July 2010: Tantrums R Us

[Woodlands]

Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

mlisc I would potty train W tbh, he's well up for it and sems to have the general idea. Who cares what anyone else thinks, he's blatantly ready!

re cafe, I'd be maffisly tempted, one of my dreams is to open a cafe-type place. If we were neighbours I would so be there with you, a lot of businesses are started by people who have no experience, maybe have a good look into it and see whether doors open or shut. Won't hurt to nose around and ask about stuff. What about it makes it a bad spot?

Ack woodlands what a nightmare...are you moisturising him to try and stop him scratching? fingers crossed for a quick referral!

I bloody posted earlier and it didnt send!!!
mlic where we have just moved from has a high school and a huge new college near them, when the college opened 2 new food places opened (amongst the usual kebab and chip shops) they both do really well, one is paninis, cobs, salads and they other is a milkshake bar that sells cakes, and ready made cobs, we also have a really good bakery that does great cobs and is well established and these new places are still doing well, the cafe locally has also changed to a cob shop so sells breakfast cobs and baguettes, they have baguettes of the day on set days so monday is beef and onions, this has also done better (well she has just bought a new range rover and personalised plates!) I think its a great idea, just wanted to waffle on about the sort of things that do well here.
and on the subject of poo I say go for it, my older brother was in pants by 14 months, iwont be doing potty training until lyndon stops leaving what resembles cowpats on thecarpet!

I rang docs this morning and asked about his poo sample as I hadnt heard anything, the woman said there was something wrong on the results and she didnt know what it was but would get a doc to call asap, 8 hours and 5 phone calls later a receptionist calls and says they are clear, so I have been worrying allfucking day, she said if I wasnt happy to make an appointment so I have for friday, a double appointment with a doc I have never seen but apparently he is very good, im going to march in and say I want something done for him in some way and if they dont want to im going to say I feel like they dont take me seriously as I had PND.
Also if anyone has their red books near or they can remember, how much weight their LO's put on from their 7 month check to the 12 month check, L only put on 1.4 pound in this time, im going to take him to be weighed this week.

i left my car keys in mums car so dh is off to get them, i had my healthy 345 cal m and s meal for tea and im staaaaarving

you go memphis! Let's hope this doctor takes you seriously and you get somewhere.

birmingham sounds good!

chul i don't understand why you'd pay for the settling in time - mistake or not. well, actually, especially as they made a mistake.

deffo take nursery slowly. far better not to rush it and for her to do longer hours when you feel comfortable with it. my two both did a couple of weeks of settling in sessions first.

you don't sound too odd really tbh, i always think you come across as an amazing woman - really grounded, positive and lovely.

i often wish i had more women like you lot locally, i've been lucky to have met lots of new friends thru the DCs but really only one or two who i've really clicked with and love spending time with.

mlic like chul says sounds like it's worth exploring and see where it takes you. i know it's a different area but we have tons of cafes of all types here and they seem very successful, new ones often open and seem to do well.

eg we've got a lovely traditional tea room, really pretty - does loads of different teas and cakes. a coffee shop/live music venue which does themed evenings like pie n mash night. a place called something stupid like Bread and Knead which does lots of fresh bread and cakes in various forms. and then there are loads of normal cafes and individual and chain coffeeshops (we have a nero, starbucks and 2 costas)

i wouldn't worry about what people would think at all re potty training. sounds like he's good to go. and like memph said it was once the norm.

i think i'd personally delay it just cos i wouldn't want the aggro if it dragged on and i couldn't communicate with him properly but that's just me - remember i HATED potty training, i'm in no rush to do it again!

it seems as tho 2nd children tend to be more motivated as A's very keen on the whole loo and potty operation but if i'm honest, i don't encourage her at all for the reasons i've said.

memph that's sounds like a horrid day of worry. what a silly woman. sounds like a good plan for fri tho

poor J woodlands you'd think there would be a way to apply stuff without spreading - eg just 'placing' it on or spraying it.

I was just googling, and it seems that using a steroid cream weakens the immune system in the area so stops the body being able to fight off the infection so easily.

Yes, I guess second children see older siblings using the loo and want to have a go. I honestly don't think J realises yet when he's doing a wee or a poo!

mlisc I'd be v tempted by the cafe/ food shop too. It's good that it's near two schools. I suppose you have to consider so much when thinking about a place like that. I've seen a few places like that go under and they were in the middle of town but then it could have been anything, I bet their prices were too high.
Def go ahead with the toilet training, the sooner you don't have to buy nappies anymore the better!

D woke at 10ish last night and kept crying then going quiet and just when we thought he'd gone back to sleep he'd start crying. He's a very light sleeper and there's lots of noises, creaks, bangs and fucking noisy neighbours so I think all that woke him up properly. Will try again tonight and hope its less noisy.

woodlands could you put on an e45 or a savlon until you you referal?
cakes this is why I want to leave potty training til later as I want to be able to fully communicate with L and at the moment he isnt telling me but he knows when he is going, he stoops over when having a wee and sits in the corner for a poo, so he spends most of the day sitting in the corner with his cars filling his nappy!
L is currently sitting by the tv saying yep yep yep while crying holding the Gruffalo! Ive told him no- bad mummy!

just had such a weird bit of news, has really shocked me.

can't go into all the details here for obvious reasons but just found out my ex (who i was with off and on since i was 18 and i lived with for 5 years) has been in prison in a foreign country for the past few years (i thought he was just living abroad since we split up) having been sentenced to many years for managing a multi-million pound drug smuggling ring. there's even a photo of him online in one of the newspaper reports. has knocked me for six.

haven't got ready for work yet as have been talking to my cousin and googling about it.

life eh?

