July 2010: Their speech is improving but it's sleep we're still losing

[DesperateHousewife21]

Welcome back everyone!

memphis I don't have it worse, I'm just more self-pitying. My DH is home every night at least and tonight he's said he'll do the wake-ups so fingers crossed I get a bit of sleep. It's just the fricking cough that keeps me up. S coughed til he vommed at tea-time, he's been really whingy all day but he's obviously got the same thing I have and I feel like crap so I can't really blame him poor mite!

S loves baby Jake, absolutely does my nut, like most of children's tv tbh but S will watch the whole thing through (I tend to hide in the kitchen and eat my body weight in chocolate digestive with nobody begging me for any). That reminds me, I keep meaning to try those biscuits you suggested memphis, must get DH to buy me some!

viks that's lovely about the grin! I've never enjoyed my newborns so I'm really hoping that this one gets enjoyed right from the very start!

mlic its not like its everyday, L would watch the Lion King that much if I let him, L likes anything with music in it so is loving Beauty and the Beast at the moment which I love!
chulita you cope so well with 2 kids and a bump, spd and the cough etc and I seriously am starting to worry I cant cope as a mum, we talk of having another baby but I really dont think I would manage to cope, I feel relief that I will get undisturbed sleep tonight but also a faliure that i cant look after him myself, my sister was a single mum at 18 ffs with no input from the dad or his family, im 10 years older and feel shocking.

baby jake? clueless

really hope you go into an extended gentle labour tomo chul so you can get dh home!

what's the job mlic?

don't beat yourself up memph you've got health issues to deal with too and you do brilliantly

I had a proper shout at a 5yo boy at soft play today he was attacking my friend's 3yo ds (who is a sweetheart) - i had to pull him off and my friend's ds was covering himself up and crying. it was totally unprovoked. i'd actually gone over there in the first place because F came and told me that the boy had been pushing him

twas awful as i actually lost it a bit and roared shouted 'get off him' as i ran over and then once i'd pulled him off, he was looking all cocky and i then shouted (in a booming voice which carried across the whole soft play) 'you do NOT treat people like that!'

every single person there looked over

the rough charming mother then came over to see what was going on with her delightful little scrote ds, asking me 'did you shout at him?'

i was so cross i was shaking. think she realised pretty quickly that i was not going to back down. thankfully ended with her making her ds apologise (after several lies on his part and threats on hers)

just awful tho. shocks me that children like that exist.

all ok there tsc?

Go cake! Sometimes it's got to be done, some people have no clue how to watch their children at places like that and assume they can leave them to it. Good for you for standing your ground!

memphis I agree with cake, you've got a tremendous amount of pressure on you, don't feel bad for needing a night off every now and then!

Off to bed now cos DH is reading over my shoulder

cakes what a horrid little boy, when we went soft play the other week, I told two boys off for not letting L leave the ball pit, they werent being horrible but I still explained to them that it wasnt nice etc. I wonder how these mums dontcare, I would be mortified if L treating child like that, what did your friend say?

Ive cleaned the house, done the cake and now im off to bed, the whole bed to myself, without being disturbed by L and no snoring dh whats the betting I cant sleep

oh crikey tsc, how awful! Step away from google, it's never a good idea. Hope you get some answers from the tests or at least that they rule out anything nasty. Also hope that F stays healthy-ish.

POor you Memph, what a rotten night - don't complain about getting your mum to help, I bet she's delighted to. I still haven't left J overnight and don't know when I will while he still BFs night and morning and quite often sometime in between.

Not long now chulita - don't know how you're coping... I bet you find it easier after the birth.

J was grumpy all day today. Having had five days of no illness or teething he seems to have something up again now - not much appetite and seems to be in pain. I wish these bloody canines would hurry up and come through.

