December 2011 - This too shall pass (with the help of imaginary woolly mammoths)

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Have gone with LMFs title suggestion :)

Am feeding DS again while listening to DD2 wail to daddy that "mummy wouldnt let her snuggle in bed" when actually DD2 was trying to squash DD1 to force her out. Selective truth from an early age.

Good luck with the HV fmf. we might weigh DS today as it's 2 weeks since his tonguetie snip and we've kept a low profile. Hope his minor snot goes soon tho as it's definitely impacting on sleep.

Oh god, I need sleep. He wanted feeding every 2 hours last night, and wouldn't go down in-between so was in bed with me. He wanted my arm round him so I feel like I've pulled a muscle in my neck. Ow.

Oh, and now he has projectile puked everywhere. Shoot me. Please?

Morning! DP came home with wine and chocolate yesterday and the DDs even went to sleep, so we had a real evening!

Going out with my Mum today! Her DP had his second knee replacement on Monday, so I have bought him a DVD box set for while he can't walk.

Tyel Welcome back! So glad that you are out of the other side now.

Oh, the joy of evening grumps...Miri likes to get hers done early, usually from 5-9, thus making it hard for the DDs to go to sleep!

lmf bah to Health Visitors. Use it as an excuse for cake!

Must go and write shopping list, if my brain will engage of course.

aethel thanks for explaining about the evening QI sessions, it makes me feel better knowing that that's just how it is. Although it's not so bad.
Last night was almost clockwork, he fed at 8pm, woke at midnight, then at 4, then at 8 -every 4 hours. ( he feeds much more often during the day).
Whilst I can stay in bed til 9 or so, these night feeds are fine, but we've got less than 3 months before my alarm clock will be ringing at 5:30am -how I'll manage then I have no idea!!
Annoyingly the dogs also woke twice during the night to be let out too, grrr!

Forgot to say, dtd last night. Ouch.
We are reaching our intended destination, but (sorry for tmi) we are just teetering on the edge (not very deep).
So I'd better get squeezing!!
The drs called back about my 8wk appt, it'll be on 24th Feb. (10wk+6)

Your GP surgery sounds rubbish Oi! My baby's 8-week appt isn't until 9 weeks cos no doctor available at eight weeks so jabs will be a week late but don't think it matters. Minimopsy gets the evening heebie-jeebies too. Last night she cried and grizzled on and off from 6-10:30.

Right, tea and toast injected and baby guzzling her bottle. Tempted to go back to bed for a nap when she's done but maybe sd shower and get on with some chores. Decisions decisions ...!

P.s. Still haven't DTD. Scared of pain. Should just try I guess and take it slow. Don't want to turn it into a big massive deal. Stress and sex do not good bedfellows make!

Am not against the idea of dtd, but would need Squeaker to sleep for longer than half an hour at a time.

Had the dreaded smear last week though, anyone else totally over having doctors and nurses and midwives poking them?!

Dh and I have dtd several times and I even had an orgasm at the weekend...

Hi, any room for a new one?

Guilty of lurking and have followed this thread every day but not been brave enough to ask to post so here goes ....

I am mum to DS who is 4 next week and DD who is 11 weeks (both 25th nov but due date was 3rd dec) Live with DP (toyboy)of 12 years in west Sussex.

Finding it hard at the moment Being home alone with 2 DC's all day as DP works 12 hour days. DD is quite high maintenance is in ranitadine for reflux on only takes4/5oz bottles which worries me that it's not enough compared to others guzzling 7oz bottles!

Be great to start to 'check in' for support and a few laughs (need them!)

Hello all, ooh you've been busy!
Highlights of our visit up North- DS had been at his grandparents all of half an hour when he did the poo-splosion to end all others, a true nipples-to-knees job that required him being hosed down, twice, etc.

However, that was on Saturday, and he's not been since; entirely normal, but I'm just dreading it when it comes

DP was a bit of an arse at times- we'd make arrangements and then he'd do what he wanted, not helped by his family's incredibly annoying practice of just inviting themselves places (so you either put up with it, or are 'rude' and say no actually, you're not invited). He took DS off for a while to his family so Mum and I got out- hard to do otherwise as she uses a wheelchair- and went to the local pub for one.

Valentine's day highlight was DP finger-feeding me fries in a service station on the M1 whilst I bf DS (ahem) until we got home when DS unexpectedly went off for an hour, in his cot, and we DTD! Rather ouch, but done after about 7 months! Think it'll be a while till we're wild hot sexing a la AWCH !

Catching up...

YBR, we don't use music but white noise, and it really works.

