July 2010: Talking Tenacious Tantruming Toddlers Too Tiny To Turn Two.

[Spirael]

Here we go again...

vik G was a much more whiny baby than A, some babies just are, unfortunately.

I have a very tenuous link to Olympic glory! My old flatmate won a gold medal today :)

sorry i posted prematurley. mylife Dont know how your COPING i was supposed to say. I think i just have to let him get on with crying for a bit longer each time but i can see it botheres D, he comes to get me and takes me to F or if he can hear him crying on the monitor he tells me to go get him so its obvious he doesnt like it. CC botheres me due to disturbing D so god knows whats going to happen there. chu oh man thats harsh, are they in their rooms though? What do u do, just let them get on with it? how much doesn he sleep now in the day? How many times doesn B feed at night now?

Yea, L will sleep through anything, S doesn't so might have rethink that! B feeds 3-4 times still, it's a killer!
We put a round door knob on the inside so L can get out for a wee but S can't and leave them to it. They're always knackered in the day because of it though. S has about an hour and a half around 11.30 but he needs it, we tried stopping it but he was awful.
Wss very cool!
B is no where near as grumpy as S was, he's a little cherub!

Maybe its a second child thing, the grumpyness that is. Although he hasnt been too bad today really. We went to a beer festival today and it was lovely, bouncy castle and pont rides for the kids and beer for the grown ups unless ur the designated driver............guess who got that job! Gutted thouh as its the last time we will see some friends who are moving right up to aberdeen! bummer. D is really unsettled tonight and dh said he could see blood when he brushed his teeth earlier so i recon his molars are pushing again, might take a syringe of paracetamol up with me just in case! Can't work out whats better, him waking twice and easily settled and sleeping till past 7 or sleeping through and waking at 6??
Hope everyone is ok, what has everyone done this weekend?

I got my haircut this morning and tomorrow we're off to the county show. Your day sounded lovely viks!

chul did you have a new style or just a trim?
vik sounds like a nice day sad you had to drive though!
We have pottered around today L has been quite moody this afternoon he was shatteredfor some reason asking for bed at 5 again!
Dh ordered us a huge curry feast and tomorrow im going wedding dress shopping! I plan on getting there for doors open so i get to storm the shop like a bridezilla (its te open day for the sample sale tomorrow!) I hopr the dress I liked is still there and on sale for a tenner obviously wishful thinking

Ooooh good luck memphis fingers crossed its still there!!
chu hope the weather holds out and you have a nice day, is that at the three counties showground?
BAD night last night with F, he just couldnt settle after his feed and then he had a nappy which is unusual in the night. All in all i was up from 2.20 till 3.40 so im feeling a bit tired this morning, just not used to it any more!!
Must mobalize my sorry ass, we are going to western today to check out the pier and look at the mud!

Hope you get the dress you want at a good price memph.

The boys are doing my head in this morning. They afforded me the luxury of sleeping until 6.50am but have screamed and fought like mad already They play really well together until the sun comes up and they come out of their room and fight like cat and dog! I tried to separate them in the night (in an attempt to get a sleep in this morning) but W woke up at midnight crying to go back in his brother's room I think we need to look at bunk beds, they can't share a bed forever!

My friend came round last night and I'm feeling a tad delicate this morning

Hope your day improved mylife I think its sweet that the want to share a bed, why would you be in a rush to change it if its working, is it the early starts or do you not want them to share an actual bed? What do you do when they fight? F grabbed a fist full of D's hair today and made him cry, i felt sorry for D and told F off even though hes far too young to understand, it was for D's sake really, i think its going to be a very love/hate relationship.
We had a full on day out today and it was lovely, F only had one crying episode and not even for long, they were really good boys, its the first time they have both slept in the pushchair at the same time so we had an hour of quiet in the sun too, lovely!
chu how was ur day? Hope you didnt get the rain that we did!
memphis was it the dress you wanted? Did you do the bridezilla thing? L is just the cutest little thing, hes ace!
cake where are you??
I prised D's mouth open today and can see three last molars peeping out and one bulging gum, could explain his behavour over the last few days, hes been quite stroppy and waking a lot at night. Come on molars lets be having you!!!!

viks great that you such a nice day and that F was so good for you.
I got the dress from the other week it was THE dress, it fit perfectly but hoping by then it will need taking in a bit, had a panic attack though the woman was fussing me putting bling jewellery and veils and stuff on and I freaked.....
Not as much as now ive just worked out im 2 weeks late for af, thinking it could be stress of last few weeks though! Arrrggggh!

