December 2011: Of Mice, Men and Tables

[NorthernChinchilla]

Here we go...I hope!

seventhanks for that. I've just looked at hand, foot and mouth on wikipedia, and there's a pic of a baby with spots around his month. BOi has the exact same thing. I thought that was just a new teething rash. He has seemed fine in himself. Mildly grouchier. Hasn't pooped in 2 days though - rather than has diarrhoea. It says on wiki that drs here rarely treat it and allow it to run it's course. they may treat only the symptoms - the discomfort. I guess I'll just try and concentrate on keeping him cleaner now he's crawling everywhere and putting everything in his mouth, and keep an eye open for other symptoms/any discomfort. This is where being at nursery doesn't help, because they all put all the toys in their mouths, gum the chairs and tables, etc. and it's passed on via saliva, mucus and faeces. :(

OMG feel like I need to screeeeeeeeeeeam; my mother called me yesterday from the train to say she was on her way down for a visit. Who does that? Our spare room is a building site so I had to clear a space to put a mattress down. She asking lots of questions about my parenting techniques, not said anything negative yet but I'm getting lots of arched eyebrows, pursed lips & deafening silences. Sure I've been rolling my eyes lots in return This is the first time she's met Rocco & I definitely have unresolved issues with her as I can barely look at them together :(

jeeebers hlc - that's terrible!!! I have to believe that she has missed you and Rocco lots and needed to be back in your lives, and desperately wants to make amends but just can't bring hersel to be totally loving, accepting and nice. ... and she was scared if she pre-warned you, you'd say no. So therefore: She wants to love you and be part of your lives, but she has no idea how to do it. Deep breaths!!!! Good luck.

good luck hlc i find the flared nostrils a good look with the rolling eyes

I'd have given her details of a local b&b! How damn rude:( Deep breaths, practice saying 'feck off mother dearest' just in case and plan on a huge treat if the visit passes without you murdering her

lol @hawthers

Oi meant to say, but she'd just sat down beside me, sorry to hear Boi has the lurgy hopefully he'll continue to deal with it as well as he has so far.

Sounds awful I know, but it would probably be my worst nightmare if she wanted to see more of us...I can just about manage a phone call every couple of months I'm really not up for a full on mother/daughter relationship.

LMF believe it or not it could've been worse, she did call earlier in the day to say she'd been thinking of getting the megabus down today but I said no as it gets in at 1am & I had to emphasise that not only would we not be picking her up at that time but that we wouldn't answer the door to her in the wee hours either. Her answer to this was to go to Paddington & get on a train & turn up with no return ticket She has one booked now though & will be leaving tomorrow thank goodness.

I still say plan for a treat!

deep breaths and when if you're finding it tough, mentally calculate how many hours left, if she is still droning on then calculate how many minutes left, and if she is really bad do it in seconds. i find it helps to mentally drown out some awful chat.

feeling totally sloth like here. have done precisely nothing today but watch the olympics... and there is a mountain of washing upstairs waiting to be done oops

((((hug)))) HLC and on standby!

And the phew! Treat at the end sounds an excellent idea. Any sling sales on?....

Well just made a hidden vegetable chicken casserole and rice and was a hit with Darcie she doesn't know she has just eaten Carrots, onions, mushrooms & lentils puréed down with lumps for her tomorrow

hlc that is v annoying! My MIL did the same when I was in early labour with DS, she just hired a car and turned up at the hospital! Thankfully it was outside visiting hours so I didn't have to see her and DH just took her out for dinner and then she drove the 2 hrs home again!

oi DS had that when we were in quarantine for chicken pox! It went within 48hrs and he didn't even seem to notice it. Good news is I think they're immune once they've had it once.

