DECEMBER 2005: SETTLING DOWN???????

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Hope no one minds but i thought id start a new thread as the last one was so long!!!

HOpe you are all well.
Sweetheart: CONGRATULATIONS on passing the exam! What a massive achievement for you! WELL DONE
George: I have gone through all Aelx-Leighs clothes too and had to sort through all the next age bracket, its so upsetting isnt it!
SCULLY: Alex is also a very windy baby! She is definately her daddies girl in that department IYKWIM
FLUTTER: hows George doing now with wind etc? Did you try gaviscon? fingers crossed fort he flat, bet you cant wait to get your own space again!
EBBIE: how are things with you babe?
Jays: How are things with Harriette??
Nemo? Where are you?? Hope you and kids all ok, how is DH new job going?
After the nightmare i had on MOnday i ended up having to take Alex-Leigh back to the doctors on friday. Gaviscon worked a treat for 3 days and the on Thursday she started vomiting again and screaming in pain. We booked to see a different GP at the surgery who was great and immediately diagnosed REFLUX and has put Alex on ENFAMIL milk which goes solid in the tummy thus preventing her from regurgitating the whole bottle and stomach acid. She seems to be doing ok, still getting some sick but very small amounts comapred to before! Was discharged from Therepy on Friday, therepist said i had worked really hard to start the grieving process and has said she is happy im well on my way and wants me to stay on anti depressants for 6 months. Dh has handed in his notice at work, long story but he is no longer happy there, this means he now has 6 weeks to find himself another job or we will be in a very bad situation!!! Im trying to be supportive but its hard! I start back at work in 2 weeks and am looking forward to finally earning some money again, although what i earn will not be enough to pay bills if DH doesnt get a job!
Got to go as Alex has just woken up from her nap!

Take care all.

sorry ninah,i have stone to lose aswell, also round tummy.
sorry feelin down flutterbee, try to have an hour to yourself if you can, even to just have relaxing bath and read a magazine, hope youi feel bit better soon and the house stress sorts itself out.
hello to everyone else, hope you are all ok.

I have had an utterly s**t day!!! I went shopping and as I was strapping Lucas into the car I put my wallet on top of the car. It was raining and dd was moaning so I rushed off and left my wallet on the roof of the car Once I relised I spent the rest of the afternoon driving round where I had been but didn't find it - it had about £35 in cash and gift vouchers to a total of about £100 in it. I'm so pissed off - especially as some of it was my birthday money GGgggrrrrrr

I agree about the horrible collection of fat around my middle. I asked my gym instructor what excercise I could do to shift it and the skinny young thing promptly told me that "love handles" are not a muscle they are just fat and therefore you can't tone them up - the only way to loose them is to loose weight - you can imagine the expression on my face can't you!!!!!

Lucas is getting brighter every day, he has started to reach for his toys and grab onto things. We have had to buy him some more interesting toys, especially for the car to keep him amused. I can't believe he's nearly 4 months old. I am going to start weaning him after we get back from acmping next week. We are giving our caravan it's first outing - not sure if I should be really looking forward to it OR really dreading it!

Hope everyone else is doing well. DQ, any news from you?
Ninah - hope things with you are OK - I'll e-mail you next week.

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Hope everything is OK for Nemo!

just checking in on some old friends here. you all sound very well. s/h sorry about your wallet:( thats crap.
Do feel abit different from you all lately -hence not posting much... think its having four children, I think I get different worries from a lot youve all been mentioning. oh aside from spare tyre around middle -blurgh- and the weight i need to just 'fall off' I often lose weight after bf-ing stops, so..um..in about 9mths time that will be great then. I simply -really- dont have time to even consider the gym. oh well, time to save up for tummy tuck.....
Daisy is a dreamboat most of the time, she sleeps well, feeds well and is generally a happy sweet soul. I'm one for attachment parenting tho so she is almost permenantly attatched to my hipshes also got her first tooth coming thro, george, so hugs to jakey hope his pops thro easily. its early to teeth, but I think Daisy is in a hurry to grow up!
nice to see you all. big hugs to babies.
(s/h, we quite often pop to basingstoke now, and I am ALWAYS scanning the shops incase I see you!)

