April 2011 - Babies turning one, shopping to be done, toddling, tantrums and talking to come

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New stage, new thread!

whatever takes your fancy

kitty congratulations!

Welcome sleepdodger :)

We are definitely getting the 18 month sleep regression. T was awake loads in the night doing elephant impressions and wanting to curl up on my head. Cute but horrendous at 3am.

Hi everyone. Just back from a week away in a cabin in Wales with two out of three sets of grandparents. Was very lovely and relaxing and great for J to be spoiled and have space to run around. And great for us to be able to sit down with a cup of tea and actually drink it rather than jumping up and down to avert catastrophe every two minutes. We had good weather so we made it to the beach a couple of days. Very proud to report that J loved jumping over waves and making sandcastles in her little wetsuit. We even managed to persuade the grandparents to take her out on their own a couple of times so we had a few hours to ourselves to shag read books and drink tea.

Congrats kitty, welcome to the fold little Alexander and sleepdodger!

The toes thing sounds pretty firmly on the scale of normal human variation, kitty, don't feel bad! Or at least you shouldn't feel any worse than I do for producing a child with my silly square feet and tendency to plumpness . Hope you feel better soon. The photos are beautiful xx

Oh yes I POASed again and it was negative (of course!). Yes, ubw, the flutters are scarily realistic! They've stopped now but went on for a good week or so.

Nice to see you, frak, fingers crossed, fizz and glad to hear about happy school goers from gsy and Ali

Phew ....

Aw, Kitty, he's absolutely beautiful! Don't worry about his little toes, they will be fine and of course it's not your fault. Enjoy the next few weeks of teeny baby and recover quick. You look AMAZING in the pics.

Good luck Fizz*, and news?

Ali that made me snort my tea.

Hello to Sleepdodger!

Holiday sounds lovely, ecuse.

We are also getting some random dreadful nights, Star. I wondered about development and also colds. What's odd is that when C does wake up it seemed there's nothing we can do to get him to settle. We just have to try lots of different things till he wears himself out, two hours later. It doesn't happen often but when it does it's grim.

Sorry if I've missed anyone. Am supposed to be working!

Off to SA for two weeks on Friday. Am excited about the trip but dreading leaving C for that long. Gulp.

Ooh Jo I was wondering whether we would cross paths. I'm off to SA for work tomorrow (but only for a few days). Three nights/two days away and I'm half looking forward, half dreading leaving J (24 hours is the max I've done so far!). I'm going to Johannesburg/Pretoria though and I guess if you're doing wine stuff you're going to Western Cape?

Still not heard. Now, I may have seen something on the printer that looked suspiciously like a feedback form with successful across the top. Only I panicked and put it back before I read it

Kitty, congratulations again, and don't feel guilty about the toes I have webbed toes and I'm perfectly normal but I felt exactly the same about Bs palm creases until we realised that it's DHs fault, not mine!

Hi Ecuse, yes I'm flying in to Cape Town and staying around there for the whole time. I've never been to Jo'burg but want to get up north at some point too. Also DREADING being away from C. I have manged two nights so far.
Hope you're trip goes well. I am getting rather excited about being on a plane with gin and films.

your trip, rather!

Awh thanks fizz. A saw the doc for discharge earlier and we are being referred to plastics but said its unlikely they'll do anything. He also has to have an ultrasound and see obs? Cos he was breech. Std procedure. He's proving to be very chilled so far. I've been up and about slowly. Had the worst back and shoulder pain caused by air and the drain. My flipping drain leaked twice last night. It's out now tho and we get to go home as a family tomorrow. Can't wait. Missing s. he will be here with dh In a bit.

Congrats again Kitty :)

DS2 was breech and had that ultrasound, all was fine, it took seconds :)

Would love a trip to SA right now
My parents lived in Jo'burg for a while, DH & I met in Swaziland (surrounded by SA) so spent lots of time there :)

Got DS1's parents evening later, hopefully he's impressed his new teacher and it'll be a positive meeting

Good luck tonight jks

re the ultrasound. You ladies are amazing.

We honeymooned in SA in Durban at the world cup. And did a safari. Fab times.

Congratulations kitty - I saw the pics on facebook and he is totally gorgeous. I am unbelievably broody as a consequence

Can't believe everyone is talking about potty training I was thinking I might start thinking about it next summer. What's 'normal'? How do you know when they are ready?

And what's this about 18 month sleep regression? FFS... DS is only just getting the hang of sleeping through. We do not need any sleep regression here..

Congratulations Kitty!

Whoever mentioned sleep regression needs to take it back and deny all knowledge. F's been pretty ok since xmas, the odd once-a-night wake, perhaps. But last night he was up loads!

