April 2012 - Feeding, Facebook and finally summer!!

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Apologies for the rubbish thread title - thought I'd cobble something together though!

A has been a happier chappy today. He's really found his voice and found the 5k men's final very amusing until I started yelling at the end in excitement I can tell he was as impressed with mo as I was.

I'm convinced a is starting to teeth, no sight of them but very dribbly, couple of ick p

Poos and hands constantly in his mouth. If you put a finger in his moth his gums are lumpier and he will bite your finger.

Sorry for split post, typing too fast on iPhone.

Bear I'm West Norwood, but possibly hoping to move to Sydenham! House we loved there has just gone under offer and we can't find a buyer for our house yet, but there are a few other houses I've got my eye on. We were considering moving to the country but I decided I couldn't bear to leave Dulwich Park, the Triangle, the Ritzy, etc...I am definitely a South London girl through & through.

We definitely have a teether here, loads of drooling, rubbing her ear and constantly cramming muslins or her clothes in her mouth. Have bought some bonjela gel but not used it yet.

marsh and bear I'm not that far from you, I'm in chislehurst :)

DD is also craming anything she can in to her mouth, rubbing ears, and pulling very funny faces! I've got the teething powder thingys but haven't use them yet as she isn't moaning with it... Will def be easier when she can hold teething rings etc!

Raphael just did a poo while feeding, so I'll see if he goes to sleep or not.

Will check the red book re the jabs tomorrow.

Is there anything I can do - apart from crying out, which I won't do at 14 weeks and not for a very long time - to encourage him to sleep longer at night? Or is it just pot luck and I'll have to live with it? He was a fairly good sleeper in the beginning and it has all changed now. Not sure if it's because he's sleeping with us and I'm just more ready to feed him once I hear he's up.

Oh would be lovely to meet you Marsh and Holly (and great if you move to Sydenham, Marsh) - I usually go to the One O'clock Club in Crystal Palace Park on Monday mornings - do you fancy meeting there? It's only a pound for under 1-s and they have a little baby corner with mats to roll on and baby gyms etc. It's great because the big one can run around outside in an enclosed area and the ladies that work there are always happy to give the little one a cuddle to give me a bit of a break.

Thaleia You can try alternating feeding and putting a hand on him and shushing him to see if he'll go back to sleep. Nothing worked with my DS - he just woke every hour to two hours for the first 9 months, you have my sympathies.

bear that doesn't give me much hope .... on the other hand, I think we "spoiled" our little one. One little whimper and I am running, day and night. I wonder what happens when we are staying with my mum and he's in a separate room and a different floor!

We went to see the Damien Hirst exhibition today, boy was that pricey! It's the things we did when we were double income, no children. Still, I am glad we did it, for us and as a family.

It's nice for you to meet up, I need to sort out facebook and join our group here. I am just a bit rubbish with it and not sure how to do so.

Shame the we is already over, hopefully next week will be nice (& easy), too.

thal having had one dc who sleep well & now two that don't I do feel it is pot luck to a larger extent. I really doubt it is anything you have or haven't done. Your baby will sleep for longer & self settle as he gets older. Although it feels a little relentless at the time babies are mainly programmed to want/need to be near us. I feel your pain as my dc3 is with me all the time in order to get any sleep but don't beat yourself up over it. All the rod for your own back nonsense that people spout is just that nonsense. Be kind to yourselves, accept that it is bloody tough but it will get easier.

My ds2 is definitely changing & no longer a newborn. Although still v demanding & not ever sleeping alone he is awake for longer periods in between & interested in the world. He's rolled once but still had his arm stuck & hates being on his tummy so no idea if he can hold his head up much as he just wails. He is though, very smiley, chatty & he loves his brother & sister already. As others have said, he too is dribbly, chewy. My older two were the same from around 4 months & cut their first teeth at 6 months.

We've just come back from a lovely holiday in Cornwall. Back to reality with a bump, tonnes of washing to do but at least it's still the school holidays.

Had a busy day today, friends ds christening and nephews birthday party. The diet had to go out the window and it's made me feel crappy. On the plus side both ds were extremely good and we had a lovely day.

I'd be up for joining in a South London meet. I'm near Bluewater but can easily get in... Let me know if you fix something up

Thaleia - Sorry, I didn't mean to sound like the voice of doom. I don't think you are 'spoiling' him at all. If it is any consolation, your responsiveness can only lead to him feeling more secure - and that is a wonderful gift to give him. You can always wait a minute or two to see if he settles back to sleep if he disturbs you in the middle of the night - a lot of babies are very noisy and fidgety when they are still asleep.

What I used to do to save my sanity (a bit) was to pump in the morning and get DH to have him for a couple of hours in the evening with a bottle while I got some deep sleep. He also responded well to a noise machine (prince lion heart brand on the heartbeat setting - but you can download white noise for free).