DH had a phone call at 5.45pm from my friend's DP, a guy he's been to dads' club with these last couple of weeks, and their kid is at the same nursery as J. My friend works late on a Wednesday and her DP picks their DS up from nursery (closing time is 5.50pm). Anyway so he called at 5.45 to say he had completely forgotten and he was still at work in central London... could we pick up their DS? So my DH dashed off to get him and brought him back here and he and J played very happily for half an hour or so till the (very embarrassed and apologetic) dad got here. Whereupon of course the kid had a tantrum and whined and was generally a pain - how is it that they can be fine with other people and yet as soon as a parent arrives they have a meltdown?

Oh man, its 8.15 and already i have lost my rag a few times. its seems that both me and D have got out of the wrong side of the bed. F got upat 1.30 and was still up at 3 then he woke again at 5.30 but hardly fed he just seemes really uncomfortable and unsettled. D is a swine bag, u only have to look at him and he goes off on one, if he had bloody well slept from 5am instead of shouted and banged the cot he might not be so tired! I fear its not going to be a great day, we all need more sleep. I think F has got reflux and i need more gaviscon but i have to take the repeat perscription in to the docs, cant just order it over the phone, what a pita man.
what was everyones night like? chu how are you today, how many sleeps till D day? I admire your DH's work ethic but there are times that it just doesnt pay to be so upstanding, he needs to be there for YOU right now not his colleagues.

tsc sounds awful (again) round yours. I really hope the tests come back with something that's very easily treatable so Clars can get her energy back. I agree with not googling, it very rarely helps on these sorts of occasions.

woodlands DH always says that when I come down from a nap and both start whinging, he sometimes tells me to go back up though so it's not all bad! Can't believe he forgot his child, how embarrassing!

viks we're nearly there, Tuesday next week! I'm particularly ill today and DH won't be home til gone 6pm. I talked about getting him home but he doesn't want to let the rest of them down so I won't pressure him. I'm currently under a duvet feeling like crap letting S wander around with a pen

memphis how did you sleep?

Any tips on how to shift a persistent cough? 4 weeks now and it's going to take me out once I've had the cs, can't imagine coughing like this once I've been cut open :(

S won't shut up. Looks like those two days are all I get.

He forgot his child needed picking up woodlands?

tsc that sounds awful. Stay. Away. From. Google. Fingers and toes crossed for the results.

Sooo close now chul. I have no advice for whilst your pregnant but I would say speak to a pharmacist and stock up on all the cough medicine you are allowed to take whilst breastfeeding and then you have it for straight after the cs.

My computer is doing that stupidly slow thing again atm so I will to everyone else and come back later as it's driving me mental.

Phew tsc! Hope she continues to perk up.

Yes, he forgot! He was so stressed and apologetic, poor man. No harm done.

I am an awful mother. I felt so rough at lunch and L refused to do anything except say she wanted to snuggle with me. I properly snapped at her that I didn't want to snuggle, I wanted to sleep and I didn't want her wriggling next to me. She just sat on the sofa and sobbed, not loud grumpy sobs but quiet body-shaking sobs. I could've shot myself for being so horrible. Anyway, we both went to bed and she fell asleep next to me, the first thing she said when she woke up was "you have nice sleep mummy, I didn't wriggle". Ack!

Don't know anything about Fuerteventura tsc sorry! Glad C is picking up.

Oh don't beat yourself up chul, we've all been there and I don't even have the excuse of being 9 month pregnant

Never been to Fuerteventura either, sorry! Very pleased for you re the results.

Took babyboy for his first haircut today! He was very good.

Come out, come out, wherever you are...

we are quiet aren't we? gone are the Thread-a-month days, I blame cake stac and fairy for going back to work and getting a real life.

And where's Trudy? Was it this week she had her treatment [lost all track of time emoticon]

Remember ds1's best friend's sister got chicken pox 3 weeks ago? Well her brother (ds1's best friend) came out in chickenpox today. So I'm figuring there's every chance we could have spots by the morning [worried]

I thought it was this week too, you alright trudy?

At least if you get them it'll be over in a week or so. I was warned off a visit about 3 weeks ago cos their little girl had it, I'm glad cos imagining dealing with poxy children right now is enough to send me over the edge.

