April 2012 - Feeding, Facebook and finally summer!!

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Apologies for the rubbish thread title - thought I'd cobble something together though!

I'm getting broody for number 2. Uh oh!!!

Have skim read through...we've started potty training DD (without success after 2 days) so have one eye on her all day long ATM. She's in bed now.

Weaning - no, no plans to wean before 6mo. I quite frankly can't be bothered with purée or mush or spoon feeding or ice cube trays so we'll be doing BLW at around 6mo with DS. We are Lazy Parents in this house. DS is still feeding 2 hourly, but the most calorie dense thing he can eat is milk, so solids may be more 'filling' but they won't give him the calories he obviously needs (he's still quite a big looking chap, not had him weighed by the HV for 9 wks)

Christening - DH is in charge of the Christening as I am atheist and therefore left to me neither child would be baptised. DD was baptised in the same church as DH, 70 miles away by the ILs, so it's up to him to arrange DS's too. I just turn up, but DH and I agree DS will be in a suit from Next (not a cream or white one with lace/frills, an actual shirt and tie job).

Sleep is in short supply here, DH being home had totally arsed up the routine we'd settled into so am trying to put that right.

No sign of any new mindees for September, £500 a month is going to have to be shaved from our monthly outgoings to make up the shortfall if I get no-one in, and things are pretty tight as it is. I am very worried, I only have 8 weeks before my maternity pay stops

Thaleia I do not enjoy the baby days, and for me this isn't as good as it gets. Once DD was 6mo things were much more fun, and now she's 2.4 and a funny, chatty, inquisitive toddler it's brilliant spending time with her because we can Do Stuff Together rather than perform for her entertainment!

Oh fliss I really hope you have some mindees soon. I looked at your website and you are exactly what I would look for and your garden is amazing! I can't afford a childminder around our way as costs more than nursery and breakfast and after school club but I wish I could, would make my life easier and be a home from home.

Well, those of you on my Facebook will know my dh is in the doghouse and I am sporting my best catsbum mouth, look out for my aibu as dh thinks I am!

I have a catsbum mouth & tears because of DH today too hug although for different reasons.

Don't post on aibu they are trying to tear me apart (im made of Kevlar so they're not succeeding but general consensus is I'm bu to have a catsbum mouth lol).

Hope he didn't do anything too horrendous and was along the same lines as mine where all is already forgiven and being laughed about

I was considering an AIBU but I don't have the energy! Not forgiven yet as it is an ongoing & unresolved situation. . Put it this way: it's a beautiful Sunday afternoon & I'm home alone with DD. Again. I should just go out but too sad.

Oh no! That happened to me a lot with ds1. Dh learned from his mistakes and the weekends are family time. I really feel for you its horrible when you are alone all the time

I don't know how to get him to understand how I feel. He doesn't see the problem at all. I never expected him to be like this.

Write it all down and read it over. Make a "speech" to tell him how you feel and tell him. Some people can be oblivious to how their actions affect others and will have no idea they are upsetting someone.

It's important you talk it through and come to a compromise as my dh and I ended up doing that in relate as we nearly broke up over it (and other things). We are great now and have ds2 and can now sort our disagreements and don't go to bed cross but communication and compromise is the key.

Please don't think im being patronising with the above and I obviously dont know your specific circumstances but I am basing what I say on my experiences. We on this thread are all here for you and each other if you need to offload :) x

That's great advice hug. DH and I have had a big barny this weekend too, on top of a falling out with my ex best friend. It's been a horrid w/e. He still doesn't get it, and I didn't get chance to say everything I needed to as DS woke up and I won't have those conversatns in front of the children as I get too upset. Sometimes I think counselling is what we need too

Thank you hug. To top things off today I hurt my back. DH ran me a bath, took DD for a walk & came back with cakes. So he's a little bit forgiven. Underlying issue still there though.

Sorry you're having a bad time too LaT :(.

Sorry to hear some of you are having a tough time of it. Bill seems to have settled back into normality - but has discovered his voice BIG TIME! Chatting, shouting, singing - call it what you will - he's loving his vocal cords

Anyone else want to challenge me for title of world's noisiest baby?

Hen DDs noise is "Oi!" She shouts it at the top of her voice and her comic timing is excellent.

She even did it at the nurse who'd just injected her this morning.

Excellent!

