November 2012 - all the babies have arrived

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Chunky. I am trying to get my toddler to watch TV. Seriously. Let yours watch it.

MM. We have a VW Tiguan. Could be a compromise. Great family car but can be 4WD too. Should be coming up with good prices second hand now as it's been around a few years. We're on our second. First was ours then DH was promoted and asked for same as company car. I drive a Toyota Yaris and love it. Have two car seats in it no problem.

God I feel crap and ridiculous and useless!

M has been asleep on me for over half an hour but as soon as I put her down she wakes up and moans and grunts and cries. DHs breathing/snoring is doing my fricking head in. My leg is really hurting. And all I want to is sleep.
I'm fucking shattered and feel shit but everything's down to me to do.
I just want to kick DH and cry. In fact I am crying.

Going to have to book a doctors appointment for my leg, am tempted to amputate it at the moment

Oh god his snoring's getting louder

Sounds shite fatima.

I am trying to get a slightly fractious p to sleep and every fricking time she closes her eyes I cough. Infuriating

Fatima just kick him with none sore leg and wake him!

We had one of 'those' nights the other night. The unputdownable as I call it...

I've put a few pics on facebook this evening! DS played the ugly stepsister in his schools panto tonight! He was amazing! He is a real dancer/actor type... just fabulous. No lessons or coaching, just natural talent! I'm hoping he will use it in the future! He ran on to stage in a pink tutu, animal print blouse, my pink sparkly converse, a face full of make up, and a green wig, to 'Here come the girls'. He played his part very well! Even danced to Gangam style in full costume!

After such a lovely time watching him, I am now rather annoyed at my selfish ex, DS1's father. He told me he had a rash, thought it was an allergic reaction. He was supposed to take DS home tonight after the panto, but said he needed to go the walk in centre to get it looked at so couldn't. I said I'd rather he got a diagnosis before having DS anyway, in case it is contagious, especially with having such a young baby at home. He still attended the panto, but stayed away from people. Until the end, when he took DS off to explain... despite the fact I'd asked him not to just in case. Anyway, turns out he has scabies. Except he thinks he hasn't. Even though the walk in centre said it is, and gave him treatment - he knows better. So now he is saying he wants DS tomorrow, and DS wants to go - but I don't want him to. Not until he has washed all bedding, towels etc. Last thing I need right now... really! Oh, and DS subsequently told me that his Dad hugged and kissed him. And of course DS had held/kissed/cuddled Oscar before telling me. RAAAAAAH. Selfish bloody ex knobber.

I have bought DP a present from Oscar for Christmas. A pair of Oscar the Grouch socks .

Don't worry about the dummy! I didn't want Oscar to have a dummy either. But you know what, sometimes it comes as a god send. He doesn't need it for every sleep/waking moment! He usually has it when we are out, or if he is really unsettled going to sleep - which isn't that much. DS1 had his all the frickin' time, was never out his mouth! I still managed to get him to give it up before his 2nd birthday though, despite me thinking it would never happen, and him stashing them all over the house, sabotaging every attempt I made at removing them all. Little git!!

What I am saying is, all babies are different. Some babies like them, some don't. Some babies like them a bit, some a lot! If it works for you, it works!

If he is hungry though, god help you if you try and pacify him for the few minutes it takes to get ready for the feed... the dummy is the work of the devil then!

He's woken up as M cried so he knows I'm fed up and in pain. He's now back asleep but breathing quite quietly for him.
M is now dozing on me again, she seems to sleep ok til some wind comes and then she squirms and groans and contorts herself until she burps.

I'm feeling a bit calmer. I'm trying my best not to let my anxiety creep back I but when you're sat in the dark shattered and in pain it's hard to not over react and start thinking its something bad.

Just make yourself an appt for tomorrow, for your piece of mind :)

And in the meanwhile, relax!

Going to have to wake my little pest number 2 in a minute. I want to go to bed. He hasn't woken as expected for a feed. Has been 4 hours. Grrr. I hate waking him, but I know he will wake as soon as my head hits the pillow!

We had that earlier. I was at my sisters and knew M would need a feed but could we wake her? She was sparko! Then as soon as we put her coat on so I could pick DH up from work she woke up looking for boob. She had to wait another 40 mins until we got home then but luckily she fell back asleep.

Going to book an appointment tomorrow.

God my DH sleeps in some strange positions!

Fatima and GT thinking of you both.

Fatima I often end up sobbing my way through the night feeds/grizzle fests. Darknes makes everything feel ten times worse and like this will never end.

GT Am really hoping that you have some decent RL support and are managing to talk to someone about how you are feeling.

