fab feb 2011 ladies getting back in shape and sleeping till ten-yeah right!

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Hi all as im up first most mornings i thought id start a new thread before i bury pil under the patio

reastie :( :( :( I'm sorry you're going through this :( Re my DH, he can be a grump but he is not shouty and doesn't throw things around, so it's not nearly as bad by the sounds of things. He is more of a sulker, goes away, sulks a bit, but also thinks about things then makes an effort when he re-emerges. I suppose that's why I put up with him, because he does realise he is an arse sometimes and he tries to do something about it. Like L I am not scared of him in the slightest and can be me around him. If your DH won't listen to you- or doesn't care enough about you and your feelings to listen even if he doesn't understand then it sounds pretty serious to me.

Re my girls, they don't tiptoe around him, but they don't ask for him or play with him quite as much as they do me.

newdad congratulations!!!! You are the FIRST ONE on this thread to get preggers again

reastie I have sent you a message on fb but just wanted to say hi here as well

ems Good luck to N, hope there aren't too many tears (from either of you). Glad the new hair is a hit but we still NEED to see a pic please???

ponyo Definitely part of the grieving process ime, even though you're not consciously thinking about it every second of the day, your subconscious is and you're mind is so full without you realising it. There isn't anything to say to make it better but we are all thinking of you

blizy how many days left till blood test?

Reastie- I can't add anymore than what has already been said, I agree with the others btw. Hope you are ok?

Needto- yikes, thanks for reminding me to phone the dr and book the test! I have to have it done next Friday ( day 21). I should be ( hopefully fingers crossed) ov at the weekend.

Debka- hi!

Newdad- congratulations.

I'm in bed Sick today ( sicky face) was throwing up all night, I feel utter rubbish.. Hope I'm up for dtd at the weekend!

Hope you all have a good day.

NeedToSleep I'll get right on it , A had a very unsettled night last night, she woke at 12.30am and couldn't get her down until 2am, then she woke at 5.30am. She is only up now after a 2 hour nap, she's in great form though!

reastie I don't really know what to say, but you're still young, a life time of tiptoeing around dh, not knowing how it will effect A. Most men donot behave like that, yes we may be with partners who can be annoying, irritating, insensitive, lazy bs at times but to have no regard as to how his behaviour affects you, he's not going to change of his own accord. As I said on your previous thread, I lived my whole life as a child and in my early 20s basing all my decisions and behaviour on my mums moods - it was soul destroying. Thinking of you xx

Hi all, thanks for DH comments, it is much appreciated and all of your comments are all vey useful for me to consider. It's good to know I should be taking this seriously. No update yet just mulling over my thoughts and feelings. ems relate could be a good idea although I think my Mum does some work for them and I don't want her to know . Hope MMR went OK btw

Took ALice to a gymboree class this morning - she LOVED it. Would really recommend it for all those climbing babies out there, great class. We've now signed up for a term . Hopefully it will have exhausted her for a long sleep this afternoon as my shred dvd has arrived

blizy yuck and poor you. Hope you feel better soon

needto 4am is no joke. Hope you get a nap this afternoon

reastie although we might all approach your situation differently, we are all supporting you, so never feel like you can't come on and have a moan, rant, cry or a good old fashioned swear fest

poor blizy feel better soon doll x
reastie think C goes to a similar class but its called Notts Tots, basically a big room with loads of gym equipment and some nice ladies who help them do forward rolls and things? Its the high point of the week for C! Glad you have found a nice class for A to do :) Re DH, well I just think it comes down to what you are prepared to accept. To use a v well worn cliche, we only get one go at life and it is too precious to waste being unhappy. You are a very sweet, kind person judging on the couple of years worth of posts we've all shared, and you seem to have a lot going for you. Please stand up for yourself and maybe nurture your relationships outside your marriage so you have more than just DH to concentrate on? Sometimes a lunch and a glass of wine with friends literally saves my sanity :) I don't mean to preach to you, but we are about the same age and if I had stayed in my last relationship I would be a wreck by now. Lots of love xxxx
needto Ouch to 4am! maybe your MN name is jinxing you :)
expat bloody hell, you may have to embrace minimalism if he can get to the worktops! Little monkey!
Right, tons to do so shall stop wittering, big waves to all x

reastie Can i second what wiggles said,please dont feel you cant be trasparent on here just because we are vocal. I stayed with someone who beat me for 2 years so I will never judge. Relate can help just one person btw.

