fab feb 2011 ladies getting back in shape and sleeping till ten-yeah right!

[eggkr]

Hi all as im up first most mornings i thought id start a new thread before i bury pil under the patio

reastie I agree with need to. Do it yourself. A its takes the pressure of dh and B makes you look marvelous I had a bit of a sulk today cos I took D to toddlers leaving dh with 2 hours to himself and he had literally not lifted a finger. I just looked at the mess and went to the gym.He has become almost incapable of moving when im out of the house,just watches tv or goes on pc. There has been a fence panel down for months and around the toilet needs re sealing or the floor will get wet and swollen,I guess its abit sexist to expect him to do it but i do.I am going to pay someone to sort out the jobs at the weekend hopefully will shame him.

Well we took D to a roasting hot Boots to do her photos for passport.She was hideous and wriggled and ran away and me and dh sweated and got stressed and ended up with 5 pictures of the side of D's head crying
I have told dh that I am not going on holiday anyway with such a feral child so we dont need a passport now

reastie I am so of your mn panel testing thingy! Sounds fab! I almost bought some tights there today that have some special thermal stuff to keep your legs warm.... IT'S MAY, I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO DO THAT Did buy a pac-a-mac though, super glam me

ledkr sorry but to feral child comment, i fear we may have the same thing here. Just went to docs with OH and B tried to grab a little girl's hair, she must've been about 9 yo too, he has no fear . I removed him pronto. Shame on your DH, it's not a sexism thing about the fence etc, it's a matter of who has 2 hours sitting on his bum whilst you are looking after D imo.

Think I've just accepted a friend request from tad, please say it is and not some random woman . If it is you tad, then I must say you live in such a beautiful place. I'd love to go to Oregon, I have friends in Portland but can't see it happening until my pools win comes in.

Doc said OH prob has a hairline fracture of the 'metatarsal' (?) but no point in x-ray as advice would be the same, just to ease up on it and keep it strapped up. Not too sure about that advice but he seems okay and is giving me a night off tonight so I'm not questioning it!

Sorry, shan't mention the decent weather again, though no-one was when I had snow in the garden for weeks on end!

I agree with the others, reastie. Do it yourself, or find another method of getting A to nap, so it's not urgent, iyswim? They all start changing nap schedules around this age anyway. Hope dh is nice to you tonight.

I have to stock up with bread and milk as S goes through milk like there's no tomorrow. I may have to sneak a little box of wine into the basket while I'm there!

ledkr, when we took passport photos and ones for the visa we laid the dcs on a white sheet and cropped them on the computer to the right size. There are a couple of programs you can download to help you do it properly if taking D to Boots is a real hassle.

Yes to photos Emski, glad you like the new haircut.

Mizk, sometimes MN can be a bit of a vortex you can't escape from!

Got to go and fetch A from school so will say bye for now. Hope you are having good tea/bedtimes.

Sorry, needto, tis me. Nearly jumped out of my skin when you accepted it as I'd only just sent the friend request! Yes it is beautiful, we are very lucky to live here for now. Portland is a great city, you really ought to win the pools and come and visit! Hope dh's foot isn't too painful.

NeedTo Hope OHs foot is on the mend - its the same thing David Beckham had with his foot years ago (Mr W is mad for Mr Beckham all things football, I've absorbed a lot of useless info )

ledkr I take ours to our local photo shop to get snapped, they do the same as Emski suggested.

reastie well done on the underwear testing , agree with everyone else, have a nosy and see if you can do it yourself, tbh I wouldn't do that - I'd have got a new buggy myself .

When Mr W was in America, I had a slight problem with the car windscreen wipers/ screenwash dispenser etc and fixed it. Mr W was very nervous when he came home, cars are not his forte, actually that's not true he came home, I mentioned it to him and he replied "thank f*, you can do all car type things, I bloody hate the machines"

I nosy at the Feminist boards quite a lot, but don't post, I find them slightly patronising - ah the irony

Should have though of the photo shop before of course wiggs. I so wish I could post the pics they are so funny.I said to dh we should just use them for the passport cos she will probably look like that when we go through pp control anyway I started a thread in chat about her im sure you will all identify with me.

Hello everyone, can't keep up!

reastie mucho sympathy from me for all you're going through. I absolutely agree that you need to talk to DH and let him know how he makes you feel. And fix the damn wheel yourself if you can!!

emski new hair sounds exciting- PICCY PLEASE!!

I agree re the fem boards, I have learnt a lot reading them, sometimes I just laugh and think it's ott but sometimes they really make me think.

needto was it you with the non-eating baby? I wouldn't sweat it, they eat what they need imo. Imy eats next to nothing but still seems to grow

I got the same email as reastie- I'm doing the shapewear trial as well, really chuffed, can't wait for something constrictive to stuff my folds of belly into . I'm on a sw drive atm, really want to get my 6.5st award by the end of May, then I'll only (only!! ) be 4 stone away from being overweight rather than obese.

