November 2012 - More group hugs and moral support please

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1676013-November-2012-We-want-rattles-and-we-want-them-now

Good morning ladies, J slept for 10hrs straight last night! although I did wake up to my eldest being a really nasty little brat and screaming and punching the crap out of his brother

Also on an amusing note, I went swimming with my sisters last night, we accidentally found ourselves in the wrong pool in a hiphop aqua aerobics class, we didn't want to look silly so we joined in!

Oh gawd, ignore me chunky, I'm going in may not march! stupid over tired brain fog, sorry

Oh gawd, ignore me chunky, I'm going in may not march! stupid over tired brain fog, sorry

And now I'm double posting too! Stupid fucking crappy sky wifi!

Morning fuckers!

Fucking bastarding shitting snow. Piss the fuck off!

Just took DS1 to school, and it was glorious! The whole school run took 30 minutes as where I live it is half term. The roads were totally clear! So that was a good start to the day! And now I'm back in bed next to 2 snuffly people .

DP apologised for being cuntish. I asked him if he would like to take over everything that I take sole responsibility for. He said only if you want to watch everything crumble around us. I think he will shut up about washing up now!

PR if that doesn't warn the bugs off, then I don't know what will!

LMAO Tits! Did you enjoy it though?!

Bollocks epic post lost as I waited for cm!!!! Once written down it escapes my brain!!!

pr huge hugs for you and dd1 - poor little thing - hope paed can give you something to kick the lergy's butt xx

kirrin your lo's behaviour and feedin pattern sounds identical to dots - no conselation to you but it does make me feel not so alone!!

chunky & blonde hugs & xx

Last night with Dottie she had a bottle at 9.30 and did the exact same thing as she did on the boob - latch quickly and suck greedily for 5 seconds then pull off and whinge??? No idea why but made me feel so much better that its not just me she has a problem with!!! She was all coos and smiles last night apart from a half hour of pullin of boob and bottle and whinging which calmed after a walk around!! She eventually went back on the boob and fell asleep at 10.30 and slept til 6.30 - bless my little monkey!! She woke to smiles and chatter again so think today is going to be a better day fingers x'd she went to cm fast asleep with a tummy full of mummy milk - hope she comes home happy!!!

Just sat in a cycling shop having a coffee before my appt at 10 - am surrounded by Lycra lol eeeekkk!!!

Hope you all have a fucking fabulous sweary Wednesday xx

kissy and chicken i live in the New Forest, let me know if you can fit in a quick coffee :o

tits how funny!!! Know what you mean about sparring siblings ds and dd1 are a bloody nightmare he's a sulky teenager and she's a loving girl who adores her big bro and just wants to spend time with him - unfortunately he doesn't!!!

detective well done dp - correct answer lol I should give dh that ultimatum!!!

Eeek a body has been found on the park where I always walk my dogs.

pr hope your daughter is ok.

Glenda - I hope this doesn't come out sounding insensitive but yey that she's fussing on the bottle too - wonder if its a growth spurt and she's fussing to up your milk? Google 'nursable 6 week growth spurt' for a lovely calming blog post on the topic.

PR good luck for the docs.

Lots of love to those having a tough time.

Oh its sweary Wednesday. Just weighed myself (its taken three days to have empty bladder, bowel and sadly only one empty boob in a morning to achieve this!) and I'm under 12 stone for the first time in nearly a year. Fuck me!

How does everyone feel now that babies have been popped out? I still don't feel 'normal'. My pelvis & sides of my things still ache a bit (pelvis clicked when I turned over in bed last night), and I swear my uterus is still big and saggy, it just doesn't feel normal in there. Also, my period is very very light and not like it used to be but regular as clockwork.

Apparently it takes 18 months before your body is physically ready for another pregnancy after a section so it makes sense that I am feeling like this after 20 weeks. Just wondered how everyone else feels?

thighs not things!

Well fucking done yw you have reminded me I haven't visited the weight loss thread in a while........

