Success after miscarriage- Lets give thanks

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I feel a little bit bad about starting this thread just now as there have been heartbreaking stories on mumsnet over the past couple of days. Ladies our thoughts are with you.

This antenatal club is particularly special, as after a long difficult nine months for all of us we are now the lucky ones who get to hold our beautiful little babies. There are lots of challenges ahead for us, of course. but hopefully we can all continue to offer support , advice and friendship during the more happy times

Glad you are feel;ing a little better Bouncing, I think getting a bit more sleep definitely helps! I hope the chat with your work goes well on Thursday, you might find that going back part-time for a bit will not only ease you back into it but also help you feel less down and more like yourself.

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Hi Firsty! 7 months! Can't believe how fast the time flies once the LOs are born after it drags so much when you are pg! It must be hard to be away from him while at work but I bet you make up for it when you are home! I love being a SAHM which is lucky as I could not have afforded to go back full time, my wages would have barely covered childcare! Hence I get to stay at home all day and I do a mibdless supermarket job in the evenings to top up our income.

Things are going well with DD, she is a mainly content baby and I am totally under her spell!

Daisy - WOW Congratulations, how exciting.

Firsty - T sounds great, it's sweet and slightly irritating when they are clingy, but enjoy it while it lasts.

LL is slide crawling loads and has everything in his mouth. We just came back from holiday, which was great. i packed light in clothes, 2 small bags for 4,as we had to take cot and pram. which worked well, yay for hotel washers.

hey guys, just checking in to keep this on my "threads I'm on" list. I used to use the watch thread thing all the time, but I keep forgetting that too

I was planning on talking to work about going back part time and was quite looking forward to it, but recent events have eclipsed that! I'll only be back three months before being off on maternity leave again, so I'm not sure what to do. As I'm still being closely monitored for the PND I'm tempted to ask the doc to sign me off so that I can still get some pay (albeit only sick pay) until my next maternity leave starts. My employer will be a bit pd off, but what can I do? I'm sure it'll be less disruptive than going back for three months and then off again. Alternatively I don't want to hand in my notice as we could use the money. After this bean is born, it'll be more than I'm being paid to get childcare for two DCs and wraparound care for DS, so I'm going to be a SAHM for a few years at least

I had a scan last week (we paid for a private one) and I'm now a bit worried. Although they dated me at 6 weeks, the sonographer couldn't pick up the foetal pole (we saw a tiny pulsating thing at the edge of a yolk sac which she said may be the pole) but it was too small to measure. I keep thinking that things are going wrong, as we saw a HB with DD at 6+3, but then later on they changed my date so that was probably actually at 7+4. Lord, I thought that I was over all this worrying.

It's funny how much you realise you want what you didn't want when that thing is in danger of being lost to you, iyswim . DH and I have talked about going for it again, if this little bean doesn't make it. Cross it all for me please.

Uki's mantra of "healthy and well" is still going strong over on the KCA thread!

Daisy, I am keeping all my fingers crossed for you. Have you another scan booked?

we don't have one booked BT, but I'm wondering whether to try and get a referral to the EPU (as they didn't seem very keen to see me last week) or else lay it on a bit thick with the EPU and get an appointment myself, or plague the community MW and see if she will refer me.

If it comes to it we can always get another private scan, but we can't really justify the money. I'm sure things are OK, but once you've been down the MC oad, it's soooo difficult to relax and enjoy isn't it.

Part of me (the irrational part) is thinking one healthy PG, two MCs, second healthy PG......you see the pattern . I know it doesn't necessarily follow, but....

No it doesn't but I think I would be worried (probably unnnecessarily!) in your position. Do you think you CMW will refer you if you explain that you feel overly concerned? I must admit when pg with Daniel I played the maternal stress card to get my early scan - I was suffering from work related stress as well as worrying about a possible 2nd miscarriage. Bearing in mind your recovery from PND, you need to be as stress free as possible, and having an early scan could help relieve this.
Maternal stress during pg has been linked to problems in pg, and I think this should be highlighted to your CMW. I suffered a great deal of stress through out pg with Daniel, fortunately is a happy, thriving baby (not today he has just had his 2nd set of jabs poor little love ) so I'm not worried now (as I was when I was pg) that I had "damaged" him somehow.
Sorry this had turned out to be a bit of a ramble but I hope this helps!

Hi Uki, glad to hear that you and LL are doing well!

