July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

[DesperateHousewife21]

Welcome back everyone!

memphis I've told nearly everyone now! I haven't put it on fb, I'll do that when I've had my scan but all close friends and family know. I couldn't keep it in plus alot of people knew I was trying anyway so kept asking me!

i've given up waiting til i've properly caught up otherwise i'll never get back 'onboard' the thread. i've scan-read but huge apols if i've missed anything big or good.

am uncharacteristically grumpy today - work have really hacked me off, F is being a complete pita and A is lovely as ever but emotional and sore from the pox. but the amazing news is that she slept thru again last night but i think i've got that inverse-sleep thing going on so actually feel worse.

i'm planning to take them out to a cafe for lunch to cheer us all up, hopefully!

how's sleep there lately woodlands? i'm pretty sure it was night-weaning that has helped sleep here but i think you said J was sleeping thru now anyway

memph how's L today? really hope he's improved, you poor things

chul piccies please!

tsc how's mikey? and are you still weaning?

Things sound tough there vik but you sound as tho you're doing brilliantly. F's reflux didn't improve

spirael really happy that things are looking up for you again at last! amazing to have all those buses come at once!

trudy any improvement there? what are the docs saying is causing the bleeding?

mlic are you sorted for thurs?

wss really envied you living in nz when i saw your latest pics. beautiful.

dh such an exciting time for you.i found it more exciting 2nd time round actually as i kinda knew what was inside me iykwim?

sorry everyone who asked but believe it or not dh STILL hasn't heard back the job! they've been in touch with him twice since to stay he's still in the running but how long can it take, ffs?!

we initially put our mortgage renewal on hold (would have gone for lower rate over a v short term if he'd got the job) but now just going to go ahead with the 'normal' rate over a longer term. so he's bound to get it now of course

sorry vik got side-tracked by a knock at the front door! he did improve but not til he was 6+ months, until then he was still posseting all the flipping time and not sleeping well. i think he needed the solids to help his digestion. sorry, not that helpful but just wanted to say that my experience was v much the same but it did sort itself out on its own.

Thanks for everyone asking, L is finally better! well no nappies now but think he is emotionally drained from is as he has been very teary all day!
cakes hope your DH hears something soon.
DH I could never wait til 12 weeks, I was as fat at 8 weeks as I was at 20 so there would be no hiding it, I hoped that I w9ould be aboe to second time round but my best friend is having a baby and I was so excited for him I know I couldnt keep it in if I was pg
chul sounds lovely, I second a pic please!

Went farm this morning with L and my niece, she is under the weatherthough, she loved the cows (typical as im petrified) but freaked at me putting a rabbit on her lap! L loved the lambs but the sheep were very loud and in his face for food so he cried! waiting for my dad to come over to visit, my washing line has fell down so ive been trying to take it totally down so he doesnt feel that he needs to do it for me!

memphis glad to hear L is better, what did they say about the pooing?
cake glad your back, whats F doing so bad then? Im thinking of weaning F early, sounds like you waited till 6 months, looking back would you have done it earlier?
chu Hows it gone today, whens L at nursery and what did you decide to do about getting her there? I really hope you are not over doing it, a stupid thing to say really as i know you will be!
mylife whats happening thursday and why roll on saturday?
dh strangly i kept it to myself for ages and ages this time around, i just wanted(needed) to get my own head around it first and that took a long time!!
Well DH has ofsted in this week but hes suprisingly ok about it all. I think i caught the brunt of his stress the other day, im trying my hardest to protect him from any wake ups in the night and so far its not been too bad. D had a really bad night on friday but since then he hasnt done badly at all, just one or two quick visits in to him a night. F however is hard work. I dont understand why he wakes up if he doesnt want feeding, a cuddle isnt cutting it, he wont settle with a dummy and he doesnt bring up any wind or need a nappy change........what the hell does he want?????Last night was typical, he dream feeds with DH at 10.45ish and has around 4-5oz, he woke around 2ish had 5oz then wakes AGAIN at 4.20 for no known reason?? He eventually had 3oz and went back to sleep but it took a lot of coaxing. I dont know, i just know longer than 2-3 hrs sleep in a row would be a god send!

tscHow is ur sisters little one? were there more results to come? I hope all is well there.

gosh, i dunno whether i would have vik. probably not as i did blw and he wasn't really ready even at 6m, he didn't eat much til 8m tbh. he may have eaten more if i did purees but i don't think it would have been right for him.

F is going thru a infuriatingly silly phase - just so crazy and hyper.

Hooray for L being better memphis! Hope he improves rapidly now.