Hi all,

Sweetheart - I'm so sorry about your wallet, its a horroble feeling when you lose it at the best of times but even worse when you have money & vouchers in it! to you]]]]]

Well ds fell asleep around 6.30 this evening and so I took myself off to bed for some well earned sleep leaving dp to look after the little sleepy guy. He woke up and 11:15 for a feed and so I'm now going to be up all night with his big wide awake blue eyes. Looks like hes got his day and night a bit mixed up today! He had such a bad night last night screaming till around 2 in the morning with a sore tummy. His cry was so heatbreaking that I was crying with him.

I've had a pretty naff day too, my brother is really p'd off with my dp because he went to play golf with some old work mates without him (NOT organised by my dp)well my brother turned up at my place today so I had to tell him where dp had gone and he was so upset that he hadn't been invited (apparantly you can only have groups of 4 balls and my brother would have made it a 5). Well lets just say it hasn't gone down too well at all even though I tried to explain that dp tried everything to get him in the 4 ball. Its always the same group that go out together but someone who never goes wasn't working for once so went along in my brothers place.....the only thing is that dp had mentioned to my brother a few weeks ago that they were trying to organise a game.

Well my brother has been going through alot of crap with his girlfriend lately and felt that we were his only friends he left saying that now he knows who his friends are! I feel really upset over this as i knew this was going to happen when he found out. I tried to call him this evening but he is ignoring our calls now.

Am feeling quite upset over it as me and my brother used to really hate each other but have become so close over the last few years since my parents moved away.

Since Dylan was born I've hardly seen him coz his girlfriend wont come round because of ds (thats another long story!) and so now he hates us! I feel so sorry for him too and I am at the moment being piggy in the middle trying to smooth things over. He was so upset though and took my nephew back home so I didn't get to see him either.............. a whole bunch of shite!!

Feeling really really I could cry.

Am still here and still awake along with ds an dp. Am starving as missed lunch and dinner today - could eat a 3 course meal right now......I know I know its the middle of the night but try telling that to my near empty tummy! Have just polished off half a tub of ben and jerrys caramel chew chew ice cream and am really really going to regret it!

Am longing to join the world of ZZZzzzzzzzzz

Flutter,
Massive hug to you [hugs] Hang in there hun, its not easy but count to 10. Lisa was alway crying at the start and it was a tearful time because i though i was a terrible mum. But i found singing to her and keeping her busy helped me so much. (in general i make a prat out of myself on a daily bases!) Neighbours must think i am mad! But it helped.

Kangal,
ben and jerrys i have developed a very sweet tooth and you have now put an idea into my head to raid the fridge for ice cream!

S\h
Sorry about the wallet situation, that would drive me up the wall.

Got my bloods back on Friday and the HCG is above normal so was happy with that. I have also booked a scan for Wed morning to be on the safe side! The Fear is coming back slowly!!

Lisa is doing fine, The nights are still down at 8 up at 2 for bottle and up between 6-7. Cant wait for her to sleep the whole night! Any tips ladys are very welcome.

Nemo - Thinking aout you, I hope you are both OK.

I don't know what has happened to me over the past week I'm not sleeping and feel terrible George seams to have settled again, I think we may be getting a tooth through here as well, bright red cheeks (normally just one) loads of dribbling and constant chewing of the hands, I'm not holding my breath as Mum said it could take weeks and weeks or maybe even not come through at all.

My brothers girlfriend has offered to have George for sometime this week she told me I need to have a break, I don't know how you lot would feel but being to this just made me feel like a complete failure, I'm such an idiot sometimes.

I thought the holiday would be the answer to all my problems and it did seam to do the trick but this last week has been worse than ever. I casn't wait for everything to settle and for my boring life to come back.

Love to you all. xx

Hey Flutter.....you are NOT a failure!! None of us are although I would probably feel the same way if it was put to me as 'a break'.

Remember we are all still a bit sensitive.
We all do the best we can for our babies and that is what matters!!!
They are hard work at times and take up alot of time. People come round and see that I haven't done my hair or face and am dressed in old clothes covered in sick and think that I need a rest.....which I do but I am not a failure as a mother far from it......I am just failing myself through lack of time for myself and its the fact that we have a lack of time for ourselves shows that we are excellent mothers who dedicate all our time to our babies!

Minnie - Sorry! I have a sweet tooth too but really have to stop with the ice cream - I used to hate it and now I can't stop with it!

