November 2012 - all the babies have arrived

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M is snoozing. DH is now washed and being less of a twat. Chinese en route and fire lit. All is content again in the MM1 household!

Reading sling advice with great interest as keen to order one after Christmas.

Thanks for all the sling advice ladies. Belgrano that is a good point about winter clothing as I mainly want to use mine for walks with O.

Oscar is currently snoozing in his bouncer after being fascinated by the hanging toys for all of 2 minutes. Bless him, must be exhausting sleeping, feeding and being cuddled all day. I love his rare moments of awake time - he loves watching faces and lights and pulls the funniest of faces Can't wait for him to spend more time awake during the day. He is definitely worth all of the sleepless nights (Must remind self of this at 3am...)

Sweetpea how much do you reckon Oscar is awake per day? I think we get 5 hrs max from DD and she's 5 wks old. Seems like not much!

Off to a Yule meal, our first one since N. baby sitter booked. Can't wait.
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tits glad to hear your LO is improving, hopefully he'll be home soon. How are you doing?

Had a really nice day eith my mum Christmas shopping today, LO was absolutly brilliant and slept all day, I got 2 bottles worth of milk out but only used one so I'm going to make DP get up and give it her during a night feed, he can hold her and give a bottle but not wind or do nappy. I don't think out OHs realise how hard it is getting up constantly in the middle of the night and living off tiny amounts of sleep so I've decided tonight he can have a taste of it not that he knows it yet

Christmas is almost done, going to order a couple of DVDs off amazon tonight if LO allows me too and that's me done just need to do some wrapping

Also have a Mei tai sling, have used it with dd and love it and so easy to use and it rolls up and lives on the parcel shelf when not in use.
We're taking ds to the park because he's been cooped up so much recently and am going to use the sling for dd as its alot easier than the buggy.

Belgrano Oscar is 17 days old and we tend to get one 2 hour chunk of awake, alert, calm time per day. The rest of his awake time is when he is feeding or being changed. Really doesn't seem like much at all does it?

Nervous O is ff so DF is doing the whole night shift tonight. Can't wait! Feel a bit guilty though, as if I am abandoning O as I will be sleeping in the other room. A night sleep is very much needed though.

Seriously though, I do not remember it being this tiring with the girls. Is it because he is a boy? Or been ill?

Have just put all four kiddos to bed on my own for the first time as DH is off at a Christmas do which annoyingly started at 5:00. Had to do it at some point I suppose. Apart from a bit of a mad 1/2 hour when I was feeding Olly all went alright.

Did not attempt adding baths into the equation!

Everyone quiet. Showered. Pjamas. dressing gown. Cup of tea. [and breathe emoticon]

Vq - I have been told boys are generally much harder to bf than girls.

One feed at a time. Big hugs.

Dh has not yet done any night feeds, apart from when I was ill.

Sophia that is an epic feat you have just achieved. I am in awe!

The pressure of Christmas doesn't help vq and probably the things that winter babies pick up make it all a bit more stressful. I don't know about you but even thou Olly ha got rid of his cold bis is still rattly and noises when he is going to sleep and feeding.

I've got a Kari me sling and have only used it once so far, as I'm only going out when necessary for school runs rather than for leisurely walks - will use it more when weather gets a bit brighter!!

Dottie has been feeding since 5pm!! Have ordered Chinese as dh has gone to work and D won't let me go for a wee without a tantrum let alone me trying to make anything!!!

I'm still not ready for Xmas :( dh has got thurs off so were hitting lakeside to finish off!!! Fortunately as we've got bugger all family it's only our kids we've got to buy for!!

Here's hoping we all get a good night with our bubs!!

sweet don't feel guilty just enjoy it

LO has just projectile vomited, I seriously have never seen that much. She covered me, herself, the dog and the sofa so now I've bathed her and she's just wee'd all over me < crying emotion > so now I stink of piss and vomit the joys of motherhood hey. After LO has finished feeding and I get her dressed hopfully she'll give me time to clean the dog and sofa before she demands feeding again. She don't normally sleep until around midnight so a bath is along way off for me

Nervous that sounds horrible I had a near - meltdown the other night when I had to change O three times in an hour due to a sick-leaking wee-sick situation.

