July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

[DesperateHousewife21]

Welcome back everyone!

I'm the complete opposite cake and chul. M hates going out and behaves much worse when out. I hate going out too and only do it cos everyone keeps going on how important it is, fresh air, change of scene and crap like that. Otherwise I could happily stay in for days on end.

Oh no, poor F viks hope he's better soon. And I hope for some better nights for you. Hang on in there. My F is loads better these days, he doesn't have as many belly troubles anymore, though still sicks up a lot. He's dribbling like a demon these days but is quite happy with it. It's amazing how different my children are. M didn't smile a lot as a baby and giggled for the first time when she was 5 months old. F is a real smiler and giggles most nights, it's so, so funny. But he is no cuddler, he's very stiff and likes his own space whereas M loved sleeping on us, all curled up like a little bundle.

Last night was amazing. Lovely food, a few one and a half glasses of wine and adult conversation. We do go out quite a lot with the kids so we were both feeling weird about not having to hold or feed anyone, not looking for a high chair or trying to find the wet wipes in a panic. Can't believe we didn't do that in 19 months. We'll have another night out next Monday. There's no stopping us now. MIL and SIL were very proud that it all worked smoothly and neither child stirred. F also had the best night ever after his dream feed was probably a bit more boozy than normal

Sounds pretty rough everywhere. What's going on? Today is a lovely spring day outside so maybe our luck is turning and we're all gonna be healthy, well rested and problem free on this thread.

Shredded today. First bit of exercise in almost a year. I feel amazing. Bring it on.

Sorry, was gonna reply to everyone but M's up. Gotta go.

It's 16 degrees here today! Really really warm and sunny it's so nice. Have taken D down the beach and now at my parents making the most of the garden.

Yup vik, but worse still there's o chance of promotion or a payrise Hope the doctor's advice pays off for you.

Glad you had a lovely night trudy. And well done for Shredding!

It's ben lovely here too dh. Went swimming with W this morning, then had to exchange my phone, then my friend and her two came round - bonkers mad - E and his friend went completely hyper and the afternoon crashed to a halt when they bashed heads by accident and really hurt themselves. E has a hige egg and bruise on his head, right next to the one he already had from nursery the other day :( Then I took E's school jumpers back and complained about the quality - after only 6 weeks of half-day wear, one of them has stitching coming away at bloth sleeves as well as one arm The other is nowhere near as bad, but is just waiting to go the same way as the stitching is very poor, so they both went back.

I had the worst night in forever last night thanks to a snoring husband and two crying children, didn't really get to sleep until 3am :( Am shagged. And that on top of the day I've had, all I'll say is, roll on bedtime!

mlic that is bad about the jumpers! I had anight of dh snoring the other night and it was 3 before I went sleep too, I ended up crying I was so tired, bloody men! Hope you have a decent sleep tonight.
chul I hate people who comment (or worse,touch the bump) I would have told her that was very rude in a lot ruder way
viks 37? wow you look good, thought you were about my age!
trudy glad you had a nice evening out, roll on Monday for another night!

Been work today and its been so nice, gutted really as im in agony and L went to the park with mum, I love taking him park and not been in ages due to wet on the slides.
Feeling really low at the moment and I dont really know why, I know I keep saying it but im pissing myself of with my face that looks like a slapped arse! got dentist at 8.30 tomorrow and baby group then going to see my dad, dh is working Sat so as 'punishment' he can drive to family party Sat night so I can have several wines

I literally kick dh when he's snoring, he doesn't notice because he's in such a deep sleep it's just enough to get him to alter his breathing!

mlisc poor E it's horrible when they bump themselves esp when they were having so much fun right before it happens.

D has been bashing his head left right and centre for the past few days.

He was having Too Much fun though dh - they were both warned repeatedly to calm down but didn't listen. And friend's dd was in a real whingy mood and W was in a 'I'm going to push everyone because I think it's funny' mood. The combination culminated in her on the floor a number of times in floods of tears and me shouting at W. At one point all four of them were crying, 'twas a nightmare!

I too think you look good for your age vik, I didn't realise you were that age!

I'm watching the obesity timebomb on itv - I had pasta bake and garlic bread for tea yet felt momentarily good about myself for having salad with it Then I remembered how many calories/how much salt there would have been in the rest of the meal

Are you sleeping ok memph? I know that I am feeling quite teary tonight whereas I'd been feeling much better for a while, and I absolutely know it's because I'm knackered.

