November 2012 - the birthplosion (thanks Peaky)

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Awww thanks VQ that's what DH said too but I'm feeling like I've been cemented to the couch.... need to move a bit more! I can see the appeal of bottles for getting more of your life back / sharing some of the baby filling. But I'm not going to drop BF.... even if mates with FF babies are gloating about them sleeping through the night at like a month old!

I got sore and itchy from normal pads so switched back to the mattresses maternity ones... I've never had a problem before with them, tis bizarre.

I also have 1 unpumpable breast, I cannot get anything from it at all. J seems to manage fine.

The milk is in, as are the hormones . I'm feeling really pissed off with DP. Can't be arsed whinging about everything but needless to say he needs to pull his finger out his arse and get a better attitude. And asking me if I'm taking DS to school tomorrow... is he for real? I can't walk without wincing. I can't sit without pain. I haven't even managed to shower and wash my hair since he arrived. I feel like a bag of shite. He knows this. I was supposed to go to my mums for dinner today, but had to decline because I'm not up to leaving the house at all yet.

So who in their right mind would even ask? I'd be out driving for up to an hour because of the traffic! The baby is still cluster feeding at 8am FFS! I feel like slapping him sometimes! But it's okay, because he can just give him a bottle because he settles much better then. And he likes it so much more. ARGHHHH.

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Any name yet for your your gorgeous wee boy detective?

Yes. We need to know his name.

sophia it's a bit better now, dh confirmed it didn't look as swollen. I'm going to sit in a warm bath with lots of salt added!
I don't think it's the normal pads because they've been fine today.

No name still! e didn't suit Elijah at all! I wanted to sit down with DP this afternoon and come up with one, but he has been playing games on the xbox while I'm sat here feeding and seething a lot. I'm going to come up with a name on my own! Tonight!

Oh and did I mention I've re hung all the washing that he just threw over the airer in the hope I wouldn't notice and scrubbed the kitchen from top to bottom, done all the dishes, bleached the poo covered clothes, tidied up and organised things to be a little easier for everyone...

I even managed to put the flowers that have been here since Friday in a vase.

All with my arse feeling like the world has fallen out. :(

Good job the mummy hormones are in full flow, distracting me from the above! He is worth every second... I don't remember feeling this way for some time with DS due to his traumatic birth. It's such a lovely feeling having it there straight away this time! :)

So DH is on his way to Japan for the week. I have no idea how I'm going to cope with all the nappy changes and feeds tonight by myself. I don't know how he can bear to leave a 10-day-old baby. He took a lot of photos with him on his phone. His work are scum.

I feel for you stunt that is rotten. You will manage, just do not try to be superwoman. Concentrate on looking after yourself, and prioritise and ask for help if needed too. How is your wound feeling now?

I'm the same tits I can't get anything out of my left breast when I pump yet E seems to prefer feeding from that one so she must get milk from it.

yw my DD1 slept through from about 6 weeks and was fully breast fed so it does happen. Don't think it will happen to me this time round though but at the moment I'm not finding the nights a struggle. She's only 16 days old though so may feel different in a couple of weeks once it all mounts up.

I'm desperate for a night or 2 out round Xmas & new year so as from next week I'm going on a mission to build up a good supply of ebm so DH can look after her. I took DD1 to the park today and left DD2 with DH as I'd just fed her but she grizzled the whole time we were out. Poor thing! I wasn't much longer than an hour but shd wanted feeding again so am settling myself in for cluster feeding this evening. Luckily I've got strictly to keep mr entertained, I love that show.

Woo that's encouraging Eliza!

On the uneven boobs - I met a lady at our BFing group who had had a devil of a time BFing initially but who for the last 9 months has been feeding from one boob only. Her son was thriving on it.

YW And conversely I know of Mums who have complained that their ff babies haven't gone more than 2hrs between feeds for months. DD started going all night (about 12hrs) at about 4mths, after only having 1 feed during the night for quite a while. I introduced a dream feed at my bed time once she'd gone all night once, to make sure she lasted without any further feeds. What I'm trying to say is formula isn't necessarily the answer to a full night's sleep. Think of how, once baby settles into more of routine, you won't have to wash/sterilise bottles or make up formula for the night feeds, or when out etc, and sticking through the really tough all-night-feedathons seems worth it!!!