We chinned off the fair, properly pissed it down just as we got there so we went to an animal farm instead. Wasn't much good though as it was overpriced and it turns out S is scared of everything, even bantams...that's why we need pets!

Glad the dress was there memphis, why did you freak? Your wedding is going to be awesome!

Mlisc my two have bunk beds, I love them being in the samw room even though it's not alwaya perfect.

Viks it's lovely when you have a whinge free day, and tandem napping?! Excellent stuff

We're on our first feed of the night, hopefully it'll be a good one...

chul I hate fussing and she was very OTT even my mum thought so, grabbing all this tat to put on...then she hugged me then she was here there and everywhere was just too much i much prefered swishing about in my dress with another bride!
L loves animals in books and on tv but in flesh last week was the first time he touched a goat even though we go farm once a month its taken ages, what animal would you like?

I hate it when people go all over the top, I'm a very cuddly person but only with people I know, not some over hyper woman trying to sell me expensive wedding stuff, I definitely agree with you there!
I'd like chickens. I'm not one for pointless pets, I grew up with cats/dogs/chickens/ducks/tortoises but we had them for a reason. We always had problems with rats/mice/cockroaches etc so without the animals we'd have been overrun. Until we get our duck farm there's no point in getting a dog or a cat so it'd have to be chickens We can't get them yet because DH is trying to get himself a job in London for 3 years and I think we'd be in a flat so no garden. I hope not, while I'd love to live in London again I don't want to get our 3 maybe 4 in a flat! I only say maybe 4 because DH said yesterday while we were talking about longterm contraception that he didn't want to get the snip til B was about 3 in case we decided to have a 4th. Strange because he's been adamant for ages that we weren't going to have any more ever...

Sounds like me chul, I keep changing my mind too...

Speaking of which, memph!!!!!! Have you done a test yet? Nice one re the dress.

I'd LOVE to have chickens too chul. But with no back garden the dogs it's just not feasible. If we ever move I'd defo look into it. Especially since we go through about 20 eggs a week!

I don't think they necessarly need bunk beds atm vik, I am just thinking about the future I suppose - two older kids (especially boys) aren't going to want to share a bed forever.

What do I do when they fight? Hmmm. Not what I want to do to be honest. I often find myself shouting and that's not The Parent I Want To Be, so I have been making a conscious effort recently to go more with separating them rather than waiting for them to scream it out. 9 times out of 10 though W starts it.

Its a negative!

I hate chickens they bloody stink. My dads dogs (which are lurchers) are fine with chickens and the are so trained they sit on your lap....but they still honk!
chul 3 years would be a good gap too as your body would have had a rest and you will be getting a good nights kip (hopefully)
mlic soo number 3?

I did a test yesterday...............................................negative! To my MASSIVE relief. I just felt very weird and my last af was a while ago but i havent settled on this pill yet so instead of worrying i tested. I was 8 weeks pregnant with F when i found out and i didnt want history to repeat itself. I think its work looming which is making me paranoid, i must have been 3 weeks pregnant when i went back last time, no wonder i was exhausted! I defo do not want to have another baby, im quite sure of that. Im too old and its too exhausting!
D has been a bugger today, so stroppy and uncooperative and emotionally unstable, its really hard to accept as he is such a good boy most of the time. Im terrible though cos i loose my patience very quickly, I find it really hard to deal with, i need to keep myself in check!
chu chinned off!!!!haha, thats funny, i have never heard that before. Shame the farm was poo. So whats this about London then, ohhhhhww you and cake will be all friends and everything! Where did you live as a child, sounds verminus!!
mylife so did you practice good parenting today, i know i didnt, i shouted, ignored and plonked on botton in conservatory with door shut today, defo not the mommy i wanted to be! :-(
memphis great news that you got the dress you wanted, really pleased for you. Will you be doing a 'friends' and wearing around the house till the big day?
Hows everyone else..............wheres everyone else??

viks as you know from fb L has been 'challenging' im working every day bar Weds and Sunday this week then Tues, Thurs and Sat next week so Will be pining for him once this busy stint is off, I know he will behave really well for everyone else, Mondays are a bad day we are so busy, he doesnt get a nap til 2 or 3 so he is over tired then he is a demon!
I will probably have another try on when I collect it and then it will be hung in mums loft so that I cant keep peeking at it, I took a pic in it and I keep looking at it.
I agree about Ls behaviour, sounds just like D's, usually so good and listens but I still feel het up now and he has been in bed since 6.15!

