fab feb 2011 ladies getting back in shape and sleeping till ten-yeah right!

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Hi all as im up first most mornings i thought id start a new thread before i bury pil under the patio

{{{{big hug}}}} for blizy so sorry you're feeling cr@ppy, it's really not fair in about a million ways. You're right to go to the docs, as wiggles said, it's a way of being pro-active, and will give you peace of mind if nothing else, but I betcha you're all fine, just there's a cheeky little dot making you wait.

wiggles how lovely of nursery to do the card, sniggering a bit at MrW with his something in his eye .

Robin yikes at chipped tooth. I am surprised we've avoided it TBH, espcially at bathtime, it's hazardous! Glad it looks OK tho, you're prob right, it will wear down and be less obvious with time anyway.

Ponyo hope you're doing OK, more {{{hugs}}} for you too, and hope you get something sorted out for A for the funeral.

PS slightly random but I remember you saying once that you thought C and A were in some ways similar in looks (big mop of dark hair, etc.), well I have just one photo of C on my phone, where she really does look similar to A, just struck me!

Ledkr LOL at biblical moment except that actually sounds a bit like most mornings when I'm trying to get out to work (inefficient working mother).

Hello everyone else Deb reastie Four4 Hubbard tad Emski expat etc. etc. and anyone I've forgotten.

MIL is taking C for a photo shoot thing tomorrow. We had one with her when she was about 3 months old but now she's older (and of course soooooooo vair vair pretty) and on her feet she's having some more done. Quite pleased really as we can't afford it but will get the benefit of the pictures .

Having a bit of a meltdown this evening atcherly , just having a cr@p time (nods to reastie in usage of fake swearing) being ill all the time, I've basically been in my new job for about 6 weeks now and had some kind of illness dragging me down the whole time, all only cough/cold/throat/snot related so nothing seriously wrong and nothing to justify being off sick, I'm just thoroughly fed up of it. Supposed to be out singing tonight (have a big competition in 2 weeks and very intensive rehearsing at the mo) but just couldn't manage it. I think I have just got really rundown and my body is struggling to fight anything off. Not sure how to fix it.

C is doing OK, she's also a bit snotty altho for once not as bad as me, and she doesn't seem to notice it.....pah, must be teeth wiggles . Any other babies with hilarious grown up facial expressions sometimes. She was pottering around making her little noises, and I was sort of 'chatting' to/with her as you do, and I asked her something about the toy she had in her hand, and just got a real teenage withering look.

Anyway run out of news I think. Hope the babies sleep tonight xx

Dx

Hello chums,

X-post delia, sorry you are not feeling well. Any holidays coming up? Maybe a spa day? Nate sips drinks and says Aaaah like my dad does, it's v old man chic

Blizy, I'm sad to hear your feeling so down. My sis had a miscarriage about three years ago and it took her two years to conceive my niece. A few months before she got pregnant I told her to stop thinking about it all the time, she doing 10+ tests every month and felt so down about it then just before her dh had arranged to see his doctor about it she found out she was pregnant. Also a friend started ttc when I started ttc Noah and has finally announced she is three months pregnant.i hope these stories give you faith that it will happen for you. It may just take time,but it's definitely worth seeing your doctor to see what they can advise/ do for you.

Delia, what competition are your singing group competing in. How long have you been singing? Sorry youve been so poorly later though. C sounds ad cute as usual. Re facial expressions, Noah ''does' a wonky grin where his bottom jaw moves to his right ad his top jaw moves to his left, he looks hilarious. His party trick at the moment is getting out all his nappy changing things if you ask if he's done a poo. He also says poo and tugs at his nappy whether r not hes pooed.

Reastie you sound down my lovely. Any movement n starting your AD's, only I used to feel the way you do, about my in laws, now I kind of feel it still but just think 'bollocks' to myself, let them think their getting their way if it makes them happy! Tho I must admit I am quite apprehensive about EuroDisney with the in laws......I will be coming back to you all with lots of in law stories, no doubt!

Hi to y'all. Night, night

Borg no proper hols on the horizon until June but I am owed a 'recovery day' as I worked a Saturday so I might take that soon.

C does the same thing 'aaah' when she has a sip of drink, v funny.

Ems Re singing it's a bit uncool in many ways but it's a barbershop style harmony chorus and there's a big comp in Brum in a couple of weeks.

Anyway, off to bed now.

