Dec 08 Mums - still biffing on

[LadyThompson]

Yes, yes, it's a bit lame. I wanted to say: "Still fucking on!" but wary of causing offence....

I know 'biffing' is a bit PG Wodehouse, as well. You'll just have to humour me

Spoke to Dad earlier. It was just wonderful to. Brought home to me that he is going to die soon. He sounds so small and tired. I'm going to miss him so very very much. Don't know how I'll cope, but of course I will. I have my babies to think of. DH just called and I sobbed. He's taking me out for dinner tomorrow night. God knows I need it. X

Hello all, quick message to say thanks for All the birthday messages on FB. DH has fractured his ankle and DD2 is teething but otherwise all well.. Hmmm...

Re schools we wouldn't even get into the local nice one which is 0.3 miles away. Ridiculous.

Had last pre- half marathon run today too. Sunday = half marathon and Monday = first day back at work

Love to all 'specially Beans - thinking of you sweetie x

Sorry guys, that sounded a bit of a desperate post!
Spot, I recommend Fay Ripley's first book for easy fish/chicken recipes. this one is particularly easy and yummy. But I leave out the tomatoes x

And HAPPY BIRTHDAY KIWI!

How is your dad after a night in the hospice Beans?

Spot - I'm afraid you already know the answer to your question about whether schools keep places fir new comers to an area! If your thinking of leaving the South East you may find it's not such a problem. Will you apply to the local school anyway in case you stay? Also oversubscribed schools are impossible to get into at the start of reception but in big cities people move all the time so places come up mid year and they are easier to get as others are settled by that point.

Happy belated birthday Kiwi.

Yesterday's scan was all good. One baby (phew), heartbeat etc. My hormones are turning me into an emotional wreck. This morning DD1 had a special assembly where she read a poem she'd written about wishing on a star. One of the lines said "I wish for my mum and dad to make me a tiny baby brother" (she doesnt know I'm pregnant). The headmistress and other parents started chuckling and I burst into tears! Just a little humiliating.

Oh RT that's lovely. Wonderful scan news. When is your due date?

Ladyt We need to know what passport control said!

Beans Hope your dad is comfortable. Are you able to take the girls or are they banned with the pox?

Glad your Dad got into the Hospice now Beans, hows he doing? And hows the CP now?
Great news on the scan RT, I know how much I always worried about them with mine - the 2nd time mainly for some odd reason.
DH home from work shortly, thankfully, so I can collect DS in the car. I'm aching all over being so unfit for that nursery walk. Doesn't help that the buggy has some alignment problems, and that dd isn't thrilled with the backseat of the P&T anymore, therefore spent the whole journey leaning over to one side to see out the front. Geez I took having a car for granted.....
Spot, they usually have the info about admissions and their policies on the schools website, but I think you just go on a waiting list if they have no space. They obviously have to accommodate your DC's in a school somewhere until your preferred opens up. I was worried about the same too.
LadyT, that's so funny. When we came back from AU last month, they asked DS who "he" (dh) was and he did pause, then said "that's Daddy!!!!" I asked the guy what happens if kids say the wrong / no answer, and he said they go into their "back up plan" Good thing I suppose, however I bet they get it a lot. DS always says completely erroneous things when he's in a mood, and usually just to spite me!

I checked today and opening date for application for primary schools is 12th November. In diary!

RT, that is smashing - very happy for you. It is scary, the first few months, but how many weeks are you now?

Dad is in the hospice and I think he is more comfortable. Mum is hoping he'll hang on for us to see him tomorrow, as am I. I feel like I desperately need to see him.

To be honest, feel a bit like I'm not really coping today. A bit overwhelmed. DH promised to be home early to help with bedtime etc, but now has to do a normal day and won't be home til 7.15. We're meant to be going out for dinner, but I really don't fancy it much. And I asked him to take a few days off next week to alleviate some of the pressure from me, but he can't as he has a court date that all his work for the last few months (til midnight, often) is on Tuesday, so he really has to be there. I feel like a single mother and I could really do with his help. I know he supports me and is feeling terrible that he can't be here more, but it's not enough sometimes. I haven't spent a weekday evening in his company more than once a week for about a month. Going insane.

I just need him really.

Beans good to hear your Dad is settled. I can totally understand you must be mightly fed up with DH. How is the pox?

