Caution! December 2011 babies can be hazardous to health, bank balances and carrot sticks!

[LittleMissFlustered]

[msbuggywinkle]

Toast and fruit for breakfast oi and dairy will be fiiiiiine.

In other news...I am going round to the neighbours now to retrieve my towel wash which has just flown away.

[NorthernChinchilla]

Hmmm... well, I may have succumbed to buying DS a little playsuit which was the Very Hungry Caterpillar....but it's a classic, so that's all right isn't it?!

The heat is getting a bit much- DS doesn't settle with his evening feed, but remains awake and writhing. To his credit though, I've just gone and put him down and he's silent in his cot: saw a little leg waggling about a few minutes ago, but hopefully like last night he'll just drop off.

He's coming into work with DP tomorrow, so that he can be shown off- there's one person who's not seen him and who loves babies (she has an only DS, wanted more....) so she's getting cuddles. Plus, I found £20 in the street the other day, just blowing around. I handed it in to the police station, and they said if it's not claimed in a month I can have it, so hopefully that'll be lunch for us all !

How's it going BJR, did your DP come home and in a better mood? When something like that happens you feel dreadful, and you need to tell Dad and be told it's OK, that's what partners are for! And unless you interrupted him in the middle of heart surgery then he should be happy to take those calls at work. Glad your DS is OK.

Loved the BLW video- there's one on there of a LO tucking into a chicken leg, it's amazing!

Oh, and I'd stick to vanilla HLC, rather than lemon but that's only because I want to come to yours and eat it. Do let us know how your DP gets on!

DP came down a while ago and said DS was very much asleep, but I'm just going to peek in....

[aethelfleda]

Becks blue is the best lager ever**. Nasi goreng seafood fried rice for tea went down nicely too.

The DDs went to Textiles club at school this term and today came home clutching an orange starfish (DD1) and the most amazingly bright pink sea anemone (DD2), they had cut, sewn and decorated them themselves. Awwww. I must confess I went all gooey and proud (especially of DD2: it's not easy having a sister two years older who can outperform you in most indicators simply by being older. Now rhey are getting a bit older, I am noticing traits in which each is better, and will try to gently steer them towards the things that they enjoy and are genuinely good at, it'll be better for their self esteem than packing baby pudge into a leotard and sending them ballet. Sorry, brief body image ballet rant slipped in there.)







**purely because I can drink it without an enooormous hangover.

[BJR]

Unfortunatly he was in no better mood when he got home. He isn't actually speaking to me ... it's like living with a child. It doesn't often feel like he's 10 years older than me. I can't be bothered with him so have gone to bed with laptop, and also so I can keep an eye on DS. He's still fine but I'd rather be next to him than listening on the baby monitor tonight.

Onto more positive things. Sounds like there's lots of fun weaning going on :) DS got to try out broccoli today. He made funny faces but kept on chewing it for a while so it can't have been that bad! Bet Boi is loving all the things hes getting to try Oi. DS has had ice lolly too, due to him launching himself at it :o

[NorthernChinchilla]

Good on you! And glad you're having fun with broccoli, heaven knows what his poop will be like !

[BJR]

I'm going to wait untill tomorrow, see how he is for the rest of the night. And then I'm considering getting advice on housing etc in case I have to leave. My maternity pay won't support me and DS and I have no where to go. His behaviour is starting to frighten me.

I feel like such an idiot for getting into this situation. I had everything of my own when I met him and now everything I have is his. He wants me to give up my job, to me it feels like the last bit of independance i've got left.

[LittleMissFlustered]

Get an application in now. You don't have to tell anyone and you don't have to take anything you're offered. You can usually have any correspondence sent to an address safe for you if you explain that the situation where you are is unstable.

Google 'entitled to' and do a calculation based on just your income, see how you'd stand. If you share the laptop I'd then clear your history/cache/cookies.

If you are frightened, get the number for the women's aid for your area put in your phone. Label it something innocuous like Bob's bikes. Have a spare change bag stashed somewhere with basic essentials for you both in. It sounds extreme, but it could be handy.

Stay safe, and know we're all here.

[OiMissus]

Hugs BJR, not as practical nor as useful as lmf's great advice. You have to do whatever is best for you and the baby. And maintain whatever independence you have from your DH.( It's ok to be dependent on the state/people who care). Good luck, I hope things turn out much better than they seem at the moment. Stay safe.
BOi tried a roast potato and a roasted carrot stick this evening. He loved them both. They were both munched to a pulp, even if very little was actually consumed.
Up late and Restless again tonight. So I'm not counting on getting much sleep before my 4:50 alarm call... Off to Germany early tomorrow. :(

[NorthernChinchilla]

You are NOT an idiot BJR at all. I'd get all and any advice that you can; CAB and Council, because even if you've got it you don't have to act on it.

I think you know the answer re. your job. If you're starting to feel uneasy, as opposed to pissed off (and given what's happened you're more than entitled to feel that) then take it as an early warning system. Do you have any family locally, or would it be possible to go and stay with your family again for a bit?

Hope you feel a bit better in the morning, but we will all be around

[seven77]

BJR I didn't know what to say but I refreshed and thankfully you've has excellent advice from lmf. Remember we're all here if you need any support or advice. Glad DS is ok.

northern you handed it in?? Am I the only awful person who would have kept it?

DH apologised for being horrible yesterday. Someone has now looked at the flat twice and wants to see the lease, they're already aware of the covenant that it can't be used for rental. Keep everything crossed for us!

We had a new first with Eva tonight- first time you go to check on them and panic because they're asleep on their tummy. She can turn herself back again but still sometimes struggles and gives up so I turned her over thankfully without waking her.

