July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

[DesperateHousewife21]

Welcome back everyone!

Gah! just rang dads and ended up sobbing (not to him) that he needs something in him, and I will give them my smoothie maker if they want and told them all the things he should put in it, vit c, antioxidents etc crying and begging him to drink something :( apparently the chemo nurse said he is on the 2nd strongest chemo drug there is and having huge amounts of it, you think of cancer being the killer not the chemo, im off to bed im bored, tired and making myself in a worse state because of it and worst than that im googling horror stories!

Definitely don't google stuff. Hope you have a really good sleep and feel a bit stronger to tackle everything tomorrow. It must be so hard, I wish there was something I could do to help. Have you posted in the health bit? I'm sure someone on mn would have some helpful suggestions of what your dad might be willing and able to eat.

memphis im so sorry to hear about your Dad, thats a good idea to give them your smoothie maker,it must be horrible for him, poor man, and poor you too. Not nice for anyone. Men are crap on the phone arnt they, when does ur dh get back? will he have L while u go see him? I hope u sleep well, u need your strength as well.

memphis so sorry about your dad it must be awful to feel so helpless but wanting to do something at the same time.
Really hope he picks up when the chemo is finished.

Aw memph :( god it's horrible thing to be going through and I can't even think of anything to say to you. I can imagine you just feel like you wish you could do something.

Thanks ladies, feel a lot better for sleep, chulita chemo makes everythink you eat and drink taste awful like metal or brasso so that makes him more sick plus the sores filling his mouth, but he has promised to try a smoothie, when Tristan had his chemo he would eatand drink anything from Starbucks so we had no problems there we just spent fortune in there every week! My dad has never been a big eater, as a kid I used to eat more than him.
viksam dh gets back tonight thank goodness, he doesnt like talking face to face a lot so no hope on the phone, he was trying to organise his sister or mum to have L but they are useless so I dont like asking, they never offer or ask if they can have him and when I do its all umming and aaahhing, plus they would never pick him up I have to drop and pick up wich with the 2 trips would be 2 hours!
Woke up to dogshit all over the kitchen, think its because I went up to bed so early last night, got to go get nappies and baking stuff, Im going to make a coffee cake over the weekend I reckon.

:( Sorry to hear about your dad memph. Glad you feel more positive after a good night sleep. Yuk to getting up to dog shit. I got up to dog sick yesterday, nice.

I'm not sure if we might be getting The Pox. W has about 4 spots, two upper thigh and two groin. I took him to nursery and told them, they inspected and said it could be, but equally could just be viral. They said he was fine to stay and they will keep an eye on him and ring me if they spread/start to blister or clump.

mlic hope its not the pox, is your dog ok now after her suspected fit? I hate sick of any sort but can cope with poo! even L being sick on monday I couldnt touch it I was heaviing watching mum clean it up!
Just been over to town to get a few bits and bought a dining table! It was one I wanted and it was £600 at xmas, went down to £300 in January but couldnt afford it so went to get paint today and it was the last one reduced to £200! its from Homebase and my sister has a store card which is interest free for 6 months so she has bought it and I will pay it off next month as I have dh's present to get in March!
My sister is coming to take L this afternoon, dad is too ill for visitors so im going to blitz the house then chill out!

Well nursery haven't phoned so here's hoping!

Anyone want to tell me why the fuck I thought it would be a good idea to clean the driveway today? Fuh.Reee.Zing. Idiot.

Nice on on the table memph! I wish our dining room wasn't also an office and full of research books, dvds and endless amounts of technology. Not the nicest view for a dinner party

Oh no mlic do you think people i mean dh's family will think I will want to have nice dinners now I have a nice dining set? I didnt think on that, tight I need an oilcloth table cloth and hang coats on the chairs when the ever visit! will be nice for us 3 as they are the padded leather chairs, the cheap wooden ones we have I cant sit at due to my back.
I have been ready the thread on help we are the smelly family, its made me paranoid, we have been here 3 months and I have never opened the windows in the houses got them all open now! although Ii know my house doesnt smell as dads does so makes me paranoid and I ask everyone if it smells!

I have opened the windows too I always have a vanilla plug in air freshenr on as I'm paranoid about the house smelling 'dog'ey. It's also why I scrubbed the drive - the dogs wee out the back and it hasn't been scrubbed all winter so was smelly.

Both dc are asleep...I should wake them up shouldn't I S has been asleep since 12, L fell asleep on my back whilst watching Winnie the Pooh so I could have a snooze. Had I known she was that tired I'd have toddled off to bed. Tonight's going to suck...

I can't stand stinky houses, the people renting our house have 2 Shit-Zoos that thankfully don't smell but I live in fear of checking up on them one day and having a doggy house - bleugh! I was wondering why you were cleaning the drive mlisc!

Good stuff on the table memphis, I love a bargain like that :)

chulita its lovely, dark brown leather chairs and a cherry wood table cant wait to collect it!
I hate stinky houses, my dog only smells after day care and he gets brushed and dog deodoranted before he enters the house, MIL's house smell fusty like old people house even though they have totally modernised it and have leather sofas, she hides any trace of her H smoking but it sometimes reeks!
I have cleaned all the insides of my kitchen cupboards and fridge, all the shelving, floors the lot, even got on my knees to scrub the front porch (I hate the tiles in there)
The upstairs is annoying me, I really want the spare room sorted now and the bathroom, I now know what I want to do but want to get everything so I can do it all in one weekend! Our bedroom I dont know what colout to do, I wanted a dusky pink but dh said no,we have a duck egg kitchen, having grey in front room, navy bathroom so I want something lighter and brighter in bedroom!