Delighted to make your acquaintance Easily, Coolhand (we've been using bonjela and calpol for when it's really bad- you can tell when he's having a pain/teething session, as he starts drooling, gumming at everything and can't be settled, and it'll come out of the blue, as opposed to the set times of the evening grumps) , and OVHM

Hope those skirting boards are gleaming Kri5ty, that did make me laugh.

Glad to hear that your LO is gaining hawthers, although not as much and not as quickly as you'd like. I hope the health professionals get their act together and are more supportive of you and your efforts, given that your LO is obviously thriving. But hurrah for the well-timed smile!

Couldn't agree more Kitty- it's such a relief that whatever is going on, someone else here will be ready to encourage, or suffer with you, or offer advice.

Hope the feeding issues sort out soon figgy, that does sound a bit trying to say the least.

My LO still wakes frequently during the night mmmm, and it was every hour and a half last night as he'd slept for so long during the day because we were driving. But this too shall pass!

So sorry your DP remains pants re Goa HLC, looks like this issue will run on, poor you. NOT what you need, especially with toothache. How did he take the lack of cakey goodies?

And so glad to see you back tyel, after your apparent one-woman attempt to consume all the anti-bs in the UK, you poor thing!

Off to HV for weighing, see you all later!

Welcome sequin

mopsy a 1 week delay doesn't matter on the jabs; after doing lots of research on vaccinations & consulting a doctor I've decided to delay DS's for a couple of months & my GP isn't concerned at all.

I really wanted to DTD right after having DS but was unable to due to my dodgy episiotomy & now the loved up hormones have worn off I really can't be bothered :( A bit worried it'll hurt too & I can't see DS giving us the time to take it slow. No period here; I'm hoping I'll get my usual ovulation pain & avoid periods entirely by getting pregnant again :)

Northern after sneakily checking the cupboards, cooker etc he asked outright where his cake was & then grumbled to himself about how things have changed until I got & snapped at him that I didn't much feel like taking the time to bake for him given the hurtful things he'd said on Sunday! But I let him have a Ferrero Rocher because I didn't want to be spiteful. And I told him to go out to his usual Tuesday night snooker practice so it was an ideal V day for him really.

Northen, no wild hot sexing here atm...AUNT FLO has returned! Which sucks as we're ttc#2 asap.
A pervy trucker slow clap of encouragement to everyone who has resumed dtd.

Welcome Sequin! Sorry it's hard for you atm, anything nice planned for DS' birthday?

Oi, not getting our 8wk checkup until DS is 12wks, so with you on the late jabs :(

Honey, really sorry DP is still being poo re.Goa, hope no home cooked goodies yesterday helped him realise he's in the dog house!

Hi *sequ

Haven't dtd here either. It doesn't help that we sleep in separate rooms during the week to let DH get some sleep.

I am somewhat dreading it as I know it's going to really hurt. TMI alert - husband, who as aforementioned is 6ft10, and is in proportion all over. For example, we can't purchase condoms in a shop as none fit - we have to buy special ones online. We used to have to take sex slowly after a 7 day break for period - it's been so long, I am scared! I also don't feel remotely sexy - doesn't help that I have continued to bleed since the birth almost every day. Anyway, need to just get on with it or it will become a bigger thing in my head! I'm in awe of all those who jumped right back in there.

Leaves blushing profusely

tyel good to have you back

easily we have evening grumps here too. I have to feed DS fairly constantly through every evening before he eventually drops, and DD was the same. Look forward to when I get my evenings back!

Welcome sequin

DH was as star last night, rushed through his work to get home ASAP to help me in case DD didn?t settle, and he got us fish and chips and champagne for dinner

Feeling exhausted. This cold is making me feel awful ? bad enough to take a sick day from work today had I been there ? and I?ve got to deal with DD who?s still not quite right alternating between grizzling and having screaming tantrums :( DS had his jabs this morning and was an absolute angel about it. Shame the same couldn?t be said for DD who had a tantrum while we were waiting in the surgery for 10 mins afterwards. Very embarrassing. Managed to get her seen by a doctor while we were there too, he said she was fine and it must just be a virus that needs to work through her system. It?s been a week already, so I hope she?s better soon.

Wow northern, epic post!

Welcome sequin! don't worry minimopsy is 8 and a half weeks and takes between 3.5 and 5 ounces, never more than 5. And she's gaining right on target. She's just not a big baby. They are all different!

Just went for a nice walk and picked up some groceries and level 2 teats to see if they'll help her not fall asleep on the bottle and also went to a lovely little jewellery shop and got a silver bangle for one sister and lovely pair of earrings for another (birthdays due). Now feeding minimopsy again and watching Harry potter!!

