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Och Jo! Poor you. I literally feel your pain. Have had good few days here but that sounds like me most of time. Honestly I'm still of the opinion you could have thrush. Is there any redness at all?? For me the first visible symptom was redness both nipple and a rash around areola. Any blockages I've had from mastitis hav been in breast tissue. I hav no knowledge of blockages in that area. God love you. May phone GP again first thing. Or maybe one of helplines.

Oh and the bruised feeling rings very true. Just so tender. Are you sure there are no cracks? Even on the underside which you can't see? That is my worst bit.

Sorry, must go back to sleep.

Hope you get somewhere. X

Ouch Yomping!!! Can't offer any help but I hope you get it sorted. Call to health line?

For those who have the Lamaze Firefly toy, can also really recommend the Lamaze Captain Calamari - DS loves it, grins whenever he sees it! He likes chewing on its legs too. At my Japanese DSIL's suggestion we've renamed it Tako San

Oh yomping you poor thing, I am so sorry you are hacking more problems. It sounds ghastly. I wish I was more knowledgeable and had some advice. Good luck tomorrow getting some advice. Do you like feeding lying down? If you fed like that from your good side at least the baby wouldn't press on your sore nipple.

Squid don't apologise, you made a really good point and have got me thinking about all of that. I didn't mean to sound defensive. Hope you have made up with your boyfriend? Lots of love.

Zara your exercise plan sounds brilliant. I am full of admiration. That is exactly what I need to be doing. I loathe all the pictures of me over Christmas. Once things stop being so mental here I will endeavour to follow your example!

Crazy your post made me laugh. Oh poor you! Both of them screaming is about as bad as it gets! Are you glad to be home?

right - got to go. More later x

Haven't posted for ages, sorry.
Mixed bag of Christmases it seems. Christmas can be such an emotional, stressful time. And I think it's a bit like childbirth - once it's over, we forget how painful it was so we do it all again the next year.

Sorry about your argument with DH Bora, must have been a shit day. Hope you got things sorted and glad to hear you had another attempt at Christmas Day.
Re. sex life, have you thought about counseling? It might sound like a bit much, but like you say, these things build up so maybe better to sort sooner rather than later?

Squid, I feel exactly the same when my MIL holds DS. Inside I'm screaming "he's my son!" I suppose she hasn't done anything wrong, but we are complete opposites and do things completely different, and I'm not sure how that'll work when she's alone with DS. I don't think she respects my views at all.
Hope you've made up with your boyfriend.

Zara, I didn't know you had a Japanese SIL! Has she told you all about parenting a newborn in Japan? Like how they don't really take a baby out and about til it's 3 months old! No wonder I can't find a jacket for DS, he doesn't need one for another month apparently.
I was thinking of buying a Lamaze octopus thing, is it musical like the chime garden?

My Christmas was OK I suppose. I wasn't expecting much really - it's all a bit soulless here.
Christmas Eve was nice, had our big meal, opened presents and were together.
Christmas Day was shit as DH was working, it's just a normal day here, family back home were rubbish with presents/cards/contact, and all friends here went home for the holidays.
Boxing Day was non-existent.
All-in-all, a bit quiet and lonely. Oh well there's always next year.
But I got another great parcel from another great friend today, so I feel much better now.

Oh, and somewhere over the festive period, DS's "routine" went down the pan for no apparent reason. He's really unsettled at night, waking too early in the morning, I'm lucky if he goes 3 hours at a time.
I'm so looking forward to Sunday - since I started expressing, DH and I have agreed to take one weekend morning each, so the other can lie-in. Haven't quite mastered the art of sleeping-in yet, but I'll get there.

cherry no she hasn't told me much! I do know that virtually all Japanese women quit work permanently after having a baby. She also used to FREAK OUT if I went outside while it was even lightly drizzling while pregnant, and forcibly drag me inside. and was amazed I was going to work until 2 weeks before my due date!

