November 2012 - sleepless nights aplenty

[StuntNun]

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LO has dry skin on her face and little spots too. Very gentle moisturising cream for babies helps but it will go on its own. The skin will need protection if the weather turns very cold though.

MM i assume you do dry suit diving then?
I haven't done any of that yet.

I got my first level qualification in the Med. Sounds glam but it was March and the water was 12 degrees, in a wet suit, and had to descend through clouds of jellyfish. Ugh. And I failed the first attempt and had to back a year later

Just gave LO a bath n when taking off his vest I must have knocked his BCG jab scar and it start bleeding. Other then clean n out plaster on it, is there anything else I should do?

PR

Tomorrow I have DD and DS on my own all day and all evening. DH working extra as is NYE. All day is fine, can just about manage that, although have to get both of them to hospital for DD's follow up. But DS likes to graze all evening and DD is hard work being put to bed - she only wants DH and fights sleep. Anticipate I will be seeing the new year in with both of them in bed with me, and all the leftover goodies that the house must be purged of before dieting starts in earnest!

DD1's oxygen reduced a little more, and she's eaten more tonight. I recorded a little video message and she smiled. Hadn't smiled for days.

I am having a glass of wine.

PR that is good x x x

LO no change. Eating well and no fever, bit going to get her checked over anyway tomorrow.

Fingers crossed it stays that way. How are you today?

PR fingers crossed things have turned a corner.

I am ok. Weak but happy to have seen DH briefly. Wouldn't have been up to driving far today.

Hope things turn a corner PR. hugs for you.

Well I've been pretty down, nothing compared to what most of you have been through. It all got too much over Christmas, the lack of freedom after the section, still bleeding after 5 weeks and mastitis in both boobs with the knackeredness I broke down. I had tried to do all of Xmas and look after the baby and be everywhere doing everything for everyone.

Also got in a state about feeding. He will not breastfeed despite trying everything for longer than 2 minutes with shields after the tongue tie, nipple issues, jaw issues and sucking issues. So I'm expressing all his feeds,but the mastitis has hopefully only temporarily reduced my supply. I ended up pumping for 30/40 mins a side just to get a feed. Was killing me and making me resent it and it hurt a lot. So made a decision overnight to go back to double pumping every 3 hours for just 15 mins and whatever I get will be topped up from frozen supply for now and if necessary formula. I am hoping supply will slowly come back now but worst case he gets an ounce of formula a feed ( I get 4 pumping) and he and I get some sense f our lives back as I couldn't pump for 1.5 hours every 3 hours without having to get someone to hold him or him ending up crying and me crying.

No idea if I'm doing the right thing but I just didn't know what else to do :(

GT my DS1 kept knocking the scab off his BCG. I just left it alone and it has healed up now.

Pass I am 36 now and my mum had early menopause at 42 so my fertility will be on the wane. It took two years including one miscarriage to conceive this time. So as well as my biological clock ticking, I have a very real clock ticking down the time to have a fourth child. Ideally I would like to either decide I'm happy with the three of them OR have another and get my tubes tied at the same time like VQ (I have been told a CS is mandatory next time). It really just comes down to whether I could manage two small babies (as well as two big babies not to mention DH). I don't know how people cope with two sets of nappies etc. as the gaps between my three are four years and six years. My reason for wanting another one is because there's such a big gap between DS2 and DS3, they won't have that much in common so J will always be the baby. Other people I know that were the baby of their family don't seem to like it much. DH's family have two close in age then a six-year gap then another two close in age which seems to work well for them. They're one big family but the two pairs have a different relationship with each other than with the other siblings (if that makes sense),

Resigned to spending new year's eve on my own with LO. But really trying to be positive she'll be home fof Wednesday evening.

X-posted Pikz you are absolutely doing the right thing. Your baby needs food, you are providing it. End of story. The worst thing you can do right now is stress out as that will only impact your supply. Good luck with all the pumping and

pikz I bled 6w post section but at six weeks I suddenly started to feel better. Then AF arrived. If you read back through the threads you will see a lot of us had feeding stress. Please do what is best for you. Bfing is ideal of course but if you are in a position where you resent it mix feeding is fine, or formula feeding. Whatever works. Sanity is important too.

I'd just like to say I'm sorry for hijacking the thread with my problems. And thank you so much to you all for your support, it really is appreciated.

You're not hijacking PR, we can all come on here with our problems or our joys, baby-related or not. There are a lot of religious people on this thread as well, even if they are low key about it, it means your LOs are in their prayers as well.

Thank you. I've cried so many tears I just had to make a decision. I don't know what I'd do without you all sometimes.

PR think of the new year snuggles and hopefully the start of a better year for you.

Stunt, sounds to me like you want another ;)

Pikz, our children will give us many reasons to cry over the years. Choosing between two perfectly adequate ways of feeding them doesn't need to be one of them. It is, unfortunately, one of them, but shouldn't have to be.

Stunt, thank you. I'm not religious but do appreciate prayers. All part of the positivity I need right now :)

Just need to vent
LO has cried practically all day. I've tried everything, food, nappy, to hot, to cold, a car ride. When he is in the arms of someone else, he goes to sleep. Every time I have him, cries to high heaven.

What is the matter with me?
Evil

Evil are you breast or bottle feeding?

Bottle. DP tryed and failed. His answer, his mum wll sort it. Gr......

Was going to say I often find its because I smell of milk. It's not you...it's just one of those days. Rant away and be nice to yourself.

I'm no good at advice being a first timer... But fee free to rant and here's a hug.

MM that is seriously fffing unreasonable - does he not want to spend NYE with his child and her mother?

PR awwww glad to hear that a Mummy-gram is making her smile. Lots of love to you all.

We got domperidone from the OOH docs - which incidentally is a great way of guaranteeing your LO sleeps like an angel (so you look like a total fraud when describing them as miserable and in agony) but all its doing is making him shit and shit. Off to the doc tomo for omperazole. Can't do gaviscon feasibly and BF. :(

DP answer to everything is his mother. I get so sick of it.