Hey guys,how u all doing?Im having a sneaky peak to try and catch up while on hol,sw i know how you feel about the money situation,we left all our spending money on the plane,most of it was my birthday money too,cried my eyes out but it isnt going to bring it back,i can be soo forgetful at times......

flutter,we all get down from time to time,give urself a pat on the back,ur doing a gd job hun,[now i sound an amercan.]

Flutter,
Pamper yourself when your brothers girlfriend takes George, We all need a break and i put my had up for that! Your doing great but you need you time like me. I often had lisa off to my sisters or mum because i know if i dont i will get stressed and that does me no good.

Your a brill mammy..

I find it so hard to do everything sometimes and at the same time if someone tries to suggest some help I can feel so defensive about it. Sometimes it's nice to get help. Even just to lie in a bubble bath for 30 mins. It helps to sit back and remind yourself that you're doing one of the toughest and most important jobs that there is (lots of job satisfaction as well), little pat on the back, you know?

hey ladies how are you all?? we are great sian is sleeping way better now that iv introduced the formula feed 1-2 times per day. she is sleeping in her own bedroom now aswell!! (much to my dismay as now iv got no really valid excuse to tell dp its hands off!!) terrible i know but i just cant be bothered with sex or anything along those lines recently!! tmi i know but its nice to share!!
flutter i know just how you feel about the 'break' conversations and comments! dp's nan is still harping on about me giving up bf as its too much for me- er excuse me ill be the one to decide whats best for me thanx!! its so frustrating when you just know that theyr only trying to help but at the same time its the way they say it that makes you feel like a completely rubbish mum!! just let it flow over your head and if you dont want them to be giving you a break from your little angel then thats up to you and noone else!! you are a wonderful mum and dont let anyone tell you otherwise!!
hugs to everyone else its nice to see so many of our old number here and so many new ones to add to our list!!
luv n hugs to you all!!

ei - I'm so glad that I am not the only one that feels like a no go zone when it comes to the bedroom. I have 100% totally lost interest since having Dylan!! I am however so glad I am not alone, I was starting to think there was something wrong with me!!

Well we're back from Italy Had a lovely time, mostly relaxing, apart from dd1's major tantrum lasting about 30min on Sunday morning But as we were away for 6days and the rest of the time she was good, I shouldn't complain too much. Just wish her ears would work a bit better sometimes.....
We stayed with friends in Turin but spent a day in Milan and a day skiing in Bardonecchia. dd1 skiied for the first time and she looked so cute, with her little helmet, skiis and googles (grin)
dd2 still has a cold and awful sounding cough but slowly getting better. Nemo, hope your dd is improving.
As for weight, I'm back to just under my pre-pregnancy weight but of course quite flabby around the middle still. Did a 6wk post natal exercise course and considering signing up for it again for another 6wks, as I enjoyed it and I'm better having a set time to go to the gym or else I won't get there.......
Feeling any better Flutter? Enjoy the time to yourself, everyone needs it, certainly no reflection on you as a mother, but you're still a person as well and need some some space from everyone occassionally
Hope everyone has a good week.

Hi all,
Quick question, who is on solids? When do you start them? Lisa is now three months and i am totally in the dark on this.

Hello all - I shouldn't really be posting as I'm at work today but why change the habit of a lifetime

Minnie - I am thinking of starting to wean Lucas. The recommend you don't until 6 months but when dd was little the guidline was 4 months and I weaned her at 4 months. You're not supposed to do it before 16/17 weeks as their stomachs are too imature for foods.

Lucas will be 17 weeks this week and I am probably going to start weaning when we get back from our weekend away. I'll start out with just a few spoonfuls of baby rice to see if he likes it. Then you can introduce a new fruit or veg every couple of days and build up the amount your giving. Give one meal a day to begin with and then add another and another. I'm sure it's more technical than that - I'm just going to see if he's interested in food first by trying him on the rice.

Scully - glad you had a good holiday - I'm hoping our weekend away will be as good as yours was.

Thanks sweetheart, dont think she is ready for it just yet but it wont be long. Cant wait to have her sleeping the night. Are ye going antwhere nice for your wkend away?