Some not so good health news here. DD has been doing this funny thing with her arms lately, kind of looked like an involuntary tic but she would only do it when grizzly, usually in the evening so I put it down to just a weird mannerism. But then last night she did it 4 times in a row and it looked more like an involuntary muscle spasm or something. I managed to video it and took her to the GP who did an urgent referral to the hospital. Saw paediatric consultant who wasn't sure what it was but has ordered an EEG and MRI of her brain. Epilepsy is a possibility but he said that she would probably have some kind of developmental delay if it was that, and he trhought she was actually advanced for her age.

So we have no answers and only a lot of angst and worry and trying not to imagine the worst. He didn't think that it was connected to the lump near her spine but has asked for an MRI of her spine as well just to be thorough. He did say it could be nothing and "just her" but obviously it is impossible not to worry.

Feeling very down and I know this is an awful thing to say but it seems so unfair to be happening to us after all the trauma of both pregnancies (months of worry on bedrest), DS having cerebral palsy, all the chicken pox/quarantine thing when DD was born so we missed DS's birthday and Christmas, I ended up in A+E on Christmas Day too with EMCS complications, and then DD's lump on her spine.

Just want to drown in my MINUTE name but no doubt I will be up every 2 hours in the night with DD :(

Er...that should be mumsnet name. Stupid autocorrect.

Oh poor gee (((hug))), not awful at all, you guys have really had it tough, hopefully it will be a simple tic but given that she's so young, ruling out myoclonic epilepsy early is really important (and if it is anything fit like then treating it early is for most kiddies highly beneficial). Good of your GP to act quickly, though I appreciate that has heightened your worry.
Here's hoping all is OK and you get a bit of sleep tonight.

Have enrolled for myfitnesspal (name I think you can guess) though not sure if it will suit me: I tend to avoid calorie counters as I have a rough idea of them and prefer to just get on with it rather than adding every last water biscuit and Magnum up....

Fab that your GP has acted so quickly Gee & a big ((((hug))) for you & DD :( Sure it'll just be a tic but I understand thinking the worst.

Makes my uninvited guest seem like nothing in comparison. That's the thing about kids, they're amazing at putting things into perspective & making you appreciate the good things you have :)

This will be my treat if they don't sell out as soon as they're released.

((((hugs)))) gee, you really have had it tough. I hope it really is nothing. You'll be in my thoughts. You have been spectacularly unlucky, so there must be something fabulous waiting in the line.

Oh gee more worry for you . I really hope it turns out to be 'just one of those things'. It certainly sounds like your family deserves a change in fortunes.

It's been a rough few days for poor DS. After temp dropped overnight Sat, it shot back up to 39.2 on Sun. Temp settled back to normal eventually yesterday, but I ended up back at GP with him today as he was covered in a rash. Dr says it's a viral rash and that now it's come out DS should finally start to feel better. Hope he'll be ok again just in time to see Olympic hockey on thurs.

I know this is bad to say, and whilst I hate it when my DC's are ill, I do enjoy all the extra cuddles. Had a lovely post-lunch snuggly nap with DS today

dsm love the hidden veg casserole idea, I don't feel as bad about hiding carrots and mushrooms in the cottage pie now :o

Oh gee try not to worry too much, and stay away from google. I really hope it's nothing. I didn't realise your DS had cerebral palsy, though I'm sure in hindsight you've mentioned it before, I feel awful for going on about DS muscular dystrophy now :(

kate I hope DS is better soon. I agree about all the extra cuddles, and feel awful for adding that it's nice when theyre a little older and they want to lounge on the sofa with a DVD on so you can just sit down for an hour without having to entertain them!

oi I hope I didn't worry you earlier, and I hope BOi is better soon and continues to feel ok, he must just have a high pain/illness tolerance level.

Question for all, especially those with older DC's. What sentimental things do you keep, and where do you draw the line with not keeping things? I ordered a couple of johnsons baby boxes and sorted them out earlier, one for each of them, I think aethel recommended them ages ago. Anyway, DS has loads in his box, by the time I dig out his tiny preemie cardigan my mum knitted him and his first shoes I think it will be full . Though there's heaps of cards we had when he was born in there, plus birthday/mothers day/fathers day cards he's written/scribbled in in there. I don't want to put them in the bin but there's a limit to how much stuff we can keep!

honey how effing rude of her! I hope she's gone to bed now and doesn't outstay her welcome stay too long tomorrow.

