July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

[DesperateHousewife21]

Welcome back everyone!

Does he like hummus (I never know how to bloody spell that ) vik? You could put that on. You can buy lots of dairy free spreads from supermarkets these days - they're all in the normal 'butter' aisle but clearly labelled as dairy free. You could try getting him some soya/almond milk for cereal maybe?

Sorry you're struggling there chul :( When's your dh off next?

Still haven't meal planned but am going to have salmon with cous cous for tea I think then spag bol tomorrow.

W keeps pointing at his mouth and saying ow. I can't see any sign of new tooth though

viksam I put soya or rice milk on his cereal, I actually use vanilla flavoured and he loves it, normal soya tastes a lot creamier than milk and has more calcium. And on toast you can get a vegan 'butter' called Pure, I used to put pate on L's toast which he loved but he now prefers butter. what about marmite or jam?
chul hope all these illnesses clear up soon, I bet your dh cant wait til you have the baby so he gets some time off with you all, will he get the two weeks paternity?
mlic I think im doing cottage pie tonight, looked in freezer and I have loads of mince so got to get through stuff and not keep buying when I dont need it, Im going shopping with a list and I wont drift off of it

L woke at 2.30, then not again til 6.50. My sister wants to have L today so he is going there for a few hours so I can get the food shopping done and the first coat on the bathroom.

Sorry I've been quiet. We've been in the UK now for a week. Came to FILs funeral and are now staying with MIL for another week. Sad, sad times but the children are helping everyone to get distracted.

They were very well behaved on the flight over, though people kept looking at us as though we were mad travelling with a 3 months and 18 months old.

M is being worse behaved than ever. Even my MIL admitted that she's never known a child like that. She flips several times an hour a day and screams like she is being tortured for things like putting her in the buggy, not carrying her or not doing exactly what she wants. I'm losing it so often and really feel bad about it but I have no idea how to handle this. If I ignore it she steps it up a gear and up and up and up.

A day before we left I had the results for the biopsy. I will have to have this procedure as soon as we're back. Luckily they have agreed to treat me as an outpatient, so I hopefully won't have to stay in hospital and will only have to pump and dump for a little while. Scary stuff but I'm pleased they found it early and hopefully it won't go any further. Can I just remind everyone to please go to your smear tests! Don't postpone it, do it now!

We've been looking at houses today. My feeling is that despite the recession prices are still too pretty high. Have you noticed that in your areas?

Tomorrow night MIL will babysit and me and DP will go on our second night out together since M was born. Can't bloody wait. I think I will push the breastfeeding booze limit. I really need to let my hair down. Things have been quite depressing for a while. If all goes well, we will even get another night out before we go back. Wooohooo.

Sorry things are so tough round yours chul and memph. I think shit weather and winter in general have a lot to answer for. Colds, bugs, depression and feeling trapped, to name but a few.

Sorry, can't remember what else I wanted to say to people, so just a quick wave to everyone.

Right, I'm gonna try and get this posted now. T'internet connection is well dodgy here, out in the sticks.

Hope you're all enjoying your Pancake Days. Who's having them tonight?

DH is having them tonight trudy, though they're not really my idea of a meal so I'm having something different :)

Glad you are feeling better about the treatment. Great news it can be done as an outpatient. Hope you have a great night out! Oh and I never postpone my smear test but I must try to make myself go to the GP about this ache/pain I have had for over a week in my left boob.

