lily I feel for you. Hugs from me too. Xx
vq hooray Valium prince. You will get an outstanding in your performance reveiw! 
stunt thanks. My two big boys are flying in today. I, unfortunately, won't be over now till beginning of Sept because I need all my hols to manage my leaving of work most effectively. I will defo be up for a meet then.
Chasing I can not jump on the bandwagon quick enough. My ex h was an emotional bully. I should never have married him, I didn't really love him I was just worried about being left on the shelf because I had such a low opinion of myself. I see so much of my old situation In Yours though he never physically abused me. I gave up all my old friends because they were not good enough for him. Unfortunately I did not manage the situation ( though I tried church marriage courses and counselling to try and make him see what he was doing) and I met my now husband before I left him. This is why I am in the mess I am in now with my girls. He can blame the whole break up on my Dh and not take any responsibility for it himself. He is still a bully to me but I let it wash over me because I am generally so happy and in actual love.
My DD1 stopped having toilet accidents when we spilt.
Sometimes even now I go to Tesco and I whizz round and stand in The queue and go to text DH to assure him I won't be long as I am scared I will get in trouble for being to long. Then I remember he is not my ex h.
I have my, obviously, very loyal friends back and I got my life back the day I left.
Do it now before you end up struggling to take O with you or you do something stupid like fall in love with the one. Believe me there is a wonderful wonderful life out there.