Agree with Detective re dummies. Was adamant I wouldn't have one. We now have one. Only used now and then but a god send when needed.

Nice day here. Went for lovely walk with Oscar & feeling a bit more confident being out anf about with him. He has slept on me for much of the evening but is now being quite grizzly/clingy after a good couple of nights. Not settling in his basket well at all which is unlike him. 'This too shall pass' is my current mantra.

Starting to get a teeny bit worried about the prospect of PND. I suffered with depression very recently so am 'high risk' I guess. Been feeling more and more low recently - was feeling happy despite the exhaustion previously. Think OH issues are the main factor.

Am also over analysing my feelings for Oscar. I felt the lioness kind of protective love during the first week or so but that feeling seems to have died down now. I am sure I must love him and I rarely get frustrated at him when he cries etc but the 'loved - upness' seems to be fading. Normal? I'm not sure.

I am trying to make sure I get outside as much as possible as that helps my mood but that can be hard with the weather and my lack of confidence in taking O out alone. Am also worried about feeling even more isolated when OH is back at work next week. Our main visitors are his family but they arent likely to visit when OH isn't around.

Please feel free not to read my self indulgent nonsense! Just helps to write this all down.

Aww sweetpea

For me I think I can relate. I felt guilty that I didn't feel that gush of love ppl always talk about. Like u I thought I love her and mostly patient with her ( bar only a couple times) but want feeling what I feel the unconditional love u hear so much about .
She is now nearly 6 weeks I think day by day I love her a little more. For me the love and bond is building up gradually . We are all different and love in different ways.

Is there any RL support u can get ? Or baby groups u can go to? A chance to meet other mums with newborns ?

Ahh typing with one hand whilst feeding in the dark causes lots of mistakes!

Wasn't feeling the unconditional *

Thanks Candy I have good medical support if I need it which is good. Not s huge amount.of RL support but will try to pluck up the courage to attend baby groups after Christmas.

O is so unsettled tonight. Currently wriggling about on my shoulder. So tired am considering letting him sleep there rather than endure another moses basket transfer fail.

Well know that ur not alone! Just fed LO and se is wide awake! :)

Baby Oscar waves at miniCandy!

Minicandy coos back !

Hmm Moses basket transfer just failed :(

sweetpea spk to your dr or hv about your pond concerns sooner rather than later - it's better to get help/medication now before you nose dive and pnd takes a grip - pls don't over think the bonding/love thing - the more you analyse it the more you will tie yourself up in knots with it.

Lol @ the car talk - with 5 kids here every other weekend we need a minibus lol - I have a Kia carens and love it, it's big enough for the 5 of us, dog and bugaboo!!

Does anyone else's LO's trumps stink to high heaven?? Dottie does a poo once every 2/3 days but she trumps day and night and my gosh does she pong!!!

Think I have sciatica - get terrible achy pains down the backs of my thighs when sitting/walking - cocodomol helps but don't want to be taking that every day!!

Anyone have the contraceptive implant?? Am weirded out over having a matchstick in my underarm but the idea of not worrying about contraception for 3 years is v appealing - do you get it done at the drs??

Right dots has feed and is asleep so gonna try and put her back

Pretty certain mini old is grinning at me from Moses basket like ha I'm still awake. Am trying to ignore.

Hi all, sweetpea, hugs...hope you are ok and get some RL support....getting out every day helped me when ds1 was small.

In news here...Arlo just slept from 10.30 till 3.30.....whoo hoo! Feel like a new woman!

I registered him today, did a mad trolley dash at the supermarket and sorted some presents out...LO was as good as gold, slept through it all. Got home, had a ginormous feed and then had the biggest poo I have ever seen. It even went up the arms of his vest. 2 nappy bags were needed to contain it all!

He has been seriously settled since.

In other news, despite EBF round the clock, with no top ups or anything, I got my period. FFS, LO is only 5 weeks and lochia only stopped 2weeks ago. Grr.

Anyway, I have my best friends wedding to go to on Saturday so at least the worst will be over! I am a witness and also making the cakes (100) mini sandwich cakes, 3 varieties of flavour....

Just when you thought it was safe to do the Moses basket transfer.... The ix week growth spurt!

Lol glenda at pond concern. sorry. Know it is a serious matter I will go and stand in the corridor. Also have done some contraceptive research as I want no more DCs now and I was put off by some of the cons, I think one of the side effects was potentially bleeding inbetween periods, which would drive me nuts and have had that before with one of the pills. Any presumably you are stuck with it at leat for a while if it is rubbish.

It's like Teddy is on a little timer, an alarm clock which goes off every two hours...