6.15 goodness memph what time did he sleep till?
I tried not to feed F last night, he didnt wake till 3.40 and even then didnt really cry just wouldnt settle. Admittedly i didnt try too hard cos im knackered after a horrific night the night before. Thank god D did better last night with only one quick settle. I lay in bed at about 5am thinking on no whos that i can hear stiring so i listened for a while and you wouldnt believe how relieved i was when i realized it was DH breathing/snoring he got a right kick!!

I love the thought of a big/bigger family but the reality of having another baby...probably not.

Mine were eating their tea at 6.15 last night memph!

I was at work yesterday vik so yes I practised excellent parenting

mlisc
I am also of the "I'd love another child but don't want to be pregnant or have to deal with the first 4-5 months" mindset. Having said that, B is the sweetest, most chilled out, smiliest baby ever known to the Chulita household If we had another like him it wouldn't be so bad, the first few months are still a killer though, night feeds are grim.

viks I grew up in Madagascar, they didn't have any sewer systems/rubbish collection/land fill so there was rubbish everywhere and rats etc were all over the place.

Gotta go and get B, feed him and head off to a group to wear S out so he'll nap at lunch time.

viks I had to wake him at 7.30 as had to go work he is finally loving sleep at the moment! He cries for his bed by 5.30 most days but we try and drag him out til 7-7.30 we have a party on friday that starts at half 7 so reckon that will be a 2 nap day to make him last out

chu Madagascar, wow, what age were you when you came back here? Were u sad to come back? Hope S does get worn out at group.
mylife D has been ok so far today, they are both sleeping now, just hope hes ok when he gets up.
memph blimey, he really is liking his sleep isnt he. I never have to wake D in the morning, unless hes had a bad bad night.
I have the sorting bug today, i really want to sort the little piles of shit that seem to accumulate everywhere, i have made a dent in upstairs and if F will JUST STOP WHINGING i might be able to finish it too, im cleaning and vacuuming at the same time too.
My ironing has been picked up, hurrah and will be dropped off all lovely tomorrow, the best use of £7 i can possibly think of!!
Poor poor The Barlows, how just horribly vile, i dont even know how poeple recover from something like that, just so awfull. Someone liked a poem on my fb wall and, oh dear, its so sad i had to have a little tear.

viks it is terribly sad, I wonder how people get over it. Dh's mum had a still born boy before him and his sister, she has always been had on sil growing up but babied dh I often wonder if its because of the boy she lost.

Not practising perfect parenting today :( I have just flipped my lid with them, screaming at them after the last straw in a very long line of annoyances. Not proud of myself :( They've finally quietened down anyway so I think I've shocked them!

Need to get out of the house but I'm fucking stuck in again. Waiting for the this time, who told me yesterday he'd be here between 10 and 12 but at 11.40 I suddenly found out he's coming between 1 and 2. I'm livid. I'm at work tomorrow and then am stuck in on Friday too for a different reason. My heart is thumping because I'm so wound up

Oh dear mylife some days just suck! if its any consolation i too am having one of those days! About the only thing thats gone right is that D was as good as gold having his hair cut. F has whinged, moaned screamed and cried ALL FUCKING DAY so far and honestly its driving me insane. You just cant hold a conversation or have a straight thought with it going on and on. DH has to take him this afternoon to have his injections, i have a much needed physio appointement. It wont hurt dh to do it i have done all the others.
I was talking to dh about you earlier, honestly i really dont know how you coped at home with them all that time. Im so glad for you that you got your job and im so glad for me that i have a job to go back to. I know, it sounds awful doesnt it but i really am not cut out to do this full time all day every day, its too hard!!