BTW ledkr why does it say on your profile you only have 2 children?

Hi ladies...just a quickie

Re: food...N has been eating me out of house & home, his new nickname is 'the dustbin' . But he wasn't always like that so I sympathise with you needto...is bubba teething do you think, hence the fussiness? Have to say, if N didn't eat what I gave him he only had purees & yoghurts. A couple of days later he would eat the food & then random teeth would appear!

reastie hope ur ok, but you really need to chat with dh...ur certainly not high maintenance so don't believe that! But on subject of prams, we bought a cheap chicco garnet buggy from amazon for £80 & I really like it. We only bought it for trip to Glasgow earlier in year but now I use it all the time...iCandy is no longer in use (unless we have another). But the chicco buggy lies completely flat too so N quite happily drifts off in it.

ledkr loved ur 2 types of advice re:telling them no ]. Have to say, I follow the professional advice...he's getting better but is still a cheeky wee monkey, especially when he's pulling all the DVDs down from the shelf, looking at me & laughing whilst doing it!

deb when i joined mn I just though children meant well children and not 26 yr old men

Im a bit jel of the mn shapewear gifts,i never get picked. Cant believe your weight loss,we must have another meetup so I can see. I am onto week 2 of c25k how different does it feel?Found week one easy.

Evening all :) Work is over for me now this week, woop! To be honest its been a good distraction although (and this may sound daft) can bereavement make you super forgetful? I have been forgetting peoples names, what I'm doing, forgot A's dummy at nursery today which I've never done before, feel like a right numpty.

Ooh lots to catch up on. deb youre doing the trial too, lucky you and reastie I used the m&S tum flattening vest thing but it kept riding up and folding itself in half over my tum fat

reastie some good advice as always re: your dh. Don't know what to add but think its not right that he's making you feel how you do, its not your fault the pram wheel is broken. Keep posting anyway esp if it makes you feel better to get it out. Btw at my mums the kitchen has a television in and A always looks v chuffed that she gets to eat her food and watch tv at the same time

emski woo new hair! Would love to see a pic. I need to get mine chopped and was thinking shoulder length, its just a big scruffy long mop atm. I'm waiting for a groupon voucher!

Needto I've been thinking about the food thing, and if you saw what A eats when she's at nursery compared to when shes at home you'd think it was 2 different children, honestly. Nursery portions are massive, and today she had rice crispies, huge portion of fish in parsley sauce and potato wedges, and soup and roll for tea plus puddings and snacks inbetween, amazing. At home she does eat different stuff but picks at it like a little bird, I think it must be eating with other kids at nursery and they just get on with it, whereas I do watch her which might be a bit unnerving She is getting pickier and will also decide she doesn't like something just like reastie;s Alice Hope your dp is feeling ok.

wiggles at the image of A wielding a knife, why must they want everything they shouldn't have?!

tadj hope you got your wine It rained all afternoon here today, boo.

blizy am feeling... ok I think, it just creeps up on me a few times a day and then I feel sad/sick. People at work have been nice though - oh but pil rang dp today and talked about coming to visit, when he got off the phoe I said no and told him why, he said 'oh' and hasn't said anything since (he's out now) think he feels awkward b'cos he doesn't want to fall out with his mum again which is understandable, just wish he'd actually talk to me about it. Oops ramble sorry

ledkr feral child! I'm off to look for your thread now...

Night all hope babies all sleep well xx

I found every week hard ledkr so don't ask big old me!! Haven't run for ages but I must get out again soon, it's race for life next month, eek!

Wow wigs just looked at your pic of A, she looks like a proper little (cheeky) girl! Our babies are growing up...

ponyo very normal, grief can affect you in so many ways. I felt sick quite often, felt like a constant knot in my tummy. I had the forgetfulness too. I kept leaving the door keys in the lock outside, luckily postman would just pop them through the letter box! You are still in the early days of grieving, it does get better but it will take time. Best bit of advice given to me was to just go with my feelings and not too be afraid of them. Let it all out and don't keep things boxed up. x

ledkr I had a look at both your threads- very funny! I would pay good money for a back tickler.

ponyo I know, she looks like a real wee girl in that photo The dress is an old one of Sofias' and its 18-24 mths, so think it can make her look older [hopelessly clutches at baby straws ]

Thanks blizy good advice, it makes sense even though feelings can be abit scary especially at work when someone is asking how I am! xx

wigs the baby days are passing aren't they, even diddy A is looking like a little girl now, I;m taking her for a haircut on Fri though so maybe that will make her look more baby ish

ponyo you are probably absolutely physically and mentally exhausted as well, take care xx and hate to break it to you, mine always look older when leaving the hairdressers

Hello all - feel a bit of a phony just jumping on the thread now after all this time. But it is great to see so many of the old names on here from the original Feb 2011 thread!! (Can't believe it was that long ago). I've tried to keep up and check in from time to time over the last 15 months but you guys are way too active for me.