WRT recession/house prices, my experience is that people 'try their luck' but in reality accept far less than their asking price.

tsc thats shit about the phone, my dh's phone got wet once and worked again when it thoroughly dried......wierd. Great about the night, shit thats its gone rubbish again. Do we all have sleep issues on here, certainly seems like it.
trudy hows F doing? Is he any better now hes slightly older. Cant advise about M behavour but it doe sound stressfull, if its any consolation i think we can all identify with the tantrums at some point or another. Glad you guys are going to get out together, that will be nice.
mylife He did like hummus but tried it at lunch and not keen. Hes had three BAD nappies today....TMI alert.....they are very watery so sinking straight into the nappy and leaving like gritty bits behind and bits of undigested food and they have a very particular smell too, rancid! Today hes had some toast and dry cerial and some fruit puree for breakfast then some mimi savoury eggs and crackers and pom bears and some grapes, might do some fish fingers and beans for tea, bet he wont eat the beans though.
F is really unsettled and has been really hard work today. Lats night he didnt get up untill 3am, result i thought, untill i was up for just over an hour with him, he went back down at 4.10, which would have been fine and put him in line to wake for 7ish. Oh no, he woke again at 5.30ish and then again at 6.20, i managed to settle him then till 7.30, so talk about a night of two halves! DH has been off work poorly today too, just seems that one of us is ill all the time at the moment! Im gona have to abandon all my plans and probably not send him to the cm tomorrow too!!! Rahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!

My nursery's policy is if they have 3 loose nappies in a day they're sent home. Don't think they've ever been sent home, either of them. W defo hasn't and if E has he must have been under one.

What's that about a t'interview tsc?

Sorry to hear about your FIL, trudy. Hope you enjoy your night out, and I wouldn't worry too much about the bfing booze limit - obviously you won't want to get so drunk you aren't safe to hold F, so as long as you're not that bad you'll be fine to bf.

we're off out for dinner tonight too, just for a pizza at zizzi's or something, really looking forward to it!

trudy glad they can treat you as an outpatient, makes things a lot easier, I hope it all goes well as and when it happens and that until then you don't worry about it too much.
S is a big tantrumer too and very impatient, I'm just waiting til he grows out of it cos there doesn't seem to be anything I can do.

mlisc he should get his 2 weeks off which will be lovely, then my mum will be down for the next 2 weeks so we'll get some time in the evenings. I just want everyone to be well, so tired of being an ill house.

tsc why on earth did you lob his phone down the toilet? trying to see how that could be an accident but then I rarely have my phone on me so I don't think I've ever had it in the bathroom.

woodlands have a lovely night!

viks I've not packed my hospital bag yet, need to get on with it but since I've still got 3 weeks it's hard to find the urgency.

I had One of Those Days today. S's eyes are constantly oozing green pus and he cries so much that I'm sure none of the drops are getting in. His nose won't stop running. His nappies are so loose that one leaked on the floor and L picked up a piece of his poo to show me cos I'd not noticed. L wee'd on the floor, I think she's getting a bit thrown by pgcy/constant illness etc. I'm totally running on empty and there's no end in sight...gotta go, S is awake again.

oh chu, hope its not such a bad night for u! sounds like a proper shite day, no pun intended!! im going to bed now, someone post something so i have something to read at stupid o'clock!

Oooops...sorry vik!

I was going to post something but it would've been right after viks had so I reckoned she'd probably have read it before bed (not that I had anything to say).

I will say something for having a stonking cold and constant cough, it totally puts you off eating. I've made 3 cakes in the last week and had one slice of each, no biscuits, I tried one and realised I couldn't taste a thing so may as well have been eating a cracker.

Both dc slept through til 6.45, shame I was up all night but you can't have everything and it was lovely not to hear S at 5. I need to shake this cold, it's been nearly 2 weeks, taking the piss! I'd give good money for a couple of nights of Night Nurse...

chul sorry things are shit, surely it has to let up soon? 3 cakes? to be fair I made those 2 cakes and bineed half of each yeterday as I havent been in the mood, DH gave me a telling off as all im living off is biscuits again, he keeps asking why I dont eat my tea, trying to explain to someone who doesnt cook that once you have cooked you dont always fancy it goes over his head!
trudy hope you had a nice night out, its ice that the kids are there to keep people occupied at this horrible time.

