December 2012 - the fourth trimester is nearly over

[MaMaPo]

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Awww that's a lovely saying ispy to be honest though there is only one baby who remotely comes anywhere near the gorgeousness of mine and he is a little Chinese/British mixed race boy in our baby group. Dd is my second and I still look at other people's babies and breath a sigh of relief that mine is clearly more beautiful

willyou Go, enjoy yourself, don't get too drunk tonight because you will wake up with a hangover and def want to come home - do that on the second night In truth, you are only 50mins away, play it by ear and if you really want to come home then get dh to give you a bell with an excuse for why you need to leave. If your friend has issues about you having a baby etc she won't uh understand why you are so apprehensive about spending 2 nights away. Or you could tell the truth and once she has a child of her own she will understand why.

Glad you're feeling a bit better Seymore, glad the Migraleive worked. I've not had one in years; I worked out my trigger was vanilla-based scents and I now avoid at all costs.

Thanks All, Chloe she doesn't get it at all but if I want to come home then no excuse required, I'll just come and if she can't accept that after 15 years of friendship then she's not worth bothering with. I'm already a bit fed up with her and another friend who got married last year, I've not had a single text from either of them unless in response to one of mine since I told them I was trying for a baby last Feb. They accused me of doing it just to ruin their weddings Bridezilla rears her ugly head.

We get the doll comment Seconds but in our case it's because he's really pale with little rosy cheeks that I could kiss and kiss

I feel your pain Seymore, I've not had a full blown migraine for a couple of years (cold Ribena my trigger) and paracetamol and ibuprofen in slightly high quantities does the trick. I've had a head ache for the last three days, but managing to keep it at bay.

I want to bake, desperately want cookies but DH and I are meant to be on a diet

Willyou, your friends are bonkers and Not Nice. Hope it all goes well.

Seymore, glad you're feeling better. The recipe is from good old Taste - www.taste.com.au/recipes/13581/cinnamon+tea+cake BUT do not bake for an hour, start checking after 40 mins. It's delish.

Seconds, how was Daylesford? How are you coping with the prolonged heat?

mamapo daylesford was really lovely. We're now in Echuca which is also nice; we came via Swan Hill which I wasn't so keen on.

It's so bloody hot. Most of my clothes aren't suitable for it because DH told me it would be getting cooler (and the last 2 times I came, at Christmas so in the height of summer, it pissed itself down every day the first time - i brought 1 pair of leggings and 1 cardi and summer dresses, and wore the leggings and cardi every day, and the second time it rained probably every other day and it HAILED on Christmas Day. I ask you). It's a battle to make sure Z is ok - he's sweating loads especially when in contact with the pram or car seat, and I'm worrying about his hydration as he doesn't seem keen on finishing his feeds. Am trying to give him breast milk at least a couple of days a week too. I'm not sure about the new formula - I think it's what's causing his green poos as they're continuing. But he doesn't like the Aptamil here so I am reluctant to give him that. And he still has oral thrush and it actually seems worse than when it first appeared WEEKS ago. Ive got him some mouth drops from the pharmacy here (the stuff i was prescribed at home has finished) and some cream for my nipples. I seem to be the only one at all concerned - everyone else is all "he's fine, he's fine". Am I being silly?

Ah I actually meant I was giving Z breast milk a couple of times a day. Not a couple of days a week.

Seconds I wouldn't say you're being silly but I also think he will be fine

Have fun at the hen do WillYou. I've just told my friend I won't be going to hers end of April because of ds. It's not even an overnight thing. I'm a loser aren't I??

Dd is being horrendous today. Ds cried all morning but has now been asleep for nearly two hours.

Yes Spotty yes you are

I'll report back! Xx

I'm going on my first night out tonight, bless my lovely friends are coming to my village so I can run down the road and join in once dd is asleep. Fx she won't wake up before I get back as she needs a boob to sleep.

spotty don't be hard on yourself, if you feel anxious and ds needs you to settle him it can be more stress than its worth. I hardly went out with dd2 until she was about 8 months and I'd stopped feeding her as she wouldn't take a bottle or dummy and a couple of times I got distress calls to come home as she'd woken and got in a right old state.

Ds slept for two hours forty minutes he must have needed it!

Hmm I just can't bare to leave him yet when I do it'll be like you WL leave after bedtime and be back for next feed.

Two AIBU for you

AIBU to think that dp does not need five club choc biscuits a day?! It's bloody ridiculous. His lunch today for work is five clubs, two hot cross buns, a cheese and coleslaw sandwich, two packets of crisps, a banana and an orange

AIBU to have ordered flowers for my own mum and not offered/mentioned anything to dp about mil, he knows I got mil a card...

Ds is asleep again

No spotty YANBU on either count.

DH is terrible with Mother's Day/ parents birthday, I have learnt to accept I have to organise and pay for everything! If I had a mil that I didn't like that much I wouldn't get her much either.

Got a night out planned at the end of the month, DH looking after F. I'm very excited, have got used to being away from f and since he is happy with anyone feeding him I'm not worried.

Sorry, to expand slightly...

5 club biscuits? if he's that hungry tell him he should be having more of the good stuff like fruit it and extra sandwich.

And no - his mother, his responsibility. As long as he also remember to help your Dd and DS do something nice for you

And my god your DH can eat! Mine would eat that much too but I refuse to buy nice food!

I know he's a gannet his excuse is that he's a builder.... This is why I usually only buy value choc bars he is slim and muscly but I keep telling him that doesn't mean he's healthy!

Courgette and cheese muffins in the oven

I get cross with D's when he buys a pack of biscuits and sits and eats the lot. He is overweight and works extremely long hours and is mid thirties, I do sometimes worry about heart attacks However, I've lost 10lb on slimming world the past 4 weeks and as a result of my healthy eating he has inevitably lost weight too

He has got a card and chocs for my mum and his mum today so I can't comment on your second aibu

dh, not D's

Dp is home from work!! So frigging excited! Two hours early!

Chloe, mine was on the committee of his running club, running x3 per week with a long - 15-20 miles - one on Sundays. Healthy eating, few puddings, rarely drank.

Still had a stroke at 47.

Please tell yours not to risk it, a+e is a terrifying place to take your partner and month old baby, high dependency wards even more so. 2 months on and there's still a bloody long way to go with no income.

And congratulations on your new healthier lifestyle

I'm sorry to hear that pidj life is very cruel sometimes . And thank you, feeling very proud of myself.

He's making rapid improvement and things aren't bleak at all in the longer term, but it makes me to see or hear of people deliberately bringing these things on themselves iyswim? Use us as a cautionary tale - if our situation means just one person get checked or make a healthier choice, it was worth telling!

You are so right pidj

XH refused to take DS for contact as his gf is pregnant and he 'can't risk' her getting ill. Surely that's part of being a step parent? I'm livid. Poor DS watching dd go off and him being left behind feeling poorly (when he'd said he wanted to go) :( so fucking it's unreal! I'm pretty sure I didn't palm the kids of when they were sick while I was pregnant. Ducking arse of a man!

Sorry had to get that off my chest and DH doesn't understand why I get so angry about it all. He just laughs that he's an arse and the dcs will learn as they get bigger.

Haha DYAC Fucking! I shall not be censored!