So weird re school applications. We get sent a form from teh council and have to put 3 choices down even though our local school is 500 yards away. Then we find out Feb time I think.

Have had a stupendously lazy day today. Have been a proper gym bunny this wk and couldn't be arsed to go today while DS2 was at nursery so went for a little shop to the bright lights of Colchester. Then when I picked up DS2 ran a couple of errands and he fell asleep so utter bliss zonked him on the sofa and caught up on Dallas. Sadly though I know have to work my way through a mountain of ironing.

Oh RT lovely lovely news.

Just a short one to say that I've been thinking of you lately Beans.

And now you will all be back in my threads I'm on and I might do a better job next time.

A bit hectic this evening trying to help finish up with art show I am (ridiculously) exhibiting in for Open House weekend while trying not to freak about half marathon on Sunday so apologies for crappy post but just wanted to pop in and give you a huge virtual hug Beans. Thinking of your dad and you and your mum too. Hope you are doing ok Xxxx

RT, I'm so pleased your scan went well.

Beans, how is Spotty Dotty? I'm glad your Dad is in the hospice. I hope you can see him today. Thinking of you xx

I am fed up. I have got another cold and I can feel my sinuses starting to hurt. I am off to London next Saturday and I really don't want to be feeling like this.

Hope you are at the hospice Beans and with your darling daddy. Thinking of you all .

Just wanted to say to RT that I am so relieved about the scan for you, that is good news.

And Beans.....Hope you got to see your Dad today and he is feeling more comfortable. Big hugs to you all. I know it's lacerating. I think you are doing brilliantly.

My Dad was also called John as well What a lot of brilliant Johns.

I did not mean to keep you in suspense about the passport control guy He gave me a lecture about taking their birth certs with me as proof they are mine (not going to, I don't think), had a word with his colleague (didn't hear what was said) and they let us through. I think it must flash up on the computer that their passports are linked with mine. On the other hand - with the awful news about the abduction of that poor little child in Wales, I guess they have to be super careful and I do understand really. But they reckon
without my perverse DD1.

This isn't a catch up but I did want to stick my head round the door. More as soon as I can. Really thinking of you, Beans.

Enjoyed Strictly tonight. DD2 gets a bit bored but DD1 loves it.

Hi all
Just to let you know that we went to see Dad today and he had been sedated as he'd been so distressed. It was rather peaceful and wonderful. I said all I wanted to say and my goodbyes. I left at 2.30 and he died at 5.45. We sort of knew he would. It is so very sad, but the cancer had taken over his body and he was struggling. It is a relief, really.
I may go quiet for a few days, or I may do frenzied posting, but please please know that I'm ok and don't break the thread for me.

Xx

Oh Beans, I am so glad you got to see your father before he died and that it felt peaceful and wonderful. It is very sad that he is gone but at least he is out of pain. Take care of yourself Beans. Give that gorgeous new dog of yours a big snuggle (I've just seen him on FB).

Oh Beans lovely. I'm so so sorry. Your posts about him made him sound like a wonderful man and great father.

Thinking of you and your family xx

Thanks RT. I don't want to sound cheesy, but he actually seemed to wait to see us, then he let go. It's like he didn't want to cause us any more grief. I love him so so much.
Chilli heavenly, thank goodness x

Hello,

Just popping on as Vag told me too on FB, I haven't caught up more than the last few posts. Oh darling beans I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. What a wonderful, wonderful man you talk about. Take care of yourself over these next few days/weeks. I know I speak for everyone when I say you know where we are if you need anything. Much love x

Sending you lots of love, beans. Am so sorry. Thinking of you, your mum and rest of your family. Xxx

PS please dont say anything on fb as I haven't really told anyone x

So sorry Beans. No pain for him, just peace now.
Thinking of you all, a lot xx

Lovely Beans, so glad you got to see your lovely Dad today. From how you've spoken of him he was clearly a marvellous man. Sending you and your family so many hugs and prayers. We're always here for you darling.

Beans my lovely girl. I am so sorry. You have spoken of your dad with so much love and laughter since we have known you. I am glad you were all able to see him and say your goodbyes. My love to you and your family. Xxxxx

So so sorry Beans. Sending you love, hugs and a lot of thoughts. Xxxxxxx