Also why cant you tell your Mum? Abusive men only get away with it cos their partners dont tell.Im sure your Mum is wise enough to be able to support you without telling you what you should do.

reastie - I used to take L to "baby gym" which was loads of toys on padded maps to climb. He loved it and I didn't have to worry about him falling. Also, I think Relate is confidential so your mum doesn't have to find out if you don't want her to. Not that there's anything wrong with getting help with your relationship, but I understand wanting to keep it to yourself.

Needsto - maybe a bit early for but work feels like a holiday compared to being at home with L! I feel like I've run a marathon when I get here in the morning and can finally have my breakfast in peace.

Emski - xposted with you earlier. Hope N is fine with the MMR - is he getting all the jabs or just the one?

tad - hope you're holding up now that you have wine reinforcements.

debka - I saw a few days ago that someone is wanting an update on your "smelly family" thread.

Did the shred for the first time this afternoon. Have to admit, not as bad as I was expecting we'll see if I can walk tomorrow . I am super unfit and found it hard, but not as impossible as I was thinking. When I was fit and went to the gym alot I did a class similar to shred only it was an hour and alot harder (than level 1) - can't believe how I managed it . It was run by the lady who does the gmtv/daybreak bikini diet stuff and boy if you think Gillian is a sergeant major you should try going to one of the classes I went to

Yes deb I saw update wanted on your thread too just forgot to mention it

ledkr I don't know why I don't want to tell my Mum....maybe I don't want to stress her or worry her and I'm still a bit in denial about there being a problem and I'm not very good at talking to her about these things, I find it easier to bottle things up [unhelpful]

You are all v sweet with your comments. I feel bad like I'm trying to hog attention on here when really I'm not like that but I find it so helpful to get it out there and find your feedback very useful. It helps to know you are here.

Well done reastie, you will feel the burn tomorrow!

emski How is Noah after his injection?
Alfie has his second set of injections tomorrow.

I'm feeling a lot better now, thankfully. Think it was just a 24 hr thing.
I just heard that my friend who is pg has miscarried, she was 13 weeks and there was no heart beat at the scan. So for her.

Noah's injections went well. He had his booster last month, today was meningitis and MMR. Poor thing cried his eyes out but I was brave, and Ben stood in front of Noah waving a toy car around. We had to back this afternoon for my pill check, think Noah was expecting more pain!

Blizy, so sorry about your friend. It's awful when these things happen.
Am seriously thinking of getting a kitten. Have been looking for a cat as kittens are a bit too playful for me, but were not having much luck.

Reastie, you are not hogging attention. We all have times when things happen in our lives and it's easier to talk about them honestly here. I feel honoured that your able to share this with us, I expect the other ladies feel the same.

We've had such a busy day today and dh still is home from work. I knows he's busy and his job is so 'super important' but he has an exhausted wife and two little boys missing him, waiting for him to come home. Have tap dancing tonight so really looking forward to it. Was amazed how much I missed it last week!

I promise a pic of my new 'do' soon.

Hi everyone!

Blizy how horrible for your friend :(. I'm so sorry. It must be so horrible to go to your 12 week scan getting excited and then not have a heartbeat. Life is so unfair!

Congratulations NewDad! :o
I remember you but I'm not on your graph so you probably don't remember me (I was WanderingSheep). I was on the AN thread but was due in late Feb so probably joined a bit later.

I'm surprised that there aren't more of us TTC or pg. On the June 07 thread there were a lot of 18 month gaps! Although, I suppose some of the others that don't post anymore might be having more.

We've had a few steps today :o I'm ready for L to start walking as she's bloody heavy!

Is anyone watching BGT? Is it just me or is it really shit this year?

robin truly awful yes but ive got ella in with me so no choice.

blizy Poor friend,im sure you will be a tower of strength but look after yourself too. iykwim xx

ems I had a good crop today too,makes you feel great doesnt it.

Dh is in London on the coppers march so me and ells having a sleep over.

I have just heard there has been a massive and possibly fatal gas explosion down the road from us. Just going to look on the net now.