Dx

WeAreBorg You can have him, I'm done with him I've never been to a baby or toddler group with any of the girls Olivia and Anna went/go with my Mum. I loved the books too and am also loving Homeland, I got a bit bored a few weeks ago but got sucked right back in!

D feel better xxx, my sister is getting some photos taken of her baby and I'm hoping to sneak Anna in for a few. Although her favourite look at the minute is her hand up her nappy, accompanied by high pitched squealing and the words shoes thrown in for good measure - not sure how that would photograph

Emski I smile like that

Hi all, just wanted to say to blizy have a (((hug))) from me, Zoe was not your only chance to be a mum, you are a mum now to Z and she will have a sibling eventually, it could be soon or it could take a bit longer but it will happen. Maybe Z is just waiting for the right time for you? Deffo think you should get the docs involved, if anything it does help to know you are doing something about it ike ledkr said. I can sympathise though, I know how frustrating it is. HOpe your dh is back soon to give you a big cuddle.

delia aw at C and A looking alike, I have thought it for a while! Hopeyou feel better soon, I had my poorly neck/shoulder and now I feel like I'm getting a cold, I never used to get ill before I had A!

Borg glad youre back, don't think we hadn't noticed Your description of toddler group made me smile, stop trying to embarrass N when you're out and about! Enjoy the time at your mums :)

reastie ledkr everyone else - I think I can count on one hand the number of times I have put A in her cot for a nap and she has fell asleep on her own reassuring we;re not on our own with that isn;t it? Otherwise its in the car/pram or me holding her but even that doesn't work recently

reastie some good advice from all esp tad and led as always. at your pil, mine are coming to the funeral which I am a bit "why"? about, its a big drive for them and they only met hime twice I think. Up to them but I've told dp I wont be in the mood for socialising and talking shite with them.

wiggles what the frig, £1500?! (can't see a euro key ) v cute about the nursery card.

Hi everyone else, well am ok, who knew there was so much to do for a funeral eh and then afterwards too?! Am meeting solicitor next week, my eejit dad didn't have a will he and my mum got divorced a year ago so he needed to do a new one, and of course he never did.
Am still unsure with what to do with A on funeral day but we will sort something. My family are quite spread out so none near by that can have her for a bit on the day unfortunately.
I've become quite no nonsense, I'm the one who is having to plan this shit with ow (and involving my sis too of course) have got some conflicting 'advice' from my family re: ow but I'm going with my instincts and she seems ok. Sorry hope that doesn't sound cryptic, its not meant to, its just a am normally a soft pushover and I am determined not to be atm :)

Its funny how people used to say how alike me and my dad are, when he was alive that didn't mean much (in the nicest possible way) but now its a big compliment.

Night all you lovelies, thanks for being so nice it does mean a lot honestly :)

massive x post it took me about half an hour to write that

Oh I text my sis earlier saying that all donations for dad would go to the charity MIND, (he used to work in mental health) but added that we didn't want people to think he was a nutter haha. She just text me back saying that made her laugh bless her am a bit worried about her, seeing her on Fri.

ponyo Stick to your guns re your gut feeling with ow, sometimes funerals and especially dealing with any financial implications can bring out the worst in well meaning family members. Speaking from bitter experience

Just a thought but is there any where nearby your pils can take A while you are actually at the funeral? Not sure if its practical? Explain to them that their well meaning intentions might be more useful helping with A

Night night, off to catch up on my beauty sleep, no way I'm going to look more wrinkled than a 100 year old

Oh dear wigs re: your own experiences, not good. Yes to gut feeling, thats what I'm going with, its served me well in the past :)
Hm pil taking A is a thought... could be an option. We will see.

Sleep well

Borg- Hello! Fab to hear from you, glad you and Nate are well, so what's the story with goats then?

Seriously, you are all too good at making me feel better! I love it. I really do think my weight is a problem but u just can't find the motivation to do anything about it. When Dh is away I comfort eat, when im sad I comfort eat. I just know the doctor will not do anything to help me until I loose weight, it's such a viscous circle.

Ponyo- you are still in my thoughts, I Lit Zoe's candle tonight for your Dad. Xx

Wow x post!
Ponyo- it is so mentally exhausting organising a funeral, please remember and take some time out for yourself. X

Thanks again all you lovely ladies.
I'm going to attempt sleep, night all.

Yay, Borg and Delia are back! Lovely to hear from you both. Hope you feel better soon Delia and take that recovery day! at Borg following Nate round the toddlers to avoid the other women!

Laughing at wiggles having done with Damien Lewis!

