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November 2012 - all the babies have arrived

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StuntNun · 12/12/2012 23:16

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1629938-November-2012-come-on-stragglers-were-waiting-for-you

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TheDetective · 15/12/2012 22:34

We get 1 or 2 periods of awake and alertness - usually one. 1-2 hours each time. He wakes 3 hourly for feeds, and is very good at settling after now. Feeding, changing and settling takes an hour.

Had a lovely day. Got a lie in this morning, then we manged to get ready and out the house in under 2 hours which is really record time for us! It helped that I told DP he could not go on the computer - even if he thought he had time, I had things he could fill it with!

So we spent all afternoon in town, Oscar fed at 1030, but threw most of the feed back, and had only taken 2oz. So as he was still asleep at 3.30 we found the M&S cafe in town, which had baby changing facilities, got some hot chocolates, and woke him for a feed. He must have been too well wrapped up, as he was boiling. Lesson learnt! His snow suit is only thin too! Took that off him, and just left him with hat and blanket on in the end. He fed 3oz then went straight back to sleep! He didn't wake again til we got home at 8! Then he fed loads, and had his awake time, playing on his play mat, batting the toys. He has better hand/eye coordination than me . We got some lovely smiles from him too! He really is so contented. I feel blessed - DS1 was NOTHING like this!

I bought a load of clothes - which I have to try on yet, as I really couldn't be arsed doing it when out! I just got my normal size, but stuff which will not cling to the flabby bits .

Majority of christmas shopping now done. Going to get wrapping tomorrow!

I feel all happy and contented. Loving weekends while DP is off. Sadly it is the last one. He is back in work Friday. :(

Hope everyone else had a nice day too. Especially Tits, good news about the tube! Poor little mite. And poor mummy too. :)

sweetpea1112 · 15/12/2012 22:36

That sounds strange mummytobe Do you think his mum said anything to him about his parenting skills when she visited? Or maybe he is getting overwhelmed by the whole thing? Either way, it is hard on you. I don't think OHs realise the impact childbirth and early motherhood has on us - recovering from the birth, crazy hormones & lack of sleep. They only experience a very small part of it really.

sweetpea1112 · 15/12/2012 22:43

Detective that sounds lovely. I love Oscar's alert moments. He seems to smile but I am sure it is just wind. Although my son is obviously the cleverest, bestest baby in the world ever, I am not sure he is advanced enough at 17 days old to be properly smiling just yet

mummytobe1990 · 15/12/2012 22:43

i wish i knew sweetpea i really do but if i ask him he just shrugs his shoulders and clams up. but all i can think of is that his mum sed something whilst i wasnt around just wish i knew how to help him, the more i try and get him to engage with her the more he seems to push her away. i see the way he looks at her and i know he wants to hold her etc but its allmost like hes so uncomfortable/fearful that he cant bear to go near her

sweetpea1112 · 15/12/2012 22:46

Hopefully all he needs is time to build his confidence again. Parenthood is such a steep learning curve and you learn new things each day - hopefully by just watching you with baby he will pick it up again?

sweetpea1112 · 15/12/2012 22:46

Either that or he just needs a big kick up the backside

mummytobe1990 · 15/12/2012 22:54

hahaha hopefully it is just a case of bein patient but i certainly wont tolerate it for long....it takes 2 to make a baby....its not rite to feel like a single parent when im bloody married!

pikz · 15/12/2012 22:58

Anyone else had enough of sanitary towels and breast pads? This evening I just want to take them all off...so sick of them after over 3 weeks..

NervousAt20 · 15/12/2012 22:58

sweet I'm sure your doing a great job so many people say that a mothers instinct is the strongest so stick with it and trust yourself

garden I'm very of your sleep

mm could his DM have critised him and his he does things which had mfr him now want to do anything so he doesn't do it wrong?

Really struggling with feeding here too, I don't know how much longer I cando these cluster feeds

gardenpixies32 · 15/12/2012 23:00

Nervous, it is not the norm, don't be . I will probably be doomed now and never sleep again.

You are doing well with the BF, keep it up!

gardenpixies32 · 15/12/2012 23:02

Oh and as for my sister visiting, she lives 130 miles away in London and visits every couple of months. I have no other family here, the nearest are 2000 miles away! It is literally me and DP!

MissMummy1 · 15/12/2012 23:04

I have the opposite mummy - my OH totally takes over where dd is concerned and makes me feel like the crappest mum in the world, like I can't do anything right myself (sorry baby brain cant remember who else had this complaint, was it you sweetpea ?) I know it won't last - he goes back offshore in January so I'll get my interference-free mummy + Matilda time then. I'm really struggling to remember why I even like the bastard twunt today, let alone love him. I think our relationship only works because he's at sea most of the time . I feel awful even saying that, today's the first day I've felt this way about him. I'm ridiculously overtired. Explains a lot...

