November 2012 - Poor sleep-deprived mummies (and daddy)

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1721864-November-2012-GTbaby-is-back-Hooray-hooray

Thanks VQ I am feeling the effects of the antidepressants and feeling brighter in myself. Have buried my head in the sand a little about everything as I don't feel particularly capable of clear thinking. Head still feels a bit fuzzy. But I am able to enjoy my boy and being a mummy. He is awesome at the moment, a very happy, lively little boy. I think I will have an early crawler on my hands though as he is making very good attempts at it already

fruit I would have that as a rule if he wasn't drinking 10oz less than usual. When he had his df at 10 I would not feed him until 6:30 but he has been dicking around with his bottles so I dropped the dream feed, am hoping all that happens is he drinks properly in the day :) I am still not 100% that he can do this 11hrs consistently but we will see :)

vq thankyou for being so fucking awesome, you know I'm wank and put myself down lots but I am trying to trust my little boy that he is okay with what he drinks. Fucking hard not to panic but I am trying muchly! I am very glad you're feeling a bit better now, hope dd1 is ok and really hope j is sorted soon, as others have said if any fucker can get shit done, it's you. Hope he can have his pear back soon! E liked it weeks ago, he has had rusk a couple of times, I should probably do something else it's just he eats quite a bit of rusk!

chasing I would be really pleased if o did that, what a fucking superstar! :) obviously he hasn't so he's just regular lovely o. I hope it is just teething bless him and he is all good soon :) sounds like your mil is like my sister. Her criticisms come through e, the smarmy cow, she was saying Sunday 'oh someone is a clingy baby' because he cried at her, he had been up 2 hours and was tired. I said fuck off. Just like that. Try it? Her face was a picture!

I am also glad to hear you are feeling better :) is ex dphp whatever they're called on here still about?

Chasing, I duly inserted plenty of creative swearing into your MiL rant, as it seemed to fit so bollocking well.

I'm not sure I have the wherewithal to rant properly. Today I am unbefuckinglievably tired and absocuntinglutely bored of being a mum. I just lost it a bit at the cafe as C had fallen asleep in the pram and I though, 'I know! I will stop and have a coffee and read an intellectually stimulating book and pretend to be the intelligent woman I once was!' And then the baby woke up as soon as the coffee arrived so I spent the next 10 minutes halfheartedly drinking coffee, completely ignoring my book but replacing the fucking dummy, oh, about ten thousand times. And then my plan to feel like an actual adult had failed so I stormed home. And I am in a bloody awful mood, in case you can't tell. And now I can't even look forward to bedtime as she'll be up every 2 cunting hours anyway. And I will sit there being envious of my wonderful husband as he gets to not think about the baby and actually engage his brain sometimes.

And I thought I wouldn't rant. I am a fucking liar.

kyz I get exactly the same comments! They think I spoil O and he is too attached to me. Erm, fuck off, I'm he's mummy, if he wasn't attached to me there would be something wrong. Yes I will take him back off you if he starts crying hysterically, so get over it. And if you listened when I said he needed a nap/feeding/whatever then he wouldnt be crying.

Erm yes, he is still around Head is very much in the sand. I will be leaving/kicking him out but have stalled on plan making while my head sorts itself out.

Chasing*, I just nodded right through your first paragraph. But I don't have any family here so I haven't had that experience yet

Cunting missing asterisk.

Kyz thanks - you're fuck-a-ducking awesome BTW. I think when we're in the new house (eeep Friday) and are a bit unpacked DH is going to be trying that bottle of water trick. He doesn't know this yet but I've been up twice a night for feeds now for over a month so he can have some broken sleep for a while.

Its a habit now - he feeds every 2-3 hours in the day and used to regularly go 7-10 hours between night feeds. He's 24 weeks / 20 weeks adjusted so we should really be seeing the back of this sleep regression. Come on bear we're bored now.....

Kyz you are fucking awesome.

Chasing you too are doing a fucking god job despite cunting P and his MIL.

YW that sounds like a plan.

VQ is hall make you a quiche cape with super powers.

Minipixie loves carrot! Weaning lift off. Whooooooosh

Mamapo I am the same. I went to work for a KIT day yesterday as I needed to use brain. Mum had LO and it really helped! I feel much more able to cope today. Can DP give you time to read book at weekend?

Hey Pikz, maybe. We do have theatre tickets but am facing the real possibility that I won't be able to go as C is feeding loads and has recently started refusing the bottle. So it's another thing making me feel like I have no identity outside 'mother'.

Thank you pikz I initially read it as having super flowers

mamapo I am the opposite. I want to stay in this mummy bubble. I am really not looking forward to venturing back into the world of responsible professional and having to use my brain. I think it would help if I got some sleep and was happy J was on the right track.