I had a section too garden and my tummy still feels a bit swollen, definitely not right yet. Can't remember how long this feeling lasted after my first section either. I want to know when my tum will start to go! Mind you if I could stop eating the biscuits and sweet things it'd probably go quicker! bfing makes me so hungry tho

kissy I am the same. I eat junk all the time!

YW meant to say well done on the weight loss earlier! You are a brilliant mum giving up so much to BF J! Star :)

Good fucking morning everyone! I never swear on MN, it feels weird!

Hope the docs goes well PR. My dd is better today so I've packed her off to school.

Hugs to those that need them, I have trouble remembering who to address things to as I'm on my iPad and can't look back at the thread. Was it glenda having problems with boob refusal? I think a lot of babies go through this, my first daughter did. She would do exactly as you have described, she also did it when given a bottle. Hang in there, babies are funny creatures.

blonder- my still does a lot of the household chores. I do the washing and tidy around when LO is asleep but he does the hoovering and lots of other stuff. I'm just very disorganised and prefer to spend time with B and go out. We tidy and clean in the evening when the girls are asleep. hoe you're feeling ok today.

I am eating pancakes, didn't have any yesterday due to illness in the Dicks household.

is it bad? I'm pissed of there is no snow so I have to go to babies group ... enjoyed company of nice lady there two weeks ago but she didn't come back (I probably scared her off). feels like school again lots of mums there with 9mth old who know what they are doing. and bf Nazis they probably scared off my potential friend...she had to ff.
blonde you sound like me re housework etc I thought I would get on top of it ... my dh ends up doing loads and I feel guilty ... I do think if I can do one thing a day that's enough. I did wait until he got home yest he washed the dishes then I hoovered a bit. think we will leave most of it for the weekends though and just blitz...I'm sure at some point this gets easier

then I will get a rhythm until then ...
I do things like give myself 10mins on timer whilst dh plays with dd and I tidy the kitchen for that long...enjoying some music or something.
I really thought I may have pnd on Sunday was so low and couldn't stop crying I would say definitely seek help ... when depression gets really bad (I had a terrible time when I was 19) you don't even really know your in it you almost become a different person and some of the things you do to yourself as a result are shocking afterward!

By special request can we have some French swearing too PR? Mind you Mercredi already sounds a bit sweary especially if you put on an 'Allo 'Allo accent.

Chunky J has a 2.5 tog sleeping bag, sheet and two blankets doubled older and his hands are still little lumps of ice when he wakes up in the night.

Horsey that's shocking.

I don't feel like swearing today. It's no fun when you have permission.

*over not older

morning all :)

glenda (my iPad insists on calling you Gland!) I just took N to the HV for a weigh in and mentioned the feeding thing. She said it can indicate low supply so to make sure I am eating and drinking enough. No chance I'm not eating enough but I probably could drink a bit more water and a bit less coke She also said, and I found this interesting, that sometimes it's the opposite problem - that they just want a comfort suck so they get cross when milk comes out. I'm not sure which, if either, applies to N but I might try a dummy again this evening and see what happens.

Yay YW you have done well. I have followed your lead (at least I think it's you?) and bought a pedometer. Unfortunately I forgot to check it last night and now it's reset itself for the day so I have no idea how many steps I did yesterday! Still, it's a start.

tits will you go again! And yay for the mammoth sleep :)

N did ok last night. One stretch of 4 hours before going back to waking every 55 minutes - which meant I managed to express this morning, so that's a relief.

Hello

I 'met' stunt nun on my thread about cluster feeding hell and she welcomed me back here

Please may I rejoin the group? I was on the nov12 list back in feb last year when i got pregnant but couldnt keep up!

I think I may have known a few of you from the '38wks pregnant and waiting to give birth' thread back in the autumn too.