What did you have for tea?
I had 3 day old overcooked jacket spud with tuna mayo, DH and the children had spicy tomato pasta but there weren't enough tomatoes for all of us so I drew the short straw made up for it by smashing a bag of mini eggs though

Mmmm, your potato sounds delicious chul

I am on my own (dh at an awards ceremony) so pigged out on a veg tikka massala with rice and a glass of wine while I am watching last night's OBEM

I think you totally did the right thing wrt chickenpox avoidance - you have enough on your plate!

You drew the short straw chu huh, how does that work, your 9MONTHS PREGNANT!!!!!!!!!!!!TUT!! i wish we were closer so we could come and look after you, you really sound like you could do with some TLC. Dont feel bad about snaping at L, is DH working at the weekend or is tomorrow his last day?
tsc x posted earlier, did anyone speculate what might be up with C? How does she seem now? Is F ok?
Well im feeling particularly knackered today It wasnt such a bad day in the end but F is still really suffering, i really have no hope of a good night as he has hardly had any milk this afternoon, im pretty sure its relfux poor boy. I have been told off by dh who says that i stay up too late cos of being on here and fb..........hes probably right so im off to bed now. Heres to a good night for us all!! x

Tomorrow is his last day and I'm hopefully going to the GP so he'll have to come home early and take me in since he's taking the car. I think I have bronchitis, 4 weeks of coughing and I'm hacking up yellow/green phlegm.
DH offered to cook himself something but I could tell he was knackered, he came straight in the door, sorted S's rank nappy out and helped with bedtime so had no time to shower til after they were down. I'd rather he had something decent than he spent 30 mins faffing around burning cooking. I've just made him and his workmates brownies for his last day, they'd better get me a freaking big bunch of balloons when B gets here, they've had enough cakes off me!
S had bad reflux and putting him on his front to sleep made a big difference. It's not for everyone but it worked for us (we have a sensor monitor though so that eased the worry a bit). Sleep tight viks!

I'm avoiding OBEM this time round, too many bad memories! Maybe when I'm not pg

mlic last night obem was so funny!im so glad they finally had one that wasnt harrowing on!
chulita I was just going to say go docs and explain they need to give ou something, you cant be expected to go through that once you have had op, hope you get something from the doctors.
tsc thank goodness for that, lets hope she picks up now, so thats her results ok, what about AS results and MOT?

We had pie tonight as its national pie week, dh has been away and it is his favourite!

Sorry for being a drip yesterday I felt totally horrid, I woke up loads and felt great to not have to actually get out of bed, im not leaving bed tonight either, he has had a week in a hotel its the least he can do. L was uploads for mum, has done nothing but shit all day and is so sire he cries when you hold him or put crem on him!
Safari park tomorrow, v v excited! oh and I cant find any selotape to wrap presents!

Glad you feel better for a good night's sleep Memph!

J didn't nap all day and was a nightmare for my mum while I had a peaceful time in the office. He didn't eat any dinner at all.Then I had just changed him into PJs when he did the most massive, massive loose poo - properly exploded up the back of the nappy and when we peeled the clothes off (which had to be binned) it was literally up to his ears. Just like the olden days. We were literally just about to go out as well, SIL arrived to babysit just as we were cleaning up. We decided to go for it anyway and luckily he has slept peacefully all evening and no more poo as yet, touch wood! Hopefully it was just a one-off - apparently he ate a ton of pineapple at playgroup this morning. Then he had a chocolate babyccino this afternoon...

Dh was out last night so I thought I'd get myself a nice early night - went to bed at 10pm, ds2 woke up hysterical at 11.15, then dh woke me at 12 when he came in, then at 12.35 he woke me up snoring So I gave up and slept on the couch. Went back upstairs at 6am and dozed until ds1 got up at 7am

Chul hope you've got a GP appt

Just having my first cup of tea of the day as I've been too busy until now. Then I'd better get on with cleaning. Bleurgh.