First scan tomor, nerves are just like they were when i have my 1st scan with Lisa!

how exciting minnie, another scan already! fingers crossed for you everything will be fine. how many weeks do you think you are?
have a lovely break sh, where are you going again? I'm busy thinking about where our next break should be - if we relocate back to Australia in the next 12mths then there are a few places on my Europe list that I want us to visit

hello all! nice to hear from you dq, I'm sure life must be hectic. I was particularly pleased to hear your expression 'attachment parenting' I feel I am doing this now I'm more or less in sole charge (esp with dd, obviously, cos of her age) and it feels great! I had lots of doubts and fears about being a mum the first time round and was trying to take on board everyone's input and almost 'manage' ds like a business proposition - now here I am co-sleeping, chilling out with them and just having a lovely time.
SH BUmmer about the wallet! what crp! I am always doing things like this thro sheer tiredness but so far have been lucky enough to escape any serious consequences - it's a horrible feeling! fwiw have a woman interested in the house I DO SO HOPE this is it. She's comign to collect a copy of the survey I had done when I bought it, and has asked to be notified if there are other viewings in the meantime =- fingers crossed!
Weaning - on the jars it says four months and Arianna looks like she wants proper food asap, so I will be trying then too. My friend's mum told me she weaned her at ONE month! (big baby) ..
Flutter, if someone offers you a break it's a GOOD thing! god I would snap your brother's gf arm off! Just say Yes Please! we all know you're a fab mum, that's not the issue. My friend has 2 children similar ages to mine and she will tell me 'just go out for 30 mins' and I will say to her right, bring them over while you have a sleep etc etc - because we know what it's like! yes it is full on - on Friday night Arianna was crying constantly and I was almost in tears myself saying 'please, PLEASE STOP!!' Don't feel you are a bad mum please, even on here it is clear that you are not. Now - plan something nice to do (sleep is the new sex for me, but I dunno, a bath, listen to music - whatever - ) and ring your brother's gf - deal? x

Thanks for all the kind words, I really appreciate them. Unfortunately things aren't getting any better I have just found out my 89yr old grandpa who I love to bits is in hospital having a blood transfusion, my Mum and me have decided he will be gone very soon he is blind has prostate cancer and parkinsons, he has had a bloody brilliant innings and we can't complain but it's just very sad.

Also I have been having huge arguments with the bank today, my card is being refused all over the place, I have tried it in both cash points in the village and in the local shop to get cash back (on the advise of natwest) and am unable to use it at all. Their is no Natwest in my village and so today when I was supposed to be going to do a little shopping I ended up stranded as I didn't even have enough money for the train fare, dh was at work and I don't drive. I was well and truely pi**ed off, the bank say I have funds available and the card hasn't been cancelled so it must just be faulty I will now have to wait 10 days for a new card!!!!!!

We are no further forward with buying our new home and we have spent every single penny we have. We are well and truely broke, if it all falls through we are stuffed.

Do you ever get that feeling that the whole world is conspiring against you, just to prove my point my Mum wanted to treat me as I helped her with something a little while ago and she wanted to buy me one of those fab bags from m and s off the twiggy advert a bright red one (they are gorgeous) so she went to get one and guess what they have sold out of every single bloody one in the whole wide world

Anyone heard from Nemo yet?

Flutter,
Poor you you really have the weight of the world on you.. Sending you a huge hug with choclate and a huge glass pf wine..
My heart goes out to you esp with yor granpa being sick. I to an very close to my nan she is 92 and i just hate the thoughts of anything happening to her. I hope there is light at the end of the tunnel for you, it may seem far away but you'll get there.

Scan went ok, seen the sac and fetus but didnt detect a heatbeat. There not worried as its to early to see that yet, so back in 2 wks again..

Lisa is doing fine getting big just dont know where the time goes!

Hi all,
Am so busy lately working hard!! Alex-Leigh is doing well, she is poorly tho and was in A&E on Saturday cos her breathing was terrible, docs agreed she had chest infection but decided to leave her to see if she can fight it. Took her back on WED to docs who said its definately clearing and she has been feeding better today so hopefully is on the mend.
Nemo text me earlier to say Hannah is off the oxygen and feeding tube has been removed so fingers crossed they will all be back at home tomorrow. GOOD LUCK NEMO, HUGS TO HANNAH.
DH hasnt got another job and deadline is looming for him to finish current job, have been discussing today what we will do for money! Thankfully we have an insurance policy we can cash in which will keep us ticking over for a few months but was meant to be our BIG america holicday fund! Oh well!! Am definately not looking forward to him being home all the time tho especially as i work from home!
NOt much more to say so will sign off.
Hope you are all well.
Jaysfirst, where are you?