November 2012 - Poor sleep-deprived mummies (and daddy)

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1721864-November-2012-GTbaby-is-back-Hooray-hooray

Can't see me leaving the area to be honest. Too many big changes all at once. My original bout of depression was triggered by big life changes so I need to try and keep things as stable as possible really.

That sounds very sensible. What's happening with the joint tenancy on the flat? Sorry you've prob posted loads but there's nearly 3000 posts to read!!

Nothing as yet. I am currently thinking to ride it out until it expires and then move me and O to our own place. But I need to give two months notice and he would then realise that I an planning to leave.

SS haven't closed the case yet as I was told they would, so I am guessing that my hand will be forced and I will have to get him to leave/leave myself to avoid them taking any further action.

It's all a bit fucked up and I've been ignoring the situation really. I need to face up to it all but I'm struggling.

Anyway, you sound like you and E are getting on really well! I love hearing tales of weaning.

Hello horsey!

Thanks stunt. That's reassuring about reusing bottles.

Chasing glad things r looking up in some way for u.

VQ big hug. Hope dr was helpful.

Mama re sleep. Sucks.

I'm going to try water at 3am feed today. It's just not fair. He was doing 10-6 at least before. Now he wakes every 3 hours. Which I know is better then most. But he used to do so well!

Pr hope LO is feeding better now.

Erm what else. I don't remember. Sry!

Work was ok. My work colleague was shocked n didn't believe me at first.
Although she has thrown up some issues. She is applying for jobs( now she has managerial experience which I totally expected) but I really hope she stays another year my dept will fall to shit if she leaves.

Ok nuff of my worrying. Bbl

If i had a job to go back to, i would - and i went back to my pt youth work at 6 weeks. But the only jobs I'm likely to get are minimum wage shift work graduate with fucked up self esteem therefore we decided it was pointless me looking after my redundancy last year.

Bradbeers in Romsey. They're an independent department store with properly trained fitters and a decent range of products. My mum and i go up regularly (45 minutes) they're that good :)

Evening all! Almost missed swearing Wednesday as we have been out and about all day. F was a star, and has fed every 3 hours on the dot, slept between each feed but without feeding to sleep in the car seat but let's ignore that and with minimal screaming. Whoop!

We went down to Exeter and had cuddles with evils N - F and N stared at each other across the table then grinned and cooed. Very cute. N even shared some pear puree with F, although not sure F was 100% appreciative of the gesture.

chasing - glad you're continuing to feel better
pr fc the bugs have fucked the fuck off

F is currently talking to the tv

Just fucking checking in to be sure of getting my bloody allowance of bollocking swear words. I'm trying to have a calm day here as DS1 and DS2 were unfuckingbelievably awful yesterday then J decided midnight was a good time to be wideawake. DS2 has been okay today but DS1 is still misbehaving. I think I've screwed up bedtime as J is in the middle of a massive feed but has a dirty nappy so I'm going to have to wake him to change him. It's been puke-central here today. When the fuck is he going to stop puking all the time? It makes me afraid to fucking feed him because I end up soaked in vom.

Brain isn't working so all I can remember is (((hugs))) to VQ, and Chasing you just hang in there.

Chasing. My parents are staying. MrsG read your rant about your MIL and has asked to say "Yup".

Evening all,

I had a good day. My baby was happy. Had a friend over with her 11 week old baby, he is massive. Was born as 11 pounds and is now 20. O is 16 pounds. He looked so big next to her but still with a newborn face. He is a carrier of sickle cell and that made me think whether others received any letters of the heel prick test result? She got a call from her surgery to go there than received a letter but I haven't heard anything back. Is that normal? Do they only contact you if there is a problem?

Met up with may brother in the afternoon and had a lovely walk in central London. I will really miss him, he is so funny.

chasing hope you are ok, glad that you are making plans. As for MIL, I fucking hate that. But than I don't like my in laws anyhow.

pr hope the bugs are fucking their way off.

Lily we got a letter saying everything was normal.

vq I meant to say - don't ask the doctors, tell them that you want ranitidine. F has none of the textbook symptoms of reflux - no vomiting/possetting, not even mouthfuls of sick anymore. But 24 hours of ranitidine and she is like a new baby. If it doesn't work for J, then at least you know you have tried it. It does sound like reflux could be his problem though.

Given my wee man is err 'bantam weight' to put it euphemistically at just a fortnight shy of six months he's starting to wear 3-6 months babygrows (no waistbands allowed due to reflux). However lots of 3-6 month stuff drowns him (M&S, John Lewis, Asda) so which brands / supermarkets are smaller than average?? I'm about to go on an eBay bender..... Quiche wisdom please.

Fucking men sometimes (sorry Luis) entertaining a child is not walking about with him with your headphones in listening to a book. He wants playing with.