Hi L cries are getting louder, lol.
She is nearly sitting up on her own, she stays for a few mins then falls to the side. She wants to be held up alot too, moans if she is lying down too much. I think she is getting board of play matt? She will bounce her legs on you and loves being upright watching. Also she is grapping with both hands, and holding small objects for a small amount of time.
We got a jumproo, still bouncer thing! it take up half the lounge! She still a little young, and her feet down reach the ground, but she seem to love it!

Feeding still loads was 8-9 feeds in 24hrs, but today we did 7 -yeah!!!!!!
Her wind problem has nearly gone, and when she moans its her que for had enough.
I'm still yet to get a whole night sleep too, she was doing 12am 3am and 530am feds, but last night only 130 and 500. So things are slowing down maybe!!!!!

Hope things improve with your DP soon ladies :)

Sorry to hear about all the annoying DPs, really not what anyone needs on top of looking after a baby!

I left DD yesterday for 9 hours to go to the Olympics (left her with DH) and he seems to have coped very well. I fed her at 6am and not again until 4pm, my boobs were getting very full by then but not too sore.

DH then had a night out himself and didn't come home till 11.45 so I will have barely seen him for 48 hours when he comes home this evening. Very odd.

We are both at the Olympics next week, DD being left with grandparents, so that'll be my first real test of nerves. I felt happy being out with friends yesterday but after a few hours the need to get home to feed DD (more than my boobs actually being painfully full) was overwhelming.

What did you see at the Olympics marsh?

DH behaving better. Think he's starting to understand. In fact he worked from home yesterday and we went out for lunch and a very quick as Em started screaming dinner.

Em has started waking every 2 hours at night so I'm shattered but thankfully she settled instantly after feeding each time so it wasn't too horrendous. Really hope this is a phase!

I saw archery yesterday and seeing decathlon in the stadium next week, so that will be my chance to see inside the park.

Oh and had our picture taken with the torch at the weekend - someone who had carried it during the relay locally was giving you the chance to have a photo taken in return for a charity donation. So DD will be too young to remember the Olympics but she will have a photo of her with the torch!

Sounds wonderful, Marshmallow. I am having a long planned bath tonight. A bit of me time...apparently! DS wanted to feed about an hour earlier than normal this evening, which I thought would be perfect... Start bedtime routine early, get early bath for me, followed by super relaxed early night in case he wakes early too. Except DS had other plans! He fed for 2 hours & whenever he came off and I put him down he cried his little heart out. Not helped by DH vacuuming & moving furniture around the Moses basket (we've been stripping wallpaper & the early feed caught us by surprise). He eventually went down bang on 9pm (usual time). I got in bath. So far, DH has been in 4 times to tell me he's crying! I can hear him sobbing now...after 2h cluster feeding he can't still be hungry can he?? Anything but that DH can sort! Hoping he's teething/overtired/something else.

I reckon this oh-so-relaxing bath may soon be over!

Poor little boy...

hen possibly a growth spurt, hope you got to finish your bath ok.

Ds2 has got into the habit of waking around 12:30/1am most nights. Used to go till at least 2. Finding waking up after only sleeping for 1-2 hours more exhausting than waking every 1-2 hours from 2am.

Just doing the morning feed and we're off to the farm! (if we can find the satnav...)

A has been really upset Yesterday and today. I'm not sure what's up, he may be teething as he's more dribbly and keeps chewing his finger.

He has also taken to staring at anyone who's eating. He found my dh eating grapes and me eating pistachios very amusing. I think he will enjoy his food when he's weaned.

Im really struggling to motivate myself in the morning and am currently still in my pjs as are the children. I will jump in the shower in a bit and we are going out after lunch but I need to practise getting ready early as ds1 is going to school in september.

hugs could well be teething. I've had to give ds2 calpol a couple of times this last week when he's been particularly inconsolable. 5-10 minutes after the calpol he's calmed right down. Teething seems to bother him most just after lunch. Rivers of drool, frantic fist chewing, biting my nipple when I try to feed him (and refusing to feed/fussing lots), plus weepy nappy rash. Have to get into the habit of bringing those sachets out with me...

Farm a success! Ds1 fast asleep after non-stop running around all day. Hoping he'll sleep in past 5:30 tomorrow

Just realised it's one year today since we saw 2 blue lines! What a lot has happened since then!

Hugs sounds exactly like DD, and our dentist confirmed teething, and signed her on as a patient with a check up in 3 months.

It's my other DD (nearly 8) that's breaking my heart today though - she's been let down by her father again and I'm so angry I just want to scream. I'd give anything for DP to be her dad right now.