DH who does loads, I still feel like I ought to be doing more.

As for driving, it's a scary thing to do - out on the roads. Try to time it so you get to drive when things are as easy as possible (times of less traffic, routes that are easy, not in the dark or bad weather). Your confidence and comfort will increase as you get more used to it.

As for periods - just enjoy it while you can! It took me many months before mine came back with DS1, and as far as I'm concerned, the longer the better! I doubt that's affecting your mood (unless you are stressing about it).

Hang in there! Your struggles are perfectly understandable. Try to get some "me time" and do something that makes you feel good. I'm happy I got a soak in the bathtub when both DS were asleep after lunch today. :)

[BFdoesnotequalBFF]

Oh bother. Forgot my name change. oops.

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

Oh beaut, you're doing a great job. I'm up and down like a yoyo. I'm also deliberating over driving , I passed years ago and am quite confident driving but I haven't driven for years and I've been putting it off. D

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

Gah! iPhone and fat fingers! We just got a car and I've been avoiding driving and I've got loads of driving experience. Don't put pressure on yourself it doesn't have to be perfect , I'm aiming for us all to be alive at the end of the day anything else is a bonus! Hope you're feeling better soon

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

And hi miggs!

[Miggs28]

Hey! I just wrote a rather long message that didn't post properly

Anyhoo - i was just saying to Beaut that I have been really up and down too and I've found trying to do something each day has really helped me cope - even if I don't really feel like going out I really try too as I always feel much more positive afterwards!

I'm still on period watch at the moment, DS will be 9 weeks on Thursday - I'm really making the most of it whilst I can, every day its not turned up is a bonus!

I hadn't driven in over a year before DS arrived but I went out a few times with my Dad (DS in his car seat in the back) and practiced at quiet times of day and now feel really confident getting out and about - plus its sometimes the only thing that will stop my DS from crying so it really is a godsend!!

Hope you are doing a bit better today Beaut and have managed to have a little bit of time to yourself to recharge your batteries. I asked DH to take DS on Sunday morning and I had an extra couple of hours in bed was lovely and really helped with my mood. Maybe your DP could do that for you this weekend??

[BeauticianNotMagician]

Thank you for the replies. DP is helpful but is also very tired as he works twelve hour days. We have wedding stress at the moment and are thinking of just escaping abroad somewhere now as costs are escalating.

I cannot get into dieting I'm just using my Ww points on rubbish so I'm going to try slimming world. I am feeling a little better this week. Strange as it sounds cancelling the wedding here will be a huge relief as I could have seen us ending up in debt

[DXBMermaid]

My period just started and by god it is a heavy one!! Yuck yuck yuck!! Was hoping that the EBF'ing I'm doing might have postponed it a bit longer but I guess that as my DD sleeps for more then 4 hours at night it means there was plenty of time for me to ovulate.
Sorry for the TMI...

[BeauticianNotMagician]

How long did you wait for your period

T is 11 weeks on Sunday and Ive still not had one. It's so nice dreading it when it does return.

[Miggs28]

I'm still waiting for mine, DS is 11 weeks on Thursday. I have a big family occasion at the weekend so I'm sure it will turn up for then!!

how is everyone getting on? We're still trying to tackle day time napping. DS is really difficult to settle during the day (fine at night), at the moment he will only sleep on me during the day which is fine but I'm getting absolutely nothing done!

[purrpurr]

Hi all, long time no post! Beaut, sorry you're suffering a bit. I'm a bit all over the place too, it's the tiredness I think, as well as lots of other things like, for me being on my first baby, the loss of sense of self (as well as the development of a new identity), the isolation, the background worry that seems to colour everything - not excessively so, but more as a reminder to focus on what I'm doing, try to plan ahead, don't leave myself in a position where I've got no nappies or clean clothes or clean teeth etc. Constantly on the go.

How are all the babies? How is everyone? Are we all weeing in a straight line now or is that still a bit difficult? What, too far? It's alright for me, I had a c section so I can sneeze and cough all day and not wet myself! Rock and roll. I'm ok, my tummy has healed well and I am overall much more positive now than I was originally - felt like I'd been hit by a truck at the start. I don't think I really made any allowances for the fact that I'd had a major PPH, I just pushed and pushed myself. Crazy. Better now anyway.

My DD is the most adorable, most cute baby ever made. Sorry everyone, but it's true. Ok it's not true but she is the most beautiful thing to me and that will do. She is now officially a beanpole, as she is on the 75th centile for height, but 25th centile for weight. I can see her ribs :( her legs go on for miles though and are really muscly from kicking me and DH to death on a regular basis. I think she is going to be in 0-3 baby stuff for a while yet even though she will be three months (yay!) on Sunday. I bought her some happy-3-months-old stuff anyway (I have turned into a total softie) including a noisy book and a ridiculously cute hat from Mothercare. Anyone else spoiling their babies?

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

hi purr, glad to hear that life is better and you're in love with your DD I'm not really spoiling DS as we're drowning in 'stuff' from DD, but he's 'spoilt' with cuddles! He's also long and thin, no chubby legs here . Did your HV measure length, they don't do it here and are moaning a bit about his weight. You know there's lots more chat on FB with this group, message me here on MN and I'll try and find you on FB and invite you. I just watched the latest episode of Breaking Bad on Netflix, Jesse Pinkman is in a bad way, hope your cervix is in better shape than him!

[ButteryJam]

Hi all,

My LO is also very tall and it's difficult with babygrows because the top part is too long and the bottom part is too short! LO now is almost 14 weeks and is holding on to things and much more responsive :) however she is still not settled into routine sadly, but hopefully we will get there soon!

[McRoo]

Hello! I'm new to this thread so sorry if I mention anything covered before. DS born 22nd May by c-section but after 2 hours of pushing, realising he was back to back (hence me screaming in agony despite the epidural) and a failed ventouse.

Sorry if this is really personal, and tmi but I'm too shy to ask RL mums I know, but what's everyone's sex life like? Has it returned? We've only managed the actual deed twice since DS arrived and probably only two other occasions where we've done other non "inside" stuff. I'm either too exhausted to contemplate sex, or, I just burst into tears at the thought of anyone being back inside me.

I also find it very hard to feel "sexy". I just feel permanently like a mummy so can't get even contemplate getting in the mood.

How's everyone else going?

[tasmaniandevilchaser]

Hi mcroo, welcome! It's all a bit quiet on here now. Congrats on your ds. I think twice is pretty good going! I feel the same as you, last time I found my libido picked up when I stopped bf.

[EFriend]

Hi tasmaniandevilchaser - how do I join the may 13 group on FB? I have a may 21st born DD. thanks

[Rhienne]

Hi EFriend. Have you had an answer? We're all over on FB these days, so there's not much action here.