I have got two daughters, one is nearly 4 and a Nov 12 baby girl born on the 3rd. She is giving me grief with day time naps, cluster feeding and evening settling at the moment... I am guessing Im not alone here!

xxx

Good cunty morning fuckers.

zcos I?ve been writing down when LO feeds/naps (in a slightly anal way admittedly) for the past week which is the only way I?ve noticed that she has a routine of sorts. Before I wrote it down, it felt like chaos. Have you tried using a manual pump? Weirdly I had zero success with an electric one, but with a manual one can get at least 3oz whilst LO feeds, and if I do it regularly, can get 4-5oz in a session.

pr I got to your comment about blowing a fucking gasket, and came to the abrupt realisation that my pelvic floor is perhaps not all it?s cracked up to be . Hope the drs appt goes ok.

chunky little pig has a 2.5 tog sleeping bag and a doubled-over fleecey blanket and still wakes up cold. She sleeps like a trooper in her sleeping bag under our duvet though. Not quite sure what to do as am terrified of letting her overheat in her crib with too many layers.

Glenda there was a comical thread yesterday about a cyclist who had purchased the male equivalent of chicken fillets, if you get my drift ? have a good nose! LO pulls off here quite often and does the whole nipple tugging thing (ow) ? I?ve worked out it?s usually when she?s due a poo, so isn?t actually hungry (hence the pulling off) ? I wonder whether your LO could have wind? Or be sucking for comfort like kirrin said?

Off to get my fucking norks out at boob group now for the boob expert to pick holes in assess my latch.

yw not insensitive at all I was so chuffed it wasn't a "mummy" aversion Well done on the weight loss - I need to have my jaw wired would just blend mars bars when I start uni I'm giving up chocolate and crisps!!!

kirrin both explanations sound plausible on the days she's at cm she has more ff so supply could be affected but last night when she did it - I had a squeeze and shot her up the nose so I wasn't empty - maybe it is a comfort thing - when she's doing a comfort suck though its very shallow and I don't think she gets anything then?? I keep trying with the dummy but she hates the shape of the 12 I've got damn tesco 3 for 2 keep looking out for more nipple shaped ones but no luck so far!!!

Well I had my first session done wooooo didn't need a test patch as its just black ink and it hurt a bit just as it becomes the inside of your arm but they said I can use emla numbing cream next time!!! Next appt 28/3.

Treated myself to brekkie at tesco nom nom

I made it! I walked to GP who saw me for my sickness and have me cyclizine tablets... Any views.
Then LO has his 3rd set of jabs. He cried so much! Heart breaking.
Picked up pills from chemist
LO has crashed out. Mil has put him in his room. I'm gona have some toast n sleep till DH get home to look after us.

Morning all and welcome back gingerbread I recognise you from the ante natal thread. This thread can be pretty hard to keep up with but if you dip in and out and post occasionally as I do I find it manageable and of course invaluable when you want company, advice or a good old moan! And of course a brag, although I don't think I've done many of those!!

Sorry to all those having a shitty time. DD1 is at nursery this morning and I normally take the opportunity to do some house hold stuff but instead I've spent nearly 2 hours feeding and trying to settle a fussy DD2. She's happily on her play mat now and I've managed to shove a quick dinner in the slow cooker so at least we will eat tonight. A success! DH does very little round the house and I do what I can but I have given up on freaking out if I can't get certain tasks done. As much as I love a tidy house it's pretty much impossible with a 3yr old and a 12wk old and a DH who last hoovered in...my god, I can't actually remember him ever hoovering. I also go out a lot during the day which means it doesn't get done and I do very little in the evenings apart from sit and feed E. so there we have it. Housework has very much taken a back seat in this household too!

I had a horrible day with DD1 yesterday and appeared to have turned into a horrible shouty parent. I shouted at DD1 for not really much and made E cry. I felt awful. So I'm going to make much more of an effort into being a happy mummy and spend more happy time with DD1 and appreciate her more. She has her moments but is generally a good kid and doesn't deserve to be shouted at so regularly. So I'm focusing on better parenting rather than housework. Course it's been easy this morning as she's been at nursery. Could all be different this time tomorrow

Right time to fuck off to the shop before I collect my little terror. Hope everyone has a good sweary Wednesday.