November 2012 - The new quiche sleepy dust crop-sprayer plane seems to be working

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Dsrespectful little shit.

pr ouch!

Three-nagers love it!

DD1 was angelic until her sister was born (PFB?) at 3 1/2 so I think siblings bring out the worst in them, having to vie for attention and carer having to juggle both. Boos favourite time for playing up is when J is having a feed, or tired and needing to be settled. Also, she is resisting potty training, yet if J needs a nappy change she can squeeze one out and be on the mat before you have picked up the baby. Hmmm.

Fuck me! Little fucker! My blood was boiling for the poor mum!

DD1 was perfect til LO arrived. She still has some really lovely moments but I find myself wondering if by having a second child I haven't screwed up my first one irrevocably. I get a grip and pull myself together after a while, but the guilt still creeps in, especially when I catch her watching me with LO with a sad look on her face :(

But then I remmeber that in a year or so they'll both be running round keeping each other occupied. In theory.

I cannot imagine my childhood, or indeed my life, without my brother. I have two, but the elder one was clearly swapped at birth. The younger of the two brothers was 4 when I was born, and we are very close. If my kids have half the bond we have they will be lucky.

That is brilliant I want to be an Xbox flinging mother!

:o Sophia would have to be an elegant yet dramatic xbox flinging and a dignified flounce from the room.

DD1 laughs when I get angry. As does my DH and pretty much anyone else I have ever been angry with. There is no way I could achieve a dignified xbox flinging episode.

Little shit! I'd have lobbed the Xbox too.

Confession time. I have been the xbox flinger.

Not DS's though. Yet.

VQ That made me laugh, poor J! Love how she can squeeze it out just when required! They are little shits darlings, aren't they?!

I too worry about the whole behaviour thing since sibling arrived. But you know what, the vast majority of the population have a sibling or two. And the vast majority of the population are okay, yes?!

As an only child, I miss having a silbing, I really do.

just to cheer you up, ds2 chilled out a lot at three but he is almost five and the tantrums have returned. it seems quite common I just wish it wasn't that common. my seven year old is a chilled out darling most of the time apart from when he is fighting ds2. the best we can hope for are prolonged periods of calmbetween the madness .
ds1 didn't do tantrums but ds2 does with gusto. guess its personalities. ds3 looks as if he is more like ds1 in the temper dept crosses Fingers and toes

thinking about holiday in July. me and mil will be the only people not fasting due to Ramadan with potentially eight children under eight to look after whilst people nap and flake out. not exactly a holiday if I am playing Maria von bloody trapp.

Change the dates pronto Brockle!

Ok, so I have composed a brief email to the matron who I think is the person I need to tell about my non return to work.

Can anyone have a look and tell me if it is ok? It is just an informal email, outlining the nature of the problem, and asking who to speak to and when?

I could ring, but I don't really want to discuss it over the phone....!

Vq funny conv work boo.
My SIL said to nephew. Stop or you will get a smack.
Reply- ok then. Here (patting cheek) I deserve it. Go on hard. (Then start pulling her hand towards his cheek. )
She just looked at me n went "now what do I do"
I told her to give him a really hard smack. He ran away when I said that.

Thanks for the empathy!! :)

DD is quite bright so I expect more from her than I should I think, regarding behaviour, and then when she wants to do things by herself or test things for herself, I either refuse, get frustrated that she can't do it or does it slowly, or have to leave her to it, to deal with DS, so she doesn't get my full attention.

Today, it was "Mummy, I want..." all around the shop. Then trying to ram the lady in front with my buggy. Then "Mummy, I'm hungry..." then "Mummy, what's this...". So I buy lunch (it cost about £10 though for a ciabatta for me & a kids sandwich meal for her, plus decaf coffee ) and she downs the juice before I can stop her and won't eat the had better be gold-plated for the price sandwich . She then refuses to look at me as I'm desperately trying to retain my calm, she stares at the tv, until I move her, then stares at another tv with the news for crying out load (the other one was cBeebies). She knows what she's doing though, so it starts really grating!!!

I guess I'm lucky that she doesn't tantrum much, not proper ones, & I handle those ok. It's the blatant defiance I cannot abide. And time-outs, removal of treats, threats etc make no dent on that.

At least I can take heart I am not alone.

And I would def have been an xbox flinger in those circs!!!

I'll have a look Detective - I'm no expert but had to send a lot of emails at work.

Definitely not alone chunky. I also have an unreasonable 2 year old. Also only just turned 2 so I am heartened to read I have another year of this
PR DD1 was also angelic til N came along si I have had similar thoughts though tbh I have always suspected she'd tantrum like a goodun when the time came

Today has been a sobbing into my coffee day. I am so tired I can't think straight and everything is a bit overwhelming right now. DP has promised to do tonight though. I expect she'll wake once for him and he'll think I'm exaggerating and never offer again :)

Oh kirrin hugs. Make the most of DP doing tonight and try to get to bed as early as possible! I forget how old your LO is - are you in sleep regression territory? I know that O is one of the youngest on the thread at 20 weeks and we seem to be coming out of it now.

get aveeno on prescription!!!

The more, the merrier issimma :)

I've just seen someone with nn "SarahandFuck"

oh kirrin I feel your pain. we are 'tag teaming it' for now - I grab between 8 and 12 and what ever I can do the rest of the night, but if I need to I can call dh (in spare room) from 5 am for an hour or so. Im finding I need to keep this up to feel ok, one big night of sleep every now and then doesn't seem to do it.

we are 18 weeks (and fucking counting!!!!!)

antibiotics definitely a factor though.

finally!! my nipples are returning to normality slowly! ahhhhh!

oh looooove the xbox. little shit. actions speak louder than words!

Everyone in chez Detective has a headache.

I have got out every single baby toy in some kind of obstacle course around the living room, in an attempt to entertain him. No. Arms. That is all he wants.

Except now. He is in the swing, sucking his fingers, watching the Lion King. Bad muvva. Needs must... bottles to make MN to do!

He absolutely adores the Lion King btw. Nothing else captivates him the same!

I wish I could detective but we are going so DP can be with his family for Ramadan

I currently have y asleep on the nipple aNd cannot be arsed to.take him off. I don't think my boys will ever be uncomfortable around breastfeeders they see me with the boobies out all the time

got out the booster seat to put on the chair at the table for Y and it is missing the strap to attach it to the seat. so my mothers day amazon voucher has gone on a new booster seat