July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

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Welcome back everyone!

stac welcome back!
tsc fantastic to hear how well Mickey is doing, have a great holiday, Kate will be fine im sure, the first time my mum left my brother the house was spotless when we returned, until we got to the bathroom and there were around 300 stubby bottles all empty in the bath, seems he had a huge party that included people running up our road naked but before they left he made them clean up

L is in bed, dh has taken his bike to have something done to it, im sitting on my backside wanting to eat biscuits!

Hi, I'm lying in bed in my old room at mom and dads, quite weird in an lot of ways but I'm soooooo tired. I have lost my mojo this weekend and my pma has gone awal!I feel vile like there's never going to be an end to the bad nights, f just won't settle back in his bed after his night feed and its a complete nightmare. I'm so upset that I'm struggling at night with this one as well as d still waking, what have we done to deserve it.
Chu gyrations made me lol too, nasty about his elbow, really surprised it hasn't happened to d when playing with dh.
Memphis his daddy words amused me but I can see how annoying it must be.
Stac.....hi!
Tsc have a Fab holiday,my God u deserve it!

Chu how is it your end? Is b still in your bed? How come so little sleep, u can't function properly on that little. I went to ikea today and left my bag in the cafe. Luckily someone handed it in but that's just though tiredness. Me and dh has a giant row this morning too I told him I was feeling shit about the fact that on top of everything I'm still worried about him and the fact that he might leave and how shit it was of him to let that hang over my head. He apologised and said he wasn't going to leave but that he's struggling to cope. Well guess what, so am I, but we don't get to choose do we. I hate how fucking miserable he is about it, he never sees the positive things, of which there are loads. I recon its selfishness and sleep deprivation and lack of time for himself, but I'm sick of trying to shield him, it is what it is and there isn't anything I can do apart from get on with it. Sorry to vent and rant.

viks B's still feeding every 2 hours for about 40 mins, sometimes he needs winding for longer than 10-15 mins, most nights he has a 2 hour cry around 3ish...all adds up to a loooong night.

In laws have been round all afternoon and have only just left, they're back for breakfast and all day tomorrow so that's our weekend shot. I'm off to bed.

This bloody thread keeps disappearing from my mn page.

I'm pretty pissed off, DH springs it on me on Monday that his parents are coming this weekend but only for the afternoon. Then they decide to come Sunday instead, then yesterday they say actually they'll come today but eat out in the evening so I don't have to cook for them, they turn up at lunch and I find out at 4.30pm that they're not going out but are eating here, then I find out they're also coming back here for breakfast tomorrow and I asked DH if they want lunch too and he says they will. Then he asks me what I was planning to cook for them...wtf? I wasn't expecting to cook them one meal, let alone 3. I had to cobble together something for all of us cos hadn't factored them in, now I've got to cook for them tomorrow too. I wouldn't mind so much if I'd been told but I just feel like they've all planned this and haven't bothered telling me even though I'm the one who cooks.
And worse, they were sitting here chatting while I'm trying to stay awake, I was about to say goodnight and turn in when DH yawns and mil says "oh, we'd better go now, he's so tired poor love". Yes...when he's been sleeping on the couch all week and getting a full night's sleep while I'm upstairs dealing with all 3 children's wake-ups...poor love my arse cheeks.
ARGH!

Oh and to top it all off I have a cold. I might just sneeze all over lunch tomorrow...

Vik and chul..........and breathe... I really don't know how you two are doing it. No matter if anyone has to go to work, you guys need to be able to function too. Don't know how you haven't cracked up by now! I would have made dp buy everyone a take away chul!!
Stac welcome back!
Tsc bon voyage! Enjoy yourselves and no point worrying about K now. Whatever will be will be and she'll be absolutely fine!
Cakes I could have done with that curry this eve. 8.45 til 7 today I was absolutely mad busy and never got a break and then dp says 'I'm going for a pint with the boys' . He never really goes out so I couldn't say anything but I would have given anything to get out of the house for an hour! That's the worst thing about working from home!
Dp's cousins confirmation tomorrow and that's as exciting as my weekend gets!

Vik, I read that thinking 'good for you'. I know arguments aren't nice but well done for letting him know he's out of order how you feel. You are absolutely right to say it isn't fair on him.

