April 2011 - Babies turning one, shopping to be done, toddling, tantrums and talking to come

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New stage, new thread!

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Sorry kittycatcat I missed your post. Ah, congratulations on your pg too . How are you finding being pregnant for a second time and with a baby in tow (are they still classed as babies at 1 or nearly 1 )?

Thanks . I'm having a v good pregnancy so far thankfully. S is good too so I'm just getting worn out easier and sleeping earlier. How about you?

I'm having a very different pregnancy this time. With Freda I spent most of the first trimester sprawled on the sofa with very bad ms (nausea not vomiting) and frequently gagging - had very bad food aversions and I couldn't cope with certain sounds so the sitting room clock had to be stopped as I could not cope with the ticking (it's still stuck at 4.52, which is the time I got DH to stop the pendulum ). I had SPD with Freda and the familiar pain is returning already - boo! This time though the ms has been very mild and I keep forgetting that I'm pregnant - so, of course, I'm paranoid. Although I was also paranoid last time despite having every pregnancy symptom going . First scan's on the 4th May, so fingers crossed. Is this pregnancy different to your first, Kittycatcat?

Oh no re spd.
Yeah it is. My pregnancy with s was good, mild nausea, boobs killed, and was shattered. This time no nausea, don't feel pregnant most of the time! Wonder if you'll have a boy and I'll have a girl?

Congratulations Spoutlet

{{Frak}} I can feel the sadness in your post. Not long now until you come back this way. I can only imagine how tough it is being so far from family.

Good on you for planning to tandem feed.I'm really glad I'm still bf'ing. baby I done an epic vom in the bath last night and has been clingy all day, therefore lots of feeds. He usually only has 3-4 feeds a day, so tomorrow I think I'm going to have impressive boobs

Saying that, I feel much like JKS, I'm glad that the end is in sight, but I know when we do finish I will be a bit gutted. It will be an end of an era. Since autumn 2005, except for about 8 months, I have either been pregnant or breastfeeding

Me too ILike!
I think there were 40+ months in a row of pg, bf, pg. Then a break, then pg & bf again.
If we go with my plan of number 4 sometime next year, I'll prob have stopped bf DD by then so a short break then the last haul :)

Frak - it is hard being away from family, I've not done it with DC so have always been busy having fun, drinking, travelling, etc. WHough when my Mum was ill it was all very difficult juggling my life in Botswana, my Dad was in Uganda, my Mum was in hosp in the UK, siblings all busy, working/at school. Life would have been much easier if we'd all been in the same place.

My Mum mentioned the other day they are still considering moving near to us, they are in Devon atm. I have told them straight out, yes move really close! Handy for us now to have them nearby & handy for them in the future to have us nearby. I remain hopeful...

Well hello shiny new thread! Congrats, Sprout on being up the spout again, and fingers crossed frak and anyone else trying.

I stopped bf last week. Was onto only one feed in the morning and it was a piddly little one that she was always still hungry after the milk ran out! Still I found myself engorged on Sun a couple of days after "last" feed so I gave her a little slurp just to ease the pressure but hopefully not enough to stimulate production.

Being back at work has been surprisingly good so far, although no deadline pressure yet so it has been easy to leave on time and get home for bath and bed time. My boss is making rumbling noises about me going to South Africa for a project though. Just for a few days. I have a feeling he's testing me to see how "committed" I'm going to be post-baby so I said breezily of course I'll go, on the assumption that will satisfy him and he won't actually make me go. Let's see if he calls my bluff. I will say that now I'm out of my cosy mat leave bubble I'm getting provider anxiety. What if I lose my job or fall sick? I suddenly feel like the breadwinner (which I am, but I've only just properly realised what it feels like)

Yes, congratulations Sprout and good luck Frak. I'm a little bit jealous of you all

We've agreed to wait for a bit before trying again but I feel seriously broody at the moment. If somebody had told me I'd feel like this last May I'd have thought they'd gone mad!