Got 2 friends over this morning (one is the devil child) and then this afternoon my friend whos little girl L is totally in love with. I need to also do another coat of paint in the bathroom and bake a cake, was suppost to do one yesterday but I had no lemon curd and ran out of baking powder, sainsburys and asda had none!

I can't shift my cold either chul so I know how you feel. Unfortunately it hasn't put me off my food, I had delicious teriyaki salmon last night. dh had 5 pancakes! It has however put me off my exercise, I just feel shit for doing it rather than better so I've decided to stop until I'm over this cold.

I logged off early last night as I watched The King's Speech. Good film, excellent acting imo.

We have no plans for today. Quite fancy a lazy day to be honest. I told dh this morning he'll be getting a jacket potato for tea. I really cba with anything today.

That's why I generally don't bake chul. I end up throwing huge chunks in the bin and it seems like such a waste of money. Or I make things like a swiss roll and dh polishes it off in two nights - not exactly good for the waist line!

I forgot to say, I took the stair gate off last weekend. And W said thank you on the way out of school when the teacher held the door for us. He's growing up isn't he?!?!?!

mlic our gates will remain up to stop the dog getting upstairs, but its scary how they are growing up so fast now, L is talking so much now, I had a little tear the other day listening to him talk to dh on the phone. 'Daddy?, hello moo bics peeese (moo bics are malted milks) byeeeeeee' then walked off waffling on about his nanny!

I never bin cake mlisc, I can't physically do it. On the very very very rare occasion there's stuff that needs eating up I'll either take to church or to one of our groups. I honestly just can't bin it simply cos we've not eaten it!

S still doesn't say anything, and I daren't take the stairgate off cos he likes coming down 'properly' which is a recipe for disaster. Right, both dc whinging, we're all off for a nap (I hope)

Hi,
I have nothing to say apart from THIS SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
D is really poorly, hes developing a cough and is just soooooo whingy its unbelievable, trying to look after F at the same time is really hard. This morning has been a constant battle, i hate it, im so not cut out to be a SAHM i really dont know how you guys have done it, id rather do a 15 hour day at work than this!

Me too vik

But I honestly think, as hard as it seems now, you will look back and be grateful for the time you spent with them. I would never have chosen to be a SAHM if it hadn't have been for financial reasons. Whilst I have days where I would give anything to be at work (those days are getting fewer as W is getting older/better) I know that if I worked full time I would look back and wonder why.

It'd be different if I'd had a career I loved or a profession I had to 'keep my hand in' in order to keep qualifications etc, but I didn't, so it didn't make sense to go out to work in a job I didn't like, for no money, and have someone else look after my children half the week.

You're in the thick of the worst bit, it will get better soon. F is already nearly 2 months old, colic usually shifts by 3 months - you're doing a great job. Have a very un-mn ((hug))

Hope you got some sleep chul

mylife you always make me feel better, thank you. Dying to cook some stuff out of the magazine, need to get illnesses out of the way and im gona have a go at one or two of them, theres loads in there including a pancake recipe, didnt have them yeserday so must do them soon too.
I just phoned the docs to get the results of the stool sample i handed in on friday morning and theres no trace of it!! im so pissed off, i made a massive effort to get one there asap and it looks like its gone missing!!
D has been sleeping since 1.40, dont know wether to wake him or not........
chu hows things your end, did u get a kip, wish i had, they are tag teaming today!
I know i moan loads and im sorry, just for the record i love them both far too much, i just dont find it all that easy, i think its got something to do with being slightly older, very selfish and very sleep deprived!!
woods did you have a good night with dh?
memphis hope you had a good day with your friends.

It is hard vik, there's no denying it!

How old are you? Just out of interest [nosey emoticon]

mlic thought the rule was never ask a womans age?
chul I binned these cakes, I think even the church would have turned then down for being too heavy, having another go later to lighten it up!

