November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

Have just woken up on the sofa. Very disorientated!!

Thanks for the few comments I saw briefly as I skimmed the pages. Think I'm going to keep a journal, to help me make sense of these moods. I can't quite believe how "disrupted" I feel and how,easily I forget our huge having a baby is, whether #1 or #23...

Anyway, have a fucking fantastic night all and hope sweary Wednesday is bloody brilliant!! I'm not at all childish

jims wow, that is pretty hard going with the thrush and meds. Well done you!

stunt I had a high temp last week and it is hideous, especially when feeding. Do take care, and hope you feel better soon x

J slept 2.5 hours. Not great but not as bad as it has been.

Evil I'm still waiting for the hv to call from when dp got out of hospital...

The real teachers are doing their stuff after half term, so i should hear at the end of the month

According to a friend of mine, you're judged to be coping at 9 weeks if you can get yourself up and dressed and microwave yourself some dinner. We both needed out pelvic floor exercises for that one i swear these things are arbitrarily decided by childless men, who exactly do they think is going to do all the other stuff? Or shop for these meals? And what about healthy eating?!

1.5 hours. Grr. Very bunged up baby tried and failed to self settle. I do not want the whole house woken, nor do I want to be cruel to my boy, but 1.5 hours is not enough! Last feed took 45 mins including settling, which is an improvement.

Snottery boy here too VQ sleeps for 10 mins on me the wakes up coughing. Calpol and teatree teddy have been deployed...

Arrgghhhhh milk explosion. Everything soaked :(

Nearly 4 hours! Now that's more like it! What a relief. Please let me express a tonne this morning and then at least Friday morning is sorted, even if she goes back to being rubbish.

Blimey pidgin that seems like ages to keep you waiting. Got my fingers and toes crossed for you.

Well done miniVQ -2.5 hours is good (1.5 hours, not so good - but once his snottiness has cleared he'll hopefully just keep on getting better and better). It would seem he's getting better at the nighttime sleeping thing.

Poor DS1 detective - but having done similar myself, it is a lovely feeling when you realise that it's too early and you can in fact go back to bed!

Anyhoo - about to attempt transfer. Sleep dust to all xxx

Awful night. DD 1 puked at about 3. Poor love. It's the fever making her puke I think as other than that she is hungry. Happened both times when the meds wore up and the fever peaked. I hope I can get her seen today, though I suspect, as her breathing is ok when she's dosed up, that I will be told to wait and see.

LO bright as a button this morning. Squealing and squeaking away.

:( PR Shecis having a hard time of it, as are you. Hope she's feeling better soon.

• she is. Bloody Ipad bloody me and my fat fingers more like

Thanks vq.

i'd been thinking, and i hope you don't mind me saying, that maybe a bedtime routine would help with your nights? And also maybe trying to squeeze more feeds in the day rather than 4 hourly (if i remember rightly?). I try and feed F every 3 hours and earlier if he grumbles, normally get 6 in the day before he goes to bed at 7.30. He then gets a bottle of expressed milk around 10.45 and has recently been goong to 6.30/7. I realise i may well just be extremely lucky (my sister-in-law hates me, her dd1 at 18 months doesn't sleep through) but it's worked for me twice with boys. I have touched wood and crossed all fingers for the 4 month regression!!

blonder trying to be something you are not is just going to make things harder for you. Your mum sounds great but she created a unique person in you. If you are disorganised and housekeeping is not your fortee then it just isn't.

My own mother was really messy and disorganised, the house was always a bit miscoordinated and the breakfast stuff was always left for clearing till everyone got home from work/school. I hated it it, I am super tidy and organised.

Anyway I didn't realise until her funeral and people did talks about her that she was busy being a good and loyal friend, carving out a great career where she gave lots of disadvantaged children a great start in life, and enjoying her life. I felt really guilty I hadn't appreciated how fab she was.

So please just focus on the things that come naturally and embrace who you are.

Off to nursery!

Love you all.

Xx

jims I never mind anyone saying x

I am sure a bedtime routine will help, but I have just been too tired tbh and too close to see the situation and have an opinion. I have been in survival mode.

Well, he slept for 3 hours more, and would have self settled I think had his nose not been blocked and his eyes sealed shut. Poor little bugger. Once he breaks in feeding I will squirt his eyes. He has already had a saline squirt for his nose.

We are up for the day now and he is not impressed. To tackle the nights I need to start with the mornings.

A went to bed at 8.30 & woke at 11, 2, 4 & 7. I fed him at 11, bought him nxt to me at 2 (the advantage of DH not being here) & fed him at 4 & 7. Both 11pm & 4am feeds were super quick & he was happy with his dummy at 2.

I think he's getting cold. He's in a sleeping bag with the right number of layers, but despite being labelled as 2.5tog, its v thin (2nd hand). I think I'll try the thicker one tonight & buy him a new replacement. We'll need them in the New Forest in a log cabin at the beg of March I should think!!

As soon as LO has finished feeding, I'm off for a shower. Toddler group beckons...

Dr is available at 12. Glad the paeds can fit her in. GPs here aren't used to dealing with young children. Her temperature seems lower this morning. Fingers crossed.

Good you have an appointment PR thinking of you and yours

Sodding fucking buggering cunting snow here.

Yeeeeaaaaah sweary Wednesday!

Fucking ridiculous leaky boobs! I swear I could express 10 oz a sodding time now. Soaked pads, bra and pjs.

Well it's official, S isn't a newborn any more. I've just had to take the newborn insert out of her carseat She look tiny in it again now.

PR glad you have an app, hope your DD1 gets better soon.

Right time for breakfast I'm starving, now, do I have weetabix or a big fat breakfast? Hmmm decisions decisions.

PR thinking of you and DD.

Well done mini VQ just keep going for mummy.

Hugs to all those struggling.

Yesterday improved with a lovely afternoon with YW and her DSis (and all of our small people). I was in a bugger of a mood all day though

Sorry to those who had bad nights. Ours wasn't great by her usual standards but I won't grumble as I don't want flamed! Needless to say, I would like my 7 hours back!

Fingers crossed for you PP

Fucking bastarding snow here too. Everything is white and I left the twatting car parked outside last night. I have waited ages for my hair appointment today but am damned if I am driving into the city with it.

Fuckity fuck fuck.

(yay for sweary Wednesday )

I'd forgotten it was sweary Wednesday.

Bastard fucking RSV if you are sticking your skanky dickhead mankiness into the lives of me and mine again I will blow a fucking gasket.

And February you can fuck right off with your flu epidemic too you cunt.

A bit better this morning but will catch up and join in the swearing after the school run.

Gingerbreadlatte, who started the first Nov 12 antenatal thread more than a year ago has started a thread about cluster feeding. Rally round girls, she sounds like she's on her knees with it all.

Thinking of you and your DD PR, fingers crossed its not RSV again

Hope everyone has better days today

Chunky I'm off to the new forest in early march for a wedding! You're not going to a wedding there too are you?