July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

[DesperateHousewife21]

Welcome back everyone!

Just quickly checking in. I am reading everything, just haven't had much time to post!

Started my new job on Tuesday and ended up doing a day trip to HQ in Uxbridge (from Leeds...) yesterday. I had to leave at 5am, but at least I got back just in time to put M to bed, otherwise I wouldn't have seen her all day. Hopefully such trips will be few and far between!

Rushing off to make cookies and get the house sorted before friends arrive, but cake sorry to hear about F but glad to hear you are so positive about it, it doesn't sound like something that will hold him back. It sounds like he is streets ahead of my 4 yr old in reading etc! He is obviously a very bright boy and will do very well with the support he will undoubtedly get from you guys.

cakes sorry to hear about F, must have been a worry but as everyone says he is streets ahead of others his age so hopefully it wont hold him back.
viksits on fb its a mini moto with the engine taken out and put on a rocker, L loves it and dh is already talking about putting an engine back in 8it at some point.

My dad got his results today and there is no trace of cancer in his body! so pleased!

I posted too soon!
I also had birth councelling and have been trying to get my head around it all, a medical birthplan has been written up unlike a personal birthplan its things that freaked me out last timehave to be addressed next time like doc shouting at me about my dignity, lack of communication as to why they all rushed in and didnt say why they had to get him out, and other stuff, she also said my epidural was classed as a faliure, all the forceps stuff and losing blood after, the things they had to do to sort me out have probably explained why 2 years on im still in pain and im being reffered to a gaenacolgist (sp?) maybe to be re cut?

I'm just checking in!

cake sorry about F that must have been a shock, as you say hope it's mild and not going to affect him too much.

memphis great news about your dad, what A relief for you all :)

I'm just over 12 weeks now, my scan is a week today so a bit late and I'm getting v impatient with it all. It seems like years ago I found out and so now convinced something bad has happened because I've been waiting for the scan.

Oh dh I know how u feel re something bad, with D I begged for an earlier scan to check everything was OK but they wouldn't. Try not to worry too much, easier said than done I know. How's D, will u explain it to him soon or will u wait.
cake it sounds like a very wide ranging condition, what is it that's made the lady suggest it? How will u go about proper diagnosis? I'm sorry if I've missed u saying but are u saying you cope with a similar thing
Memphis the bike is ace I bet he loves it, great news about ur dad, I bet he's over the moon isn't he.
chu how's things there? Doesn't sound great today.
I have to say I have crashed and burned spectacularly today. I'm not coping right now, I feel very lonely and isolated, I meet friends all the time but they are not the sort of friends I can just pop in on and i'm really feeling like I need some support. My back is killing me and f has pretty much cried all afternoon so it made me cry too. How can I cook D's tea and deal with f like that? I really need to come up with a strategy cos its not working the way things are right now. Sorry to be miserable, feel like I need to get under the duvet and not come out for a week!

vik sorry you're struggling, it is hardwith two little ones - it's just one day at a time really. I don't think I've ever been as tired as in the first 6 months of G's life when I had a very active 2 yr old, was up 2 or 3 times a night and felt like I never got a break.

OK, A had some really easy teas (cheese on toast etc) so I could deal with G in the afternoons. Have you got a bouncer or swing for F, might help? A also watched far more TV than was probably good for her but it didn't kill her and you just do what you can to get through. It will get better, I promise. Really, rest when you can - lie on the sofa even while they are nearby - so much of it was extreme tiredness with me, it made everything seem worse.

memphis that's brilliant news about your dad. Do you think the birth counselling is helping?

Dh will be great to see the baby on the scan!