Memphis you have a lot going on at the minute so of course you're feeling down and there's nothing wrong with that. Keep talking anyway .
Vik in relation to your hair it's never to early to get it done after the birth. Strange that your hair has started falling out this early it usually happens after a couple of months! If you start to notice it getting straggly at the ends it'd be no harm to get a good cut to keep it looking healthy.
Cakes very late answering your question about E's teeth but she has 16 and has done the last while. Any sign of A's to pop through yet?
So glad you and dp got out together trudy! You'd nearly forget how to have a normal conversation with your dp sometimes I find!
I started writing this post about 2 hours ago but my accountant called to sort me out . I hadn't done any books or anything like that since I started so she got me on the right path now!
Bedtimes have got a good bit easier this week. The changes we have made are putting her to bed at 7 instead of 8 or whenever she felt like it which was 10 or 11 some nights. She just goes up now so easily at 7 and we have her in a bed now which seems to be working brilliantly as well and she seems much happier to be in a bed than her cot. Still waking at night but getting a lot less frequent and we just go in and lie beside her which suits far better than sitting at the side of a cot! Although at 4:30 this morn she was knocking on our bedroom door and saying 'heyooooo' . Was very funny but she went back to bed easily. I'm just so glad we're finally getting somewhere and getting the evening to ourselves and we can actually look forward to a bedtime now!

kk glad its all working out for you with bed times, does she stay in her bed mostly then? I feel like we are ages away from putting d in a bed!
Memphis and mylife I love u both! Because we were so long in conceiving d its put us 7 years further down the line, ideally I would have been 3O, that was when we started trying.
mylife how do u feel today? I hope u had a better night.
I'm up for the first time with f, he had a horrendous nappy full of grey slime. But he's just fed well and now I'm watching d on the monitor kicking the crap out of his cot and generally gambolling around and chatting, the little .......monkey!

mlic L slept last night but no im not sleeping, I well up at everything, I read a podt on a thread out last night, not upsetting but I felt quite strongly over what woman was saying and I started crying! I keep talking in the voice that im trying to hold back tears all the time, I even cried after the dentist as I had a cuppa without being in pain!
kk hair question for you, I hated being blonde so have seen my hairdresser twice to darken it, she doesnt want to do a full head of colour as she doesnt like how it looks, so if putting 4 colour foils in but its still not dark enough, just want to be light brown, but my other friend is also a hair dresser and says she would full head colour it, what do you think? Im reluctant to keep going to the hairdresser, I am trying to grow my hair and they keep insisting on trimming it and its getting shorter, was thinking maybe a wash in/out colour shampoo as an interim but would this be bad for my hair long term?
L in bed, been to see my dad he looks terrible, I weigh over 2 stone more than him

Wanted to make Lancashire (I actually typed Lancashite!) Hotpot as I saw a recipe for it and have never done it before and no one has stewing lamb, been to butcher and supermarkets!

Aw memphis and how is he in himself? When is his last chemo?
Your hair...I would full head colour it to be honest and if you don't like the look of a full colour a few foils of blonde or through it will give it a lift without being blonde. Plus you'll be getting a quasi permanent in it if you get a full colour which will condition your hair. Semi permanents ie. 'wash in' colours are nothing but good for your hair and will actually condition in but wouldn't be much good for putting over blonde as it will get very washy looking very quickly which is not a good look! You're never going to get to a light brown with just adding a few foils in. So unless she does what you want next time i'd change hairdresser! And unless your hair actually needs to be trimmed there's absolutely no point in cutting it. Hope that helps

kk thanks for that, now Ive moved here I have 3 friends who do mobile so think I will change, the woman who does my hair at the moment always trims it and always straightens it eventhough I dont like it straightened!
My dad is very low, his final treatment is the week after next, he is stopping all treatment if it hasnt all gone, if im honest I would do the same, I couldnt go through it, I have never known anyone so ill from chemo as him!

Memphis. Well if it hasn't all gone then there's not much point being this sick it's just no quality of life. God it's hard to think that that's the way he has to think . Such a horrible disease and does horrible things to people
It's so quiet on here!

Where is everyone? it cant just gbe me with no life?
kk it is horrible but he is so weak he couldnt even get his jumper on by himself, when it first got diagnosed he was talking about ending it all which was awful, TBH I was shocked he didnt, he is a proud man and doesnt like docs he doesnt even like visiting people in hospital!

We have a family party tonight on dh's side, was trying to get L to have a late nap but he was getting angry by 10 so I may put him down for another later.

Bathroom is all done apart from the cabinet that hasnt arrived it looks nice, I lay the floor last night before bed!

I'm lurking, it's all gone to pot here.

Fingers crossed that last treatment kicks it memphis so your dad can start getting better. Hope your tooth's all fixed.

oh, and to add to the joys, I agreed to go to a ball tonight with DH...38 weeks pg, not slept for 2 weeks, 2 ill dc and as big as a house. Great idea that was...

memph Really sorry about your father. I hope he'll get the all clear soon.

chul I hear you sister. I'm so sick of everybody being sick. M has a high fever again and is very poorly. Me and DP still haven't recovered from the last lot and my throat is killing me. When will it ever stop?

Quick question. Never had to go to the docs with the children while we were here. Last night M's temperature really was sky high and we started wondering where we would go or what we would do should she need to see a doctor. We have SILs doctor but what about the weekend? Any advice?