Daisy, I don't envy you being at the beginning of the long pg road again. I am sure your little bean will be fine although I understand your worries. 6 weeks is very early to see an actual HB, the earliest I have seen one was at 6+3 and had to look very closely!

Bouncing, hiya! Poor Daniel with his jabs, Evie is due her second set in 3 weeks and I'm dreading it already as they need 3 the second time don't they? Poor little things.

I hope daniel is OK BT. DD was worse with the secoind set than the third iirc.

Try not to worry about the stress thing. I had a horrendous pregnancy, wih the miscarriage worries and all the emotiuona issues that I had, and DD is just the most laid back, happy baby. She does have a determined streak though, but I think that is a good thing in a girl.

I'm going to call the CMW tomorrow. I'm sure all is well; I certainly feel pregnant (I cried my way through the beebs latest talent show on Saturday night ) and am existing in a state of constant queasiness and hungry all the time but food tastes like cardboard.

beckle, I hope things are going well

Daniel has been fine, nipped out to Slimming World to get weighed but didn't stop, but when I got back D had hysterical crying fit, wouldn't feed, just screamed. Managed to get him undressed, nappy changed, rubbed olive oil all over him and put his hydrocortisone cream (he has eczema) lots of singing and rocking and a dose or calpol. Finally calmed down enough to feed, had good long feed from both boobs plus lots of trumping and HUUGGGEEE burps! got him to sleep and in his Moses basket just before 7, so took me just over an hour which I think is not bad going. I think I'm coping better with these hysterical crying bouts - they've had me in tears shouting at him at times but now I am finding it easier to keep calm and not let it upset me too much, and I think that helps calm him down quicker as well.

has he got colic BT? sorry you're having a bit of a time of it with his crying.

I shouted at DD when she had been whinging all day one day last week. I screamed at her to shut the f up and called her a stupid baby . Not my finest parenting hour, but it can get realllllly hard here when DH is away all week.

He is wating to hear about a job locally. fingers crossed he gets it, or I can see my sanity getting on the next bus out of here after October!

Oh yes been there done that called him a little sh!t as well
I think he may have reflux as he tends to be sick upto a couple of hours after a feed, but he is getting better.

I'm glad he's gettin better BT. My friends 13 week old LO has really bad reflux and is either feeding, or crying or puking. It really takes it ot of his mum so you have my sympathy. Do you give him gaviscon or anything like that? It seems to help.

my DS was a very pukey baby, but didn't have any pain with it. That in itself was pretty exhausting; the constant mpopping up and changing and washing.

right, am off to bed while the milk monster is still asleep. she has taken to biting me very hard; that and early pregnancy and my nipples are like raw meat It's like being back at week one when you dread every feed as you know it's going to hurt like f***!

Oh poor you!
No haven't tried anything for it, hoping it'll resolve itself without medication, he seems happy enough, weight gain is fine so I'm just seeing how it goes. If it doesn't resolve in the next couple of weeks though will seek further advice.

Bouncing, have you tried taking a pro-biotic (like Actimel) every day? Evie was a real evening screamer for the first couple of weeks until a friend suggested the pro-biotic drink. She stopped the evening screaming withing 2 days of me drinking the Actimel. Could be coincidence but I find that any days I forget she is quite unsettled in the eveings. Evie is also a really sicky baby and often throws up during and after a feed and any time up until the next feed! She is gaining weight okay though and like Daniel seems happy enough.

Daisy, ouch! Your poor nips! How are you feeling now?

I did for a while but then I stopped - I think I might try it again as I think it did help after a few days.

i found the afterwards thread!

too tired to post much tho lol!

I'm feeling very green about the gills.

I've not fed DD myself since this morning as I just can't bring myself. I've resolved to mix feed from here on in. BF during the night and first thing in the morning, FF during the day. I know my milk will probably dry up but it was going to do that sooner rather than later anyway.

I'm a bit sad about it really, as I imagined myself feeding DD until she self weaned. I'm also poushing away the thought that if I stop BFing and have another mc, then I probably won't be able to pick it up again.....but that is negative thinking

Hi Mom

Welcome - and how are you and your lo?

Daisy you have done fantastically well to get to 9 months with all the difficulties you had at the beginning - and you get to so it all over again with your new lo when he/she arrives

BT.

I had thought about tandem feeding, but I think it will do me good to have a bit if a break before DC3 comes along.

OMG, DC3...it's even scarier written down.

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