Fortunately he went back down each time after a BF, but only to wake 1.5hrs later!

I think he's reading this thread...

Or it's just teething. Preventative calpol tonight.

How many still feed in the night -I thought I might be the only secret feeder of a 16 month old as I'm constantly being told off for this so a bit embarassed to admit it!

G generally sleeps though but about once a week will wake up in the night and want milk. I know he wants milk because cuddles without just result in more crying, and also because he points at the sofa where we sit to give him his bedtime milk, which usually has the night time's empty bottle on it and say 'please'. And then says WAAWWAAAA WAAAA if it's not forthcoming.

I don't honestly feel like it's a problem but am I missing something?

Hopefully it's 'just' teeth UBW and they'll have popped through and normal order will be restored :)

Thanks ubw. and s gets like that when he's teething. Good luck for tonight.

Yep, still BFing a nearly 18mo! Although not especially secretly (lots of friends have had babies recently, it comes up in conversation, I'm not harping on at strangers, honestly!)

He does the pointing thing too.

Yes, I do the nighttime feeds too if necessary. In fact last night was the first in ages where I hadn't BF during the night (it was a much better night than previous). I don't feel it's a problem, though will try other methods of soothing first. In fact the other night when I didn't think she'd eaten much during the day we offered banana at 4am!

We've had 2 falls off the sofa this afternoon in the space of 20 minutes :( both of them resulted in a quick calming BF too. There was blood in her mouth after the first fall - I think she might have bitten her tongue but she didn't seem unduly bothered.

Didn't get the job :( made a bit of a tit of myself and cried at work! But had a big long chat with our development champion person and feel reassured I'm not crap! She also thinks the questions about childcare weren't appropriate but I need to decide if I want to take it further. Which I don't think I do, because I want to progress there, my feedback is actually quite good, so if I can convince them I can still do a good job, but not be in the office 9-5 mon-fri. There is another post coming up soon, so we'll see what happens there.

Yep BF here too! T is so funny at bedtime, he goes rushing to my bed shouting for milk and then makes mmmmmm mmmm noises
He wakes for a feed in the night about 50% of the time.

Oh Fizz At least you have some good feedback, fingers crossed for next time.

Oh Fizz :( - have an unMumsnetty hug, and a much more Mumsnetty . I think the questions you were asked were completely inappropriate TBH, but then I work in the public sector where stuff like that is a complete no no. I know how disappointing it is when you don't get a job that you want but I wonder if it might be a bit of a blessing in disguise not working for that prat - he sounded like a twerp and you'd have to increase your hours when you don't want to. Fingers firmly crossed for the next post.

No feeding in the night here. I think I stopped night time BFs at about 11/12 months (my memory is a bit blurry), once I was confident that she was eating enough in the day. She is a pretty good eater though, so I wasn't really worried about her not getting enough food. I found that her sleep significantly improved once I stopped feeding her at night, so I feel it was the right thing for us to do.

TBH though, I think the one thing that I've learnt on Mumsnet is that everybody has a different approach and what works for one person wouldn't be right for another. I did have to bite my tongue at work today though when one of my team told us that she did some controlled crying with both her DC when they were about 8 weeks old . Apparently they've been brilliant sleepers since though . They already think I was a bit crazy to have still been BF when I came back to work though, so decided to keep my gob firmly shut!

Sorry fizz. Things happen for a reason..maybe the next one is yours.

Anyhoo..... in hand

DH has been the vice of reason again! And calmed me down! What would I do without him????

We need an new thread title soon

Congrats kitty he's gorgeous. And if course the toes aren't your fault and the us will be fine - breech babies are just at higher risk for hip dislocations etc

Still a nighttime BFer here. Crèche were a bit gobsmacked but very cool with it.

Good luck for the overnight business

Sorry fizz :( I would go for the next one and if they bring up childcare again kick up a stink. You've raised it once, if they do it again it's really going to look like targeting.

Aww Fizz, like Kitty says, things happen for a reason. There will be something totally perfect around the corner with your name on. And also what Frakk said.

Alex is gorgeous kitty. I think I know what you mean about feeling his fused toes are your fault, but hopefully you will realise that it's nothing you did or didn't do. My friends son has it - although it took me 4 years of knowing him to notice! I am guessing it is genetic.

Still bf'ing here, but not at night. Just one feed a day in the morning, which he is very attached to - fine by me as it means another 20 minutes laying in bed! He'll have the odd feed in the day if he's tired or upset.

moley - if you are fine with it then it isn't a problem

Both ds's have their new winter shoes, size 11.5 and 7 Their feet are not allowed to grow now until next summer. Maybe I should stop feeding them!

Oh, and hello sleepdodger, come and join us and tell us all about yourself