Dec 2011 - Do that again, and you're getting sold on Ebay.....

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((Figgy)), here for you, hope the next few days sail by quickly & DH is home asap.

Seven, hope the cramps are building up to something & that you feel better soon.

Northen, good luck with the project plan. We're looking at moving in the next year or so & even now I'm stressing about the cost/upheaval so sending you to help!

janey, that's so adorable!
I want to avoid blackout blinds (DH had them his whole life & is now a really light sleeper) but the sun sets just outside DS's window & it takes him a while to go to sleep...so am very tempted!

Queen, hope your 'me' time had the desired effect & you feel refreshed & wonderful!

Having a DH/DS free few days from tomorrow, although I need a slap because even though DH is, well, DS's dad, I always feel bad leaving him alone with DS.
25wks tomorrow, and it's starting to sink in that we may have another baby soon....

Northern we are planning a move too and I'm also overwhelmed/scared/majorly procrastinating... so send on all tips my way too please ladies!

(((Figgy))))

Hug to everyone else that wants one, free lovin'

Okkky so im fine but would you be concerned if your af is still missing after 17 months? I had one when dd started soilds at 6 months, im bf on demand still day and night. Im normally every 32 days like clock work and they came back at 13 months with Air. Should i be worried?

Im 31 years old and i have found my first gray hair as well this week.

GBT I have been too, he goes off fine for his nap in bright light but I think maybe its an age thing, he can't remember going to bed in the light, he's like uhh?

My curtains are awful though, they don't close properly and are ridiculously thin but they would cost me a fortune to replace and there's no way I could do it, it's two massive windows across the room with one rail going all the way across! Stupid bloody idea, two windows = two rails wooden rail = ring top curtains massive windows = lined curtains and not bloody cream either when they're too high for me to reach myself to clean. I've lived here for 2 years and they've never managed a clean, eeek!

Air I'd just put it down to bfing x

Ok i will leave it a few more months and if not back may go see gp.

V quick as off to help with a PTA thingy this morning!

(((((hugs)))) for figgy with a very tiny congratulations!... Keep posting my dear, we are all here for you, and it's very early days so see how things go.

janey and GBT, now is probably the time to tellyou that Wilkinsons do surprisingly good blackout-lined curtains for about £20 a pair. Way less than the "custom" blackout ones major curtain shops try to sell you.

air many laydeez get not a period while BFing, it can be diff wofh diff
Babies. Plus I would guess you may be underweight due to the stress at the mo? Plus stress stops you ovulating?.... If you are worried see Gp but I'm guessing its a combo of that....

air your first grey hair at 31? I've had them since I was 18! My aunt was completely grey by 30.

gary I'm 35 weeks and it still hasn't sunk it we're having another baby. Physically we're ready enough for her to arrive now but mentally I still feel completely unprepared. Based on DS and DDs arrivals I have 4-5 days to get my head around it!

figgy yes meant to say a small congratulations when you're ready for it.

I'm feeling better today, must have been a stomach bug I guess, just odd everyone else has been fine though.

Thanks ladies still dont know what to think to be honest just waiting for DH to get home so we talk it through. Suppose i had best get out and get some pregnacare as i attribute all my good health last time to it. EDD calculator suggesting 24th December i think it should be later than that with a 01st April conception and since DS was 2 weeks late i am thinking Jan 14.

It is just so typical we have booked to go away with 2 sets of friends and their little ones for New Year have booked a house which will now need to be cancelled. When we booked it they joked they might be PG but 1 couple have a 4 yr old who was conceived through IVF and they have been trying since Xmas with little chance of success due to fertility issues the other couple has a 6 yr old, she is 40 this yr and they have been trying on and off for about 4 years with no success. We arent safe ONCE (and i know it only takes once) and here we are at least with DS it took 2 months (obviously i have all the sympathies in the world for anyone with fertility issues).

Took DS to soft play this morning and then he screamed all the way through Sainsburys until i gave him food, he then ate his lunch half of my lunch and refused to sleep until 2.30 when he passed out on the sofa in my arms. He still is a bit ill i think as well as GREEDY!!

I hope Monday goes well Figgy

Sorry for another namechange, I got outed in another group:/

No probs Octo, can guess who you are- bummer you got outed, that must be quite rare, and you're not exactly yelling your address and vital stats on-line. Hope there weren't any issues associated with the outing?