[seven77]

BJR do you have any close understanding friends of your own (ie not joint friends) nearby. If you're frightened I'd take lmfs advice of having a bag of essentials but keep it at a friends house in case he finds it. Also keep your passport, driving license, yours and DS's birth certificates and any benefit letters or other forms of ID together in a safe place so you can find them quickly if need be.

[seven77]

My brain is like a sieve! I actually came on here to say that DH has been accepted for next years london marathon for the muscular dystrophy campaign!

[MissRee]

So FIL came home on Saturday. The official verdict is that they don't think he had a heart attack (something had to score 6 but he only scored 4.5 I don't really understand this jargon ). He's back in on Thursday for a jog on the treadmill

DP's back is slowly improving with the huge concoction of drugs but he's off work for the week to let it recover. therefor I am getting nothing done in the house

My Pops is in on Wednesday for his back operation but he's going to a hospital somewhere round the M25 rather than the local BMI hospital so we will have to save the trip to see him until the weekend as DP is not supposed to be driving on his drugs and he's a big Girly wuss who gets car sick when I drive

Freya is loving all the nappy free time she's getting because of the heat. On a blanket under the tree in Nanny's garden, on mattress protector pads in the living room and at Nanny's! They must get so hot in them big old nappies.

BJR what a horrid situation. You've had some great advice though and I've nothing to add. Let me know if you want to meet up for a chat though.

Weaning has been a little bit sidelined here as freya's not finishing all her bottles at the moment (heat maybe?) and I'd rather try and get the milk in than worry about weaning for now.

[LittleMissFlustered]

[mopsytop]

Sorry to hear things are rough bjr, I think you are entirely sensible to be thinking of contingency plans just in case.

[DeterminedandSpecialMum]

BJR Sorry things are bad but you've had some sound advice from others here already.

Sky slept all night, not one wake up!

Swimming & sensory today.

[HoneyLovesCake]

BJR lots of good advice so just a ((hug)) from me. Sorry things have got so bad :(

Growth spurt started in the wee hours. I'm shattered, starving & dehydrated. Please Bob let this be a quick one.

[AWomanCalledHorse]

BRJ, sorry things are so bad. I second/third all the good advice given...if you ever need a place to stay for a few nights Chez Horse is open; it's cramped, we own a grumpy baby..and you'll have to make me a few cuppas

Oi, DS had some of my mini milk yesterday, he now thinks I'm evil! You're not the only one! Besides the bigger range the less fussy (or so I've heard)!

seven, well done MrSeven! Hope he has fun training & raises lots of money! Is it his first marathon?

Gah, and he's just started screaming!

[aethelfleda]

Totally agree with all the others BJR, you and LO's safety is the highest priority. Really sympathetic for what's going on, I do hipe things improve for you soon.

DS continues to not sleep through, but is varying to catch me off guard. Last night he slept from 8.30-2 and then woke at 2, 4, and at 4.30 minutes after being put down he woke up, babbled to be picked
Up and then grumped lustily. DH said helpfully "leave him, he's got to learn it's night time". After 5 minutes of rising decibels he conceded that "night time signals" were not likely to work, this was just baby get-up time... i had him in bed (burbling) for an hour and then (was I wrong, O thread ladies?) said "right it's your turn!" and made him
Go downstairs for breakfast with DS.

I'm a bit concerned that DS is becoming high maintainence: but if I'm honest I remember DD2 being just like this at 5 months, and both of them
Did early morning waking for far too long!

It's a clear up the pit of a house daY today, while the nice man from the garage takes Mavis (our Galaxy) to be aircon-redone.

[seven77]

AWCH he done the great south run the year before last but this is his first marathon.

I'm exhausted, the 5am starts are starting to mess me up. So much to do but I haven't got the energy!

[aethelfleda]

Oh and misree, great that it wasn't an actual heart attack: th numbers are a measure of proteins that get released if bits of heart muscle actually die (which happens in a "proper" heart attack): if it's a near miss the numbers go up a bit as the tissue is threatened, but it recovers and starts to function properly again. All the jargon has changes in the last twn years but in old fashioned-speak a near-miss used to be called unstable angina. Hopefully he won't have an actual heart attack further down the line (treatment is very pro-active nowadays). Hark at me, I sound about 50!

[Rashkakeller]

BJR sorry things are tough for you, hope they improve soon. Great idea re contingency plan, will make you feel less vulnerable and more in control if nothing else x

Sounds like peoples are having fun with weaning, ds is 23 weeks now so going to buy sweet potato, carrots and parsnip when I go shopping later plus I have some broccoli and cauliflower that needs using up. Let the games begin!

This week I'm mainly attempting to get the house back in order following our week away - amazing what a few days of trekking between the house and garden does to your floors! Bloody grass everywhere!

Ds slept through to 6 this morning but I've been ill since Saturday, sore throat, blocked nose, headache etc so not getting great sleep. I was ok before I started reading this thread again haha

Today we have our last Tots splashtime, shopping, making a sausage casserole and doing a bit of housework (tomorrow is main housework day, joy). Have a nice day everyone :)

[mopsytop]

It's been over a year since sine of us have been on this thread-crazy to think our bouncing babas were just tiny little beans inside us this time last year!

Anyone else finding those ads at the end of the thread irritating?!

[seven77]

Eva is actually upstairs in her cot where she's been having a proper nap for over an hour! I've been sorting out the front room this morning, making room for the playpen as she's rolling so much now she can get to DS's cars and microscopic bits of playmobil. Now time for lunch then tackle the kitchen!

[DeterminedandSpecialMum]

Sky is laying on her playmat - rolling over constantly and getting frustrated as she can't crawl and hasn't figured how to roll back that often!