After today I know for sure it is fucking reflux and I will be fucking telling them bplp. I will go straight for the fucking ranitidine as you say. How is it given? J is mixed fed. It may gross you out a bit but I had a wee nibble of his drool and it burnt my tongue. Poor little fucker.

Horsey thank you for that. I would only go sick if I was actually sick. I had gone back to work full time by this point with both girls and was fine. It is different this time. If I had to go in tomorrow I could not. I have not even been able to take J in for a visit. At the moment all the space in my brain is being used. I thought I was getting somewhere last week. Hopefully this is the last bit of the puzzle and I can start putting a bit of effort into me.

I often wonder on a Wednesday what people would think if they popped onto out Fred.

vq F has 0.4mls three times a day - squirt from a syringe into her cheek and it's gone. Very minty though so she pulls this sort of face -->

VQ once he's on the right meds / milk you'll be able to enjoy mothering him without this horrible stress. And the change will be soooooo quick - its amazing. Give the gorgeous boy a squeeze from me and a manly high five from the bear.

I've just done bath time as DH has a mad deadline which neatly clashes with our move on Friday - Jonas has the dirtiest laugh when you clean his armpits

Hello fuckers.
Had a wonderful day with little big and bigpig it's was wonderful to catch up, and see such a wonderful baby.
n has settled so well tonight, yay! Not sure what this will mean.

chasing sorry to hear about the Ils. Hope your safe.
detective that's pretty crap about the money.
horsey are byways are for people AND horses? Some toff told me off, for being thier.
VQ I hope you get the ranitidine.
Evil

Oh poor J. VQ I was giving p hers in a wee bottle mixed with a tiny amount of milk. I was worried recently that this might be reducing its effectiveness so I am back to syringing it. I lie P on the changing mat, pop the syringe into her cheek and slowly depress the plunger. Once it is in in pop her dummy in and blow very gently in her face. This encourages her to swallow. Usually she doesn't need the dummy. This method means almost no medication is lost.

P gets 1ml 3xdaily. I have the calculation of dosage somewhere. I will hunt it out. It is massively weight dependant so he will need to be weighed regularly. Your GP might try to opt for minimum dose - knowing what the maximum dose for J's weight will allow you to up it if necessary. Although preferably the doc should start higher as he is currently symptomatic. If vomiting is still an issue do consider domperidone. It is fairly inert and will help his poo.

How lovely that there was another meet up! Sounds like you had a nice time BP and evil.

hia!! Sounds like you are having loads of fun times. Keep popping back to keep us posted on E's journey towards iron man status.

clarella I think your idea of a very thin blanket over LO's feet is fine. As long as the room isn't too warm I can't think it will cause too much extra heat. What about footless sleepsuit just in case. I used to put a cellular blanket over P's feet when she was jn the Moses basket.

YW I find Sainbury's stuff good for P. she is only just moving in to 3-6 and the Sainbury's stuff I buy fits fairly well.

P does a funny giggle-snort when you tickle her under the chin in the bath.

Final post probably

I tried P in a sleeping bag again this evening just to see if something magic had happened. Not a chance.

Back in the swaddle we go!

Tonight I will pop her in the Moses basket in the cot - for her safety and my sanity.

We are not leaving the house tomorrow other than a wee walk to the shop so it will be all about sleeping. I think she needs to fully master day naps in the sleeping bag in the cot before trying it at night. As long as she is safe I am ok with the swaddling so the basket/cot compromise should help with this.

Our trip to Edinburgh was nice. Train in was absolutely packed so it was a pretty uncomfortable journey with no chance of feeding had she needed. There was no room to move the pram at all so not brill. Anyway, it was great to have some lunch, a blether and some with friends. Train home was perfect - just before the rush so got a seat with space for the pram. P spent the journey looking out the window.

I am totally knackered now. I am all showered and vegging on the sofa. Basically I am watching the clock until bedtime! I need to try to get a decent sleep tonight - last night was every half an hour from 2:30.

pass J will need about a pint then if it is weight dependent.

Thank you all for your support

DD1 stamped her feet at me when I told her to go have a nap earlier and shouted 'No means NO!'

Oh toddlers are such fun. So she went without a nap today and is still hyperactive. I will master this sleep malarkey once the illnesses are gone. She won't even do her nap in her own room, it's turning into a real battle.

And means that DH and I have less and less time together.

LO is so easy in comparison, even though she is waking once during the night at the moment with her being ill. DD1 used to be a great one for sleeping in her own bed too, and for nice 10-12 hour stretches. But although she sleeps quite well now she just won't (a) go to bed at a reasonable time and (b) in her own fucking bed.

Just had to rant on the matter. Again.

Night all.