Feb 2011 - First year over! Whatya mean it gets more difficult!

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Handing out , and birthday cake

Morning all
Thought I'd pop on before the morning madness starts!

K2, I can assure you it does get easier, toddlers are much more entertaining than babies and Ben, who's 4 now is great company. I also have much more freedom now so please trust me, it does get better. Happy Birthday to Pablo.

Deb, yah you, go for it with the midwifery degree!

Wiggles, love your Sofia! Just brilliant!

Right, I cant put it off any longer, must go wake my boys!

Oh, I have an moan. Mil insisted on staying to help with bathtime last night as dh is away even tho I told her I can cope. Lovely thought, but she just has to keep commenting on stuff, for example, was Ben safe standing in the shower and holding the water over himself, Noah wasn't to have any more raisins as he had coughed once. I'm sure she stayed cos she doesnt trust me with my own children. I ignored her comment about the shower and insisted on Noah having more raisins. These are only two of the many comments I get every time I see her. I feel like I'm being tested whenever she's here. Bah. She's due here again this morning at 7.30 as she has Noah today. See she's so helpful but can't help sticking her nose in! Aaahhhhhh!

Right, now I MUST get the boys up!

debka - good luck and go for it.

k2tog - happy birthday to P. I was feeling the same way about wanting L to grow up then I read a thread on here yesterday about mourning the loss of your children when they grow up and it made me really . I realised I need to embrace whatever stage he's in, he might be annoyingly whingy 90% of the time but the other 10% he's amazing and wants to cuddle.

tad - to answer your cake question, I think my favourite cake is actually cheesecake. A proper baked one, not the fluffy whipped kind. Of course, chocolate, vanilla or carrot cake would do in a pinch.

reastie - I have a rubbish napper too, but nursery says he goes down fine. He's really easy to put to bed though: put him in the cot in his pyjamas and grobag and he goes to sleep on his own.

Emski - how annoying. You've had problems with her before, haven't you? This is how MILs get a bad reputation.

My first quilting class is tonight and I'm dead excited. [lame emoticon] I also have a pot of choc philly to eat with my banana today. That's just sad, isn't it?

Happy birthday to Pablo!

blizy - at your FIL. He's the one who should feel embarrassed. People lock doors for a reason!

Happy Birthday to Pablo! Hope he has a lovely day :)

How exciting about the midwifery Debka! You'll be fab, it'll be great!

Emski, how annoying! I think that we just have to learn from their mistakes then we can be MILs that dreams were made of. Just shut your ears as much as you can and ignore. Keep saying "it's fine" to him standing in the shower etc. hopefully she'll get the message!

K2, it does get easier! When DD1 was a baby I used to think I wouldn't be ready for another, ever because it was so hard work (and DD1 was so good) but they get more independent. Toddlers are hilarious! Just wait till P looks at you and says "I love you Mummy!" that alone makes it all worth while. :)

I feel guilty sometimes because sometimes conversations between me and DD1 go like this:
DD1: mum
Me: what love
DD1: mum
Me: what?
DD1: mum
Me: (getting really cross) WHAT? What do you want, I said what!
DD1: I love you mum.
Me: oh, I love you too!
She's lovely but so annoying :o

Had an ok night with L last night. She's napping now so I best get some housework done while I have chance!

See you later!

American, chocolate Philly is lovely! I have some in the fridge, it was BoGof in Tesco.
I'd love to be able to make a quilt. They look so lovely but are so expensive to buy! Let us know how you get on. :)

Hello all - well I'm tired already, A just kept waking up in the night Feel like I was up every hour, eventually dp got her up at 6.15 and I slept til 7, still felt knackered though!

Happy birthday to Pablo! knitta its reassuring to hear how you're feeling and you're not on your own with that, its also reassuring to hear from the more experienced mums that it does get easier! Hope P is better for his birthday.

Robin at your conversation with your dd1. Choc philly is so moreish isn't it?! We had it with pancakes and banana at the weekend (the banana made it healthy )

emski mil does sound annoying, and its nothing direct so you kind of have to put up with it don't you?! Hopefully someone will come up with a good comeback...

deb I can imagine you as a midwife for some reason, a lovely one at that!

wiggles at S and confession, fair enough I say!

ledkr hows things with your ds today? Good news about the transplant.

