December 2011- <Haddocks> are in the deep freeze as we won't be needing them, no, siree! Grab a <cuppa>.......

[Aethelfleda]

Shiny new thread: we forgot to discuss the title this time!

Sorry to hear about you and Dh jiggle i know people say thr first year is the hardest it might get better!!

Really aethel? I thought it'd just be even worse with more dependents. When I think of how our relationship has struggled, it makes me shudder to think of all those people who have kids to try and fix relationships!! (Do men "get it" when there's more than one?)
I got some cuddles this morning and overnight, finally! aw! It was really sweet. he sleeps in the open sided Stokke right next to me - it opens onto our bed - and he woke up as I was settling into bed, and he gave me the sweetest happiest little sleepy smile.
Butthis morning when i tried to leave him at nursery he was not happy!! Boo hoo! neither was I! I can hold out til 1. :)

Oh dear. Sorry to hear about GP LMF, how frustrating :( and sorry to hear about your issues with your husband jiggle :(
Hope some of the viewers like your house aethel and make an offer! We are going to view a house on Saturday but haven't even put ours on the market yet ad still needs some jobs to be done. Need to get a move on!

I'm wrecked, was up until 1am writing a research proposal, then ninimopsy decided to wake up at 5.30 roaring and wNting to be held. Wouldn't even come into the bed with me. Luckily my husband took her at 6.30 and let me sleep until 8, thank goodness! How did we Coe on 3 hours sleep or whatever it was at the beginning. gee and is it harriers? anyway those of you coping on little sleep, hats off. Minim has been terrible the past month, waking lots, but she tends to sleep well from 7-1 nearly always so if I can get to bed by 9 or 9.30 I seem to be fine. Bed at 1am does not work! I've a really bad headache now as a result - it's teetering on the edge of bearable, so fingers crossed it doesn't tip over into migraine territory. The research application is due Monday though and j need feedback on the proposal so it was a necessary evil.

hawthers I mean!
'cope' not 'coe'
Gah!

I think you kind of get used to it; both the no sleep and the full nights sleep.

Blissfully, f slept until 5.45, wibbled and then dropped back off to sleep until 6.45. Please can I have another one if those tomorrow? Who would have thought I'd be ever hoping for a 6.45 sleep in?

DH being an arse over here too. Sorry to hear yours is bad jiggle my sympathies

Thanks for those links Aethel, I'll have a good read of them tonight when I ferret the laptop out.

So sorry a lot of you are having issues with your partners. It truly sucks when there's discord in the house:(

Today there may be coffee and toast.

Sorry to hear of arsey DH's, rubbish GP's and sleepless DC's.

Sorry I'm being a crap poster, I'm suffering early pregnancy exhaustion again. Though thankfully Eva is now sleeping until 6 most mornings.

Well today is the day my parents will likely lose the house, and no chance of us exchanging. Our solicitor has now found an error on the land registry which wasn't spotted when we bought the flat, which will take an extra fortnight to be corrected. No news from my mum, I assume she doesn't want to speak to me, though I'll expect an angry phone call around 5pm. It'd be ironic if they did still somehow get the house, they wanted to move to be closer to us and the kids, yet they certainly won't be as big a part of our lives as before after the stress they've caused us.

seven I'm sorry about the stress you're under from your parents and I hope this is the denouement - I must admit I never quite understood the backstory and why they didn't have the money and why that was in any way your fault.

hawthers and jiggle sounds like haddocks may need some defrosting...what would happen if you went on strike? Do you think they would step up?

Sending

Oi hope your enjoying BOi cuddles

Seven That's pants about your parents. Surely after all the hassle they must realise it is out of your control? So unfair they are putting you under undue stress!

Well my first working week back to work went very well. Almost like I've never been away! Enjoying it still tho

Time to get the house all sparkly & dinner on go before I can properly chill out!

Arrghghg our nanny just asked us if she could go part time to match my days at home. Which is fine and fair enough, I just went part time myself, but will put me in a bit of a spot if I ever have to go into the office unexpectedly. Oh well - cross that bridge when we come to it! She said she's a bit worried about her health and that her hours are too long working full time as she's been getting dizzy - and I wanted to shout "you don't eat properly, what do you expect!?" because I have never actually seen her eat anything, even when we went to Paris for the weekend!

So I gave her the rest of today off, and gave her some veg to eat over the weekend (I pretended we had extra in the veg box so told her to take some home with her).