Had a lovely day yesterday though. Went to Cambridge with MIL and F while DP stayed here with M. Twas so lovely. A spot of shopping and a nice lunch really cheered MIL up.

The disadvantage of my new MN layout, with the most recent posts being at the top, is that I can't quickly check what everyone has said...

Though I remember viks saying parenting is the hardest job and I totally agree. I once worked in a job where I literally had no idea what I was doing. Everyday I was dreading that people would find out that I didn't belong there. Yet it wasn't as stressful as breastfeeding one and trying to cuddle and calm the other while they go mental

We have some friends come over tomorrow. Haven't seen them for ages. On the one hand I'm really looking forward to it, on the other I'm dreading what they will think when they see me. I'm 2 stone heavier than when we last met

If M's better on Monday we'll have another night out. On Tuesday we'll go and look at a few more houses, on Wednesday we'll fly back and Thursday is the pre appointment of my treatment thingy which will be next Monday. Saturday we'll drive to a birthday party and Sunday we'll have friends over for a visit. My word, that sounds a bit too busy for my liking. Oh well.

What are you all doing on this fine spring weekend?

Hi all, sorry things are crappy for so many of us!

It was my lie in this morning and DH took J to a dads' club thing at the children's centre - a toddler group for dads with a fried breakfast included! They both seemed to have fun and J has been asleep for more than two hours now so it wore him out. I have been for a run and cleaned the inside of the car (we are getting a new car this week and giving our old one to BIL). When J wakes up we need to nip to Sainsbury's and B&Q, then got friends coming for dinner tonight.

J has been off his food for days and days now - hope he starts eating again soon.

trudy there's often a drop-in centre somewhere, or ring NHS direct if you need immediate advice, they can either direct you to the nearest out of hours surgery or send you to the hospital.

well we are having a f***g nightmare this weekend, D is really really out of sorts and totally not himself, hes off his food, clingy, whingy and so sooooooooo annoying. We had the worst night in ages last night and DH is still away so my poor friend from brum has had to take the brunt, thank god shes here, id have gone mad without her.
woods why is J not eating
memphis ur a clever clogs aint cha putting the floor down! Hope ur ok.
chu thinking of you, hope u manage to have a good night, might be what you need.......................maybe??
Hope everyones fine, totally self absorbed sorry.

Sorry to all those having a stressful time with poorly LOs.

I've had a poxy headache all day because I had a lie in this morning, it happens every sat it's so unfair. I look forward to my lie in all week then I feel crappy for the rest of the day.

D has been sleeping relatively better, spending more of the night in his bed. Sleeps all evening most nights now which is such a bonus.

thanks chul. spoke to nhs direct. she is so hot it's unbelievable. even paracetamol couldn't get it much lower. will have to wait what the night brings and then maybe take her to a and e an hour away poor little girl.

poor m trudy! hope she improves soon and you get some sleep.

J has had a cold/cough for a while (you all know what it's like, one bug morphs into the next), a good fortnight now, and he is mainly better though still has the cough. It has really put him off his food - I think he probably has a sore throat. A friend of his at nursery has had the same thing, just a few days ahead of him, and is finally eating again now, so hopefully it won't be long till J is back to normal.

I'm not sure I can cope any longer. D woke crying at 3.20 and has whinged and cried and shouted and talked ever since. I haven't been in at all. Have I done the right thing? Dh would have gone mad by now but he's not here and I'm really worried about him as he hasnt been in touch since 2pm yesterday afternoon. The baby is struggling to settle and has been up 3 times. This can't continue can it. I'm posting on my phone under the duvet trying toblock out the racket from d, f is in my room so no chance of that. I just want to know what is wrong with d, how can be STILL. Be awake for all this time? I don't get it and its scaring me now.

Hope M is better this morning Trudy? There are lots of bugs around atm. Remember the afternoon E and his friend clashed heads? The next morning friend's dd came out in chickenpox, so we'd been with them for hours on the Thurs and W was in nursery with her on the Fri morning. So we're playing the waiting game again now

Chul hope last night was ok in the end. We went out last night and got to bed at 2.30am - up at 7am. [must be mad emoticon] I feel surprisingly fine actually. Although dh is in bed pretty ill.

Speaking of dh's vik I hope you've heard from yours by now? He knows you're not coping well so I sincerely hope you tell him how shitty it is of him not to ring you to let you know he's ok/him to ask how you and the kids are I honestly don't know what to suggest with D but yes, imho you did the right thing to ignore him.

You can do it, and you will do it. It just feels like the shittest of shits at the moment because you're so tired. Is your friend still there supporting you? Could she take the kids somewhere for an hour or two for you to get a nap? Or take F out at D's nap time and then she only has one but you can still sleep?

:( bout your dad memph. I hope you're ok.