I'd better go do some work. Oh and we are oficially the parents that use tv to keep our child quiet, A gets really whingy before bedtime but if we put in the fecking nightgarden on she cheers up and stops whinging. Needs must!

GRRRRRRR just typed a massive post (with of course interesting and witty responses to everyone), and mn lost it!

So, in brief...

What is this chocolate Philly of which you speak? Is it a dessert thing, or an on-toast thing?

reastie stupid shoes man, I would have just looked at him and said 'so you're saying I can't ever buy shoes here, as you won't tell me if she needs them?'. I need to get C booked in for her MMR too but am dreading it a bit, need to bite the bullet really and ge tit over with.

wiggles LOL re confession 'because they might tell on me', reminds me of the bit in Jane Eyre when she's being told by the nsaty head teacher that she is wicked and will go to hell and asks here what she must do to avoid this, and she says 'I must take care to always stay in excellent health so that I don't die'.

Emski Grrrr re MIL, how does she think you manage to keep the boys safe the rest of the time without her to swoop in with sage advice?

Deb yay for midwifery plans, exciting, and booooo to crappy no sleep day.

k2 I do know how you feel, I go through moments of that, but they're getting less and less frequent. In the dark early days, I couldn't envisage how I would cope with being a Mum forever, now I simply can't imagine life without C. DH and I are lucky in that we do get to go out now and then, as MIL and SIL will babysit, and it helps us to re-connect rather than just getting through the day and collapsing at the end of it.

blizy I was a bit crap and not really on mn much around the time of Zoe's birthday, so instead I wrote her a little message in the snow at the top of our mountain in Austria (...I mean 'ours' as in our apartment is half way up it, I don't own a mountain or anything). The snow will melt soon, and the meltwater will nourish the ground, and lots of alpine flowers grow there in the summer.

Ledkr so pleased that DS is on the list, and I think you did the right thing saying what you did. There are some things in life we can't change, and there are others that we have to decide to change.

So today is my last day in this job, I am going to my glamorous royal event tomorrow, have Thursday & Friday off, and start new job on Monday. Weird feeling!

C is doing fine at the mo, apart from barely sleeping when she's at nursery. It's becoming a bit of a problem because she is beside herself when she gets home. I don't know what to do though, I know you can't make a baby sleep, but I don't know what they are doing to try and encourage it. She has changed keyworker recently and I don't know if that has anything to do with it.

Anyway, off out to lunch in a bit to bid adieu to my colleagues.

Dx

k2tog Happy Birthday Pablo xxx

Yes it definitely get easier, if it didn't I wouldn't even have considered another baby after the wonder that is Olivia

Yesterday afternoon after S & O were out playing, I suddenly thought another few months and Anna would be out the back with them and there would be no in arms baby any more , I felt strangely relieved a little sad!

D I reread Jane Eyre a few weeks ago (free on the Kindle) and I'd forgotten how adult it is. I read it as a child and this time I thought God its a bit depressing isn't it. Happy last day in work and if you're not on later - enjoy tomorrow!

ponyo I long for the day A will watch tv and I don't mind saying it She had a momentary interest in Teletubbies this morning but then went back to trying to lick the dog

I was in Tescos this morning and picked up a dress (which is very nice but I have no where to go in it for a £1. I looked at it when I got home and its one of their designery pieces that was a shocking £140, so I'm the winner of the bargain of the week

wiggles - £140 at TESCO?! WTAF? We need a link. :)

Delia - link to the choc Philly I think it's definitely dessert, v similar to Nutella. I spread it on a banana then ate the rest out of the pot. [classy bird] Have fun at the posh do.

Robin - yes, did the BOGOF in Tesco. I've been trying to get L to say "I love you." If we say something to him, he'll repeat back the correct tone (but not the sounds).