The not taking babies outside bit I didn't know - but when she and DBIL visited they let me have the afternoon off to sleep (so grateful) while they looked after him. They took him for a walk in his pram and she wrapped DS up so much in wooly clothes and blankets he could barely move, lol!

And no octopus isn't musical! He's got scrunchy legs and a rattle but that's about it!

Bella, been meaning to say, of course I don't mind you asking about how DH and I met. It's not very exciting though
DH went to high school and uni in the UK, we went to the same uni and were in the same halls. I knew him from the beginning, but we were just friends, hanging out together with mutual friends. He was quite quiet.
At the beginning of our third year one of my best friends (and house-mate at the time) was round his house, they were talking about me and she persuaded him to ask me out and helped him write the text.
I said yes, we had our first date in the local pub followed by a uni event and we've been together ever since! 10 years this month, I think.
He graduated a couple of years after me, then had to go back to Japan to find a job. We did the long distance thing for nearly a year, then I moved to Japan to join him. Still here, 6 years, 2 weddings and a baby later!
How did you and your DH meet? And everyone else?

Zara, yes my MIL has given me so many blankets and towels to wrap him up in, I don't know what to do with them! So nice that they took him out for you though.
The octopus I was thinking of was this...octopus I've just seen it smells of vanilla, now I really want one!

Omg cherry that one is so cute! http://www.lamazetoys.co.uk/lamaze-pg-captain-calamari-toy-552-p.asp This is our Tako San

DH and I met (10 years ago this past August) at a pub quiz at a university bar - friend of a friend of a friend. Our team won the pub quiz. We carried on drinking (and did karaoke). We then went back to my hall and shagged like rabbits. And the rest is history!

I love the fact that at karaoke the night we met, DH sang Rick Astley's Never Gonna Give You Up he rickrolled me before it was a meme...

Argh linking on phone doesn't work, soz

Angelico about? Or anyone else who has had repeated blocked ducts??? My mastitis bout was about a month ago. I still have the lump. It gets bigger and smaller. Not sore or red at all. Tbh I sort of ignored it when the thrush came back....... V stupid.

I'm putting heat pads on before feeds, trying to drink lots and started taking lecithin supplements.

Anything else I should do??? Dr google has frightened life out of me with talk of abscesses, but it doesn't hurt.

Gah!

Aw that one's cute too, Zara. I want them all!
Nice story. I "forgot" the shagging-on-first-date part of my story...

huffle a good massage in a hot bath helped me but if it's getting bigger & smaller doesn't sound like properly blocked - may just be normal? Think if abscess you would be in agony and also hospital...

bella, dp and i met on internet- match.com. totally know how u feel re hating xmas pics - i got all upset last nite from looking in mirror and feeling horrifically fat. diet started last nite and waiting for dp to set up the wii fit for exercizing. tbh,think weight loss will be really hard, but groceries have arrived and 'frig is full of low carb high protein food, so no excuses not to give it my best shot. jo, sorry, no advice re nipple pain. i had something similar in my right boob to what u described b4 when u thought u had thrush, but it seems to have improved. hope u feel better soon. cherry, love your analogy about xmas and labour, u r so right!

beccus, DF and I met on match.com too! We've only been together 2.5 years but were kinda decisive in view of age etc. no shagging on our first date - it was lunch in a pub. and then I went off for another date with a different chap. obviously didnt tell DF that at the time though he was a bit miffed when I told him. can't see why, he won after all.

huffle I have no experience re sore boobs, sorry, but lots of experts on the breastfeeding forum?

I discovered that in addition to dairy and booze and caffeine, curry emphatically does not agree with DD. had it last night and five impressive poos this morning on top of disrupted night
humm. she had better be appreciative one day
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v impressed re exercise. I will think about it when not so tired I cry all the time. even the bloody queen's speech made me blub this morning. sigh.

huffle, make sure you empty your boob and try and keep it empty. pump better than feeding a2d you can be sure it's empty. hard massage.

That's some great advertising for Match.com!

Livvy, I've shed a few tears over Christmas, too. I am not a cryer - another thing that has changed with motherhood.
Hope you get some sleep soon.