Our friends had a little girl by elective c/s on Wed, she had a fairly tough time first time round with an emergency one and has been nervously asking me lots of questions about elective ones. Anyway it was really lovely and calm and she is in that blissful "I've got a newborn and I'm in love" stage, so lovely to see.

wss it was just a one off to discuss any things that I felt I needed to talk about/have explaining, I went to baby group today that is linked to the PND support group I went to and she has seen me from L being 4 months old and me being in a real mess and she said today I look the most relaxed I have ever looked and the way I talked about things seemed so much more light hearted and happy so think it has helped! great about your friend.
viks I dont have any advice as I havent been there with two, but I second easy teas, beans on toast is a good one? what made you move to where you are? is there anyone at all that can help? did your parents help you when you were in Brum? how far away from Brum are you? sorry that seems like loads of questions, really wish I could be close enough to help!

memphis that's excellent news about your dad, hooray! I hope it stays away for good, from what you've said he's been through enough with the horrors of chemo. And that bike is amazing! lucky, lucky L :)

viksam can you put F in a sling and carry him while you cook? not ideal I know but that's what I do as well as simple teas...not hard when neither child is eating at the mo.

cake what made them notice that F is dyspraxic? he seems to have a fantastic grasp of letters, far beyond the average for a 3.5 year old. It's great that they've picked it up at this age too so you can work on ironing out any future problems.

dh waiting for the first scan sucks but it'll be worth it when you see it bumbling around inside you. I was more worried about this last one than the first two, I think because I was more aware of what could go wrong - sometimes ignorance certainly is bliss!

spirael that's a looooong old day. How are your new colleagues? hope this job is far better than the last!

All my children are ill, L is recovering from tonsilitis again, S has a stonking cold with a chesty cough - he's all red-eyed and constant whinging and B has a really bad cough I was doing brilliantly on SW today and hadn't had any syns til tea time then after our syn-free chilli, DH made a golden syrup pudding and cracked out an easter egg...I couldn't resist after the day I've had and ate half. About 35 syns in that, I'm not supposed to have more than 15. I'm a bit pissed off really a)that I couldn't say no to stuffing my face and b) that dh did it when I've already asked him not to get stuff out in the evening cos all my willpower's gone. ARGH! I'm going to be fat forever (still in maternity jeans for shame)

Thank you so much for your support everyone. I'm over the initial shock now and in a weird way it's a bit of a relief to understand some of his 'odd' behaviour better. It will actually be more of a shock now if he's NOT diagnosed with it, iyswim?

chul and vik i'll post on fb group re his symptoms as it feels a bit open to say too much more about it on here

How's the new job going spirael?

dh so hard waiting for the scan, let alone when its late but do try your best not to worry about it like mad - it's only because we expect to have the scan at a certain time that it becomes a milestone iyswim? if we didn't have scans til 16 weeks then you'd probably feel more chilled. (this is what I tried telling myself when A's scan was late anyway!)

big hugs vik you've been doing so well, being strong for everyone. you need to make sure you're looking after yourself too - that's so important. sometimes even small changes can help you feel like life's less of a non-stop battle - e.g. could dh take the boys for an hour or two every saturday so you can have a massage or whatever?

wss has given some great practical advice too. i think the key is to accept that you'll have to lower your standards and go into survival mode for a while.

memph so pleased you finally had the counselling - sounds like a positive outcome. how do you feel now having gone back thru it?

mlic A's v similar to how W sounds at the mo and i'm pretty sure it's bloody teeth here again too

oh chul sounds grim again there. i think you deserve to eat nice things for a bit longer! plenty of time to lose weight when life's a bit easier!

tsc are you back? was it brill? is F weaned? how's clara? when are you working again? etc

what are you all up to this weekend? we're going down to brighton but just for the day to see dh's close friend and their new baby and then will have dinner with my mother.

cakes I feel silly for not doing it ages ago, they gave me the number when he was 5 months old! The also said that second labours rarely need foceps even if you needed them the first time so a huge relief that it is possible to try and do it without next time!
We have been at my sisters, DH has bought me a new phone and he has fone all my sisters garden, we are going to friends for a meal tonight and tomorrow we are going to London on the bikes to the Ace cafe then next week I will wash it and put it on the market!