Ponyo - I almost wish that L would watch TV. He watches 5 seconds then goes back to destroying playing. Children's programmes are a bit soul-destroying anyway.

american I know, I was shocked, I can't find it on their website Did I mention it was cream - practical on so many levels Do you think it would be too fancy dan for Annas 1 year assesment tomorrow?

ponyo I have put In the Night Garden on catch up for A - she couldn't be less interested , damn. She is currently balancing on the arm of the sofa doing her favourite thing - looking at photos of herself

k2 You sound like me. It does get better but im all done with babies myself. I met a new Mum friend who is old like me and we have the same warped soh. She has a big age gap and re marriage and is a tad mournfull of her old life,it was nice to share.
We were told our elderly neighbour had died on Sunday last night though i saw her in the garden and then later through the window sat watching tv and smoking a fag Me and dh were out in our pjs last night trying to look through the window to see if she was now a zombie,we were literallky crying with laughter.
reastieDilly takes ages to nap as well,its really hard work.The thing is if she has 2 good naps she sleeps later in the morning
Im having a lovely day watching the races and having my online bets.So far i have won sod all though

about the dress wiggs I bought 2 today on the recommendation of mn.H and m they were 1.99 reduced from 25 i think.

ems that MIL story is really annoying, I would be at it too. Does she actually mean to be annoying and condescending or do you think she means well?

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PABLO

delia I absolutely insist on piccies of you and the vvip

ponyo alice doesn't really pay much interest to the tv much to my annoyance . She sort of looks interested at peppa pig and makes pig noises at it but the only thing she has ever watched with any excitement us our really old fashioned sing and sign dvd - she loves it - stands in front of the tv and smiles and claps and dances thank goodness I have something

wiggles £140 for a tesco dress are you sure that label is right

ledkr keep us updated with that zombie neighbour

Had a rubbish day at work today. Just this one class that are getting to me. I keep telling myself I can't be that bad as I've never had this trouble before and all my other classes are fine and the classes the other teachers dread I quite enjoy, it's just this one group no one else has ishoos with it seems have it in for me and I need to out fox them. Came home and had a good cry and now feel exhausted. Oh well, onwards and upwards.

Evening!
Thanx for the support re mil. I asked a woman in work about it as was getting really uptight and she had a grand daughter and thinks that with age she had become more worried and things and has to stop herself saying things to her dil. I still think mil could just keep her gob shut. When I came home she said Noah had wolfed down his lunch of homemade spag Bol but that she hadn't given him the kidney beans because they have skin on them! I despair!!

Oh Reastie, sorry for your rubbish day, that class sound like a right horrible bunch.

Laughing at Ledkr with your zombie neighbour!

Wiggles, an loving your bargain!

I have succumbed and had some Cadbury Philly, my friend brought me round a mini pot. Just had it on toast and it was gert lush!

Shite, I have not seen the chocolate philly anywhere but on the TV, maybe Cadbury doesn't think we've a sophisticated enough palate here , chocoroo sort it out for us

emski my mil secretly checks that the girls have vests on every time she sees them, oh and she gave Sofia her old mobile phone last week, without asking us first which I still can't bring myself to speak about . Its weird because we've always rubbed along great but I could have cheerfully throttled her.

reastie I am still searching for my dress online but I think it may have been sold at one of their stores abroad. I practicaly had to beat women off my trolley when people realised the price - there were 4 or 5 of them on the racks. I had Anna on standby with her impressive teeth bared when I put it through the checkout

I have tried it on and it fits , its very pretty but not something I'd usually wear, so am hoping my sister gets an invite to one of her "oh look at us we're so trendy it hurts" parties when she heads back to work. Obviously it needs to be somewhere completely child free

Hi all, well this is weird, A is up and awake after crying for an hour when I put her to bed, dp is out so I though fuck it, I want to eat my pizza so I got her up and gave her some crust she is currently standing and chatting away, a bit like when I used to give her asda calpol

Wiggles good find with the dress, I had a trip to tesco today after seeing that! No such luck for me though.

Eek better go A is clambering towards me with a determined look in her eye , will post properly later x

Happy birthday Pablo!

Great find Wiggles! Sounds lush.

That sounds irritating from your MIL, Emski and about the mobile phone without asking you first Wiggles!

Sounds like a fun day ledkr!

Sorry about your class reastie. I'd tell you not to let them get to you, but I've been there myself.

Hope you enjoyed your last day Delia.

We always give S pizza crusts when we are having pizza as the rest of it is too hot It's just bread, isn't it?

S keeps going into the cupboard where his snacks and puddings are, grabbing one and shouting, 'yeah, yeah.' Anyone would think I didn't feed him!

So a q for bfers. I found some blood in my breast milk the other day. Thought it was just a trace. Just looked in the freezer and it is definitely a different colour to the other milk. Would you keep it? I know the blood doesn't do them any harm as such.