Sorry, managed to post too soon then Eva wanted a feed.

Hi sequin.

Good to have so many new posters lately, any more lurkers here?

While we're all sharing TMI I find sex actually improves after each baby, I had 8 (I think!) orgasms last night . For those dreading it, the first one will be rubbish, just get it over and done with.

DH is putting up lining paper in the dining room today so we're trying to keep out of the way.

As for tmi and not feeling sexy... I tried some bras on yesterday and had to take the breastpads out of my bra to cover up my boobs. One was leaking, the other was leaking and had two squirters firing out. Not sexy.
It is such a shame that I have lost my boobs to milk production when they used to be a source of pleasure!
And I was shocked to see in the mirror all the lumps and big blue veins. Yuk!

Just a quickie as rushing around while DS and DD both asleep!

Welcome sequin!

I was planning on sex last night but with DD doing her evening grumps from 8pm to midnight it didn't happen.

Off to eat a Mars icecream bar. They're only 148 calories - same as a Muller Corner and less than 3 biscuits (or only 2 choc hobnobs which are 95 calories each!). Mmmmmmm

Just so you have sth to look fwd to Oi, since I stopped bf my boobs have gone down to their usual 34b (thank god, unlike many women I actually HATED the bigger boobs) but the feel like deflated balloons :( really hope that isn't permanent cos I used to really love my nice pert boobs, they were practically the only bit of my body I was truly happy with!

I scurried off so quickly, I forgot to welcome Sequin.

I find/found reflux difficult with one never mind having another one to look after. In terms of size of feeds - I think it's fine but check with your HV if you are unsure! I have a big baby - he was big from birth. The HV worked out how much he should take at last visit based on his weight and she said 5-6oz as reflux babies need smaller more frequent feeds so as not to overfill tummy - that was for a baby who was well over 13lb. Chances are your DD is just regulating her intake at what is comfortable - if you are concerned that your baby is refusing food because of the pain of reflux do go back to your GP. However, if weight gain is fine, I wouldn't worry about how many ounces they take. Sending hugs - it sounds like you're having a tough time.

Wow luckysevens 8 - that's impressive! Think I should add dtd to my list of things to do this week!

Ah, cross posted then dashed, so hello sequin!

Your DP is cheeky HLC, I can see him searching for your cake and being disappointed! But you're a better woman than I to share your Ferrero Rocher

I would like to see this 'pervy trucker slow clap' demonstrated please AWCH! And I know what you mean coolhand, my first boyfriend was of similar proportions- everyone thinks it's great, but often it's just sore.

Speaking of willies however... in the Purple Book, it says that when you're washing your DS's penis to gently pull back the foreskin and clean everything. Tried this -VERY gently- and it wouldn't. So asked the HV today and she said to never do this, it could cause damage, and his penis would emerge, as it were, when he got older and only then should we start making sure it was clean.

So, experienced mothers of boys, what have you done?

mmmm I am eating Buttons. I have to get my chocolate fix in the day otherwise OH joins in too enthusiastically and his waistline doesn't thank him for it.... I never had a sweet tooth before bf-ing!

DS is now 13 8, but not surprising as he's on the 91st centile for length. Now if the little sod darling will just settle, mummy has some exciting housework to do, oh joy.

Hi All

Can I also come out as a lurker????

I have been reading the posts on this thread for quite a while and it has provided me with such reassurance and advice as a first time mom so many thanks and sorry for not posting myself.

I am 30 years old and my DD was born on the 11.12.11 weighting 7lb 13. I had a natural birth, but I was very glad when she arrived and remember thinking thank god that is over!. The first night was a insight into motherhood as she didn't sleep from midnight to 6.30am and then the hospital came alive at 7.30am and I didn't get chance to have any sleep. Our first night at home was scary and she didn't sleep until 3am (from 5pm) at which point I thought I was doing something wrong and both my DH and I admitted to thinking what have we done, we will never sleep again. Well it has got a lot better and DD is really good and a very happy baby in the day, she gets the evening grumps at night as well but normally goes to sleep between 10pm and 11pm.

She had her first injections yesterday which I found heart breaking, one minute she was smiling at kicking her legs at the doctor and the next she was screaming with tears in her eyes. She was then fine until about four hours later when she cried (with lots of tears) for about an hour, fed and then needed to be swaddle while she sleep (and she hates being swaddled normally).

I am breastfeeding which is going ok, the only issue is that the breastfeeding class said not to give a bottle of expressed milk until six weeks old and she now won't take it after 3 weeks of trying. I don't mind it just means that I won't be able to leave her for a few months.

Well got to go as DD is ready for a feed.