Hi all

cakes have you to see anyone about F? There are loads of resources you can get to help him with balance and co-ordination. Hope your all ok.

memphis glad you had the counselling and fab news about your dad. With R I had a c-section as Js birth caused lots of problems downstairs so you can ask for that.

dh can't wait to see scan pics :D

Nearly finished college so I'm stressed out my head trying to get all the work finished. Otherwise we're all good. How are you all?

Vik, did you recommend 'Warrior' or was it somone else? I watched it on Saturday night and thought it was excellent. You have to 'get' UFC though othrwise it would just seems a bit...brutal. But I do get it, and know a few people who do/did the sport and I really, really enjoyed the film even though it made me cry. I saw you watched Marley and Me memph - I can't bring myself to watch that! I watched Town last night and that was quite good too I thought. Have got a french film to watch last night (I love anything with Kristin Scott Thams in...yes, even Four Weddings )

Good day at a Christening y'day but knackering running after the boys all day.

As you'll notice stac, the thread is reeeaaaaalllllyyyyyy quiet these days!

Why are you seeling your bike memph? Great news about your dad.

Vik...you ok?...

Friday will be here before you know it dh

I LOVED warrior but i adore martial arts and think Tom hardy is a fab actor

even 4 weddings? MLIC it's a brilliant film!

memph i'm so sorry totally missed the bit about your dad. that is such amazing news!! really happy for you!

stac great to have you back! thank you - will speak to HV and arrange a diagnosis probably. will see what they say before making any further plans about how to deal with it/whether to tell anyone etc.

very chilled start to the day and then off to watch Beauty and the beast at 3pm and then will probably eat dinner out. what are you all up to?

mlic selling the bike as planning on being pregnant in new year and there no point in selling a bike in the winter as they dont make any money, and then we have a wedding to pay for so after we are married I will buy another one.
Marley and me was horrific for me, It brought it all back losing my boy and I literally had to go and sit in a dark room trying to calm down for about an hour! It doesnt help that the past few weeks I cry at everything, that long lost families gets me every week, Up I sobbed at, then telling people about it made me cry again! I also had it in my head that dh was going to pop the question yesterday and he didnt and then couldnt understand why I was upset! I hate being a wet blanket sobbing at everything, would help if I knew why im doing it!

Emotional wreck? you're not pregnant now are you...???

Oh I'm so pleased someone else loved warrior! The final scene had me watching through my fingers, really fighting to stop myself cry. Although it did leave me wondering what happened to Tom Hardy's character at the end.

I'm just home from a hiddeous party that E was invited to (boy from his school so I don't know him/the family from Adam). Bleurgh. He had fun though, that's all that matters.

Saw a friend at the party who goes to Zumba on a Wednesday night and I said I'd go with her this week

mlic Ive done two tests as I was certain I must be as my boobs are killing me too but they are negative, I used to be known as quite harsh and unemotional so everyone looks shocked at me as I keep blubbing!

Hey ladies! On my way to Dublin on the bus to a course. God I hate bus journeys! Really tired as work has been crazy the last week and a half. Even worked yesterday and Sunday! I'm really happy that's it's been so busy but then afraid too that it's just been a good 2 weeks and then there'll be nothing for another few weeks. One of the chances you take when you work for yourself though!
E is good she's waking a lot of nights though. She just comes in and wants us to go back in and lie beside her while she goes back asleep which I don't mind at all but the broken sleep just catches up in you. She tried to get rid if me out of my bed yesterday eve pushing me and says 'get off mammy that's my bed'! Very funny if she wasn't actually serious!
Tsc are you back from hols yet? How was it?
Mlic it really is wearing running after them at something like that isn't it? You just don't want them to be annoying anyone and they always want to go where they shouldn't go.
Cakes at least you can understand his hyper episodes and that if you get a diagnosis. And you can figure out ways to try and support him
Memph brill news about your dad. Fingers crossed he keeps getting good news!
Vik how is all there?

Sorry I can't have been on here for ages, it's dropped off my Threads I'm On!