Hope you have a lovely time at Eurodisney Emski. You must be able to find some time away from the ILs?

You will get there blizy. We are all rooting for you. I got pg with A while dh was working in Yorkshire and I was in Wales (hence the airbed). I think it makes the sperm better quality.

Hugs for Ponyo having to do all that. Take care of yourself, too.

Night night all.

ponyo Ok im going to say it. Its mad but we can have A if you want.I know we are internet strangers but im a sw and dh a copper so if i can help at all just say.We arent that far away after all or how about an extra day at nursery?
And why are pil coming?I can imagine mine doing that tbh,just an excuse to come here and eat all my food .

delias Berrocca is amazing.i take it daily and seem to fight off all d's germs.You are being exposed to new bugs all the time from c's nursery.

wiggs i meant to say i was at your revelations of your mum. I am guilty of being a shouty mum but i have curbed it massively the last year,it was a habit i needed to break.

borgy you are back. Nice to see nate is giving me some low carb support.

blizySometimes there is no explaination for ttc.It was 2 yrs with El and about 3.5 will dills way past all the ahem "honeymoon shagging"we dont even recall conceiving dills. I think the window of oppotunity is tiny and im sure your answer is dp being away a lot.Tell him to get a fucking job in the local shop

reasti couldnt agree more about the ad's.I have found that the pil thing for me is less likely to consume me since the prozac worked its magic. Yes its still annoying but im a bit less likely to get worked up and more likely to find a solution.

Ok my morning so far.
Up at 5.30. Bottle,nappy. Moan to be out down,moan to be picked up.Given various toys,moan.Climb on me,moan,get down moan.Me have some tea,she tried to grab the cup,me pick up lap top,she moans and tries to bedn back the screen.Me gets more toys,she throws them and moans more.I try to get her to sleep,she wont but just moans more.
I am currently shut in the playroom whilst she moans in the kitchen. I look like a poster campaign for pnd,in my pjs,paty face puffy eyes.Im about one moan away from rocking in a corner. Happy days eh?

Ah ledkr thank you, I wasn't hinting though honest! And you're not that nearby really are you, I think I haven't explained properly, the funeral on fri is in Warwick(where my dad and ow live), I will prob put A in nursery for the day but that means we have to come to nottingham after the funeral when I would like to be with my fam back in brum/cov way. (my mum and sis live near Warwick).

I too think pil are coming just to be involved, I don't know why they're coming although if I said that I'm sure they'd be really offended and say they're coming to pay their respects. Which I'm sure they are too, but there's an ulterior motive.

Your morning sounds, well, a big stress to be honest, at least you can see the humour. In it better go A is whingy too, the idea of you looking like pnd advert made me laugh tho, sorry

Morning, sorry for the crappy early morning ledkr but you did make me smile with your rocking in the corner!!! Hope the day has improved?

Borg your toddler group desciption made me laugh, have realised that I'd be one of the other women following you around trying to make you talk to me . Must try harder to be less stralkerish friendly.!!!!

You sound to be coping amazingly ponyo we are all here for you. X

blizy so sorry thinks are so tough for you. It is so incredibly unfair for you and dh. Even if the gp does at first suggest weight loss at least it will be recorded on your notes as the first visit in the road to your next baby. Get an appointment made and get the show on the road girl. I expect it will be tough for you to go and start the conversation, but pick a nice gp and remember we are all 'virtually' sat next to you in the appt holding your hand. We will be all here for you to listen to you moaning about morning sickness, spd, stretch marks and vv's when you are expecting the triplets

Happy 100th to wigglesgranny yeah!!

Hi everyone else.

Bit pissed off, my mate has cancelled just now. She was coming for lunch with her baby. She has just text that she can't make it as the estate are coming to inspect the house and farm this afternoon so she has to clean. Which is fair enough, but she is a serial mess you about friend. Wouldn't mind but another friend wanted to meet today and I said I couldn't as friend 1 was coming and it is now too late to rearrange. Anyway moan over. Sounds so petty considering what others are going through at the mo.