Glad that the return to work is going well ecuse. A trip to South Africa makes your job sound very glamorous. I think I'm being spoilt with a trip to Preston!

ecuse - what have you replaced the BF with? Have you moved on to formula or gone straight on to cows milk? We're down to two feeds a day and I'm starting to think about stopping. I'd want to go straight on to cows milk though and am just not sure she'll drink enough of it. Mind you, she's going to have to start drinking it soon. I'm away for a couple of nights next month so DH is going to have to try and get her to drink something. Eeek...

Star it's not that glamorous, I work with planners and regeneration consultants. In ten years of working here I've never gone anywhere more glamorous than Newcastle (with all due respect to Newcastle!). Two years ago I would have BITTEN YOUR HAND OFF for the opportunity to go to SA so of course it has to come just after I've had a baby and for the first time in my life don't want to go on an exciting work jolly!

weaning - I've been mix feeding with formula since 4 weeks anyway so I've just transitioned over fully in the last month or so. Why would you rather go straight to cows milk than use formula in the interim? If anything I'm reluctant to stop cows milk and go onto formula. I don't know why. I suppose I just worry that she still needs the extra nutrients. Her eating has suddently picked up in the last month or so to the point where she's actually eating proper amounts of food now rather than just playing with it and chucking it on the floor, but I suppose I'm not yet confident she's eating enough

So who's going to cows milk and who's going on to "growing up milk"/formula or equivalent. Is growing up milk just a rip off for nervous parents?!

ecuse - yes growing up milk is a rip off! It is purely there so that formula manufacturers can advertise their brand, and therefore get around the laws around not advertising formula for babies under 6 months.
I've weaned both of mine straight to cow's milk alongside BF.

Star - I give T cow's milk slightly warmed in the microwave and he loves it. I am actively trying to cut down on daytime feeds so that I can go out and leave him for a bit.

Frak ooh exciting times! I wanted to tandem feed but DS1 weaned himself when I was 6 weeks pregnant. He was 24 months though and down to just morning and bedtime.

Happy Birthday to all the babies who are one this week!

T had his MMR today. I was hoping it might slow him down a bit, but I've just had to go and retrieve him from the windowsill so I'm guessing not

Hope my previous post didn't make me sound like I have a problem with formula- I absolutely don't. It's just that if I do stop BF in the next few weeks, I don't see much point in introducing it when she can have cows milk IYSWIM.

DD is a really good eater and I have got some vitamins which I never remember to give her so I'm not too worried about her needing the extra stuff that's in formula.

We'll see, I might carry on for a bit longer anyway. Just doing two feeds isn't very demanding but I do get the sense that she's losing interest and taking less at each feed anyway. I'll try her with some warmed milk one afternoon and see how it goes - how much do you give T Ali?

Sods law about South Africa ecuse. DH is off on some conferences in exciting places this year - all in much more exotic locations than previous years. Typical when I can't go with him and get a cut price break!

Oh ecuse I thought you were the aprilite who worked for a wine company. Now that would be a great job!! Of course your job does soundo very I.testing too!

Ha! I would much rather work for a wine company!!

star - of course that makes perfect sense when you putit like that, hadn't thought of that

Ali that makes sense too. Did a search on old threads on the subject and opinion seems unanimous that growing up milk is a waste of money. J is one on Friday so cows milk it is after the next carton and a half of formula has gone. Might start mixing it up so she gets used to the cows milk.

I think Jo is our resident vino expect. I remember being envious at the time. I've not seen her about for a bit. Hope both her and C are ok if she's lurking

I've always BF'ed to a year so transferred straight to cow's milk.
It's cheaper, more available & saves another step/change in the future so I don't see why not.
Also agree that follow-on is a rip-off/advertising loophole.

M was awake/making noise at 11, 12, 1 & 6am. I went in a couple of times but she had her dummy and seemed semi-asleep so have left her to it.
I, of course, am shattered.
And DS2 up at his usual 5-something-am for the day.
Yawn.

Waves

Just letting you know I still lurk sometimes. Happy birthday to all the babies!