Sadly figgy, it is one of the Laws Of Sod: it's the same- to anyone who also used to be naughty - to lighting a fag whilst waiting at the bus stop. The bus will arrive three seconds later. This is a teeeeeny bit more important, but same theory. Hope it goes OK on Monday, and we'll be here for any support needed.

I was exactly the same about blackouts GBT and janey, as my DP is such a wuss about sleeping in anything but pitch black. But as the sun sets on DS's room's side of the house, I've compromised; I've gotten some, but only use one (they hang behind the current curtains) so it's just darker.

Glad you're feeling better seven, and can see it wasn't labour starting! I think you're doing brilliantly anyway, and you know you'll cope once she lands.

I went round three estate agents to get the valuations booked in today, and de-cluttered the bathroom... It Begins! Mopsy, we can do some hand-holding together, and then can be GBT's support next year!

Got back from Wales today. Had no WiFi and pretty much no mobile signal all week, so just attempting a catch up. We also had rubbish weather - rainy most of the week, so it was quite a challenge entertaining the DC's. Doubly upsetting to hear how nice it was at home all week!

(((hugs))) figgy. Yep, it only takes once. DS was planned, but I was still in shock after he was conceived after only one attempt, so I can't imagine how you're feeling. I hope DH takes the news OK and that you can both get your heads around it. 'Twas meant to be?!

faffin hope you had a nice time aside from the rubbish weather.

octo sorry to hear about being outed.

figgy sounds like you must just be super fertile! We're all here when you need us.

Thanks northern. I've made a list today of the things I want to get done before she arrives, I think having something to focus on has helped me get my head around it a bit more. I think it's mostly because I'd been counting down to DH doing the marathon not when she would arrive. Now the marathon is over I've suddenly realised how close it is!

OMG I duck out for a bit and come back to find mega news - big hugs to you figgy and congratulations

seven I can't believe you're wondering if it's tummy bug or baby arrival - time flies so, so fast!!

octo I think I know who you are too (in a non-stalker way!) and can't believe someone outed you Hope you are ok.

I've been actually working (or playing at the park with aethel!) so haven't been around this week at all. Someday I'm going to look back at this time and say "I set up a hedge fund in Cayman when I was 17 weeks pregnant with DC2" and either laugh at my stupidity or my genius.

Hi all, sorry I've not been around all week.
Bugger it Figs, CONGRATULATIONS! It was meant to be. You'll be fine. DH will come round. And you'll all live happily ever after. (I hope no 2 doesn't eat as much as no 1! Your LO sounds like BOi - finishing his plate then moving on to everyone else's. can you imagine when they're 17? We'll have to remortgage...)
QoC, I've missed something - I think you're possibly looking at meds for you (depression?) and looking to get DD assessed for spectrum disorder?
Good luck honey, can't be easy. I hope that the situation will improve. I'm sure the meds will help.
Northern and Mopsy, what's the fear of moving house? It is exciting. It's a new chapter in your lives. It's all good. The only bad thing that happened to me in the whole process was having the house I fell in love with made unavailable. I was quite distraught, and v pg, and DH had to come home from work to help calm me down. - But it was meant to be because now we have Ashworth Towers - which is not as pretty, but is much, much, much better!
Oh seven! Very exciting! Well done for getting this far!
Who was it who mentioned "cleaning curtains"? I am confused. I don't know what this means.
Now, on to me n DH... I had responded to Aethel's post, re questions about continuing ttc. But the Mn imps swallowed my post.
(In fact I'll post this now and then continue...)

Ok, so... I decided that I had to give things a go. I needed to try and get out if the vicious circle. Me thinking he was weak/negative, etc., and being short etc with him, him then feeling worse, and then becoming weaker/ etc., me having even less respect... So I start "operation Build Up".
We went shopping to get DH new clothes (I know tis only decor, but thought it might buff him up a bit - plus would help me fancy him more. ) And I've been helping him to build his case for his situ at work, I prepped a mini presentation for him full of good arguments, and have been telling him all week how he's worth more and that they're all fools etc.
On Friday, I went online to transfer money to the cm, and saw that DH must be gambling again. Not a lot, and only this last week, but FFS this does not help.
So we have spoken. DH now realises that our marriage is on the line. First step I've proposed is an appt with the GP. (For both of us). It's when he's down that he turns to gambling.
The GP is the right place to go, right?

Oh Oi. I had hoped you silence meant good things. I guess a good airing of opinions is never a bad thing though. Assuming you are able to take action now at least you're not also simmering with unspoken resentment.