Thaleia - you cannot spoil a baby. No, no, no! Please don't worry about that. Babies need you to go to them as they can't help themselves, you're doing absolutely the right thing! I have tended to my two immediately if possible, and barely put them down. DD now happily does 12 hours a night and is more than happy to spend the week day with Grandma without me.

Why do you have to be in a different room from R at your DM(il?) - put him in a travel cot in your room if you don't want to be up and down stairs all night

Sorry - I came across a bit too desperate. Having said that, I wouldn't mind more than 3hrs of sleep in one go. But we survived now for 15 weeks, only another 10 or so before weaning and once we've started that, I'm happy for DH to give him formula at 11pm - should he not sleep longer already by that time.

Re spoiling: my mums is laughing at me when I already try to get her of the phone when I hear him stirring, she says it's still enough time to go to him when he lets out a proper scream.

Re screaming: oh boy, can the little one scream if he has to go to bed. He just did so again for about 1.5 minutes (I need to watch the clock as time is a funny thing) before being flat out. I try to feel sorry for him but on the other hand, I know that sleep is good for him and there is more to come in terms of entertainment later ;). I started to really get the hang of English Nursery Songs, wheels on the bus is my fav!!

Fliss - good point actually! I guess I never thought of it as I - still - feel that 4 weeks in a travel cot are too long. My parents live in a small & narrow house = they have 4 level and on the top is the guest room where we are staying. The other thing is, depending on the weather, it can get super hot upstairs and I'm not sure if he's comfortable to sleep. It's not that far away - we won't even need a baby phone.

I hope it's going to be all right anyway as I'm going to the phase again that I need to hear my baby breathing at night and he is such a quite sleeper. You have to go right down to hear and sometimes my hair gets in the way and he's all jumpy.

I am right at the other and of SW - in Clapham but would also be happy to travel a bit on public transport. We like buses!

Hi girls I thought id let U know, my boob in now clear of the block milk duct. Thanks for all the advice. DD managed to unblock it herself, I kept putting her on each feed and changing position.
2 days of engorged boobs and a sore nipple. I'm glad its gone! :-)

DD is still sleeping between 4-5 hours at night. In her big cot next door. The only problem is she is wide awake at the 2/3am feed. Sometimes stays away for 1-2hrs. Kicking, waving arms and chating. I'm a bit like U thaleia I do go to her every wimper!
I'm trying to leave to settle more on her own, for 10mins at a time. And also trying to get her to have day naps in get cot. Which isn't easy, she love sleeping on people.

That's great news, Vicki!

Good evening! I came over to Kent to spend couple of weeks away from the excruciating heat in Dubai. ah good to be home.
Baby gobs did really well on the flight. It was just me, and I was dreading 7 hours of flying but he was very patient with my ineptitude.
Had a curious incident re car seat on landing which I posted in AIBU
DS has replaced DH in the bed as all this changing countries is leaving him confused!
Hope everyone is doing well

We're in Putney so would love to meet any people nearby too !
Have put DD into her cot in the nursery now for the second night in the row. she did join us later on in the night in her basket after a 4am feed because i thought it was too hot compared to our room. she has had a few naps there as well. After rolling several times tummy to back the other day she hasn't repeated the performance so far...

...and regarding sleeping through , unfortunately she just does it sometimes and some nights wakes up once to eat . She goes to bed nicely in the evening though and generally has two long bouts of sleep if not doing the whole 10h at once so am not complaining . very tired anyway , this holiday is doing me in...
Going to see my family in Finland next week for a few days and then the school starts . Summer has gone fast !

Hey Nordic my husband is Swedish and talking to his family summer never arrived in their bit of Scandinavia! Hope you have a lovely time in Finland!

Glad to hear that newmummy.

I know this is our post natal group but can I ask some advice re ds1 as I know all I'll get if I post a separate thread is take him to the dr which I will but wonder I any of you have any ideas. The past month or so he's complaining daily he's tired. He has at least 12 hrs sleep a night And you can see he is genuinely tired not just saying it. He also has dark circles around his eyes and is bruising really easily, he has loads ATM but haven't seen him fall over or bang into anything to get them. I'm thinking maybe anaemia but is there anything else more "normal" you think it could be? He eats and drinks well but is not as actIve as he was as he says he's too tired and needs to rest.

Hug could it be glandular fever? A friend's little girl had it last year and it sounds quite similar to what you describe. Comes and goes apparently...
Or could he just be anxious about starting school?
Hope you get to the bottom of it, he looks like such a sweetheart... x

Oooh I didn't think of that. Will ring dr tomorrow but just concerning seeing my once lively boy so lethargic. Thank you he is lovely mainly

hug how is your son doing? Did you manage to speak with your GP?

He's a little better today. I havent had a chance tospeak to them as I had an appointment this morning that ran over and plans this afternoon but will ring them in the morning, thank you for asking.

Incase anyone's interested, Pampers nappies are half price at Morrisons - £3.65 for 60.