Dd has started giggling in her sleep. I know it's just a reflex but it is ridiculously cute! (if somewhat disturbing lol). My sister has taught my dog to be a meerkat in the time since we last had him here - photo on fb for those needing a giggle!

blonderthanred · 15/12/2012 23:16

VQ you've had a rough ride with J's illness but hopefully once all that mucous has come up it will be back to being a normal amount of difficult rather than the current state. You are doing a great job so just ride this bit out if you can and vent on here. Hope you are getting some support from your DH.

I have had a very fussy boy tonight, screaming at the breast for no apparent reason - I suspect overtired. He's finally fallen asleep in my arms and I'm not even going to attempt transfer for a while! Currently trying to stifle a sneeze that threatens to disturb the peace...

applepieinthesky · 16/12/2012 00:23

MM1 My OH is the same. He does so much that I sometimes feel sidelined. I suppose I should be grateful that he's so hands-on because I know a lot of men are not.

I want to sleep and DS is sitting wide eyed on my lap, gurgling away I'm sitting downstairs with him. Persuaded DP to go to bed as he has to be up early for work.

TheDetective · 16/12/2012 01:38

I sense a theme here! Us women are never satisfied lol! They either don't do enough, or take over!

I'd feel sorry for them... Except, I forgot how to feel that .

I can however say, BLOODY MEN!

Dixiebell · 16/12/2012 03:23

Just to even it out a bit, my DH is a star. He does practically all the changes, including middle of the night, he's cooked nearly every meal since the birth, does all the washing up, the house is tidier than it ever has been, and he does a great job of entertaining ds1. I'm just scared about what will happen when he goes back to work on Monday! Ok, so we did have an incident with rice pudding that was horrendously overcooked mush with no sugar in it , so he's not perfect, but he has been great.

Bryzoan · 16/12/2012 03:48

Dixie - there has to be a business opportunity there for you to start an OH training school. That way he wouldn't have to go back to work.... Though you might have a lot of trainee muppet OHs under your feet all day!

CandyPop · 16/12/2012 04:07

Have a quick question on breast milk supply. So have been told the nighttime feed is important to establish the milk supply for the following day so the feed between 2-5 is very important.

My LO had a feed at 11.30pm , just feed her again at 3.30am which was a 4hr interval ( before anyone gets jealous it took 2 of the 4 hrs to feed as settle her!) . Her normal intervals is 3hrs so the next feed would now be at 6.30am. So I've only managed one feed in the 'must feed' window of opportunity .

Is this ok? Does that mean the breast I haven't fed with would reduce in milk supply?! And I don't understand, if the night feed is important to edtablish ongoing supply then how are we suppose to begin to establish a routine where baby goes longer at night without a fed?!

My LO is 5 weeks now.....

NervousAt20 · 16/12/2012 04:09

Get idea bryzoan where do we sign up dixie?

NervousAt20 · 16/12/2012 04:12

candy I don't think it will matter to much, other bf babies got longer then that sometimes at night , I'm in no way an expert though and I could be weong

priscilla101 · 16/12/2012 04:29

Candy, my LO just did exactly the same....even took two hours to feed at the 11.30 feed. Just gone down now. Not too worried I think at 5 weeeks we can relax a little about the length of time between feeds, esp at night??

How is the jaundice in you LO? Mine still has yellow sclera, but skin looks much better....

ChunkyTurkeywiththetrimmings · 16/12/2012 04:59

Dixie That is all.

Bryzoan

candy similar situation here - 4hrs between feeds (& I did sleep for most of that thankfully!!). Both boobs very full, but used the boob not used recently as you do. DS didn't want any of other boob. Figure its quite clever & trust my body to do what it needs to do. I think as long as you feed when baby wants, don't use a dummy or similar to extend between feeds & aren't using a bottle instead of feeding at night (unless you express instead), the supply matches demand.

Sophiathesnowfairy · 16/12/2012 05:23

6hours sleep in a row

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StuntNun · 16/12/2012 05:41

I wouldn't worry Candy, so long as you're demand feeding it will work out. If your supply starts to drop them baby will feed more often to increase your supply so you would find the 2-5 a.m. feed made a comeback. Once bfing is established then your breasts don't get full like that as your supply has been fine-tuned so that milk is produced as it is needed rather than building up in your breast as it does now goodbye porn star boobs. If you continue bfing for a long time you'll eventually reach the point where you're feeding twice a day, usually morning and evening, since your baby is getting most of their calories from food.

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Dixiebell · 16/12/2012 06:27

I am feeling rather lucky with my DH now!

After a 5 hour stint last night, Teddy is punishing me levelling it out with two-hourly waking tonight. Might go on Amazon and look up teasmaids now...

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