That's where I;m lucky. DH doesn't give a monkeys about the decor. I choose what I like and he barely comments

Wow, you've been busy memph! My dogs smell of dog. I think most if not all dogs do as they get older. They're 6 now and that's pretty old, boxers only tend to live until 8/9/10 years old. No she hasn't had any other 'episodes' sorry I forgot earlier, thanks for asking. Although you have reminded me that whilst I've shampood the dog with medicated shampoo today I've forgotten to give him his tablets. Must do that now.

Did you wake them chul? I don't envy you at 7pm

TSC how are you feeling? How's fong?

PS why does your dog go to daycare memph?

memphis sorry your dad is having such a rough time

Our house probably smells doggy but I'm one of those dog-owning people who doesn't notice the smell.

mlic The dog goes to daycare on a wenesday as he is then out all day getting to play with in excess of 20 dogs and also being trained for 3 hours of the day, its a lot cheaper than dog training that is £20 per hour, I pay £15 for the whole day, they collect and drop off too, He is actually a different dog and I can actually say I love him and he is lovely now (not know if you remember how much I hated him) and he is so shattered when I go work on a thursday im convinced he doesnt actually move the whole day!
When L came home he opened the cupboard and emptied the ready brek on the floor! when I noticed it was quiet and went to look they dog and L were haveing a snow fight throwing it over the place and sliding through it!

S woke himself while I was typing, I brought him down and he whinged (big surprise), woke L up and they've both complained ever since. Now in bed and nowhere near ready to sleep but I was going to explode if they were up any longer!

memphis your two often seem to be attacking the kitchen!

Tell me about it I have 2 cupboards that I cant put child locks on and they get in to them and work as a tag team! As soon as I walked in L picked up the tea towel and 'cleaned' the floor! Im just in my pj's and the chinese doesnt deliver and dh 'has driven miles' so wants me to go, times like this I wish we lived in the old place I wouldnt care walking out in my pjs there!

Talk about stressed!!! When dh walked in tonight I was in the kitchen preparing the broccoli. DH said what have you got there W? It was only my bloody engagement ring I'd taken my rings off to put hand cream on because my hands are so sore and forgot I'd put them on the coffee table. My eternity ring - missing.

I looked everywhere for ages and was getting really upset then I finally found it. Phew.

That's really good value memph. I do remember you not liking him, yes, and I'm very pleased you love him now :)

I made pineapple chicken for tea and it was gorgeous! Better than a takeaway and less than half the price

That sounds really tasty mlisc, I've made Island chicken before with mangoes and it tastes amazing! (must make it again now that you've reminded me). Glad you found your ring, what a 'mare L nearly lost my engagement ring once and I thought my heart was going to stop.

memphis luckily S can't open our cupboards, he sometimes gets into the pantry if I've not shut the door properly but all he bothers with is the dried fruit

Test frigging test

I love mango but have never mastered the art of cutting it properly!

That recipe was so simple - chicken, cornflour, ground ginger, curry powder, pineapple chunks, pineapple juice and soy sauce. I think that was it. Yum. Served with rice and tenderstem broccoli.

I wrote this on weds but couldn't post it due to the issues I'm having with mumsnet. I'll post it anyway as the general theme is pretty much accurate!

Tired and grumpy as still no bloody broadband after our order got accidentally cancelled - three fucking times. Which I'd been predicting from day 1. Hardly feeling smug tho, just raging.

Also no sleep last night due to madam's teething, mmr side effects and a cold. She was so cross she was asking for milk (I never normally bf during the night but she was going crazy and wouldn't settle any other way) and 3 times she waited til I got my boob out and she full on slapped it :-/

Was supposed to be going out for drinks with friends tonight but feeling too crud. I'm sure I don't feel as bad as you tho chul so I won't be too pitiful.

I'm not planning to move A from her cot any time soon tho bought her a couple of pretty quilt covers today.

Oh and food shopping confession which'll shock mlic - I spent another 90 quid in tesco on monday. 4 days after spending the 66 in waitrose.

(And then another 11 quid yday in sains. This is how I spend so much a month on food shopping)

Heard anything more from your fb 'friend' mlic? She does sound v oversensitive imo.

I wasn't so much hmm about the sweet n savoury (pineapple's legal imo) as the chicken!

Congrats on things finally going your way spirael! Your new kitchen looks great.

Hope the ill ones feel better soon.

Red wine and a book tonight now methinks.

Update saturday:

memph really feel for you about your dad. Hope he'll come out thru other side of this crappy chemo period soon. It does seem so cruel to put people thru it when they're already ill but of course it's worth it in the long run.

am recovering from another shit night with A. thankfully dh has taken them both to a cafe for breakfast so I'm lounging in bed drinking tea and about to have a bath.

Thinking of going to westfield later. I don't like shopping centres usually but there's something about its glossy, gorgeous-food filled approach that keeps drawing me back. Zara and vietnamese curry here I come :)

What are your plans everyone?

Oh and mlic, dh had his flying lesson yday and loved it. He's seriously weighing up going for his licence but I just can't get over the cost of 150ish quid a lesson! Two lessons a month which is what it seems like is the norm is 300 quid! That's over 8k just on the lessons without factoring in any incidental costs or the costs after licence is achieved.

Just such a lot of money and I can't quite see the benefit/return on investment compared to other ways of spending it. Ways that the whole family can enjoy, ffs. Yes we could afford it and he's talking about buying them out of 'his' bonus but to be honest I personally don't think you can lay claim to thousands of pounds for your own use when you're part of a family. Can you?

He probably wouldn't go ahead if I put my foot down so I'm just planning my arguments against, aloud on here!

Sorry if this is rude but I can't not ask it... How on earth did you get your head round your dh spending so much on flying lessons when you're managing your household budget on a shoestring and couldn't afford nursery back in the dark old days when you were struggling with both of them on your own all week?

I know we're all different but seriously: My.dh.would.have.no.balls.left.