Banbury!

Onwards, there's a fifth birthday in the house today, so it up an out and doing stuff. Tomorrow there will be a party. If I make it to Friday alive it might be a miracle!

We have family coming to stay from today. My cousin and her two kids (7yrs girl and 14yrs boy) arrive today, and her hubby will join us on Friday and they'll all go on Sunday. I haven't booked any holidays. I'll let my mum and dad do the entertaining. I'm just providing the hotel. :) He he he - coz DH isn't working (he still hasn't heard from his employers), he'll be roped into entertainments as well. The plan is we'll all go out for a meal tonight. They'll go into Manc tomorrow (footie museum etc), I'll feed them tomorrow night, Friday they'll help with prep for the party, Probably do a chippy tea (), and then Saturday it's the party.
My super fabulous garden furniture arrives today. :)
And I know I shouldn't be shopping given our new situation, but I bought a couple of sun loungers yesterday as well. ..Well, we have to have somewhere for our guests to sit!

Oh dear Gee, how horribly stressful. I hope it's all okay. The wait to get a diagnosis must be just awful. you've had such a tough time, you cope so amazingly with it all.

honey, can't believe it. Who DOES that? Gah! Hope you get through it ok.

I know I said I'd post properly but I need to read back over the thread. I've been rubbish at keeping up lately.

Gee You have had a rough time. Good that your GP is acting so quickly tho.

Honey What a bloody cheek. Hopefully an early train home is calling!

Oi Hope your party goes well. When will DH expect news from his employer?

Seven My casserole was so good she asked for it at least once a week question tho - how do you hid veg in a cottage pie?

LMF Happy Birthday to Sacha.

DSM finely chop the carrots and mushrooms, plus you can also put swede/parsnip/sweet potato in the mash.

LMF hope he has a great day!

Honey, hope you get through it ok! Grrrhh!!

Thanks for the info a few pages back about rearfacing seats, we're going to be changing to forward facing asap (DH doesn't 'get' the rearfacing hype & DS has learnt how to unbuckle his seatbelt so it will be easier to see him ff), but it's great to read all the info.
Wish they'd published a paper/study over here though, comparing driving crashes & fatalities with a country like Sweden is (IMO) a bit off as conditions/tests/people are so different!

Gee, glad GP acted quickly. Hope it's all ok, positive thoughts coming your way. x
Oi, hope DS gets better soon, and fingers crossed for DH hearing from employer asap.
LMF, happy birthday to the little dude!!

PIL are taking DS for 2 days & nights in a few weeks, soo looking forward to just lounging around watching crappy tv & eating crap (without having to hide it from DS).

AWCH seriously? Your DS can unbuckle his seatbelt Starting to think Rocco's a bit slow while all your LO's are crawling, standing playing houdini Rocco's lying on his back trying to shove a plastic cup in his mouth LOL

Completely understand your DH not getting ERF, my OH took some convincing too. To be fair, I remember lying across the backseat of my nan's car looking up at the sky, no seatbelt on at all, there were probably only lap belts in the car anyway . (And I'm still here to tell the tale) Imo ERF is just a bit ahead of it's time & all our grandkids will be rearfacing 'til 4 & possibly beyond so I figure why not get ahead of it; just a shame you have to pay more for one :( but I would pesonally rather have a secondhand ERF seat that a brand new FF one. The study published in the BMJ by UK doctors was based on the practice of using extended rearfacing car seats in Sweden because they're the country who've been doing this longest & there just isn't any data to look at over here but it was backed up with crash test & numerical simulations. Until we convert to ERF I suppose this is the best we're going to get.

Anyway, enough about that, thanks for all the support everyone...the trial will soon be over & for reasons that I'll explain later it's turned out not to be so bad. Gotta go, stuff to do. Will fill you in this afternoon.