Amazing that in just one week I have a big girl in pants and a walking baby/toddler, they change sooo fast. Seemed to take so long with Thomas as he didn't walk till he was 2.5 and was in nappies till 5!!

stalkerish

Wow, missed so much!

ledkr so sorry about your horrid morning. If it makes you feel any better you have just described my entire day yesterday, I was seriously losing the plot by the time OH got home. We did cushion climbing, had a long bath together (during which he pulled my, ahem, 'other' hair and I nearly leapt out of said bath ) and all he did was moooaaannnn. Gave up in the end and succumbed to cbbs and giving him food

wiggles just made me go all funny about your granny and her special card, hope she has a fab birthday . My nan would've been 100 on Monday just gone and she would've been the same about receiving a card from that woman

blizy I have no idea how you must be feeling but sending you lots of hugs and recommend lots of cuddles with the gorgeous Alfie. When is DH home? Can you make an appt to go to the doc together? Sounds like you could do with the extra support

Hello Borg, good to hear from you. I was meant to go to a new playgroup yesterday but I bottled it the weather was horrendous so we stayed in. There are a couple of baby/ toddler things that we go to that are run by the same woman that are excellent and the mums there are normal (we all have yoghurt on our jeans/ toast in our hair etc) so that's good. Tbh, if the mums are that bad I'd forget it and try somewhere else.

reastie, how are you diong today? You are more than welcome to pop down here at the weekend to escape if you like Oh, and B will NOT sleep in his pushchair and it is annoying now. He naps in his cot but it means that I have to plan the day around his naps swings and roundabouts eh?

Well, off I go to try and make an appealing lunch out of an empty looking fridge. Shop later I think.

Oh, ponyo, you sound so strong, that comment about you being like your dad is so lovely. Hope your sis is okay, remember to take time for you too x

Hi all. Well she really is the devil incarnate today.I have just given her a big dose of calpol cos dont know what else to do.
We went to toddlers and she wouldnt join in just sat grumpily on my lap and then threw her self around on the floor during singing which she normally loves.
I dont know where you lot all go to toddlers groups but mine are great and full of funny witty women,i think i must single them out which would make semse cos its the older Mummies i tend to mix with and we older women are far cooler and not baby obsessed.We went to the pub after for a glass of wine
needto Ouch at the hair pulling,dilly doesnt touch mine cos just looking at it makes her shudder with disgust,she does however like to pinch my nipples
We also enjoy cushion climbing but i get abit pissed off at all the snot haha.

A gp made me cry today.I had to speak to him about ds2 and his kidneys and he asked me how i was coping and i started to cry he was so lovely and is trying to get us some support,it seems that we have none.I have to fill out his dla form with him tomorrow anyone got any experience of that?

ponyo I think dp and his parents should take over a after the funeral so that you can do what you need to do.

Just a quick one ledkr but I have had to do forms similar to dla before, my nurse helped me with them as they're a nightmare. She said to write all answers as if it's one of your worst days, ie make it clear to them just how difficult things are. With my nan when she was refused help my cousin threatened going to the local press and they suddenly found the funds to help her, strange eh? It's bad but it's a case of those who shout loudest.
So sorry to hear your low but it is good that people know about it so you all can get the support you need x

Ledkr- are you ok? Can you take ds and the form to citizens advice for help? Is he on waiting list for a transplant and going through dialysis? Wow loads of questions, sorry!

I am feeling slightly more upbeat today, I'm knackered though don't think I slept for more that hour last night. I'm sat on the couch for 5 mins whilst baby mindee is tearing up the living room on a ride on thingy and Alfie is running for his life!

Oh mil dropped in this morning, she wants to take me on a spa day, how lovely is that!

Ponyo- I would do what ledkr suggested, hope you are ok?

Got to go, I smell a code brown.

ledkr I've filled in lots of dla forms when I was at work treating amputee patients and have also for Thomas. I'm more than happy to help. You'll need plenty of it is a long and boring form. Hope Dilly has settled. Xx

I have another nipple pincher here too

ponyo I'll be interested to hear what you decide re: funeral. Granny reastie died last night . I feel very upset about it all . Not in the mood to see PIL this week end, just want to be quiet and unsociable not stressed and having to make convo and don't want to feel like I can't be in my own house. If DH can't understand that or tells me to stay away from them while they visit I will not be responsible for my actions.

blizy I thought of something I was going to tell you earlier but now I've forgotten . Now I'm wondering if the code brown is from alfie cat or your mindee

I've never been to a mother a toddler group. Wait, yes I went to one when Alice was tiny to meet a couple of friends. It was in a church and getting my boobs out to bf alice in a church just felt wrong . All the toys were really dirty and falling apart and the lady running the group proudly announced 'we share our germs here' like it was something to be really proud of. It's scarred me for life.

ledkr it must be such a stress with all the kidney worries. I agree with needto though - my Dad had to fill in forms for my Grandad on something completely different but he was advised the same - to explain how bad it can get.