Just wondering, if someone was to be signed off sick whilst on AML, would the employer have to pay sick pay or would the employee still be on SMP or diddly squat? Would you need to give notice to return to work and then go off sick? I know I have a while before I need to go back, but just considering options. As soon as J started feeling worse, my mood has started dipping again. I promise to be a good girl and see the Dr if I am worried about myself.

Yes, I understand that VQ - but I wont be returning to work until 2014, after we move back to Aus and re-establish our life there.

Also, fuck! Just turned hall lights on and one exploded spectacularly. Glass everywhere, including on pram, blanket, toy, pram suit... fuck. But am lucky, as I was about to lie C on her mat in there while I hung some washing. If I had, she'd be in A&E right now.

Wow mamapo very glad your LO wasn't under the light, how frightening!

I also want to stay in my mummy bubble. So much so that I'm very seriously considering becoming a childminder so that I don't have to send her to nursery when she's one, and can earn some money looking after other children too. I used to be a teacher and do miss working with kids. I quite excited about the prospect!

Any tips for getting babylaughalot to nap for longer? She's become a star at self settling, but will wake at exactly 40 mins after she goes down. She's WIDE awake, not sleepy enough to drift back off. I've tried leaving her in her cot and she just gets more and more shouty until she's rescued. I know she needs more sleep as she starts to yawn about 30 mins after she wakes. Maybe I should try putting her back down then? All ideas welcomed!

Laughalot I would like to know that one too. We get exactly 45m.

VQ you get super with your super powers

So far today we've gone through 17 bibs, 4 muslins and 4 outfits

DH has got a new job!!! Thank fuck as I think a lot of his selfishness being an arse was due to being pissed off at work. Fingers crossed it works!!!

I want to go back to work but not sure I want to teach in the Gove era cunty cunty cunt but equally there's not much else to do at the mo. Plus, I think I made a bit of an error having kids at the responsibility level I'm at (deputy subject leader). If I'd been a middle manager, I'd have more options. At least there's the school hols although I'll prob still have to pay for childcare I don't want to use.

fruit wow! J is currently bib-less as we have used his stash on 2 days, so probably not that far behind you, although we are on the same clothes.

chick great news about the job. Hope it is all you want it to be.

mamapo having a choice makes a lot of difference to how we feel I think. I do not have a choice. I have to go back, so I don't want to. Is there anything you could do on a temporary basis to help you fill that void? Or even doing a class or something to give you a bit of time for you? Glad nobody was hurt by the bulb. We have the long life low wattage ones so they do not smash afaik.

I tentatively declare the LO is very definitely on the mend.

Cheers to PR and Chick.

VQ, completely agree, choice is all. I could work as a locum again but C is EBF and we'll be leaving the UK when she's 8-9 months. We don't have any family/friends who could do any child care so it's all me. (A bit galling as I know the replacement at my old job is a bit rubbish!) my options are v limited until she's weaned which is still a ways off. I will just twiddle my thumbs.

Hi ladies!!!

Missed god knows how many threads!!!!

I'm just really busy and got very little time ATM. Ds just fine!!! Had a lovely holiday. He talks. None stop. Literally. Today he spoke to everyone in m&s and next. And in the car park. And to the dogs. And birds. And sheep. You get the idea!!! Holiday was wonderful!! He was slightly unsettled and struggled being handled all the time but was ok, glad to be home also though.

Started some weaning to. Not sure what he thinks tbh lol!! He pulls funny faces but were just having fun.

vq sounds really tough. Huge hugs. I hope you get it sorted.

yw try fingersmith. Really enjoyable book. ESP if you like shardlake (I'm in love with barat)

Not sure who else needs hugs but have them anyway

I was supposed to be a sahm while dp works, on the basis it's a bit pointless working looking after children even sn ones while paying to have your own looked after fuck knows now though.

I have bras what bollocking well fit :o:o:o also a felted wool jumperbto turn into longies

Hi horsey :)

I want bras that fit pidg I ordered some in the 'right' size & 2 are still 'on order' & 2 were shit

Oh and vq yes you can do your intent to rtw and then be signed off. Might be worth doing a couple of days first though!!! Your smp
And omp all count as continual service, osp is different and should therefore be classed separately. Occupational health may have something to say but I have a feeling you work in that area?

I'm looking forward to going back. pp not in the position to take a career break and my salary more than covers the cost of child care (plus we are probably another rental property).

Never mind a bra that fits, I want boobs

I would love to be a SAHM. I got made redundant last year and the plan was for me to find a part time job in November. Fuck knows what I am going to do now though.

chaising you'll sort it. Something will happen. Worrying wont help the situation at all. It'll just use energy!!! Are you planning on leaving area still?