Oh and Tits my right boob leaks prolifically whereas my left doesn't often... Aaron seems satisfied by both, so I don't worry too much. Think its like everything else, we're not symmetrical.

detective I feel for you re the Xbox, I have the same issue. He asks to play it but then I feel bad if I say no!
He's not happy unless he's watching tv/ on the Xbox or on his phone. He can't just sit and talk or play with ds. Obv don't expect it all day long because I too am guilty of sitting on my phone alot but then I have to feed dd!

Anyway I'm waffling, he's back at work tomorrow and ill miss the daytime nap.

Mine is the right boob too! J has always preferred the left and I can easily pump 2 oz out of it but the right won't give any yet leaks like a champ straight through pads.
J will go on it but fusses a lot more, I assumed it was the nipple being an odd shape or something.. Tbh as long as he gets the milk out I've given up caring

Done lots of Xmas shopping today, am shattered, I'm going to hazard a guess that sleeping won't be happening though

Thanks chunky I know it'll be worth it and only in the middle of the night during a growth spurt, after feeding every second hour do I occasionally think formula feeding palming him off on dh must be easier. Am not quitting until this boy is at least one (fingers crossed).

Odd but when yours have a growth spurt - can you sort of tell when it's over? I'm probably tempting fate but J is snoozing next to me and it really feels like the calm after the storm and that he's smug that he's accomplished his mission of upping my milk production this weekend to meet his growing needs.

DD1 slept through from 6 weeks, DD2 from 7. Both exclusively breastfed. Once established, it is so easy and convenient. My left boob gave up at about 8 months and I fed DD2 for another 10 months with the right one only. DD1 I fed until about 8 months, and I hated making up formula. DD2 never had any, and took her a long time to like cows milk. Lots of frais went into that little tummy.

Time will tell how this one will sleep. So far he is very different, and we are in agreement to co-sleep for the time being. Have spent the day researching how to do it as safely as possible.

YW they tend to sleep a bit more I find. After a growth spurt that is.

Yw def sleep more after a growth spurt!!! Ds had his feeding session thursday Friday and slept loads yesterday!! Went out for lunch and he slept through that and wouldn't eat much of his lunch!!

What do you class as sleeping through?

Am shattered, feel full of cold :( had a huge panic attack earlier :( dh stayed in with me rather than going out :( feel very guilty :(

Can I ask what people mean by "sleep through"? DD didn't sleep through for months, but I am referring to 7pm until 7am with no dream feeds. She consistently managed 11pm dream feed to around 6am at around 10 weeks I think.

Whichever boob I am not feeding from leaks really badly when I am feeding - today several times I soaked through the 2 pads in each bra, the bra and the top.

We are finally home from our visit to the midlands. The flooding is bad here. We are in a flood plain but the river has not burst its banks, although is perilously close to doing so and local feeling is that we are due the 1 in 100 years flood. Must check the house insurance. But for now am thrilled to be home. DD hasn't let DH out of her sight since we got home. Bless.

DPs operation went well thankfully he hurt his hand alot more then we thought and has both hands in plaster and will for 6 weeks. He can't do anything for himself, not get dressed, make a drink, bath, use his phone and he won't be able to do anything with the baby either it's going to be a hard few weeks but I just want him home. My mums here tonight and I've had less then 4 hours sleep since Thursday night so if LO gas a bad night I'm really considering letting my mum do a night feed with some formula

I'm going to have 2 babies

I consider a 7 hour stretch from late evening to early morning to be sleeping through the first 6 months. Dd1 was great. Hoping this one will be as good.

Yeah I would class 10/11ish to 6-7 ish as sleeping through. Stopping the early hours feed!! Then well try putting down at 7pm (though I do enjoy cuddles!!)

Madame - dislike the flooding :( were bad here (east mids) but nothing like the south west!! The ground is literally saturated the streams and rivers are stupidly high as well :( I was shocked this morning when i rode how high everything was!! Saying that it was stupidly high all summer. The banks burst round our fields Thursday then last night again :(

Sorry to everyone who's dh are being painful :(

nervous how awful for your DP. Have you much RL support? Will your mum be able to help out regularly?