November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

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Congratulations clarella

Sorry you're having a tough time evil - hopefully he'll settle down soon. It's not personal, he's just able to express himself more with you - and if he's more settled with DP then maybe it's a good chance to leave them to it and have a bit of time to yourself, nice bath? A little nap?

Hope you're feeling better soon fatima

chunky I know how you feel. I spend my days feeling torn in half, trying and failing to meet both their needs at the same time; and tiredness and feeling a bit stressed tends to make me shorter on patience than I would be normally so I find myself snapping at poor DD1 for silly things :( Your new years resolution sounds like a good one - I may add it to my list!

N's new years resolutions are to sleep more at night and to go longer between feeds!

kirrin I like your Los New Years resolutions

Trying the self settle... Eeeek! Please work! So far, so good, Ewan is doing his job! I put him down after his feed, and he was awake. He looks like he is sleeping now, but I'm not counting my chickens!

I'd love it if he did this at nights to cut down the length that the whole change/feed/settle takes!

But if it doesn't work, it doesn't work, I still love cuddling my sleepy baby even if DP doesn't! but I'd like him to start settling himself at some point!

Oh, am I the only person in the world whose baby smiles for the muslin cloth?!! I wrap one round him for a feed and every single time, without fail, as soon as the cloth is put round him, he stops crying and screaming and smiles. Little sod! It takes me practically dancing hanging off the ceiling and doing a mad jig to coax a smile from him, but the cloth is a foolproof smile achiever! I might be jealous. Of a cloth!

Daisy my SIL has been offered preventative treatment for pre-eclampsia for any future pregnancies. I don't know the details but she had been told there is medication she can take throughout pregnancy to manage her blood pressure.

You weren't being insensitive Pass, I'm amazed at thinking of another one. After DS1 I said one was enough and now I have three lovely most of the time anyway boys. What worries me is running out of time. My mum thought she was pregnant and I remember her telling me I was going to have a baby sister, but it turned out to be early menopause and she was devastated. Maybe I'll just get a puppy instead!

We're definitely on the six-week growth spurt here. J slept all day yesterday apart from his feeds and he must have been fed eight times last night. He doesn't seem to feed for long though so I don't think he's taking much. Maybe he's falling asleep before he's finished. DH keeps getting up and putting the dummy in when he cries but isn't that a really bad idea? Surely he should be fed when he wakes in the night, not fobbed off with a dummy?

Thanks everyone for your kind words & kirrin I feel like I'm the bad guy all the time with DD, she constantly runs to DH when I used to be #1 and I feel like we've lost our closeness iyswim. Glad its not just me. I'm not going to go too OTT - the TV will still be on, just not ALL day as cBeebies is actually melting my brain.

stuntnun I find it very difficult to balance dummy use & bfing. I too feel that baby should be fed when they ask, but equally, it isn't until after when you think was that just for comfort??!! Sorry no answers there but I think I have a slightly delayed growth spurt here (he's 7+1) as he was feeding every 2-2.5 hrs again, after sleeping all day Sat, not settling well Sun & feeding every 1.5-2.5hrs at most. At least, hope it was that & him not coming down with the same bug as DD & DH have.

DD's temp was 39.5 again last night, despite antibiotics being sling regularly since Fri morning & calpol regularly since Thursday. She's fine during the day though!!! DH is a horrendous bed partner though with his virus/infection. I have barely slept between the 3 of them. I had an hr of proper undisturbed sleep - after that either had a baby feeding, a baby next to me, a DH stealing the covers or snoring, a DD calling out telling me her nose is running or a DS grunting & groaning then crying every time he was transferred to the Moses basket. Trying to get to the shower now to get to the Dr for our 6wk checks!!

I dont have time to catch up this morning (will read later) but needed to share this. After an evening of intense cluster feeding M slept from 11.30 till 6.30 last night!!!

Dd1 didn't have a bad night. No change from yesterday's progress but hey, baby steps right?

LO has just been to the Dr. She has a cold and coughed a lot in the night but the dr listened to her chest and there is no need for her to be admitted yet (phew). Told me to go back Wednesday or Thursday unless she suddenly gets ill of course.

MM great news. That is sleping through in my book :)

It is a great feeling, isn't it MM!