Well she's asleep, she cried and screamed for another 20mins when I put her to bed. I feel like complete shit now :( hate leaving her booing away but I couldn't get her up again?!

reastie sorry to hear about work, don't let the little buggers get to you

tadj no idea about breast milk sorry, sure someone will have an answer for you soon. at S triumphantly getting into his snack cupboard!

Oh fgs she's crying again. Deffo feel shitty now :(

Oh Ponyo, hope she sleeps soon. It's so frustrating isn't it?

RIGHT, YOU LOT it's ALL your fault - because you've all been going on about chocolate Philly I have broken my no chocolate before Easter rule because I've eaten the rest of the tub. I won't tell you how much was left half a tub.

Reastie, sorry you had such a bad day at work. Do you have that class often? I think there's always one class that a teacher hates doing. My next door neighbour is a secondary teacher and she has one that she's spoken about before. She says it's really draining. Chin up chuck!

Well done with your bargain Wiggles, marvellous! :o

ponyo oh no, hope you manage to get her down.
tad umm, sure it's fine but I personally I wouldn't keep it, I think that's me being odd though!

kthingysorryidon'tgetyourname happy birthday birthday pablo!

wiggles picture of you in dress. NOW

emski boggling at the kidney beans comment, she sounds a bit overhelpful.

reastie you are amazingly brave for standing up in front of a class of kids, I really could not do that. I'm sure you handle them really well.
Nate is a diehard pram napper/sleeps on me (quel surprise i hear you say). My friend has bought some gadget like a little platform and it rocks the pram! Never seen that before.

ledkr nearly wet myself at the zombie lady smoking her tabs. How is DS after your talk? My brother is living with my mum at the moment, she cooks and cleans for him and chops up his fruit, I don't think he is ever going to leave. Your approach is way better, he is a grown man. Hope he gets some good news re transplant soon.

delia yay you're back, where were you skiing? how are the legs? I always get the classics confused, I think I watched Jane Eyre the film a few weeks ago but can't be sure [forgetful old biddy emoticon]

american Am I the only one who thinks cadbury's philly sounds rank?

robin your conversation is funny. I used to do that with my mum, but after the 20th "WHAT????", I'd say "Nothing" then run off giggling.

Can't remember who brought it up, but I really don't want N to grow up, I like him the way he is . He drives me nuts but manages to do just enough cute stuff to redeem himself each day

Well, DH is assembling the Ikea kitchen we just bought forme Nate, have some mini pots and pans, and pretend fruit. Brill! He is well into housework at the moment, so hoping this will keep him occupied whilst I am boozing cooking.

Ok sorry that was a bit moan moan moan of me. She is asleep (fingers crossed)

Reastie agree re standing in front if a class and teaching, no way could I do it either!

Borg ikea kitchen eh, sounds v good! A has a toy kitchen with a tap that makes a running water noise, except it sounds like a flushing toilet which is funny.

Robin the choco Philly was well worth it wasn't it?! I like how the little bit of paper in the tub has suggestions for what to have it with, one of them is 'on a biscuit'

Am going to bed now, night all

Borg I heart the Ikea kitchen, am v . I the girls are getting one for Christmas, I really wanted to get O one for her birthday but she wanted the bloody Minnie Mouse one

Pizza is Annas, Olivias and Mr Ws favourite food, I can take or leave it and Sofia actively dislikes it.

ponyo hope A settles and you have a good night xx

haha at "on a biscuit"

reastie I know how you feel. I saw a client last week and as i walked up the stairs she shouted "FUCKKKKK OFFFFFF" i said no and went in and started taking the piss out of her smelly teen room and told her i was very old and needed a comfy spot to perch and i knew she had been smoking cos i could smell it and she wasnt to fecking swear at me again cos im very posh.
She ended up in hysterics. I am so unprofessional but it works.
Can you get your vile class together and ask them straight what is wrong and wind them in a bit. Kids can be sooo intimidating but NEVER LET THEM MAKE YOU CRY! They are small and smelly dot let them get to you.

My friend's girls have a wooden elc Kitchen. It's beautiful and I want it. We have a Disney princess one that my mum got DD1 one christmas but its falling to bits and rarely gets played with.