Wow, Ledkr, just checked local news and saw about thegas explosion. The news says the house has actually collapsed. I hope you aren't close enough to need to be evacuated!

Ive never watched BGT before so am enjoying it, but I only watch it on Sky Plus so I forward most of it!

Oh God Ledkr that sounds bad! :( I really hope that it isn't fatal.

There was a fire in an industrial estate, in our town, a few months ago. People could see and smell it for miles. No injuries though thank goodness!

I used to live in the same street,i cant seem to find out much,i have rang all my boys they are ok.

Took girls out for tea tonight-that was relaxing D eats,throws then screams to get out of the highchair so she can rampage around the place making old people tut and me run.

Hi Robin, that's fab news about L, it's amazing how heavy they are now isn't it? B was 22lb a couple of weeks ago and he's doing my back in, he will only walk where he's meant to be in his pushchair or sitting down

ledkr that sounds awful, glad you and yours are all okay. You are very brave taking D out for dinner on your own, I only manage a quick slurp of diet coke juice when it's just B and me. Love your other thread btw

reastie Woo hoo to the shred, how is your back feeling now? I am planning to do it again and you've just given me some inspiration, just got to work out when to do it as I have to shower afterwards and can't do that unless B is napping Hope you don't feel too achy in the morning

ems That's so sweet of Ben to help his little brother, it's horrible but out the way now Hope tap dancing was fun and looking forward to the pic!

Just been watching the bridge, god it's good. Needed something to replace the killing and this is it.
Today was the first day of only giving B his dummy when he's napping and at night. Surprisingly I only needed ibuprofen at about 6pm. I'm also going to reduce his milk intake by stopping his midday bottle, is it sad that I'm upset at the fact he's not a proper baby anymore? As for ttc, we are happy with just the one so no more for us but I've already had comments about how this is selfish as children need siblings to play with

Just want to say goodnight to tad, do you know you're a bit like the shipping forecast (BBC late night radio 4)for me? If I see you've posted I know I should be in bed asleep

Does anyone else think that maybe babies born in Feb are just a bit more, er, challenging?! Its rubbish I know but just thinking about ledkrs thread and laughing at the though of Dilly rampaging around, also A has been a right stroppy monster today, sometimes she gets furious and lunges and bites at whatever is nearest - a toy/settee/highchair/me Its funny because she just goes "aaaaarggghhh" and bites but makes her seem a bit deranged.

Today she was being such a pain I dressed her in her nice party dress from her birthday all day, I thought well if you're not going to be nice you can at least look nice

ledkr glad you and the boys are ok, sounds scary.

blizy sorry about your friend, really feel for her.

Newdad wow congrats! I;m going to nosy at your profile in a minute...

reastie well done on the shred now stop reminding me about it, jillian is hidden away and will remain so Agree with people who said do you want this with your dh for the rest of your life... tough one isn't it.

Sorry just a quick one from me, am ok and been to my friends tonight for pizza which is always a good thing. Hi everyone else :)

ponyo I couldn't have put it better about the Feb babies

Needto what channel is the bridge on?
We have been only giving dummy for naps (which has been going well) except for today when little miss whinge had it all day And I've had lots of 'selfish' comments too about only wanting 1, irritating is an understatement isn't it

it's on bbc4 but you can watch it from the beginning on iPlayer, really good stuff.

Yes, it's very irritating, I'm yet to find a suitable comeback so if you have one then let me know! It's normally from old biddies but had it from a couple of younger women too.

Enjoy your pizza Ponyo! Hope you're ok. I was thinking about you on Friday, hope everything was Ok. I'm sorry I didn't post at the time.

I agree - my Feb baby is much more demanding than my June baby :o. She's a stroppy little madam too!

God, I wouldn't blame anyone for deciding to only have one. I know a couple of people who have said that they're only having one. One is enough!

My mum is an only child and she is of "why the hell would anyone want more than one" opinion. I was an accident :o.

Cheers Needto I'll have a look for that on iplayer. I don't have a comeback, boo! Except 'we can't afford it' which is true but people just say 'well you could afford this one blah blah' grr.

Thanks Robin don't worry about not posting, its nice how much support my t'internet friends have given, it does mean a lot :)
at you being an accident - maybe I'm onto something with my Feb babies theory...