Cake, the sleeping is (touch wood) pretty good at the moment. He sleeps through probably 3 out of 4 nights. Last week he slept through 6 nights in a row but then woke in the night on both Friday and saturday nights... but you can't have everything. I'm sure we'll have bad patches again in the future but for now it's OK. I still breastfeed him when he does wake in the night, it's the easiest and quickest way of calming him.

tsc he had blood tests a few months ago and nothing at all showed up :( hope you get to meet up with needle the tea house is amazing!
vik L had bad colic and I weaned at 17 weeks at hv advice and it sorted him straight away, re the wake ups my niece is 9 months and she wakes 8 times a night even now, she doesnt want anythink just is upset, my mum had her last week and she was up for one wake up for 3 hours, made me feel lucky that L may wake but its just a sooth and a dummy!
my step mum is a medical secretary in the village and she aid this bug L has had is rife in the area at the mo, so now im keeping him locked away so he doesnt get it again!
L wasup loads before 3am, crying my daddy my daddy, but then when he settled he slept til 8.30! he obviously wanted dh to sleep in his room like he did when he was ill!
miserable weather here, we arent going out

at tsc having a MN 'to do list'

Miserable weather here too. And we're getting the windows refitted :( That's why 'roll on saturday' vik. I have just asked them if they think they'll finish any earlier but they said they doubt it It's fine atm as they're doing upstairs, but I'm dreading when they start downstairs. Two small children and two big dogs in an unsecured house....

W was wrecked yesterday. He didn't eat his tea and then fell asleep on my at 6.35! And slept until E woke him up at 7.10am. Must have needed it!

Vik, just be careful that you don't protect your dh so much that you end up burnng yourself out. I'm all for you supporting him to get him through this period of depression, but he still has to support you too. And that means listening to you when you're finding it tough and need to talk/vent/cry.

mlic what rubbish weather to have the windows done! so take it you cant really go out, my advice is dont offer them tea, when we had windows fitted the day my mum was ome they did less as she made them tea, I refuse to make any workmen tea as they worked quick to get out

Memph you tight arse No, I'm a delightful host. They're on their second cuppa now. I like them, they're nice blokes but if I didn't I wouldn't offer them drinks

E has been home from school for 5 minutes and they've alread remarked on what 'a well-mannered boy' he is

mlic not tight arse, my theory is they are there to work, if they want tea bring a flask! my dad had an extension built and the buiders constantly had someone making a brew for the rest of them, after 2 weeks it broke his kettle, they then went on hols and I looked after the house, I locked the door and after a few days buidlers brought a kettle and set it up in the garage filing it in the outside tap

I like to think I provide a compromise! I won't run about after them all day, but don't think 2 cups of tea in 3.5 hours is too much to ask. I drink more than that myself :)

I'm not minding being stuck in today (so far) I bet the novelty has worn off by Friday though...

I sometimes make brews for workmen, sometimes not depends how lonely and/or chatty I feel cos I find once you've brewed them they then want to chat.

I could kill for a nap right now, yesterday both boys had 2.5 hours over lunch and typically my neighbour had an emotional meltdown and needed tea and biscuits to get her through. I'd literally just decided to get my head down when she walked past the window and B woke up 3 mins after she left. She's gone to visit her ILs today and of course neither boy wants to sleep :(

viks I'd kill for 2-3 hours between feeds tbh, B will go a while in the day but at night he won't sleep for longer than 1.5hrs on me to start with and then he feeds/sucks non-stop til morning. It's mostly my fault tbh cos I'm trying to keep him quiet so he doesn't disturb DH any more than he has to but it means I'm hardly getting any sleep. I slept wrong last night too so can't look after my left shoulder and have that stupid ache you get when you pull something overnight...grr! Once B gets to about 8 or 9 weeks I'm going to send DH downstairs for a while and crack on with getting him in his basket properly. Feeding lying down is a recipe for disaster at the mo.

cake don't make it so long next time, hope you're not grumpy any more! My two are the opposite at the mo, L is being absolutely beautiful while S is still a monster...

I've not got any pics of either the wedding or me at the wedding, I'm useless at remembering to take any and then regret it afterwards. I'll try and make sure I take some this weekend when we have round 2 of Chulita's bros weddings!

tsc I'm glad he got the treatment ok'd and that C's getting some stuff looked into. Hopefully they'll find out what it is!

memphis hope it's all on the up for L now and no more lurgies or other stuff.

Off to check S, he's most likely done a poo...