Good to hear all your news - must go to bed in a mo so can't really catch up right now. All well here. Still struggling with naps - yesterday he didn't have one but then was asleep from 7.10pm-7.30am, but today he had a long sleep then was awake till 9.30pm. Hmm.

Wow this thread is well and truely dying, we have had this one for nearly 3 months!
kk hope you do stay busy!

L is really off sorts at the moment, he is getting another tooth but he sweats so much and it stinks like poo, so does his wee and his breath, changing his sheets everyday, he is fine in the day but is ill through night, so odd, rang our docs to talk to them and said we had moved (havent changed docs yet) they refused to give advice or see us for any treatment as we are out the catchment, thought it was terrible practice by them so got to go to try and get in local one.

Hello everyone, sorry i havent posted for ages, D is at the cm and F...........hmmmm, was having a lovely sleep in his cot untill i typed that and he seems like he may be waking.
cake did you get in touch with the hv for a diagnosis?
memphis how do u feel about selling ur bike, its all for good reasons though isnt it.
woods naps sound challenging there, maybe he doesnt need one any more?
mylife Yeah it was me that suggested Warrior, it was good wasnt it, i blarted at the end.
kk glad to hear your busy, the missing sleep is hard to deal with especially seen as though ur busy! hope she sleeps through again soon.
Well things are pretty much the same here, D is a very mixed bag right now, he has slept through almost every night although the night before last he was awake for about two hours! crazy.
F has only woken once in the last few nights and has settled slightly more easily but still taken over an hour. Im feeling a little better, mom and dad are coming down for the weekend so, hopefully, that will be nice. Last time they came Devon was a horrid whinge bag so im hoping he will be ok this time. DH is away in bristol at a convention for the weekend, lucky him, two nights of no children! What i wouldnt give for that!!
Had to go into work this morning to do some delicate negotiations, it went well so im glad to say i havent lost my touch.
Well F didnt wake untill just and i started typing a while ago. Hope everyone is having a good week.
x

woodlands Sam had a nearly 3 hour nap today and is still up now, DH keeps suggesting I drop it but I love the peace!

memphis I sold my bike when I got pg with L and haven't got another one yet, I pine for it though esp when the weather's just perfect and our neighbour up the street gets his going.

I will be back on the thread soon, we've got to get through this one and start another, my profile and this one aren't speaking to each other so it's a faff to find it. I can't even get to it through the topics list...
Also all three of mine have been/are ill so I'm running on fumes and any spare time is spent picking up snot rag and putting washing on rather than mning.

Hope you have a lovely weekend viks

Chul i will get another one but am insured on dh's in the mean time.

Im still here but no point in talking just to myself (i do enough of that in rl)
L is still poorly got a lump appear on his neck its apparently a gland due to teehing but thats why his breath smells of poo!

Woodlands G is all over the place with her naps too. She's best when she just has 30 mins in the car, if she doesn't have one at all she gets a bit crazy by the end of the day, if she has too long a one she won't go to sleep at night.

She is sleeping better at night though since I put a duvet in her cot. She was in quite a thick sleeping bag (and pjs) but it was sleeveless and I think she was getting cold - it's been getting down to about 5 degrees at night here lately.

mlic how is the new job going? Busy?

cake any progress with seeing anyone about F. I remember being very upset when pre-school suggested to me A needed speech therapy but once I'd got used to the idea I was just pleased we got some help - she is having fortnightly appointments at the mo and it's going really well. As she'll be starting school in Nov I'm keen to get it as sorted as possible before then.

Not much news, G is saying loads of words - well, trying to, it's very cute, she has a go at any word you say to her. Dh and I have just booked a meal at a v nice restaurant, he got 75 quids worth of vouchers for it as some kind of work bonus and we have had a year to use them and haven't got round to it - the vouchers run out 8th June so we have finally got organised and booked it.

Wss thats nice about the meal! L sleeps loads better under a quilt
going to the huge wholesaler.alone today i havent been since having L. Not very exciting but a day out alone all the same going out tomorrow night for a few wines!