Hi all, just a quick one as have dodgy internet access at the moment. Sorry for me me me and a bit of a moany one at that but really struggling here. DD is still sleeping really erratically, she slept through until 6am 3 nights ago, then woke every hour the next night and last night she woke every half hour from 11.30pm to 6.30am. I just can't figure it out at all, she's so happy and settled in the daytime. I have had a constant headache and backache for the last 48 hrs, DH is mega busy at work and just been feeling very down as I can't see an end in sight to this exhaustion. Also still get some pain from my CS incision, is this normal after 10 months? It looks like its healing fine from the outside but is still tender/numb in places and I can't wear pants/trousers that go anywhere near it. Also DS's legs seem to be getting worse at the moment (due to the CP) and he might end up needing some kind of surgery. Just all feels a bit much at the moment and feeling very :(

Sorry, will try and respond to other's posts soon, but just needed to offload all that.

xiao short version is our flat was on the market, the perfect house came on, my parents were in the position to lend us the money, the agreement being that when we sold the flat we paid them back, we had a contract that we had 5 years in which to sell it and give them the money, that was 2 years ago. Anyway, we found a buyer, as soon as we told them they stupidly started looking at houses. They done a part-exchange on a new development, needing 100k of the 140 they lent us. The developers are now wanting the money, our sale has taken a lot longer than expected and is still at least a fortnight away. They've already had an extension on their deadline (3 weeks ago), last I heard if they didn't complete today the developers would re-market the house.

dsm glad the return to work went well.

gee ((hug)) I have no idea what to say but I hope things get easier soon, and really sorry to hear about DS getting worse.

Sorry to hear things are so tough gee :(
I would defs go and get your scar checked out.

May I speak for a few of us when I say thank feck, Crunchie, or deity of choosing that it's Friday?

I'm really sorry to hear you're having such a tough time jiggle. It's a no-brainer in terms of the fact that your DH should be helping. I found the killer for me was almost less the lack of help, more that I wanted them to want to help : it's doubly so when it's children. I really hope that it sorts, but I know what you mean about just not having the energy, nor wanting to be the one to sort it out, again.

Hope the work is going OK mopsy, how close are you to finishing your PhD?

And hawthers, I will join you in the 'wishing for a 6.45 lie in and wondering how in Bob's name you got to the point of wishing for 6.45 being a lie in ' and you figgy with the bad back, my sciatica is twinging tonight!

It sounds like you're having a really, really tough time Gee, and I would get to the doctor's about the CS scar and the sleep issue. It shouldn't be hurting that much after this time. It would probably be worth discussing your DD's sleep with the doctor too, as I'd guess that level of waking up is sort of off the scale, past crappy sleeping, and may need some attention. Can you get at least one night's full sleep a week where DH takes her?

Dh is back tomorrow night so for my last night of freedom have had the longest shower ever and am now sat in my super sexy cow print onesie with a glass of vino about to watch crap telly.....dishes in the sink be damned. DS and I had fish, butternut squash and carrot batons for tea have managed a whole week without 1 jar being opened which considering I'm the shittiest laziest cook out there I'm amazed by.

Hey Gee, that's rotten luck (((hug))). No sleep always makes things harder, and especially if DS's not doing too well it's just another thing to cope with. Do see your GP about the scar, you may have some overgrowth of the nerve endings when it has healed, this makes scars tender and can be treated if you tell them it's happened.

Haddocks all round by the men by the sounds of it

DP has just told me that one of us has to leave. Feel like i've let DS down so much its horrible. Can't believe i've ended up in this position.

Trying to focus on the positives. DS stummbled his first couple of steps today./ made me smile at least.

Jeez bjr that's rubbish. Been a shite week all round it seems :( sending a massive virtual G&T and packet of chocolate biscuits to all who need them, all of us, by the sounds of things, but somebody than others! seven really sorry to hear about extra house exchange/parental stress. Ugh.

northern so bogged down right now with article writing and jrf applications but hopIng to hand in by Christmas. Just need ninimopsy to stay well! And need to work evenings. It's v doable so long as I don't stay up till 1am! Working 7.30-10.30 is fine though.

Right, leetle glass of cava and a read of my book, then bed. Husband has already gone up. Tired household! Sleep well everyone j hope!!!

Oh BJR, that's awful. Is he just having a wibble do you think, or does he actually mean it? I know things were rocky for a while for you two, but was thinking as you'd not said anything about it, things had settled down. Not what you need, especially with the nursery stuff as well.
Does he need to go, and give you and DS some space?
((Hugs))

Christ BJR thats awful good luck!!

A workmate of mine had a lo in dec too and has just split from her dp

And you have not let you DS down btw.

Oh BJR that's rubbish. I remember you saying a couple of months ago that he was being an arse and things weren't great between you, but I didn't realise it was that bad. Has it come out of the blue, and do you think it's worth trying to save it? Remember that the first year is the hardest by far, even more so if you're still not getting a full nights sleep.

My stupid parents have exchanged contracts, they have to complete in 3 weeks which probably ain't gonna happen.

And no what northern said, you have definitely not let him down!