And as for 'fair', chul I would have been furious. But dh wouldn't do that to me, he'd buy a takeaway if anyone stayed unexpectedly for tea. I hope you told him he would be cooking breakfast today . Give them a ploughmans lunch. Bread, cheese, ham, chutney, salad. Sorted.

I went to my friend's for a takeaway and a bottle of wine last night, I sooo know what you mean about being nice to get out of the house kk! Hope you have a nice day at the confirmation. We're at a Christening next Saturday - haven't got a clue what to wear :( I'm also out on the Friday night and had completely forgotten about the Christenng when I agreed to it! It's like the buses - I do nothing for ages then everything comes at once!!!

absolutely right to say it isn't fair on him
I meant to say isn't fair on you

viks I agree with mlic, I think good for you for saying something to dh, its not fair on you either, I wouldnt shield him from it, sometimes life is shit and he needs to realise it, but it will get better, wont your parents help out in the night while your there?
chul bloody hell, I would tell them that you want breakfast making for you and while they are at it to make me a cuppa! and get dh to take you all out for lunchy or take them and the kids while you sleep!
mlic Im the same with having nothing then loads at once, we have a meal with friends next week, im out the week after, then a wedding the one after that, we also want to watch a few films at the cinema!

Well it hasnt stopped raining here for about 4 days, we are going to SIL's soon, then to the local museum with the huge dinosaur, cant wait to see L's reaction to it, then mum is coming for tea, im doing roast pork mmmm

They did offer to get a takeaway but I had chicken and some veg that was on it's last legs so had to eat it or chuck it. There wasn't enough for all of us and I can't stand binning food so had to eek it out with peas etc. I should've let them get their own food but felt rude cooking for us and not them...my own fault for being an idiot really.
B' on midnight, 2,4,6 and has been for ages. Not fun.

Tsc have a lovely time! And I bet k will have a blast while you're away, you'll have to do it at some point anyway.

Mlisc when are you having the chat about you job times?

memphis s would love a dinosaur museum, he's quite a fan at the mo.

Fairybrains have a good time today, at least you've got something planned

chul L loves dinosaurs....well in books and on the tv, it seems the size of the real thingscared him, he backed out of the room and stood at door while we read things! I then stood next to a film prop mummy in the Egypt section and he freaked out, but the really mummies in there he was fine with!

chu and viks hoping things get easier quickly for you both. Why does everyone feel sorry for the men. Dp had a toothache on friday and ended up at the dental hospital, he got it removed and managed to get everyones sympathy and a long long lie (bugger).

mlisc you looking forward to Tuesday?

kk how was the conformation?

How's everyone else?

Is it your first day today mlic? If so, good luck .

It is yes, thanks!

Good luck mlisc! Have fun and enjoy it :)

memphis it's funny what'll scare them when they love it in a different setting.

L has tonsilitis again, I've had to keep her home from nursery obviously and she's been flaked out on the sofa for 2 days looking like a 3rd today, S has ants in his pants and he's desperate to go out and run off steam but how can I do that when L won't even get off the couch?
this thread has completely disappeared from my profile, the only way I can get onto it is to click the link in fb.
B slept from 9-midnight then 3.30-5ish and slept on me from then so that was a better night. L only woke up around the times B did so I sent DH to see to her.
I'm back on SW as off today, I cooked carrot cake and coconut cookies for the ILs and then they brought coffee walnut cake and baklava so I've had a fatty weekend!

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Arrrgggh just lost a post!
chul will they take L's tonsils out? its 3 times in 18 months for docs in this county to whip them out. I love baklava! my friends MIL spends the whole day making it, only 2 months til she visits Albania and can bring some back for me!
mlic have a great day!

L is sleeping well at the moment, his 13th tooth has come through at last, I have birth councelling later, im a bit worried about it!
We went to see the Avengers last night, dh hates watching Marvel films with me as I make him sit til the end of credits for the little sneaky peaks into the next film!

I don't want them to take her tonsils out if we can help it. I've not taken her every time she gets it because they don't like to give antiBs anyway so they wouldn't know how many times she's had it, just how many times she's had it so badly that I got worried about her. As it is she had 2 days of 40.4 degree fever, and last night she was sweating so much it was dripping off her but today she's got her appetite back and hasn't got a fever so although she sounds awful, I'm not going to take her to the GPs.