GP def first stop. And then if you've got private medical cover check that. My dad was able to get a month of inpatient care followed by a couple of years of followup care on my Mums bupa cover for alcoholism.

That was 15 years ago so not sure what would be covered now, but I remember them both being surprised that "fluffy" stuff was covered. DM's words

Cheers Kat. My med cover doesn't stretch to family.
Btw - those who now know me in RL. Please keep this quiet. I wouldn't like your dH's to know about this, if/when they all meet! X

No dramatic news here. Still pregnant. Still working. Still mildly worried about money/cc debt but going to ignore it. Tis going down slowly.

I had forgotten how agressive the movements from baby can be. One glass of champagne and a curry last night (DM bday) and felt like a kung foo demonstration going on.

DS had his first haircut yesterday. He obviously looks adorable but where is my baby?

Posting on the phone app, sorry not to name check.

What plans for Sunday people?

Say no more oi mumsnet is the word

oi how about relate with DH? But GP is as good a start as anywhere else.

Today i was supposed to be meeting a friend but as i am still full of cold and still in a tizz have canceled and if it means having to watch 9 hours of peppa pig in my pjs so be it.

Ds has decided that walking backwards is the bees knees however he has also decided that sticking his hands down the toilet for a paddle is too

I bought him a george pig t shirt from sainsburys in the week which was 18-24mo and it was too small, got him another one yesterday 2-3 and it isnt much better, i know he is a monster baby but come on!! Sainsburys is small sizes yeah?

Boo oi, very sorry to hear about that. Lips firmly zipped.
Yes, seeing GP to inform sounds sensible, some areas offer specific addiction counselling courses on the NHS, also Relate may be a good idea for the knockon relationship effects. Plus have you thought about Gamblers Anonymous (like AA but more specific, It may also have a relatives-support branch tho I'm not sure. Worth a Google?)

Cups of decaf to all you pg ladies (wow, quite a few now!) glad all is well kat and when's that beeb pitching up, seven?)

northern and mopsy we are here to hold your hand! Do PM me if you want any off list discussion. I am through the move but there is still soooo much to do house wise (plus next week we have the MIL/FIL visiting us as they came over for the funeral so need to pretty it up big time)

Funeral was good by the way: quiet, calm, job well done and in a beautiful old church and churchyard. Very proud of my DDs who behaved nicely and seemed to cope ok with the experience.

X-post figgy, yep, tu sizes are trim, my girls arent podgy and we always have to go a size up. Gap is medium fit (though no good for cloth bums as their trousers are all trim), Tesco/George/Next are more roomy and we use the right size there. Debenhams/Boden is also often small so go a size up there (clearly "classy" people don't feed their children...)

Yeurgh for the toilet fun, we have had months of chucking-things-down-the-loo here. Usually toys and bog rolls. Sigh. They will grow out of it soon, right?

Hope fell off the sofa and has a bump on her head. I put mr bump on it and she seems fine now.

But STBxH was in bed i shouted him, i told him she was hurt and the fucker didnt even ask if she was ok, come down or help in anyway. Im so angry woth him im gping to ask him to leave.

I really hate him. There is no relationship there, i dont fancy him i dont trust him he is only here for the kids and now he cda to even make sure they are ok. He does no house work, no childcare, does not disapline correctly he tells air if he is naughty he will leave him at school or throw him out i have had words about this before. Im feed up of his useless ass. He does nothing to help. He doesnt row with me as he just donsnt talk to me.

Im so angry.

The lest he can do is care about his fucking kids.

Im going to ask him to move out but when i have done it defore he just doesnt leave and he is on the mortage and has a legal right to be here :(

Morning everyone - been lurking but not really feeling much like posting as fear it will turn into a long "my DH is a twat" rant!
figgy - hope all goes well with DH tomorrow and you are getting your head round it all
Oi - good for you for being so positive and also pragmatic about it all. Hope the gp can help.
DH and I need to sort things but I am fed up with trying to explain my point of view/how I feel (even in a rational way) and be told that I am being unreasonable/moaning etc etc all the time. I cant be arsed anymore and just not communicating is less hassle. Freya and DS dont need to hear any more "discussions". I have looked into relate but cant even be motivated to do that. Can't really see that way forward. I dont want the hassle of separation/selling the house etc so just have to put up with it and get on with it.
Another weekend, another sat and sun of me looking after the kids whilst he works/does his hobby virtually all day.