H was one on Saturday, don't know where the year's gone! Full of admiration for those of you pregnant or trying, we're not brave enough yet, but maybe later this year.

We are weaning straight from formula to cows milk so have been mixing the two over the last week, don't think R's quite ready to make the transition completely yet though.

It's her birthday today so we are having some little friends over for an indoor picnic this afternoon :) I really want to be more excited but I currently have a face like a hamster as I have a gum infection where my wisdom tooth is trying to cut through so I'm on really strong antibiotics which are making me feel crap and I can hardly speak or eat :(:( S'not fair

Hi gang!

H is loving cows' milk! I still have a couple of cartons of formula left and I carry them just because it's easier than carrying fresh milk in case of feeding emergency. H is still a boob monster, he's still getting last thing at night, overnight (if he wakes) and early morning feeds

He's also decided that 5.20am is the ideal time to get up for the day, eugh...

I do lurk! Aw hello. My South Africa wine company job (jealous, anyone?!) is keeping me ridiculously busy and we're moving house this weekend. I am grey and stressed! C is fabulous.

I will write properly, soon. I will. I will.

Wine and hugs to all.

Yes Jo very , but might feel better if you send us all !

I've been off work today and B is with the CM. I slept til 11 once DH had taken him. In my defense we have had 3 bad nights with him. We are just not used to it! Screams until we lift him, then when we think he'll go back down he screams as soon as we approach the cot. He'll lie on the bed with us, but then wants to play after a while. I'm hoping its just a blip and he'll be back to normal soon. I really shouldn't complain!

Fizz that sounds familiar. We have screaming if M gets laid in the cot too awake. She'll scream and wriggle even if we're stroking, patting and talking to her but be quiet as soon as she's picked up. In the middle of the night she'll arch her back and scream as soon as you start lowering her. I'd love to be able to pop her in the cot, say 'goodnight' and leave her but I can't imagine it ever happening. If anyone has any magic solutions I'd be very grateful - does she just hate the cot? She's got a few toys in there but they seem to get ignored.
All that said sleep hasn't been too bad here lately and today I argued back to the HV when she said to use CC in the middle of the night, she back-tracked then :o

Work's been going ok. Sadly no wine involved but there's often cake in the office.

Yes, send Jo or else we'll all be very jealous!

We go through spells of having exactly what you've described chilli. P's sleeping is generally pretty good now but she goes through periods of waking for a few nights on the trot and refusing to settle in the cot. She can and frequency does self settle but when she's going through a patch of waking at night, she does that exact back arching and crying manoeuvre. She can also sense when we're trying to lower her into the cot

I haven't got the appetite for CC in the middle of the night either (and I don't think the neighbours would thank me for it), so I tend to just sit and let her snooze on me for a while and then put her down when I'm confident she's in a deep sleep. Although i don't admit it to DH, I think I secretly like having a peaceful cuddle with her

We're actually due a couple of bad nights -I might have to get you to remind me about what I've just said if one strikes tonight!

Yeah, we've been bringing her into our bed and I've hugged her back to sleep which doesn't take too long (unless I fall asleep too) then transferred her back. It seems to be once a night, then again at 6am, snoozing til the alarm at 7. By doing this I seem to have night weaned (at least between midnight and 7am) as she doesn't ask for a feed. I quite like a baby cuddle too :)

JoEW - good luck with the move

Baby I will be one tomorrow . in some ways I am ready for him to get older, but in other ways I can't believe how quickly this first year has gone.

I will self settle if he is well on the way to going asleep, if we were to put him in his cot wide awake he would wake the neighbourhood!

Happy birthday for yesterday R. Hope ur feeling better mrsw

Hi jolly and Happy belated birthday to H.

Happy Birthday to I for tomorrow ilike

Hope the move goes well jo

S has had night terrors once a week for the last three weeks.I try everything but when it fails i bring him in with us.

Ive bought kitten the stokke sleepi. I got a second hand one on ebay plus i had a £10 off voucher. WHOOP. Fits in our room and will grow with him/her!