J'a feeding tube has been removed for good, back on full breastfeeding now.
Just this pesky oxygen to contend with now.

I'm ok, getting slight cabin fever but nothing as terrible as when I'm in here with DS1, talking of which, he has this cold and I'm praying he can deal with it at home with some intense physio otherwise we'll be in here for Christmas.
I can honestly say if I never hear another oxygen meter alarm again it will be too soon!

Someone forgot to tell J that he's not an Owl though, sleeps soundly all day apart from 3 feeds and wakes all night. Problem is he's not quite sure what to do when he's awake and not feeding so he fills the time by yelling and pooping. :D

nervous it is amazing how much they can consume to vomit that much. They must have hollow legs!

Thank you ladies. I will keep going one feed at a time. Shame one feed is lasting days it seems.

I just stripped him off to look at his wonderful fatness. I made him (with a small deposit from DH, and a lot of help from God) and I am sustaining him. That helped.

Off to bed shortly. He must sleep eventually!

Good news tits. Def sounds like a step in the right direction. Hope your DS1 stays well for Christmas.
Sophia good work! How old are your dc's? I have my first night on my own on Tuesday. Dh is playing squash and won't be back at all. Ds1 has a beavers night out and dd1 has gymnastics. Slightly worried it will all go tits up!
I have a moby and a baby Bjorn. I was given te moby but to be honest am finding it hard to get on with. I just don't feel confident that it is secure. I love my baby Bjorn though.
Positive sleep vibes to all. My small girl slept 6 hours unbroken last night. It was fab. vq I def found my boys more demanding on the feeding front than the girls. Was great for weight loss though! X

Doing one handed typing, as can't bear to put my sleeping bambino down!

VQ You can do this! You know you are a stubborn mule, yes?! You are doing a fabulous job! I would keep looking at Oscar and seeing him grow and thrive by me feeding him - it kept me going for a while. It is such a lovely feeling. It is one I miss. The one I miss most tbh.

VQ you are doing a wonderful job. It can be easy to lose perspective but sometimes it just takes a good look at your scrummy baby to remind you why we do this.

To carrt on the topic of OH's being useless - does anyone elses OH make them feel like a bad mother? DF is a natural at this parenting lark - me less so, but he gets really frustrated with me and 'tells me off' when I do things wrong (i.e not his way). Today alone I have been told off for not putting on a nappy securely enough, wrapping O up too warm when taking him for a walk & not 'driving' the pram properly. I feel like as Oscar's mummy I should know what is best for him but DF is really making me feel like a crap mum. I feel like the way he does certain things is wrong - nappies on too tight etc - but he wont even entertain the fact that I might be right and I dont have the confidence to argue my point.

Wishing you all a good night with sleeping babies

An interesting night here last night. DT1 has decided that she no longer wants to sleep in her cot between 7pm-11pm and that hanging out downstairs with the grown ups is far more fun. She stayed awake for 4 hours last night which resulted in her sleeping through the night! She slept solidly from 11:30pm-7:22am! DP fed DT2 so I got a full nights sleep, my second in 11 weeks.

My sister and her DP visited today. They took the girls out from 12pm-5pm. Apart from hanging washing, I slept the whole time! It was great. They should visit more often!

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend :)

grr dont even get me started on OH! DD was born exactly a week ago and for the first couple of days he was great, helping with night feeds, seemed reli confident etc. then on wednesday his mum arrived to stay till friday, she was very helpful - even did the housework for us to give us a break! since she left tho its like hes lost all his confidence! he wont feed her, change her bum, dress her, he doesnt even like to hold her for more than 5 mins and he will only do that because he has to (i.e i need the loo) its so bloody frustrating and i dont understand it.

if she strts crying he comes in and says 'she wants her mummy' but he wont actually bring her out to me-i have to go to her whereas b4 he wud pick her up and cuddle her.

he has started to do more housework but hes only doing it so he doesnt have to look after or hold her, its soo frustrating and upsetting coz he was so gd with her b4 his mum turned up and now he wont go near her unless he has no choice.....just wish i knew y

There is a Spanish saying that translates to something like: listen to the mother, she knows. Sweetpea, try that as a mantra?