I really want to see the Avengers, I've not been to the cinema since L was 4 months old...that's about 3 years ago now. I bet I'd be shocked at how much it costs now though :)

chul £16 for the two of us just to get in, 3d is £15 EACH to get in if I go mad there I have a hot dog, ben and gerrys milkshake, popcorn and that will come to £35-£40 for us to go! the vue cinema here does weekends and kids holidays the latest kids films do a showing £1 each though,cant wait til I can take L!

Crazy! That's so expensive. The times I have suggested the cinema DH would rather go out to eat so we can chat to each other without being interrupted - fair enough at that price!

Its shocking, I used to live in a tiny village in Wales,they had a village cinema that showed one film a week, a showing a night it was £2.50 per person and a drink and small popcorn was £1.50!
My stepmum text last night, my dad is coming today to talk to me, I convinced myself he must have got results back and have been up worrying all night to be told this morning its nothing to do with that, so I worried for nothing, he has a present for L, but I fear its a drum kit or something I wont like as the text said if you dont like it just say, but your dad really wanted to get it him!

Hello,
where is everyone again, chu that sounds like a better night for you there, hope B's feeding slows down at night now. F was up three times last and D was up once, so im shattered today. Went to the park earlier to see the queen, she was on her jubilee tour and was opening the fair there, it was a really good atmosphere and we all enjoyed it. Took D to the cranial osteopath this afternoon, she managed to do quite a lot and said she can feel a lot of tension in his head and she hopes to relieve it which will hopefully help him go into a deeper sleep and therefor stay asleep. I hope shes right and we are not throwing good money down the drain.
I have the worst bad back, god knows what ive done but its very painfull, i really should go get it checked out but when??
memphis so what was the present? Im glad your worrying was for nothing but it was a bit insensitive of her to have you worrying like that. The cinema is well expensive, i brought a small coke for £2.75!! and was going to buy a bag of choc untill i saw it was over £3, the robbing gets! Still got dark knight and prometheus to go i the next few months, gona have to make a few more trips to brum me thinks!
mylife come on man, tell us all about it, whats it like, are the people nice etc, go on fb if your happier but either way you must let us know how your getting on.
cake so are you going to do anything about your work plans soon or are they ideas for the future?
tsc hope your holiday is great and your having a lovely time!
I have been really struggling with my energy levels over the last week or so, what i need is a good nights sleep and a giant long lie in!!..........in my dreams.....

aw, poor you vik - bad backs are the worst. hope the cranio works for baby boy so you at least get some sleep soon!

and yeah - i agree about an update being overdue from mlic. was about to text her to ask actually!

chul are you getting any sleep?

sorry I've been quiet. had a bit of a shock this week as it seems as tho F might have dyspraxia:www.dyspraxiafoundation.org.uk/services/ad_symptoms.php

it was his nursery manager (an ex-teacher) who noticed it in the first place - i'd just put all his 'symptoms' down to being like me and so assumed it was normal

it's to do with coordination (or lack of!), thought processing, fine and gross motor skills and other things. it can be very severe and prevent reading/writing/driving etc but i'm hopeful it's a mild version as it's almost certain that I have it too but have ultimately managed fine.

tbh, i'm a bit shaken up by it, worried that he's going to experience the same problems that I did and just generally dealing with the emotional shock of finding it out about both of us at once, iyswim?

logically i know he'll almost certainly be fine. especially now we know about it and can get a diagnosis and can get him support if he needs it. i just want to be careful that he doesn't become the label and feel as though his options are limited because of it.

as nursery said he;s v bright and streets ahead of the other children in many ways, there's just a few areas that he struggles (simple things like walking in a straight line without falling over ) so overall that's not a bleak picture, is it? we're lucky, it could be much worse.

That is a shock cake, hope you're feeling a bit better about it now. You're right though, he's only 2 months older than E but streets ahead of him wrt reading and spelling so I assume he isn't finding that side of it a struggle and therefore shouldn't going forward either.

Will update on fb - seems to 'out there' to discuss identifyable stuff on here, for me anyway :)

In other news, W is quite poorly but I'm 99% sure it's teething related. He is even more easily upsetable is quite upset, has a nasty chesty cough and his temp keeps going up. He's on 4hrly calpol and I'll give him some ibuprofen for bed too. He went to bed at 6.20pm yesterday as he was just knackered and looked awful :( He's not worrying me just now but if he's still bad tomorrow I might see if I can get him into the doctors as I wouldn't want him to deteriorate over the weekend.