In case most of you don't remember I put together the graph ages ago with the stats from the group - think there are a couple of photos still on my profile if you care to check.

As a bit update - we've got an amazing little boy who's an absolute handful, but still wouldn't swap a singe day of this whole journey. I do have an ulterior motive for coming on here though - as you were the first people I had the confidence to tell the last time, I thought I'd take the opportunity to share our news again. This morning the Mrs. took a test and it was positive...

Am really chuffed but a bit worried all the same. Can only be the 1st couple of weeks so don't want to jinx anything, but feel a lot better now now I've told someone.

All the best to you all and your families...

Hello newdad...glad to hear all is well...& a massive congrats. We're thinking about the next one too in a few months...exciting & kinda scary all at the same time!!

newdad75 now don't be showing them graphs, they'll all want one . Congratulations.

Congrats newdad! All the best for the new one!

Speaking of graphs wiggs, I wonder how byron is getting on over in Greece and 40weeks too.

You can relax girls, I got the wine. The supermarket trip was a nightmare though as something has really got into E lately.

Take it easy, ponyo.

Have good nights!

yes, I remember you . Hope I'm not getting muddled but wasn't your DP Tallulah? Congrats excellent news, have some and also some for tallulah. Very impressive spreadsheets btw but why have I (angels1 nnchange) not made it on them

wiggles and ponyo they are growing up arn't they my mum only yesterday was saying how alice is looking more toddler like all the time

deb we shall compare undie then . i had a look on their website and £30 doesn't actually go that far

granny will look for the buggy thanks for recommendation.

quick dh update - spoke last night how imo he can't expect me to just put up with his moods/rudeness without it having an effect on me andthhen when he's happy again be expected to suddenly be in a good mood again like nothings happened. He genuinely can't seem to understand how or why his mood affects me and I get the impression thinks it's me who is making the big deal of nothing. He did feel bad for upsetting me and doesn't mean to but that was it really, so we got nowhere. Then last night when alice was up half the night he shouted and swore about her bedroom when he couldn't get her to sleep (not screamed, just shouted)and went downstairs in a huff then I heard some banging about like he was kicking pr punching or throwing something . I feel bad saying this but sometimes I wonder if I can live with this for the rest of my life but then maybe I should just accept it like deb does.

Btw deb keep meaning to ask you re: your grump DH - do you ever worry Sausage and Beans will pick up any of his behaviours? (don't' answer if you don't want)

REASTIE Listen to me. You never ever have to accept that type of behaviour,ever.Id had cancer and lost both breasts by your age and i can tell you life is too short to be anything but happy.
This will affect A definately and she will accept behaviour like that herself.

I have had my fair share of wankers bad relationships and I can tell you that although I moan,I never fear dh for a second or feel as if i have to act differently to pacify him,I can be myself and he makes me feel safe and loved and valued. I am fully aware that this could change but if it does I would be out of here in a flash.

Well dont for speaking to him but it sounds as if he has some major issues which he needs to deal with,pooe A having to listen to that.
That type of parental behaviour is used in child protection cases to prove emotional abuse. (along with other things so dont panic)

Sorry but i feel so upset when i read your posts about this.

Just popping on quickly as Noah has MMR in a bit. Had to reply to Reastie. You've now tried to tell dh how his behaviour makes you feel, maybe it's time to tell him you don't know if you can live like this, might scare him into getting some help? Maybe you could try relate counselling? Something had to change.
We're here for you to talk to whenever you need us.

Newdad75, congrats on your happy news!

Catch up later. Oh by the way, the boys love my new hair, apart from Noah, who doesn't seem to have noticed!

newdad - congratulations! I remember the exciting but nerve-racking early days. Is she due mid-Jan?

reastie - I agree with everything ledkr said. You blame yourself for so much of his behaviour, but it's not your fault that he reacts the way he does. Alice WILL pick up, will start behaving so she doesn't upset her father. Don't feel bad about considering whether staying with DH is the right choice - it's your life and you deserve to be happy with or without him.

Ponyo - I find I have a bad memory when I'm distracted, thinking about other things, and I think grief is a huge distraction.

L's climbing is getting ridiculous. He can climb into his highchair then falls trying to get out. He also figured out he can push the kitchen chairs around to reach whatever he wants on the worktops.