D has conjunctivitis and F has a cough, couldnt go to group today so missed seeing my friend and her new baby. Hate being trapped in the house but went to the cranial osteopath this afternoon with D, very interesting, she said he may have a crappy night tonight..........always something to look forward to! DH had ofsted in today and again tomorrow, he has done well so far by all accounts.
chu thats just shitty, we are protecting our men too much me thinks, you must be exhausted, what did you do about nursery. Very accomodating re your neighbour i must say, id have drawn the curtains and not answered the door! I had a 20 min nap today and boy i was greatful.
mylife hope they get it done quicker for you, does that mean you have all that lovely shitty wall around all your windows to sort now? Im gona have a door put in from the house to the garage and i cant wait, means i can shift the white goods out of the conservatory into the garage and make sooo much more space! and i will be making him tea cos hes lovely!
I really must go to bed, i cant get warm tonight, im very tired, i had to do solo bed time tonight and will have to again tomorrow and thurs due to frigging dh's work and late meetings and i just find it really hard after a whole day alone too. think ill have a hot water bottle (old biddie alert!!)

viksam what is a cranial osteopath?
chul shit about the neighbour, I wouldnt have answered and gone bed but then again if it was my gorgeous neighbour I would invite him in! we had a parcel for him today and eventhough I was going to have my lashes tinted I put on make up to give it to him, he normally has his local sleb mates with him after training so didnt want to look rough!
L has gone to bed ok, I feel a bit odd, hoping im not getting his bug, dh is away and coming down with something and is having to share a room! supposed to meeting friends in the morning then friend coming in afternoon, I cancelled the morning not wanting 2 play dates to burn him out for my afternoon mate to cancel as she has got a bug coming on.

viks I was up, we were all ready, fed/changed/dressed for 8am and I rang to double check only to find that she doesn't start back til Thurs...good dummy run then, this morning I put L off getting brekkie til nearly 8am cos S was still asleep he's never slept that long...explains why he then didn't nap!

I couldn't ignore my neighbour, she's lovely and her dh is away a lot with work. She's struggling a bit with her 4 month old who's been ill for the first time and she's truly pfb'd to the max with him!

memphis hark at you dolling yourself up for your neighbour who is he? any one famous?

Little Bee is in bed on his own and has been for the last 20 mins so I'm a fool for still being awake...night night!

Ah, you guys really make me realise how easy I have it with only one child... plus if he was as cute as he was at bedtime tonight all the time he'd be no bother at all! Hope you all have good nights.

www.cranial.org.uk/page3.html
memphis have a read if you want, i think its very interesting and know a few people who havw been helped by going. D didnt sit very still but she got some treatment in. she asked loads of interesting questions like did we loose anyone whilst i was pregnant, well we did dh's dad died when i was 6 months pregnant.
im one hand typing as im sat up with a really poorly F, he sounds like darth vader and keeps having awfull crying coughing fits, i really have almost gone to a&e twice, poor boy, he just wont/cant lie flat, not even in the swing. supposed to have his injections today too.

Viks, b is the same, he's still not shifted his cough and when he cries he really struggles and coughs. Mind you, I had it for six weeks so he could have another month of it!

Woodlands long may his sweetness last :)

S is still asleep, maybe the answer to his 5am wake ups is dropping his nap...noooooo! My 90mins of sanity is under threat

chulita he used to play for the NZ All Blacks and is now playing for our city team, so a celeb around these parts, I turn into a young giggly girl when he talks to me, he said I could fill his wheelie bin if I wanted and I actually giggled and said oooh thank you (eventhough I was going to fill it when he went to work anyway!)
vikwill have a look at the link, do you think it will work? do you have to have a follow up appointment?

OOh I hate getting giggly when talking to someone fit!

I think J may be near to dropping his nap. He didn't nap on Monday and was fine. Yesterday I had to walk him in the pushchair for 45 minutes to get him to sleep (and that was after a full morning at nursery) and he only slept for 45 minutes. And don't hate me but he is still asleep now (has been asleep straight through since 8pm) so I think the chances of getting him to nap today will be slim, especially as the weather is rubbish so I won't be able to run him outside for as long as sometimes.

Think I'll go to La Leche League this morning, though not sure how much J enjoys it - it's in a small room and the toys the children's centre provide are for babies, even though most of the regulars are about J's age. Then there's always someone who comes along with a teeny newborn (which is great) but then we have to try to stop the toddlers tripping over the car seat the whole time.

W is dropping his naps too. Has been for about 3 weeks I reckon. If he does sleep in the day I wake him after 45 mins (if he hasn't woken himself) otherwise it affects his nighttime sleep. Nursery know not to let him have more than 45 mins on a Friday too.

Speaking of sleep, I 'slept' in his cotbed last night from 12.10 - 2.30am It's a bit of a squeeze in there But a better option than getting up or standing over his cot for godknowshowlong trying to get him back off, he was hysterical about something or other.

I went to CO with W twice when he was a baby if you remember. Hope you get some joy from the sessions.