More boob problems, Huffle? You poor thing

huffle sounds like you are doing all the right things re lump. You also have a big baby don't you? I was advised that I should move midge down when feeding as he is very long. So if laying down move him towards my feet more and if cradle hold move him more towards the opposite boob as you can get sore nipples otherwise. Hot Showering and massaging at the same time also very good. I find baby much more effective at emptying than pump - more efficient. Also feeding in different positions and although you feel a right tit excuse the pun lay baby flat and Feed from the lumpy boob directly Above whilst massaging lump - very effective at draining. Poor you, get better soon.

Hey peeps! Thanks for advice. Odd that it is not sore! Would be bit frightened by painless lump only that it is where pain radiated from with mastitis.

I shall take all on board. Pumping does not work well for me on that side at best of times for some bizarre reason. Awaiting delivery of my new Lactaline pump and sincerely hoping it is better.

I will try the overhead feeding thanks Midget! Oh I can hear DH laughing already. He has taken to calling me Ermentrude (spelling?) and I might actually kill him. Ermentrude indeed.

Oh and the match.com stats on ads must be right!!! That is great!!

Thank you, feels better today so maybe just the amount side of lots of feeds from little girl who has been unsettled and only sleeping for 2hours at a time and hence feeding more.

Had a lactation consultant who is also a tongue tie specialist visit today and diagnose a posterior tongue tie (which I had pretty much diagnosed myself already). She cut it (mini yomping swaddled and held down on changing mat on kitchen table by DH. Big Yomping outside front door in tears so as not to hear screams...). mini yomping fed afterwards (bit of a bloody affair, not nice...) then slept but when she woke could not be consoled and would not feed. First time she has ever rejected a feed and it really affected me, I'm scared she will associate feeding with pain and start to refuse

Sigh. Mine is definitely teething. Sigh sigh sigh. Poor thing. Actually gagged trying to chew on her wee fist!

Spoke to DH about the sex issue earlier. He agrees that we should just do it. Relieved as I think a part of me was worried he didn't fancy me anymore stupid midwife telling him to look as DD made her entrance to the world

Hi all. Not been on for ages(well a week) and not caught up yet but hope everyone is doing ok and survived Xmas festivities / families and any disruption to beans.

Just back from Xmas sale shopping - what a horror. Definitely best to stick with online.

Also met up with good friend over from Oz, met up without children! Think that is longest I have been away from them both and I have to say it was bliss! Being able to go where and when you want, even if hoards of people, even went for a coffee on my own afterwards and just enjoyed the luxury of my own company after the business of Xmas and constant demands of 2 kids.

Who knew a vestige of solitude could be so great.

Loving the match.com success stories, especially londonlivvys about going on a date with another man just after! Great story to tell DCs

Cherry OMG I can't imagine having to stay inside for 3 months after having a baby... would have gone insane after a week (and only that long cos I couldn't walk more than 5m!) I've heard of staying in for 40 days in some cultures but 3 months is crazy! And you are so right about the christmas being like labour thing Has DS settled back down again yet? Mini-smiles did the same thing from 10-12 weeks and turned into total velcro baby 9even worse than usual), just settled back down again 3 days ago. There's a wonder week and a growth spurt around this time so I blamed both of those.

Yomping that cutting the tongue tie thing sounds terrible! There's no way I could have watched either and total for the not wanting to feed after nap. That must be so distressing, has she got over it yet and back feeding? Mini-smiles has reflux and when she started rejecting feeds (this from a baby who normally feeds every 1.5 hrs or screams the house down) I was so upset, so totally sympathise. I was also worried that she might associate feeding with pain, but it didn't seem to stop her a bit later on, so hopefully will be the same for you.

Bora there was no way my DH was going to look down there as DD was born, or even walk round that way while I was getting stitched up, and he's a farmer and has seen many pretty Yuck things, so to your MW for making him look! It's great that you talked to your DH about it though so hopefully things will be on the mend.