Wow, I can imagine that must have shaken you a bit, cake! How odd.

Gosh. And you think you know someone hey? In a similar (yet different) ilk my ex fiance has just been diagnosed with a potentially terminal illness. He's only 31. That threw me for a while too.

cakes that is shocking! funny how some people have so many side to them that you wouldnt know they were the sort of person to be involved in something like that.
My ex is a fraudster I didnt know until I threw him out then the dodgy money men started knocking,I had 2 huge men threaten to take my knee caps as payment as I was his wife I could take the debt, they pulled a gun out, I was in a tiny village miles from family, stupidy I was so scared I didnt even call the police! I see him running accross the road every now and then, he always wears a high vis and last week he also had a high vis beanie hat on, I reckon its so I cant run him down and say I didnt see him cross the road

that's awful mlic. can imagine that's really shocked you. it's hard to get your head round things like that happening to someone who you once woke up to every morning.

re my ex. it's so bizarre it's like a bloody film. there's even a report online about him helping an addict recover whilst in prison. lots of details about the crimes, money involved, the rest of the ring (including people with senior jobs in megacorps who have totally fucked up their lives and careers ) etc.

memph

Its why im still not married to dh but call him my husband, Im still married to ex as I really dont want him to know where I live or have to find out where he lives, scared people will come knocking on this door too! this is my new years resolution to grow some balls and divorce him, I love my life now though and dont want to have to jump ship.

cakes how did you find out about it if he has been inside for a few years?

gosh memph. didn't realise that. sounds like a good new years resolution. we'll help you thru it how we can.

a friend of my cousin is dating one of my old flings and he told her (don't know how he knew but he's one of life's movers and shakers iyswim who probably knows everything about everyone).

we think my ex has tried to keep it secret for years (he's a v private person) as his old best friend didn't seem to know about it (or was covering up) when my cousin bumped into him last year. then it sounded like he had a great life living abroad...

God lots of dodgy exes around! Can't say I've got anything like that, both my exes were teens when we broke up so just the usual teen dramas but nothing like that.

cake and memohis both sound awful you must be in shock. I bet it crosses your mind what if you were still with them. Lucky escape I think.

Was it today you were starting L at nursery chul? If I have got that right, hope it goes/went well. She might surprise you - ds1 certainly has with me. After crying his eyes out when leaving him at nursery, he now runs into pre school and shouts bye mammy when I say I'm going. It is truly amazing.

Wow cake and memphis! what a strange world. cake that would really shake me up too, esp cos as you say you think you know them and then find out something this maffis has gone on. And memphis I had no idea you were still married, can understand why you don't want to finalise it but it would be great if you could, and be rid of that ex for good. at reason for hi vis, considering the stuff you talk about, you always manage to make me chuckle!

woodlands I second the E45 or something just to stop the itching.

mlisc yep, it was just her settling in today, she just had 30 mins then an hour tomorrow and we'll see how she goes. Despite her insisting that I should come with her, she ran off and was fine! I burst into tears and felt so stupid, I don't know why but I think it's just the next step in her growing up. She threw the biggest tantrum when it was time to go, obviously 30 mins wasn't long enough!

dh both of mine were very light sleepers, thankfully they've started sleeping more deeply, L used to wake up if we sneezed next door...

chul lol that's exactly what D is like. Our open plan kitchen/ living room is right next to his room and you can hear the tv through the wall do whenever he's asleep the tv is down so low you have to strain to hear it.

He had a nice lunch of sticky chicken drumsticks (home made!) and sweet corn and he's now having a nap hopefully a long one.
He had just over an hour yesterday but all afternoon he was many like he wanted to go to bed. I refuse to believe he's not getting enough sleep and put it down to teeth or boredom

With S we ended up putting our spare mattress against the wall between our bedrooms cos it was stupid, I'd be lying in bed needing to clear my throat and crossing everything that he wouldn't wake up...then we had the brainwave of moving his bed to the other side/add the mattress and I think it lessened the noise a bit!

memphis I'm off to have a nap (yay for L starting them up again!) then I'll dig out S's red book to check weights...if I don't post them on here, remind me!

dh you will have to get some of those wireless headphones to watch the tv!
Just been and got L weighed, he weighed 2 stone a few months ago and now he has lost 3 pounds, he has only gained 5 pounds in 11 months. just seen my step mum in village, she has spoken to the main doc who is a peadiatric consultant 2 days a week at the hospital, he is shocked by lack of care at my docs, I plan to meet with him next week now.

memphis the measurements aren't quite the same, S had a 6 month and a 12 month and had put on 3.5lbs but he'd also outgrown his dairy intolerance during that time so had started eating shedloads of fatty milk products.

So much for my nap, I'd just got my head down when my neighbour knocked. I was determined I wouldn't answer but couldn't say no to a cuppa...kind of wish I'd ignored her cos I'm shattered but I can't ever ignore someone at the door!

Ah, glad you're getting to see someone decent, at this age there is no way they should be losing weight. Once you get him under a consultant it gets a lot easier with appts/tests etc. Hope this doctor's a lot, lot better. Might be worth complaining/taking the other ones to task for neglect once this is sorted out, they're obviously not doing their job...

chulita thanks for looking that up for me. I will be complaining for sure, as soon as ive got some answers, its the only docs I have heard not refering forstomach issues til 2, my friend works there in the offices and they wouldnt refer her son for his tongue tie until it got so bad he could hardly open his mouth and he hadnt spoken a work at all at 2!

Ok all D does after his nap is whinge and cry all afternoon unless I constantly give him food which I don't want to do. It's like he's not getting enough sleep but I can't bloody force him to sleep more.

Anywhere I go he's moaning he's either tired, hungry or bored I can't decide