Had a lovely day, the morning I hate, I hate meeting with the devil child I really do, he never ever talks from 3 months has screamed a scream that goes through me and makes me feel sick, he has always done it for all emotions, sad,angry, happy, excited it drives me bonkers, L doesnt know how to process it and sat in the kitchen on his own as he couldnt handle it, but this afternoon my friend came and it was lovely, I had amoan about dh, life etc and how im really not coping too well, it was nice to talk it out, she was really helpful and lovely and my temp crown has just fell off, im in agony and my dentist is off til friday!

viks we all hate it from time to time, some days it seems like there's no redeeming feature to being a sahp and sometimes that can go on for weeks and weeks. It will get better in a few months and by the time your F is 1 ish you'll really start to enjoy it. I know it seems like a decade away but it really isn't.

I didn't get a nap cos I knew DH was expecting a parcel so I was on tenterhooks waiting for the doorbell and then S only had an hour.

S is still ill, I'm longing for the day when they're both well. I've had horrendous indigestion all day, polished off 2 pints of milk and half a pot of tums. I'm quite hungry but honestly can't eat even a raisin or a cuppa without painful reflux

memphis that sounds horrible re your tooth, you poor thing! You inspired me the other day and I cooked a chocolate fudge cake. Apparently it tastes lovely but I've not tried it what with colds and indigestion

I had some dumbass tell me I was massive today, never met her before in my life. I shouldn't let it bother me but it's seriously pissed me off for the rest of the day. What gives people the right to comment just cos I'm pg? Argh!

Finally got back on again but still no bloody broadband.

Just been catching up and it sounds pretty grim all round :(

My week's been a bit crap so far - dh was away sun to tues. Work's been stupidly busy and frustrating, awful sleep as usual and then I've been starting to lose the plot with the broadband problem (mainly cos it means I'm struggling to keep up with work). Nothing that bad really but I've had hellish pmt and ended up properly screaming at poor dh last night :(

Things looked up today when I dedicated several hours to sorting our of long overdue accounts (from april!). Really mind-numbing stuff but the upshot was is that dh owes me just over a grand. Yeah!

You resisted saying 'ooooh, you too!' to cheeky woman then chul? ;D I could never get my head round people commenting and touching my bump when pg and vowed never to do it to another woman and then found myself touching a woman's bump the other day - at a party, ffs! I apologised immediately - couldn't believe I'd done it!

Cakes.... Made the Best Lemon Cake Ever this week!! Finally! So pleased with it. Have eaten most of it already. Both my two love cake so they'll polish off any crumbs I don't eat.

vik totally second what chul and mlic said. You're doing great, it's nothing you're doing wrong - it is just a fucking tough time. I hope you start to see those little chinks of light soon - I think you will once the colic goes.

chul flipping heck mate. Wish I could give you a hand.

It was only v recently that I started to find it just as easy in the house as going out. We've actually stayed in the whole day a couple of times this month which only ever happened about twice ever before! My two are getting good at pottering round playing, reading, doing puzzles etc now and it's been lovely just staying in all snuggled up in the warm. Previously we'd all be stircrazy by 3pm.

Hope you have a wonderful night out trudy

Need to get some sleep now so sorry everyone who I've missed. Hopefully will catch up properly soon.

Haha, memphis isnt it that you never ask a 'lady' her age...........im no lady, i can tell you that for free!! Im 37, 38 in June, not that old i know but old enough to be stuck in my ways, tired and selfish!! I feel like ive started a new job that i dont like and that im not qualified for and theres noone to supervise me!!
Well that night beat the record of shite nights, i cant even be arsed to go into the details but i was up with F at 2.15 and didnt properly go back to bed. F has had really weird poo and really struggled to get it out, its got like grey mucus in it. Just come back from the docs and he says its his cold working its way through his system and its lying in this stomach, the grey mucus is possibly undigested milk as his tummy is probably slightly inflamed, he has a slightly elevated temp and inflamed throat. He suggested i give calpol to him, hes 8 weeks old, i would never have done that unless he said. Also suggested we make half strength bottles up so its not so irritating to his tummy, hope it all work's!!