DT1 has slept from 11:30pm until I wake her at about 7:30am since she was 11 weeks old, so for 16 nights in a row now! Just getting her to teach her sister to follow suit! DT2 wakes around 4:30am for milk and cuddles.

Being in special care for 2 weeks definitely helped put the girls in a good routine, taught them to self settle (most of the time) and they weren't given a dummy, so that problem was solved for me. I suppose there is some pay off for the first few horrible weeks.

That's good news PR, I really hope you are all better soon.

Bronwen also slept through on Friday night, she was unsettled from 7pm-12.30 then slept solidly from 12.30-8.30 am. I woke with boobs like leaking cannonballs! Last night she slept for 6 1/2 hours from 8pm-2.30pm but then woke again at 5.30am. I'm thinking of attempting a dream feed tonight to try and move the long sleep to the middle of the night.

Hi Clarella- I agree, C sections do suck. I'm nearly 4 weeks post section and I'm totally fed up of not being able to drive.

They've had to increase DD1's oxygen again :(

That sucks PR but at least they're responding to her changing needs. How long does it usually last?

TooMany I was driving again at three weeks. I checked with my car insurance provider LV and they said I just needed the go ahead from my GP. He was happy to give it since by scar was healed and I no longer had abdominal pain.

Thanks for the info stunt, my scar is healed and I feel able to drive. I'm seeing the doctor next week for a blood test so I'll ask him then.

I don't know I'm not there and still not allowed o go :(

So jealous of babies sleeping through. I had hoped that Aaron would start going longer at night (4-5hrs has been achieved) especially now he weighs 11lb 11oz as weighed today, but last night was a step back :(

PR Sorry to hear that. Hopefully its a brief blip.

When I said M slept brilliantly, what I missed out was the fact we were stuck up till after 2am waiting for SIL and BIL's flight to get in and then eventually when we realised they werent taking the hint turned in at 4.30am. So really we only had 2 hours sleep. If that. Incidentally they are still in bed...

M had her repeated hip scan this morning and there is massive improvement so we have been discharged

Hugs PR she will be up and down.

pikz you are doing a fab job, you really are. Your plan sounds like a good one.

I am also pretty envious of long sleeps, but it will happen eventually. J slept for 4 hour stretch again. He needs to learn how to self settle. And I need to learn how to let him. His chest seems miles better. Just a bit of snot now. DD2 is however looking a bit peaky so probably coming down with something. With three kids I think there is usually at least one poorley most weeks.

Chunky ds started sleeping 11 to about 6/7 last week. If it helps in the run up to sleeping through he went backwards for about 5 nights waking at 2/3 then 5/6 and this is the baby we could pretty much set out clock by!!

Then all of a sudden he did 3am, 4am, 5am, 6am then 7am consecutively and started sleeping through. Was really odd?!

My horse got attacked by a dog out hacking this morning. Bloody thing. Thankfully we were all ok.

They've had to increase her oxygen again this lunchtime :(

The Dr is now saying she doesn't think she will be home before the end of the week.

:(

Haven't had time to post much but wanted to say how sorry I am pr. Having kids in hospital is crap and it is so upsetting when things seem to be going the wrong way. It must be horrible not being able to go in to see her. Big hugs and healing vibes to you both.

Mm1 - great news on those hips - hurrah!

Happy new year everyone! I hope 2013 is kind to us all, and our families. It's amazing to think how different all our little ones will be by the end of it. Hard to imagine! Here's to us all having fun getting there...

Thanks horsey glad you're all ok.

PR hugs.

Pr - hugs. She's in the best place x

That must have been scary Horsey. It happened to me once years ago.. I don't know how I stayed on, was very frightening. I was always nervous hacking as it was.

PR sorry you are having such a horrid time. I hope your DD gets better soon.

Chunky, DT1 sleeping through happened so suddenly. She was waking around 4am for a feed for weeks then one morning, she didn't! And hasn't since! I was very confused that morning. I couldn't remember which baby I had fed at 4am and I was bumbling around the bedroom in a mad daze! Luckily I took the advice of other twin mums and kept a chart for each baby from the time I fed one baby twice and the other didn't get milk for over 8 hours